Search by Name

Add a Memory

Send Flowers

Make a Donation

Share Obituary

PATRICIA SELCH Obituary

SELCH--Patricia Bakwin. Passed away on January 6, 2014 at her home in New York City at the age of 84. She is survived by her four children: Nicholas, Jason, Andrea and Gregory and her ten grandchildren: Katherine, Susanna, Emily, Rebecca, Julia, Rachel, Paul, Helen, Adelaide and Beatrice. Much loved and very missed already. Memorial on Sunday, January 19th, 10am, The Cosmopolitan Club, 122 East 66th Street, (212) 734-5950. In lieu of flowers, please make contributions to AMAC (Association for Metroarea Autistic Children, Inc.) (212) 645-5005.

To plant trees in memory, please visit the Sympathy Store.

Published by New York Times on Jan. 8, 2014.

Memories and Condolences
for PATRICIA SELCH

28 Entries

Philipp Saame

January 2, 2021

We will never forget her.
Tina and Philipp Saame

Ava Seavey

November 8, 2020

Dear Nick, Jason, Andrea and Gregory: when I was in college I worked for your Dad at your house. I saw Pat and Eric every day and adored them both. They were at my wedding many years back. You guys we’re kids but really not much younger than I was. I went by my middle name Beth then. You all may remember me. I’m a few years late in the condolences but wanted to send you all my best. Ava Beth Seavey

Philipp Saame

January 2, 2020

Pat was the epitome of a great mind, open-mindedness, empathy, generosity and strength. We will never forget her.
Tina & Philipp Saame

December 26, 2015

Sincere condolences to the Selch family. We're so sad to learn that Pat is no longer on this earth. She will remain in our hearts and memories. Jeannie & Scott, Bucks County PA

Alessandra Melo

May 5, 2014

Dear Ms. Selch,

I have no words to express my gratitude to you. I am what I am because of your help. You'll be forever in my heart.
Alessandra

Luis A Rojas

February 11, 2014

Dear Mrs Selch,
Thank you for your generosity, and for considered me a friend, God bless you!
Alex

Sandra Lee

January 18, 2014

Dear Nicholas, Gregory, Jason and Andrea:
Although we haven't met all of you , your folks always spoke so lovingly about the four of you and the growing family. We extend our deepest sympathy. We got to know Pat and Eric when Pat and I served together on the NY Downtown Hospital Board for close to 20 years. She was always devoted to women's health issues, patient care and the community. We will miss her spirit and friendship but fond memories of special times will stay with us.
Warmly,
Sandy Lee & Arn Kawano

January 18, 2014

Dearest friend

I will not say good bye but thank you for
Our lunches ,talks and walks and always being ready to have another adventure
Love stacy

Waddy Thompson, executive director, ISO

January 16, 2014

The Board and staff of the InterSchool Orchestras of New York extend their deepest sympathies to the family of Patricia Selch. Her and her husband Eric's indelible contributions to ISO will long be remembered.

Michel Lanneau

January 14, 2014

I met Patricia and Eric Selch in the early 90Ss, hosted at the Selch residence when working in NYC. So many souvenirs have been shared since and I pay a great respect to the unique sense of Patricia and her family to maitain and warm up the friendship they have been building with their friends around the globe. I miss her so much and I shared the sadness of her childrend and grandchildren. Michel Lanneau

Patricia Selch, 1985

January 13, 2014

I met Patricia Selch 9 years ago when I came to New York for the first time. Living in New York was a dream, meeting Mrs Selch made my experience all the more memorable. She is this kind of extraordinary people you met only once in your life.
She will stay in my heart forever...
Alexia, New York

Christina(Kiki) Olinger

January 13, 2014

Andrea, Nick, Greg & Jason!

Many years ago(I was about 12)my mom and I were in town visiting from CT. During our stay there was this horrible blizzard that shut down the city. Needless to say we were stuck at your mom's house for 3 extra days. Now as I remember your mother's house wasn't exactly an entertainment mecca for children. After playing pool by myself upstairs and coloring I was climbing up the walls! Fed up my mother (Maggie)suggested I go cross country skiing. reluctantly Pat asked Conrad to fetch some old rossignol skis from the basement. Next thing I know I was tromping out the door down 71st and up Park Ave! I was a sight to see in the middle of the deserted city street. Your mother was always amused by my mom's vitality and shenanigans. She would often encourage it to her chagrin. Throughout the years your mom would be my sympathetic ear when fights between my mom and I would flair up. More recently she helped me cope with the loss of my mom in May. I remember my mom telling me about when they were young and she lived across the street. The friendship that our mother's shared was truly lifelong!
Her laugh, her smile, her voice, her style. Her strength, her poise, her gifts, her joys. Lets celebrate a life well-lived and a person well loved!

January 13, 2014

I met Pat the first time in 2000 and from that time I always being in touch with her and lived in the house for a few months when I worked in NYC. My family and I had the nicest summer in 2013 visiting Pat and family in Ossining.
I can't forget her.
She will be in my memory forever.
Ilaria Dupré with Guido and the girls.

Anna Maria Rossi

January 10, 2014

I met Mrs Patricia Selch 10 years ago and from that time she has been an extraordinary example for me of generosity, intellectual curiosity and humanity. Mrs Selch has shown me how wonderful is to welcome the people you meet in your life with enthusiasm, openness and rigor, always looking for the best in others.
I am deeply thankful for the time spent together!

Rozella Kennedy

January 10, 2014

My last visit with Pat was in June. We went to The Beach and she had a burger, very rare... Like always!! Over all these years, she was a touchstone for so many of my transitions to adulthood, in ways she would have shrugged off, I believe: Her matter of factness gave one strength and resolve.

Pat, you were a window and a door to my future, and you did that for many. I know the family knows how much I loved and respected her, and how deeply I hold you all in my heart. -Rozie

Marty Jarrell

January 10, 2014

My heartfelt condolences to the Selch family on Pat's passing. She was a beautiful, generous and gracious woman. I'm grateful to have had the pleasure of her company when she visited North Carolina.
With love and sympathy,
Marty

Allison Carey

January 10, 2014

Pat was an amazing woman and she will be missed. My deepest sympathies .
Allison. Conway Carey

Pauline Hecht

January 10, 2014

As a student of Dr. Harry Bakwin,Pat's father, and as a long term associate and co-trustee at the New York Downtown Hospital, I mourn Pat's passing. For the many decades I have known her, she has been integrally involved and personally committed to innumerable humane issues. Her absence will be a real void.

Elena Tessitore

January 10, 2014

Mrs. Patricia Selch,

Has been a very special friend of mine, a wonderful and exceptional woman, full of energy, with whom I have shared deep talks and unforgettable moments.
She has been a great example of generosity, knowledge and enthusiasm for life.
I will always be thankful to her for hosting me during my medical studies in New York and for giving me the strength to always have a positive attitude in life.
I will keep her great spirit in my mind and in my heart forever.

Josh Kilmer-Purcell

January 9, 2014

Brent and I are greatly saddened by the passing of Patricia. The entire Mohawk Valley region owes both her and Eric an endless debt of gratitude for the restoration of the Beekman Mansion. Nicholas, Gregory, Jason and Andrea...we were always so tickled when your mother would send us an email approving of something she'd read we were doing with the farm. You and your families are always welcome to visit. Deepest condolences on your loss.

January 9, 2014

Dear Selch Family,
"Those we love don't go away,
they walk beside us every day.
Unseen, unheard, but always near,
still loved, still missed and very dear."
(Anonymous)
She touched so many lives – we will never forget her.
Tina and Philipp from Munich

Philipp Saame

January 9, 2014

Borgeaud Julie

January 9, 2014

Traduction
A unique and profound, and radiant wife, with whom I shared marvellous moments, every day for two months during my stay with her and her company, last november. Peace and eternel memory. Thoughts to his children and grandchildren.

Chris Mann

January 9, 2014

Pat served ably as a trustee of New York Downtown Hospital from 1989 until her retirement from the board in 2012. She will be missed. Condolences to her children and grandchildren from Pat's fellow trustees.

nina feld

January 8, 2014

Dear Nicholas, Gregory, Jason and Andrea,

My mother and I are deeply saddened by your loss and we mourn the passing of an iconic woman. My mother has been flooded with wonderful memories of a friendship that spanned over four decades and rallied to continue today as she thought your mother would have wanted her to, by moving forward.

We are so terribly sorry and look forward to sharing your memories at her memorial.

With Love and Fondness,

Nina Wolff Feld and Lila Wolff

Barbara Semitekol

January 8, 2014

Sad loss to so many, the children, grandchildren and many friends. A wonderful woman who shared much knowledge with so many, she will be missed.

Sylvia and Bill Barone

January 8, 2014

Generous, beautiful, stylish, energetic in all things, positive, honest, and loyal, a devoted wife, a loving mother, a caring friend. an unsinkable relisher of life. Truly, we shall never find another like Patricia Bakwin Selch. We are so grateful for having known her.

Showing 1 - 28 of 28 results