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Sam
June 16, 2025
Another year has passed, and you are not at all forgotten. Any time I have the opportunity, I share about you-the manager, mother-figure, humble servant, and friend who made such a great impact on my life and whose Christ-centered, caring leadership style I model my own after. I still miss you so much, but am comforted knowing that you in the presence of the Lord, smiling and joyfully praising.
Fatima
June 16, 2025
Dear Mini,
Missing you a lot.
Often you come in my dreams.
What we cannot talk in real life is achieved in my dreams
Safe somewhere in God's land
Fatima
June 18, 2024
Dear Mini
Memories don't fade, still in our hearts.13 years have passed since your departure from this world. Rest in peace in the safe arms of Jesus.
Your cousin - Jinkai
Fatima
June 15, 2022
Dear Mini (as we call her in the family) my cousin and childhood close friend, memories still linger.Remembering everything we shared, enjoyed . Still cannot imagine you are not here with us.May your soul rest in peace. Waiting for the day when we will meet in heaven
Sam
June 20, 2014
It's been three years, yet rarely does a day go by that you're not in my thoughts and prayers. I miss you immensely and wish that we could talk and joke and have coffee like we used to. Hanna and Joshua would have enjoyed meeting you as well; you're one of the reasons we ever became a family, and I bet you'd have loved them so much. Please continue to watch over Kaavya and the family as they navigate life in your absence. Peace and blessings.
January 21, 2012
I have already put my thoughts into this guest book in June but wanted to write to Kaavya and tell her how I think of her beautiful sweet lovely mother Mary everyday. I have the two small cards that were given to us at the funeral with the pictures of Mary and Vishy. I so wish Mary was here to talk to. I have so much to tell her. Janice Lester
kimmy johnson
January 20, 2012
in pace requiscat
(may he rest in peace)
August 15, 2011
R. I. P
Rani Rasmani.K.
July 20, 2011
We will remember Our Dear Friends Vishwanath and Jayanthi for their Outstanding Accomplishments, their Kind and Helpful Attitude, and most of all for their Very Treasured Friendship, and for all the Good Times we have shared with them.
May their Souls Rest in Peace.
May Cherished Memories of her Beloved Parents guide their Dear Daughter Kaavya to face the future with Courage and Determination.
My Heartfelt Condolences to Kaavya and all the members of the bereaved family.
With Deepest Sympathies,
Rani Rasmani.K. Houston, Texas.
Medical School - Batch of '82.
Praveen Gupta
July 12, 2011
Dear Kaavya,
Sorry to hear about loss of your parents. We will pray for peace in their heavenly abode, and strength to you for handling their loss. We look forward to many more accomplishments from you in future. If we can be of assistance, please contact us.
Best Wishes.
Jeff Kaplow
July 7, 2011
Kaavya,
My thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time. My father would not be alive today without the expertise, care and compassion your father demonstrated along with Dr. Winters at HUMC. For that I am forever grateful and may God Bless you always. Your parents will forever live in our hearts...
Beth Elkis
June 30, 2011
Dear Kaavya,
I had the great pleasure of working with your mother, Mary. She was one of my most favorite people. So kind, compassionate, warm and funny.
Only Mary could get away with wearing something 'on sale' that cost more than my car with such humbleness. And 'wear it well' she did because she knew that possessions were not what mattered in life, people were.
When my family members were experiencing health issues, she always reached out with her advice, a kind word, or encouraged your father to answer a few questions or look at some films.
You were her pride and joy. She 'kvelled' (a Yiddish word meaning bursting with pride) over your every accomplishment. I always know you were extremely special, but was not prepared for the exceptionally poised, self-assured, extraordinary woman who stood before the group at the funeral. Your parents would have been so proud.
I will miss your mother dearly. May your parents memory live on through you and all they touched, I know they will.
janice cannataro
June 25, 2011
May your souls rest in peace. Such wonderful compassionate people who touched so many lives. I am ever grateful for Dr Raj saving my life some 8 1/2 years ago..he and Dr Roth were so kind and caring and gave me strength and hope..May you live on in the hearts of all especially those you saved..
Nancy Sokasits
June 25, 2011
Kaavya,
How is it possible to cope with such a devastating loss? Mary would have known just what to do and say. She was so kind and compassionate.
Every once in a while, you work with someone who becomes a really special friend. That was certainly the case with Mary, who was as caring as she was smart. And always that great smile and wonderful sense of humor!
When I went through my own health crisis a few years ago, it was your mother's phone calls that calmed and comforted me in a way no one else's could. Those calls meant the world to me -- as did Mary. She was a remarkable person and will live in my heart forever. It was an honor to know her. Perhaps her greatest legacy is that she taught all of us how to treat others with kindness and respect.
I did not know your Dad, but obviously both your parents touched many lives in wonderful ways. May that provide you with comfort and strength in this difficult time.
Guna Sekar
June 25, 2011
Dear Kaavya,
We pray that you will find the strength to get you through the grief and sadness. Our family is there for you at any time.
Guna Sekar
MMC batch' 82
Vani Rao
June 24, 2011
He Came, He Saw, He Conquered!
These words aptly describe our beloved colleague Dr.Vishwanath Iyer. His sheer brilliance, easy smile and matter-of fact attitude towards life won our hearts and our respect during our medical school days.
I remember very well an anatomy lecture that was being given by Prof. Cooper. He was asking us some tough questions and getting minimal response from our class of 150 students. He then suddenly stopped and asked, “Where is Vishwanath?” Vish ( as he was known to us) always sat in the front row and always had answers for every question posed by our teachers. On that particular day, he was seated in the top most row of the class; he raised his hand and said, “Here Sir.” Dr. Cooper remarked, “Oh Vishwanath, you’ve become a silent celestial body today.”
Dr.Cooper was correct – he was always a celestial body! A star! And now he has joined the other celestial bodies. Two days ago, when I heard the news of his tragic death, I looked up at the dark skies and knew he and wife were there. God works in mysterious ways. One can’t question his actions. But they say that that ‘God takes them young whom He loves.” I bet you God was in desperate need of a neurosurgeon and that’s why he chose to take the best from us.
Kaavya, we know you’ve not met many of us. But if you ever want to know how brilliant, respected and loved your father was in his medical school days, please don’t hesitate to get in touch with us. We want you to know that you have many ‘aunts’ and ‘uncles’ all over the world, who would be very happy to connect with you and share stories.
God Bless you. Please accept our heartfelt condolences.
Vani Rao
Medical School - Batch of 1982.
Sasikala Veymuri
June 24, 2011
Viswanathan Iyer – A Salute
(aka Vichu or Vish)
We were the batch that came in through the President’s Rule
Which made us think that we were pretty cool
When we entered MMC, we were all still in our teens
And some so young that memory lane provides many great scenes
Along the way, with our hopes and fears
We learned and grew over the next six and a half years
We went through dissections and tests that would leave us in a daze
But there were also “kaliomas and Rende Vouz” in a mixed maze
Although unassuming and unpretentious you were
To question your talent and brilliance no one could dare
We always knew you were meant to soar
So it was no surprise to see the laurels galore
Times passed and lives changed, as we say
And our classmates took to many a divergent way
But we kept up with the achievements that followed your stride
And to claim you as our own, we always took particular pride
Your skill and brilliance led to your fame
But compassion, dedication & passion was your game
And those close to you were privileged to see
What a wonderful husband and dad you strove to be
Though numbed and saddened by this double tragedy
That has befallen Kaavya and your family
We the graduating class of 82 would like to tell
Vishwanathan Iyer, we salute you for a life lived fully and well.
Sasikala Veymuri, MD
Medical School – Batch of 1982.
Dad's Medical School Friends
June 24, 2011
Dear Kaavya Our thoughts and prayers are with you during these darkest hours.
We hope and believe that God will give you the strength and courage to carry through. We have no doubt that you will be successful in your life and make your parents proud.
Please do not hesitate to contact any of us if ever you need to.
God Bless you.
All your Dad's friends from medical school – Batch of 1982.
scott grossberg
June 24, 2011
I thank your father for my being treated. If it wasn't for your father I wouldn't be here today. My sincerest condolences to you and your family from me and my family. The world has lost a great doctor. scott grossberg (wanaque, nj)
Narsima Rao
June 24, 2011
My deepest sympathies to Kavya for this irreplaceable loss.
Barbara G
June 24, 2011
Dr. Rajaraman is one of the most compassionate doctors I've met. When he treated me, his care was more than I could ever hope for - patient, attentive, witty, knowlegeable.
My deepest sympathies to Kaavya - he touched many lives and my heart goes out to you in your time of loss. He will be greatly missed by those whose lives he touched.
Sophia Nelson
June 23, 2011
Mary was such a lovely person inside and out. She was always a joy to be around. Mary was always generous with her kind words of advice or just laughter when it was needed most. I had the pleasure of working with Mary and getting to know what a humble and caring person she was. I did not have the pleasure of meeting Vishy, but it was never hard to see how much love and admiration Mary had for her husband when she spoke of him. I know their souls will find eternal peace and love just as they were in life.
My condolences to Kaavya and the rest of Mary and Vishy’s family, there are no words to begin to describe what you must be feeling. They were loving, compassionate people who will be terribly missed.
Stacie Guirguis
June 23, 2011
I miss you both every day. Kaavya I can't even begin to imagine your pain. Your father saved my husbands life twice. He reassurred me that cancer wasn't a death sentence and told me not to worry that he would always be there for me and my family, even in heaven I know he still will work his miracles. I remember his smile, his giggle. I remember his confidence and how without saying, how much he loved you and Mary. Mary, called me her little sister. She would call me or emal me weekly. She comforted me, she guided me and she reminded me daily that God healed and has me in the palm of his hand. Her strength and her love carried me through some of my very dark moments. Your moms smile and hugs still comfort me, I can see and feel them today. My life us better for meeting and knowing your parents. God took them at their best. I think of you everyday and pray you find peace.
Sharon Shaw
June 23, 2011
condolence to Kaavya and family, they will be greatly missed national and international. May God be with you all
June 23, 2011
My condolences to the family. Mary V was a beautiful, talented, and caring person. I know she and her husband will rest in peace together for all eternity. C Clarke-Andrews (Piscataway, NJ)
Palangat Radhakrishnan
June 23, 2011
Dear Kaavya,
I know not of any words of sympathy that will help to lighten your sorrow even a little bit. Both Vichu and Jayanthi have been very dear friends to me and my wife and this is a big blow to us as well.I know God will give you the courage to go through life drawing from the inspiration of your parents,and you know they will be there to guide you in spirit.
Helene Fitzsimmons
June 23, 2011
I am home in Heaven,dear ones;
Oh so happy and bright!
There is perfect joy and beauty
In this everlasting light.
All the pain and grief is over,
Every restless tossing passed;
I am now at peace forever.
Safely home in Heaven at last.
I will continue to pray for you Kaavya. Be at Peace.
Alex Chiong
June 23, 2011
Dr Raj and Mary were the most selfless people I have ever met. They were both extraordinary people who had so much more to give. Our family was blessed to be part of their lives and we will miss them dearly.
Stefan Ringel
June 22, 2011
Kaavya, I miss you so much. I wish we would reconnect, especially at a time like this. I am so blessed that your parents were a part of my life. I will never be able to express my gratitude for your father's service to my father that night. Your mother as well was a sweet and generous person to me. Anything you need, I hope I can be there for you.
Vin, Jessy, and Baby Vera Kalathiveetil
June 22, 2011
Mary was such a sweet, compassionate, and loving person. I was lucky to have worked with her, and most importantly, blessed to have her as a friend. Truly at a loss of words. God wanted to have some of his most compassionate workers at his side.
Marcy Leger
June 22, 2011
Dear Kaavya: I am so sorry for your loss and words really can't express the sadness. I worked with your mom and she was a unique combination of thoughtful, smart, warm, engaging and funny. As I read all the notes and messages, it's clear how much of an impact your parents have had on so many, many peoples lives. They were truly inspirational people.
Tremaine Watkins
June 22, 2011
Dr. Rajaraman, words will never be able to express the gift God Blessed you with. I finally got a chance to meet you in ER when I was in alot of pain although Dr. Roth was my surgeon. You was a very well spoken and very concerned about my level of pain. thank you so much for the visit. Deepest sympathy to your daughter and extended relatives. New Jersey Brain and Spine entire staff you are in my prayers threw this traggic moment. May God Bless!
Tremaine Watkins
Paterson, NJ
Doug & Trish Gornall
June 22, 2011
Kaavya,
Both of your parents were wonderful, it was a pleasure knowing them. Your dad operated on Doug and helped us through a rough time with his wonderful and his always positive attitude. We wanted to let you know you are in our thoughts, please accept our most heartfelt sympathies for your loss. Our prayers are with you!
Rosemary O'Brien
June 22, 2011
Mary was a gift to those who worked with her, and I feel fortunate to be one of them. She was extraordinary, professionally and personally.
My heartfelt condolences to Kaavya and family in your time of grief.
Natarajan Baskar
June 22, 2011
Mary,
The big booming laughter will be sorely missed. Sleep well.
Cristina Gleason
June 22, 2011
Mary, working with you has changed my life forever & I will miss you so much. You were my biggest cheerleader. I will always remember the story of how you & Dr. Raj fell in love - what an amazing love! The lives that Dr. Raj has saved & the good he has done is nothing less than spectacular.
I am blessed to have known you Mary. I will contintue to live my life with the love, kindness & wisdom you shared with me.
JhaNene Russell
June 22, 2011
Mary V, you were a beautiful lady inside and out. I just can't believe it. You will be missed.
Lynn Lewis
June 22, 2011
It was a true privilege to work with Mary. She was smart at her job and even smarter about life. I am still stunned that the two of you are not walking this earth anymore. I like to imagine that you had time to say "I love you" to each other...
Kaavya, We all feel for you so much because we are mothers ourselves and can't imagine our babies losing us as you have lost yours. Please reach out to any of us if you are comfortable with that. We strive to be like her; to help you as she helped us.
Renee Willard
June 22, 2011
Mary I miss you so much. I miss all of the stories you would tell me at work about your life, family and your adventures. Thank you for all of your kind words and advice. Recently we spoke and you helped me find a surgeon for my Uncle who needed open heart surgery. Kaavya my heart goes out to you. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Suzanne Gossett
June 22, 2011
Dearest Mary:
Besides being a very special co-worker, you were a mother with whom I could share motherly concerns.
You gave me strength and advice when I worried about my daughter's pregnancy; subsequently the birth of my first grandchild was a time of joy and tears that I shared with you.
You were kind and empathetic, beautiful inside and out. I was honored to have known you and I will miss you greatly.
My heartfelt sympathies go out to Kaayva in her time of incredible sadness.
Debbie Heltzer
June 22, 2011
My sweet friend Mary,
I cannot even express how much you have touched my life. Your smiling face in my office every day and words of wisdom about absolutely everything will always be with me. I am truly a changed person for having known you. From all that you have told me about Kaavya, I can tell that she is exactly like you, and will continue to be a bright, shining star. I love you with all my heart.
Paola S
June 22, 2011
Dr. Raj.
It was a pleasure meeting you, working for you, & talking to you the 2 yrs that I knew you. I still cant believe that you are gone. You were such a nice, caring, loving person & the BEST/SMARTEST Dr. I have ever had the pleasure of knowing. You used to come to me, and make me laugh always asking me for Chocolate. I will never forget you...
Kaavya, i'm soooo sorry about your parents... Your father was a GREAT man and loved by sooo many. My thoughts and prayers are with you at this most hardest time...
The Hunt Family
June 21, 2011
We are praying for the family. May the Lord bless and comfort everyone who got affected by the lost of the lovely couple. Mary's soft and kind words still echoes in my ears. The Hunt family, New Jersey
June 21, 2011
Kaavya, My deepest sympathies go out to you. I've worked with your father for many years. He was a dedicated, warm, compassionate, talented, irreplaceable doctor and he will be missed dearly.
Karen, HUMC
jenna bredenbeck
June 21, 2011
i will remember how selfless and how wonderful you both were. you have both helped so many. it was an honor to be around mary on a daily basis. always smiling, always excited to hear the latest news. especially excited to hear all about my wedding plans. you should know that i couldn't wait to tell you when I got engaged. i know you'll be there watching. my mother and i will miss you dearly. she valued your friendship in a way that cannot be measured.
kaavia, my thoughts and prayers go out to you. they will always be with you.
Barbara Leeper
June 21, 2011
I had the pleasure of working with Mary and valued her experience, her friendship, and her sense of humor and style. My deepest condolences to Kaavya during this difficult time.
Nicole Busch
June 21, 2011
To Kaayva and family - I want you to know how truly exceptional your parents were to my family and me. Mary was my colleague and friend. She was always there to provide comfort during rough times, and to make us smile with her warmth and sunny personality. On a personal level, she inspired me and helped me find my inner strength. Vishy was my brother-in-law's surgeon. His compassion and wise advice were a blessing to my family.
These two extraordinary, selfless, giving people will be truly missed by all who loved them. Wishing you much strength at this difficult time. God bless.
Brian Raineri
June 21, 2011
Mary, Mary, Mary...what can I say? Classy, intelligent, elegant, compassionate, empathetic...I could just go on and on. I truly valued you as a colleague and friend. Quick to share some sage advice and a funny joke, all in the same breath. You were truly a joy to be around. And while I never met your husband, I know how much he touched so many people's lives. You are so missed, but I know you are in Heaven, smiling down and watching over all of us.
Kaavya - please accept my condolences. May you find comfort, peace, and strength in God, and in knowing how loved your parents are.
Mimi Baldwin Utset
June 21, 2011
Kaavya - my heart goes out to you during this difficult time. Your parents touched so many lives and will forever be remembered. I worked with Mary and she was the nicest, most caring person. I will miss her terribly and will always remember her smile and kindness.
June 21, 2011
Our heartfelt condolences to kaavya and other members of the family.We pray that you will find strength during this most difficult time.
Vichu has certainly contributed his part to the legend of MMC and I feel proud to say that i was his classmate having gone through his credits and achievements.Dear Vichu and mary , may your souls rest in peace.
Kishore and family .UK
Lorraine
June 21, 2011
To Mary..
Your kind words will stay with me always. You believed in me and watched me grow. I was truly looking forward to our meeting this week, the shock of what happened will be with me for a while. I know you are in heaven watching down on us. I will forever have a place in my heart for you. Thank you just for being you.
Mary on the left with a few coworkers at Vishy's 50th birthday party
Janice Lester
June 21, 2011
My deepest sympathy to Kaavya and to Mary and Vishy's family on their tragic loss. I worked with Mary and she was just such an incredible person. She was so funny. She invited me to the opera a few times which was so exciting. She recommended books for me to read, Amitav Ghosh being one of them. Vishy and her had just come back from Kenya and Tanzania and she called to tell me how she had truly been in god's country. You made such a difference in all our lives. I will miss you terribly.
L. A. Williams
June 21, 2011
I was a patient of Dr. Rajaraman during an extremely traumatic medical condition. Not only did he perform the surgery, but he calmed my fears in a bedside manner that only he could administer. He was the best in his class!! I only wished I had saved the last voicemail message he left advising my MRI was o.k. I will sincerely miss him and feel he's irreplacable. My heartfelt sympathy is extended to their daughter as well as the entire family. You are all in my prayers!!
Stan Tobias
June 21, 2011
Mary I heard so much about you from my friend Janice. I saw pictures of your beautiful face and you looked exactly like the beautiful person Janice described you to be. May you and your husband be forever bound in eternal life and may God bless you.
Stan Tobias
Adrienne Williams
June 21, 2011
I was a patient of Dr. Rajaraman during an extremely traumatic medical condition. Not only did he perform the surgery, but he calmed my fears in a bedside manner that only he could administer. He was the best in his class!! I only wished I had saved the last voicemail message he left advising my MRI was o.k. I will sincerely miss him and feel he's irreplacable. My heartfelt sympathy is extended to their daughter as well as the entire family. You are all in my prayers!!
Jaya Pampati
June 21, 2011
Dear Kaavya
Our thoughts and prayers are with you. In this terrible time of grief please know and believe that the spirit of your parents will continue to live with you and through you and the countless number of people whose lives they have touched. I believe you have the strength and courage to get through this dark hour. Please know that our family is there for you if you ever need us.
Jaya Pamapti MD
MMC Class batch '82
Toto
June 21, 2011
You have my deepest sympathy. May their family find comfort in knowing they have two angels watching over them.
Visiting with Friends after Dr. Raj finished his 2ndd successful surgery
Basil Guirguis
June 21, 2011
Dr. Raj you saved my life twice and are the most compassionate cancer treating physician I ever had the honor of meeting. You touched my soul and touched my family in ways words could not do you justice.
Mary-we worked together for a short while and it was a pleasure, you have been there for my wife Stacie before and after your husband operated on me both times and that support you gave her was priceless to me, it was one less thing I needed to worry about and allowed me to focus on healing. You were like a sister to me and Stacie.
Kaavya- my deepest condolensces for your loss. As sad as some of us are, i could not imagine the pain you are experiencing at this time, if I could take even a little of it from you I would in a moment without hesitation. My prayers and the prayers of my family will be focused on you forever more.
June 21, 2011
mary my cousin will be greatly missed by me .we had a very woderful chilhood and teen age together.our pranks and enjoyment will never fade.miss u mini.(as u were called at home)
brought up together,played together and what not?
fatima ( jinkai )Chennai,India
June 21, 2011
Dr Rajaraman and Dr Mary Sundaran will be missed greatly. . He was just not a great surgeon but a great great person. He and his wife were the role model for those Indian Americans who are raising their kids away from their homeland. May God give strength to their daughter to cope with this loss.
June 21, 2011
My condolences to you Kaavya. May God give strength to cope with this loss.You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Leela
Mary Sumitra
June 21, 2011
May God comfort the daughter and the family and grant them God's Peace.
Girija T
June 21, 2011
May God give strength to their daughter to bear with this terrible loss.
T.Girija, Chennai
June 21, 2011
To
Kaavya Iyer and other members of the bereaved family , my prayers to you all that may God give you enough strength to overcome this great tragedy.Vichu and Mary truly remarkable souls , who continue live in the countless lives they have saved and shared their joys and sorrows. May their souls RIP.
Jp & Family , MMC '82 Batch ,Chennai , India
Do Not Stand at My Grave and Weep
Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there, I do not sleep.
I am in a thousand winds that blow,
I am the softly falling snow.
I am the gentle showers of rain,
I am the fields of ripening grain.
I am in the morning hush,
I am in the graceful rush
Of beautiful birds in circling flight,
I am the starshine of the night.
I am in the flowers that bloom,
I am in a quiet room.
I am in the birds that sing,
I am in each lovely thing.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there. I do not die.
Karen Iacono
June 21, 2011
Dr. Rajaraman and his wife will be missed greatly---remembering with gratitude and admiration the genuinely caring regard Dr. Raj had with my husband, a fully -recovered back patient due to Dr. Rajaraman's skill---our hearts go out to daughter, Kaavya.
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