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for Brendan McCoy
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Brehan Brady
August 15, 2023
Over the years, I have come to this page and read and re-read the remembrances of you, my friend. I think of you often, and for your family, know that Brendan's memory lives on in those of us who were fortunate enough to serve along side him and call him our friend. The impact that he has had, and continues to have on my life cannot be measured, but know that I carry him in my heart every day. God bless you, my brother. Scalp 'em all.
Lindsay Mead
March 24, 2022
Charissa - I don´t know how to get in touch with you. I´m Brendan´s mom. Do you still have that green journal? I would be so grateful to have it.
John Bates
September 12, 2021
Not a day goes by that I do not think about you, and crazy enough that I have never knew about his page. You are always inside of my head and when I talk about leadership you are the first person I think of . You have inspired me to always push myself as far as I can,and hoping I have made you proud in some way. I love and miss you brother. Forever 2-1Angry
Bugz
August 9, 2020
Miss you every day Bugz. Love you. I saved all your voicemails.
Jason Prior
September 9, 2019
Miss you everyday son. Still thinking about you.
January 13, 2017
Here again leaving you a message. It's been awhile but you are still missed. Thank you for looking over me.
Otto
May 30, 2016
Thinking about you brother. I know you are in a better place and that your family will see you again!
Ecclesiastes 12: 6&7
6 Or ever the silver cord be loosed, or the golden bowl be broken, or the pitcher be broken at the fountain, or the wheel broken at the cistern. 7 Then shall the dust return to the earth as it was: and the spirit shall return unto God who gave it.
Steven Ashmore
November 13, 2015
Still missing you, Brother. Best damn soldier I ever knew.
Jason Prior
April 28, 2015
Think about you every day son. Missing you.
babs
December 19, 2014
I come here alot to read about all the people who love you. I love you! You are my first love. What I wouldn't give for one more night drinking beer on the roof, or dancing in you kitchen while you make dinner, or being woke up with a kiss and coffee before you went to work. Although I can't go back in time I am so glad to have known you.
Reb Turlington
December 11, 2014
Just thinking of the rappel tower in New Mexico during Jump Start and the rest of that mob. Good times man
Reb Turlington
December 11, 2014
I learned a lot of what it meant to be an NCO from you man. I didn't even know you'd passed on until recently. Ran into another guy that knew you and he told me. Last time I spoke to you was at McGregor. Hope you found peace man. One of the best Infantrymen I ever had the privelage of knowing.
Steven Ashmore
November 11, 2013
Happy Veterans' Day, Brother. I miss you, and think of you often.
Hannah
September 16, 2013
I still miss you Bren! I still think of every dance, every laugh, and every story you ever told me. You changed my entire life!
scott seibert
April 10, 2013
Love you and miss you brother.
Joesph Yates
March 26, 2013
I come here from time to time to read the messages from others. I guess it helps me remember you in some ways. I find it funny that someone else wrote about drinking on the roof as we had done the same a few times. You are missed Bren. Love you bro.
February 25, 2013
I miss and love you just as much as I ever have. You are my first love and there is a piece of my heart that I can never give away cause it will always be yours. What I would give for one more two step in the living room or beer on the roof.
Charissa Cephas
June 11, 2012
I came across a journal at a little thrift store and bought it because it was green. It turns out, it was your old journal. I wanted to find you, see how you were. I'm sorry you passed on before I could really know you. But I'll never forget you.
Hope York
September 10, 2011
I miss you so much Bren.
Luke Buller
May 12, 2011
RIP my brother, till we meet again!
Rita McKamey
May 3, 2011
You will not be forgotten!
Kelly Steinmeyer
November 12, 2009
From Rhymes of a Red Cross Man, 1916
Young Fellow My Lad
" Where are you going, Young Fellow My Lad,
On this glittering morn of May?"
"I'm going to join the Colours, Dad;
They're looking for men, they say."
"But you're only a boy, Young Fellow My Lad;
You are'nt obliged to go."
" I'm seventeen and a quarter, Dad,
and ever so strong, you know."
"So you're off to France, Young Fellow My Lad,
And you're looking so fit and bright."
"I'm terribly sorry to leave you, Dad,
But I feel that I'm doing right."
"God bless you and keep you, Young Fellow My Lad,
You're all of my life, you know."
"Don't worry. I'll be back, dear Dad,
And I'm awfully proud to go."
"Why don't you write, Young fellow My Lad?
I watch for post each day;
And I miss you so, and I'm awfully sad,
And it's months since you went away.
And I've had the frie in the parlour lit,
And I'm keeping it burning bright
Till my boy comes home; and here i sit
Into the quiet night."
"What is the matter, Young Fellow My Lad?
No letter again to-day.
Why did the postman look so sad,
And sighed as he went away?
I hear them tell that we've gained new ground,
But a terrible price we've paid:
God grant, my boy, That you're safe and sound;
But Oh I'm afraid, afraid."
"They've told me the truth, Young Fellow my Lad:
You'll never come back again:
(Oh God! The dreams and the dreams I've had,
And the hopes I've nursed in vain!)
For you passed in the night, Young Fellow My Lad,
And you proved in the cruel test
Of the screaming shell and battle hell
That my boy was one of the best.
"So you'll live, you'll live, Young Fellow my Lad,
In the gleam of the evening star'
In the wood-note wild and the laugh of a child,
In all sweet things that are.
And you'll never die, my wonderful boy,
While life is noble and true;
For all our beauty and hope and joy
We will owe to Lads like you."
Miss you brother
Barry McCoy
November 5, 2009
Hey Bren.
Just got a book from Mr. Palmer, yesterday. Some publisher decided to put something together to celebrate the National Guard in it's entirety. Each state has a couple pages dedicated to them and some pictures showing off their soldiers. They chose you to be the face of the Oklahoma National Guard. It's the picture of you rappelling face-first down the tower in New Mexico .. just because you could. I'm not too terribly sure many people are at all surprised you ended up the poster child for Oklahoma soldiers. It's pretty fitting that the view is looking up to you... that's what a lot of us did. You were the best of us. I miss you, Bren.
I love you!
Spc. Brandon Stewart
November 3, 2009
Well I just found this page, I am still thinking about you on a daily basis but it is all good stuff now. I am the only 21 Angry member to sign this page, And only a few will ever know what that means! I hope you are looking down and thinking that I am doing a good job. In all the aspects of my life, I consider : "Is SSG McCoy watching?" and it makes me a better person. Thank you for making me ANGRY!
Joshua Hinkle
October 17, 2009
We had some good times over seas. You will be missed. I'll see you on the other side!
Greg Graham
October 12, 2009
You will forever be missed brother. We spent some crazy times together at Ft Drum and in Afghanistan Climb To Glory.
tera scarbrough
October 9, 2009
I will never forget the nights you came and stayed with me and Kristie. We're going to miss you. Love you. Tera (shackelford) Scarbrough
Joesph Yates
October 7, 2009
I don't think words alone can express what I'm feeling at the moment. To have this feeling of emptiness, loss. I haven't seen Brendan in nearly ten years and haven't talked with him in a year or so. However a big part of me, of who I am, is because of Brendan McCoy. I knew him before he became the man many of you grew to know and love. He was a boy with dreams and goals. I'll never forget the nights we spent doing nothing more than talking. Sitting on the railroad tracks or on his roof in Marlow. We had some good times and some deep soul searching talks. He was the first person to ever gain my full respect. A moment in time that I'll never forget. One summer in '97 that will forever live in my thoughts. I can't express how great a loss this is for people such as myself. People whose lives were touch before he ever grew to become a man. I miss our talks and I miss the boy whom I'll forever consider a brother.
Jessica Howard - Cox
October 7, 2009
Brendan, It has been years since we had the chance to hang out, but we kept in touch via the wonderful Internet. Wish we would have made the time to hang out again. You are a great guy! You are missed.
Karlie
September 29, 2009
Thank you for never changing who you were and always being my friend. I love and miss you with all my heart.
Dad & Barry
September 27, 2009
To the world you were one. But to us you were the world.
We miss you, and we're so proud of you!
Wish that you could have known how many lives that you touched.
Travis Loest
September 20, 2009
Words fail me. I can only express my condolences to your family. Three years through some of the toughest work and I will always call you my brother.
Larry Palmer
September 18, 2009
My surrogate son, you leave giving me the warmth of knowing a unique person. Not just only a true soldier that I would go to war with knowing that my 6 was covered, but having shared a period and space in time with a true enigma, you have brought out so many emotions in us, so many happy memories that I wish could have continued to be here and now. I'll see you on Gods roll call, will have a drink with all our Joes, and have another good time.
Charlie NCO
September 17, 2009
SSG McCoy,
RIP Brother. It was an honor to have served with you both at home and in Iraq. Thanks for your commitment and hard work in Charlie Company. Your soldiers loved you, your peers respected you, and your leaders trusted you. You are already missed. I will not forget you and I am proud to have served beside you. Later Bro.
Boot Top High MTF, and
COLDSTEEL!!!!
SPC. Brittany Morales
September 17, 2009
I had the honor in serving with Brendan in the Honor Guard. He was one of the guys that I respected and love to do funerals with. I am so very sorry that I dont get to go say good bye to him before I left for Mob training at Camp Shelby. I will always remember that smile and that attitude he had. Lots of love and prays for Brendan and his family. until we meet again. Guard the gates of heaven because you will always be a solider
Kay Clubb (Sposito)
September 16, 2009
I have fond memories of Brendan and Barry as little boys when their father was married to my best friend Charla...going to the beach, spending all day at the San Jose Flea Market. They were such fun little boys. I was so saddened to hear about Brendan. My condolences to his father and brother.
Karen Jule
September 16, 2009
I did not have the privelage to meet him, but heard only good about him. My son and he served in Iraq together and I know he was one the men he trusted and sort things out with. He will be missed. I am so sorry for your loss. Just remember there is no war, pain, or loss in heaven. God Bless you his family through these difficult times.
Charles McKamey
September 16, 2009
I was "McCoy's" 1SG at Ft Drum. He was my right hand man from Egypt through Afghanistan. He made me laugh so much and drove me nuts all the time. I know he was physically strong because of me ha ha! I loved him like a son. He was a great soldier and friend. He was a Ranger without a tab. What a terrible loss. I will truly miss him. My condolences go out to his family and friends. The Big Airborne Ranger in the sky has a true warrior with him now! God Bless!
Reba Hibbs (Tony Bray's mother)
September 16, 2009
I only met Brendon one time before he left to Iraq with friend Tony Bray. I truly give the family my deepest regrets for their lost. My prayers are sincerely with you.
MSG Steven Smith
September 16, 2009
As a fellow Infantryman that deployed with you, and as a former First Sergeant of C 179 all I need to say are words that you and I understand-
"Cold Steel!"
Sherry Taylor
September 16, 2009
He's McCoy to me. My son Justin stayed with him some. I don't know who led who into mischeivousness! But McCoy called me Mom whenever I would take Justin to meet him. They went to Iraq together. I loved him. I prayed for him while he was in Iraq. And I already miss him! I'm so sorry for this loss to all of us.
Mike Adams
September 16, 2009
"McCoy, you were a hell of a team leader and great guy to be around. It was an honor and priveledge to serve with you. Im certain that everybody in heaven will have all there pockets buttoned from now on. God Speed, Air Assault."
Allison Kovacs
September 15, 2009
May friends and family find peace knowing that Brendan is at peace. Always good memories of you, buddy. Love, Bugz.
Gary Bray
September 15, 2009
I only met Brendan one time and that was his return from Iraq. He and my son Tony Bray were there together. Brendan and I did email back and forth from time to time. I know when I met him he was so personable. He was an example of a fine fine young man, a true soldier. Brendan, you didn't know it but you made an impact on me that day and I was so proud to have met you. You touched people and never knew it. God bless you. God bless your family and friends. And thank you Brendan for your service to our country, God Bless America.
SGT Hamblin
September 15, 2009
SSG McCoy, It was a pleasure serving with you in Iraq and I'm going to miss your quick witted, sarcastic, and devious personality.
Rafael Velez
September 15, 2009
Brendan,
I did not personally know you, but to know that you served our country in these difficult times speaks a great deal about your courage and selfless service. Even the most courages men must some day fall only to inspire others to follow their lead. My thoughts and prayers are with you and all your loved ones. We will take it from here soldier. Rest in peace.
Becky Graham
September 15, 2009
When Brendan was in high school, he would come in my office with Karlie and always had a mischievous smile on his face. A couple of months ago he came by and the smile was still the same -- mischievous. That is the memory I will always keep.
You are in our thoughts and prayers,
Carol Lance
September 15, 2009
My prayers are with the family and friends. Remember, nothing is too big for our God.
Hope Bush
September 15, 2009
We will miss you Bren I love you!
SGT Rhonda Foreman
September 15, 2009
Brendan, I have worked with you on Honor Guard and talked with you on many occassions. I have sat and had a meal with you and the team. You are the Army Values and the backbone of the NCO Core. You always smiled and came by my office on a regular basis. You are very special and I will truely miss you. Lots of Love, Rhonda
Rhonda Foreman
September 15, 2009
I have worked and spoke to you on many occassions. Your are a true example and reflect the Army Values and the NCO core. I have sat and had a meal with you and the Honor Guard. It was a true pleasure knowing you and I will see you someday in Heaven. Lots of Love and thoughts, Rhonda
SSG Angela Kutzma
September 15, 2009
You were a treasure in your Soldier's eyes. You will truly be missed buddy!
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