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ELIOT HAWKINS Obituary

HAWKINS--Eliot Dexter. Eliot Dexter Hawkins of Manhattan and Germantown, NY, died on February 22, 2024, at his Manhattan retirement home. He was born on May 6, 1932, in New York City to Dexter Clarkson and Evelyn Byrd (Eliot) Hawkins. He is survived by his daughter, Ruthanna Hawkins; his three grandchildren Claire, Eliot, and Rory; his sister, Alice Van Tuyl; and his first wife Margaret Childers. Eliot was predeceased by his son, Robert Hawkins, his second wife Paula Hawkins, and his sister Evelyn Patterson. He attended The Buckley School and then Groton Schools, and was a Phi Beta Kappa graduate of Harvard University College, where he was president of the Fly Club and captain of the squash team. From 1954 to 1956, he was a Rhodes Scholar at Balliol College, University of Oxford. He then served in the United States Army at Fort Sill in Oklahoma from 1956 to 1958, achieving the rank of First Lieutenant. He graduated from Harvard Law School in 1960 and worked as a trust and estates lawyer, first at Winthrop, Stimson, Putnam & Roberts; at Milbank, Tweed, Hadley, & McCloy as a partner; and at Teahan & Constantino in Millbrook, NY. He served as president, a member, and a trustee on the boards of numerous organizations, including the Friends of Clermont at the Clermont State Historic Site, The Edgewood Club of Tivoli, NY, The Southlands Foundation in Rhinebeck, NY, and The Community Service Society of New York. Eliot was known for his love for his family and friends and his meticulous and devoted service to his clients. Besides family and the law, his other lifelong interests were Greek classical language, the New York Yankees, tennis, and horseback riding. Eliot's dry wit, intelligence, modesty, and keen sense of justice will be greatly missed by all who knew him. The family suggests contributions in his memory to the Friends of Clermont, The Southlands Foundation, or the Community Service Society of New York. A memorial service will be held in Tivoli, NY in April.

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Published by New York Times on Mar. 5, 2024.

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Gaydon Phillips

February 27, 2025

Remembering such a kind and dear man.

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Margaret Childers

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Gaydon Phillips

September 24, 2024

A dear and kind man. We loved visiting he and Paula in his beautiful home on the river in Germantown.
And their apartment in NYC.

Alan Liepshutz

March 26, 2024

I true country gentleman. Had the privilege of knowing Eliot for over 50 years.
Thank you,

CAROLYN Marks BLACKWOOD

March 26, 2024

He and Paula were friends who we met in the Hudson Valley- such lovely people!!!

Amy Williams

March 26, 2024

So sorry for your loss

PETER KINGMAN LINDSLEY

March 9, 2024

An exceptional soul for whom I will miss. Peter in Houston, originally from Germantown.

Matthew M Guerreiro

March 7, 2024

He was a wonderful man and will be missed.

Numaist Krubally

March 6, 2024

Mrs Eliot My heart hurts every time I think about you. You will be missed so much. Though you may be gone, your spirit will forever shine brightly in our hearts Your presence will be deeply missed. May your soul find solace in the heavenly abode. Rest in peace.

Maria Hidalgo

March 5, 2024

I am so deeply sorry for your loss. Your father was a wonderful person who touched the lives of many. May you find strength and solace in the memories you shared together. He surely will be missed!

Marianne Thorsen

March 5, 2024

A most gentle gentleman. I´m lucky to have been his friend.

Marianne

Dick Delafield

March 5, 2024

Eliot, goodbye and God speed . You were the last of the great Hudson River gentlemen.
Condolences and love to your sister Alice .

Megan Lopez

March 5, 2024

Miss you sooo much . Thank for allowing me to give you the best care till the end ... u were Ana amazing man

Cheryl Kip

March 5, 2024

So sorry for your loss. Worked with Eliot in Poughkeepsie for years. He was a real gentleman. God bless.

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