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JILLIAN WHITE Obituary

WHITE--Jillian Leslie Epstein. The White and Epstein families sadly announce the death of Jillian Leslie Epstein White of Aspen, Colorado and New York City. Jill grew up in Hewlett Harbor, New York and was a graduate of Woodmere Academy. She attended the University of Wisconsin and McGill University in Canada and graduated with a degrees in art history. She married her college sweetheart, Starker White and settled in New York in the late 1970s, then dedicated herself to raising their two sons, Cliff and Luke. After they left for college, she moved to Aspen, fulfilling a lifelong dream of living in Colorado's Rocky Mountains. Jill had the deepest appreciation for the myriad experiences life had to offer and the people who filled her world. She equally enjoyed the city and the country, the ocean and the desert, skiing and reading, simple meals and fine cuisine, a good joke and a serious conversation. She was a wildflower. Her family and friends will always remember her cooking, her writing, her beauty, style and wit. Jill was an avid art collector, but always considered her greatest work her family, whom she loved without bounds. Jill is survived by her sons, Clifford White and Luke White, her former husband, Starker White, her mother, Elissa Epstein, sister, Debra Epstein, daughter-in-law, Kate Hanley White and grandson, Wilder White. A foundation will be set up; in the interim, donations in Jill's memory can be made in her name to Equitas Project equitasproject.org/donate.

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Published by New York Times on Nov. 9, 2019.

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Roberta Ann Elkins Smith

October 23, 2020

My heartfelt condolences go out to your lovely precious family, your beautiful sons, Clifford and Luke, and your darling Mom, Elissa 'Lovey' your sister, Debra and to your precious Grandchild and your darling niece and nephew, and their late father, Mark Epstein. I only found out about your profound and tragic loss, just Wednesday, early afternoon on October 21, 2020, from our mutual friend, who was always my best friend, Betsy from our youth. And still, cannot believe you're gone. My heart goes out to your entire family. Here's to your beautiful adventurous spirit, I only recently found you when I reached out to your younger brother, the late Mark Epstein back in 2011 or '12. Perhaps you are now with your brother and your Dad. Sadly, we lost touch after our early childhood growing up in Hewlett Harbor and those days at The Seawane Club. Nevertheless, I still recall our sleepover dates when we were just little piddles, and our parents knowing of one another. I was thrilled to find that you too, ended up having two beautiful sons, just as I did. It was enough to see old photos and recent ones that took my breath away, and yet, I felt how truly wonderful it was to see you embrace your life with vigor and you seemed to possess an extraordinary glowing light in all your photos, to see you smiling and showing such laughter and warmth with your sons, and exhibiting much love and happiness. Showing your passion and adoration for the great outdoors and our environment. I could identify with all of that because of my own life with my darling sons, and also my love for the great outdoors. I remember sharing your photos with my Mom when she was still alive. And she enjoyed seeing them, just as much as I did. Rest in Peace.. Jill. 'Jilly' From my heart always, Roberta Ann Elkins Smith and Family

David Tolkin

November 12, 2019

To Mrs Epstein and Debra

My heartfelt condolences on the tragic loss of Jill. To fathom another loss at such a early age is mind boggling. It was Jill who cemented my decision to attend The University of Wisconsin.
My deepest love and sympathies

And all the love from all the other Tolkins

Winston Powell

November 12, 2019

"through the many years of my work for Elissa and with Jill, I delightfully have come to know both the Epstein and the White families and their many friends. I know you all."
My sincere condolence, heartfelt compassion and empathy during these tough days now and ahead

Rolland Siegel

November 11, 2019

A wild and beautiful spirit now set free to walk the forest pathways and race down the snowy slopes of the mountains she loved.....She will be missed.

RoseMary Tippie

November 10, 2019

My Deepest Condolences To The White & Epstein Family! R.I.P.

Erin Moriarty

November 10, 2019

I have been friends with Jill and her family for nearly thirty years. Jill was one of a kind: funny, stylish, athletic and always entertaining. I will miss her greatly....

Janet Davis

November 9, 2019

My thoughts and prayers go out to the family in this time of such sadness. I will always remember her bright lively spirit.

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