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Gary Payton Obituary

PAYTON-Gary M., 40 years, Omaha. Preceded in death by grandson, Thomas Mendicino. Survived by wife, Venita; sons, Gary and wife Shawna Douchey, Thomas Douchey; daughter, Angela Douchey and Thomas James Mendicino; grandson, Jayce; mother, Martha Payton; father, Larry Payton; step-father, David Bebee; brothers, Larry Payton, Danny and wife Heidi Payton; sister, Amy Bebee; numerous nieces, nephews, aunts, uncles and cousins.
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This obituary was originally published in the Omaha World-Herald.

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Published by Omaha World-Herald from Oct. 16 to Oct. 18, 2005.

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Greg Foxx

September 20, 2024

I seen a man working at hospital, in Wichita. He looked just like Gary, at the time he transitioned.
No photo taken. To weird. But we conversed.
Remembered Gary.

October 31, 2010

Just wanted to say Happy Halloween! I know you an dad seen the grandkids anhow cute they was, we got some great grandkids there. Love ya

Kristy Tangeman

October 15, 2010

Your very missed. You have a wonderful family. Peace

Superior Lighting friend

August 26, 2010

For Gary, his family, and friends.
I was thinking about the great times I had in Omaha, and working with Gary.

I only know Gary a short time, and got to know him. I thought highly of him as the person I was able to know. I have not got as emotional, after hearing about his passing, ever. He was a great person.

As you can tell I have not forgotten Gary

venita payton

April 17, 2010

HAPPY BIRTHDAY GARY!! LOVE An MISS You SO Much ! Once again HAPPY BIRTHDAY DEAR! LOVE YOu Venita Payton

Kimmy O'Connor

October 13, 2009

on ur bike u took off for that last thrilling ride. i never knew apart of me was about to die,That day the angels came and took you away.4years ago 2day. i still hear your laughter in my ear.In my heart i hold you so close and dare.ur memory and strength has been my guide,cuz i know i have u an angel by my side.when i look to the sky. I know you are smilen back at me, cuz u left this world doing what u most loved riding wild and free, who could asks for more. i know that u will be thier one day to meet us all at heavens door. until then i love and miss u my friend!

venita Payton

August 22, 2009

Will just thinking about you today well i do that everyday. It would of been 17 yrs today that we said the BIG words I DO! Just wanted to say that everyday you r with me where ever i go ok an that you r in my heart well Hun, I love you an miss you!

Brother Dan

February 10, 2009

Miss you bro... I have been thinking about you a lot lately.... Its just not fair that you are gone.

Kimmy Oconnor

October 12, 2008

ofcorse, i been thinking about you like crazy, and still miss you more and more everyday!!!! i was cleaning my room yesterday and going threw this boxs of stuff, and ran into sum pictures of you, i cant believe it will be 3 years that you have been away from us, it still so unreal to me, i finally got back on a harley a couple of weeks ago, i was so scared at first, but when we pulled over and that eagle flew over us, i knew it was a sign from you and then all was good for the rest of the ride, i love and miss you more then anything, everyday i wish you were here.its truely a different world without you in it, xoxoxoxox Kimmy

Debbie Schumacher (Newlin)

October 10, 2008

It's hard to believe we are coming up on three years-it seems like only yesterday that I seen you at Uncle Whitey's birthday party!! Wish we could turn back the hands of time. Your memory will live on forever!! Love ya.

kelly bacon

September 5, 2008

Just wanted to say hi, take care of my dad for me and also give him a hug and a kiss from all of us. I love and miss you alot Gary!!!!

Teena Denny

September 3, 2008

I was really sad to hear the news of your passing. Rest in peace.

venita payton

May 27, 2008

Hello there,
Hey just wanted to say Hi. I wish you was here right now with me at this time of my life I need you to tell what to do and help me . I am so stressed out over this stuff with my dad an the whole nine yards Hun. I really need you an I cant but i know you are here with me an well help threw this an lead me the right way . you know me i never ever had to do stuff like this . I always had you or my dad to help now i dont have you or him and its really making it hard for me to deal with it. Well going to go now just wanted to say I Love You and Miss you dearly Hun. Hey Mollie nice to read an hear from you . I am a proud grandma they make my life very happy isnt anything better then my grandbabies they are my life I love them babies so much its a wonderful feeling being a grandma , my grandbabies can do no wrong in my eyes an boy noone best not even so a word to me about my babies they are the greatest in the whole wide world. write me or give me a call.
Love you gary.
Venita

Mollie

May 26, 2008

Well, just thinking of you and the family lately. My son got his first motorcycle a few weeks ago(he is nine). Another generation of riders starts. Congrats on the next grandbaby. Venita is quite the proud grandma...are you old enough to be a grandma Venita? Anyway, Gary, in my thoughts and prayers.

kelly bacon

May 14, 2008

Hi Gary,
I called your mom on mothers day and we talked for awhile. Monday we took Lori over to see her.
She gave Lori a dolly and a nice dress,for her birthday.She really miss you but I think a lot of people miss you alot. You are always in our hearts and in our thoughts big cuz.
lots of love always kelly

mary fiala

May 2, 2008

sorry, i haven't chatted with you in a while but i haven't had a computer to write. still think about ya daily and i'm not the only one. i'm living in McCook now close to my grandaughter son and daughter-in-law. they are my angels here on earth that's for sure. talked to your wife yesterday first time in a while she told me that uncle whitey is in a nursing home i feel so bad but it might be good for him for a while just to get a little more exercise venita sure is missing him though those two have never really been apart all her life. well, gary hope you and all those angels are being good and will be writing again soon love ya marold t

venita payton

April 21, 2008

Hello There Hun,
Hey wanted to say hello and Happy Birthday even throw its late. But I did wish u a Happy B-day on the 17th of April, I will never ever forget that date in my whole life. Well i know you know but i want to be the one to say we are going to be grandma an grandpa again! Yes we have 3 now ,but one more on the way . Guess who? Thomas an Sunni are going to have a little one the due date is 11-09-08 day after my B-Day. These kids of ours are making me older day by day with these grandbabies. Are 3 now Jayce Kinsey an Taylor are so beautiful , there are great I love them to death . We tell them grandpa gary loves them also we talk about you everyday to them. I only wish you was here with me gary damn it. Well when i went to the Key West I know you was with me everyday I was gone cause I can feel you at times, And my dreams was so real , its was are life with our kids when they was little, its like we was there all over again , its was very nice to spend time with you them days but when you went away i didnt like it i was upset cause then i had to come back to my life alone without you. Now I know when poeple say they can see you or feel you after they lost a love one , i believe it now cause i know cause I lost you, i know what they mean. Well didnt mean for this to be so long but its been awhile that i've been on here . Well Hun got to go,am going to take your mom to the doctors so got to get ready. Love you very much an miss you lots an lots .
Venita J Payton

Heidi & Dan Payton

April 20, 2008

Gary, we miss you so much!! We talk about you all the time, we took the kiddos to the park today and it reminded me of the campouts we used to go on. Miss you TONS!

Love you, Happy Birthday!
Dan, Heidi, Daniel, Adeline, Logan & Gavin

kelly bacon

April 19, 2008

Hi Gary,
It is just me writting you,I just wanted to say I love and miss you.
I had a dream about you last night, It really felt like you was here with me. Lot's of love too you cuz.

gary payton

April 18, 2008

you're as free as a bird now love u more than anything Sonny Shawna & babies

Kimmy O'Connor

April 17, 2008

HAPPY B DAY! HAPPY 43! your still my eagle flying over an ocean tye flying free, everyday! you are still a big part of me, I Miss your laughter in my ear,but i know in my heart you are near,I Miss the warmth of your smile, I Miss your face, No one in this world will ever take your place. I love and miss you sooo much! Its so hard to really trust! One day wild horses will bring us togather agian, until then i will hold you in my heart my cuzn my special friend,

kelly bacon

March 26, 2008

Hi Garry,
It has been awhile since I wrote to you. Well I took your mom to the doc on Monday,we talked a lot and she came over for awhile. Well I heard Free Bird on CD 105 today and my mind drifted to you. I almost started to cry ,but I said too my self at least you are free (big cuz). And I love and miss you always. Your cuz Kelly Bacon.

Kimmy

February 21, 2008

just been thinking about you alot lately, its crazy how soooo much has changed. i believe with all my heart that if it wasnt for you i would have never turned my life arould. i love you soo much for that, but i still wish you were here everyday, i miss your laugh,smile, and your goofy silly ways. everyday & forever in my heart you will stay.

KIMMY

January 28, 2008

GARY, I know its been awhile, but i carry you in my heart & soul everyday. i miss you sooo much. I will forever have a hole in my heart. LOVE & MISS SOOOOO MUCH

kelly bacon

December 21, 2007

Well it is almost x-mas.We all miss you alot,when I think of you all I can do is smile. lots of LOVE cuz. kelly

shely farfalla

December 20, 2007

Thinking of you Gaddy.. miss and love you lots... shely and gina

Debbie Newlin

December 18, 2007

Merry Christmas Gary. We miss you.

Amy Beebe

October 25, 2007

Well brother Gar I just wanted to leave a message to let you know that I miss you much and still think of you everyday. Your gonna be having a another granddaughter as you already know. I am sure she will be just as beautiful as the other grandbabies you have. I am sure you are in heaven fishing with baby Thomas, teaching him the ropes just as you did with the boys. Just gotta say what an outstanding person you were and you will NEVER be forgotten. I love you very much and I think of you everyday. Love your seeester, Amy

Kimmy

August 25, 2007

i have been thinking about you so much lately well i always think about you but some days are really harder then others i wanted to thank you for being my guardian angel last friday. we should have not walk away from that i am so thankful that we did. i went to see Sandy, Denise mom its was really hard for me.i just set in the chair and was thinking about all kinds of stuff. i didnt even try to wake her up. hell i dont even no if i could of. I dont think she even knew i was there. i started to cry so i had to leave. i miss your smile and your laugh more then u will ever know but most of all i miss you. i love you sooo much everyday i wish to god you were here

Freddie Joseph

July 10, 2007

Hello Gary,
This will make it the first time I have spoke to you, since you left all of us. When I had finally found out that you were gone, I couldn't believe it. Not "Our Gary", Spunky, Funky, Playful and Enthustiactic for Life GARY." Yes, they said it is True. I still can't believe it. My deepest thoughts & prayers went & still do go out to Venita & your kids. It goes to show that "God" does call on the good guys to come to him, because he called upon "YOU". Gary, I just wanted to tell you that your missed terribly, but you'll never be forgotten. I am happy though that I had the "Honor" of knowing and considering you to have and still be a "Great Friend". I'll cherish all the memories of "Good Times" all of us spent together "Riding,Partying and the Outrageously Wild Laugh Our Butts Off Partying Fun" we did in yours and Venita's garage, "Good Times, Hell Yes"!!! Well, "My Friend" I will say "Good-Bye" for now, but never "Forget YOU". You were and still are "One-Of-A-Kind"!!!!!!!
Your Loving Friend,
Freddie

kelly bacon

June 13, 2007

Hi Gary.
It has been awhile,well I am a grandma now. Holly had a baby girl on May 12th.She has blue eye's and brown hair.Holly is go'ing to raise her right & honest just like you. lots of love kelly

Kimmy

June 12, 2007

well i know its been awhile. please know that i think about you everyday. i carry you where ever i go. i miss you so so so much. i sit and think how much everything has changed. its truely not the same without you here.our family not even the same anymore. i think in so many ways you were the rock that kept us all togather. i love and miss you so much. everyday i wish you were here.

Brother Dan

May 1, 2007

Well brother its me... I haven't said anything for awhile so I thought I would say hello. Its hard to be so far away and not be able to go to your gravesite. I still can't believe I will never talk to you any more for the rest of my life... that's a long time. I sure wish we could have gone fishing or hunting one more time.

Well anyway I moved into my new house and I have your picture in my bedroom doorway right where I see you at the begining of each day and at the end of each day.

I know you never got to meet Gavin in person but he gives you kisses all the time on my tattoo.

My heart still aches but I guess that will never go away. Until we meet up on the otherside.

I miss u you big dummmmeeeee

Shely Farfalla

April 20, 2007

What's up Gar, Its Shely Sodball and Gina Scooter Ray..... We live in Florida together with our kids , just like we told ya we would ..... we see soo many shooting stars here and we think of you every time..... we love and miss you sooooo much. we will always be with you and your in our hearts forever... peace to you friend.... shel & g

Kimmy

April 16, 2007

GARY, i wrote a poem for your B-day but now i cant find it. i probally packed it away bye mistake.so sorry about that. but anyway. im going to try my hardest to come visit after i get off work. im in the middle of moving. i get sad thinking about the memories i have of you in this house. but know that they will live in my heart forever, i miss you like crazy. i miss your smile and your laugh sooooo much.Happy B-day you big silly guy. love you sooooo much

vemita

April 8, 2007

Hello There Gary,
Just wanted to say Happy Easter Hun. And that I wish you was here an I know you are but i want you here with me an our family and our wonderful grandbabies watching them find the easter eggs that the bunny hide for them. Its our granddaughter second easter but now she is walking an she is oh so pretty. You got to see her well i know you see them everyday an don't she look like the payton side alot she really looks like her daddy lots. well got to go an get busy so Happy Easter Gary an Love You so Much an Miss You so bad its sucks.
Love you venita

Kimmy

April 4, 2007

Gary, TO THE KEEPERS OF THE STARS. IM MISSING YOU MORE AND MORE EVERYDAY. THAT BURNING PAIN IN MY HEART NEVER SEEMS TO GO AWAY. THANKS FOR THE QUARTERS YOU KEEP LEAVING BEHIND. I KNOW ITS YOU GIVING ME SOMEKIND OF SIGN. YOUR MEMORY EVERYDAY STILL SHINES. LOVE YOU SO MUCH

v payton

March 20, 2007

Hello there Hun,
Well I didn,t write to u the day our son was born cause i didnt have a computer. So here i am today telling you Happy late St.Paddy's Day Dear! And thank you for giving us a wonderful son like our daughter-in-law says ok! Hey they got the pictures back from the wedding an boy we sure did take a good one with our boy an boy do I look good, Ha Ha we all look very sharp. Well the night of his B- Day we all was wishing you was there having fun an a drink with us we knew you was with us. Am sure you already know what the hell happened there. So i wont go in to details ok. you know cause you was there. Oh by the way tom an sunni got a new car an its very nice. we sure did make some wonderful children hun we got three very good kids well young adults. and boy is our granddaughter a looker she is so beatuiful jayce is good little boy now he never want to leave grandma nita house he crys so hard he can't breath, its makes me cry everytime he leaves. well I am going now just wanted to say hi an love you very much an also cant stand the fact that you are not here. I dont think I well never get used to it , you being gone from us cause its not surpose to be like that, but i know you are very happy where you are an its very nice there . I Love You an Miss You.
Love Your Wife Venita Jo.

March 18, 2007

Shawna Stickney

March 18, 2007

I've never wrote u before but what the heck Love You & Miss You every minute of every day it's Gary's B-day ! You gave me the best provider, lover , friend, and the best of all dad! Thank U & Love You More Than Ever Shawna!!!!xoxoxzoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxooxoxoxxo

Kimmy

March 17, 2007

Happy ST Patrick's Day, i Miss you more and more everyday, Thanks so much for being here for me this last year. who you were here in life. is what get me threw all the crazyness. i do have to say i am much happier this last month.i have totally changed my life arould in soo many ways. i am very very proud of myself. and i know that you are too.aint nothing but a chicken wing.life is what you make of it. at least i know that now. well i would go and have a drink with your son, but as you know my kids are sick. have a good one. i know that you will be arould your kids tonight. love and miss you soooo much. everyday in my heart.

Love your Mom and Family

March 17, 2007

Happy St. Patricks Day

Dear Son,
Well today is your oldests sons B-Day. I'm sure you are celebrating, wishing him love and happiness, and having your corn beef and cabbage. So heres an Irish toast to you. Well all miss you so much and wish that you could have staved awhile longer but heaven needed another wonderful person so God picked you. Meet you on the other side

Kimmy

February 14, 2007

Gary,I just wanted to wish you a happy V-day. i can feel that you are arould me the last couple of days.i have cried so much the last 3 days. that my eyes look like they did the night we lost you. well as you can see. i finally have the truth i was looking for. sometimes it doesnt always feel good to be right. but at least i know. i wish you were here so you could give me a huge bear hug. i love and miss you sooo much.

venita payton

January 24, 2007

The Broken Chain

We little knew that morning
God was going to call your name.
In life we loved you dearly.
In death we do the same.

It broke our hearts to lose you,
you did not go alone;
For part of us went with you,
The day God called you home.

You left us peaceful memories,
Your love is still our guide;
And though we cannot see you,
you are always at ourside.
Our family is broken
and nothing seems the same,
But as as God calls us one by one,
the chain well link again.

Love you always your wife venita.

venita

January 23, 2007

Hello there Hun,
Hey I justwanted to say Happy New Year Dear! And let you know that I love you very much so and boy I miss the hell out you , I just dont know why you have to be gone? Gary I need you here with me. But I know where you are, you are very much happy there. I just wanted to tell youu that our granddaughter is beautiful an yes she is walking, she is so small an so damn cute, her 1 birthday is in about 2 to 3 weeks can you believe it, a year old already. And Jayce boy oh boy is he wonderful, hes loves them horses an them lions an tigers an all that stuff. He is so big everytime i look at him all i can do is think of grandpa little boy an how much you love him i tell him all the time . And yes he goes in the big toliet now all by his self. I well see you here one day soon an then we well be together again it may keep us apart just for now but not forever until then . I Love you very much so Gary.
Your little old gray wife
and boy is it ever true. Ha! Ha!

Mary Fiala

January 22, 2007

Well Gary, it's been a long time since I wrote but things are always busy for me and I havent't had the chance to get a moment to get on the computer. Happy New Year and yes everyone is doing o.k. for the most part. My grandaughter and Jeremy just moved back to McCook just when I got attached to her he packed her up and moved back 300 miles away from me again but, I'll manage. We are always thinking of you and will be waiting to see you again until then my cousin-in-law

Kimmy

January 16, 2007

to the heavens, i wish you much love and a magical 2007, i miss you sooo much, more and more evryday. god knows things havnt been the same since you went away.thanks so much for always keeping me strong. thanks so much for helping me see the the right and what was wrong. thanks so much for always just being you.... forever in my heart. your heart will always be in mine.

your mom

January 15, 2007

For the new year to my special son,happiness and joy through eternity. my heart now has a emptiness since you been gone.that can never be filled until we are togather agian. please keep leaving your special little messeges, that you are here with us. it makes everyone so happy. all my love mom and the rest of your family and as you would always say my son, peace out

Your Girl

January 11, 2007

Well...G..I guess I will be the first to welcome you into the new year Big Gary....You will forever remain in my heart and my soul and i will never forget the nights we shared...yours forever XXXOOOXXXOOO

Amy Beebe

December 26, 2006

Well Gary another Christmas gone without you here by our side. The holidays will never be the same without you here. I could never forget the way that you always got so excited about buying all the gifts for the boys and Angie, I was just telling Josh about how you always made sure that the boys would have double of everything. If you bought a toy gun, you bought two, if you bought a gun case you bought two...everything one boy had the other one had the same thing. And Angie, you just spoiled her rotten. :) Josh was commenting on how she would be opening presents endlessly...I just laughed, cause that is just how it was with you around. You always wanted to make sure that they would never miss out on anything. I know you must get that from Mom. You were such a giving person. You are really missed alot and things will never be the same without you here in person. I know that you are with us in spirit. We will meet again my brother, my friend. I love you much...Amy

Kimmy

December 23, 2006

Gary, its another X-mas year, with much sadness and many tears, nomatter what people say or do, we all still feel so lost and blue, are days seem to be a little bit longer, as we all try to get a little stronger, in are hearts we hold you near and dear, everyday year after year,to share your glory,triumph and pain,to know we will never see you agian,we will always remember the smile you always wore, we feel your love so freely pour,you were a fighter with a heart of gold, you were always there through the dark and cold,always achieving every goal. attacking like with your heart and soul, you were unconditionally loved by one and all,you always stood strong and tall, you left behind a legacy like that of no other, you were my cousin, but so much to me, like a brother, Merry X-mas, to the heavens i will send you a X-mas kiss

Kimmy

December 10, 2006

Gary, i been missing you so much lately, i cant believe it will be our second X-MAS without you, i talk to your mom today, you can tell that she lost without you, we were talking about you and everything. she started to cry, but you know me, i had to say something that you always siad about me. so i could make her laugh. i told her about your CD that Dan made of you and how it dropped then ended up in my kitchen, i told that you were messing with me,but i also told her that i kept getting a bad feeling like you were trying to tell me something, like warning me, she started laughing telling me no, he just telling you that im here ya crazy girl, i just started laughing when she siad that, then i got the call today. it happend 3 weeks ago. thats crazy. tell her that im sorry that i didnt have the chance to say goodbye. but i know she in a better place, because she is now with you,i love ya and miss you more then you will ever know, me and your mom are going to visit next weekend. until then goodbye, P.S. TONIGHT IS THE NIGHT YOU LITE A CANDLE FOR ALL THE PARENTS WHO HAVE LOST A CHILD OR LOVED ONE. SO AS YOU LOOK DOWN FROM THE HEAVENS YOU WILL SEE HOW MUCH YOU ARE LOVED WHEN YOU SEE THE CANDLE LITE.

Kimmy

November 23, 2006

Gary, Happy Turkey Day, i missed you yesterday. and we will all be missing you today. forever in our hearts everyday. have a good one in that paradice of angels, love you and miss you

Kimmy O'Connor

November 13, 2006

well i still cant figure out what that dream meant. but i know that you are watching over me. an angel by my side. i miss you more and more everyday. thing sure are not the same without you. as you can see my life has changed a whole lot. i never realized how strong of a person you really were until now. and i guess you and your strength is what get me from day to day. i love you sooo much

Niki

October 15, 2006

Well Gary its been a year....and yet it still feels like I just saw you yesterday. I dont even know what to say except I will never forget you and I am greatful to have known a 'G'like you. Always in my heart you will be.

Kimmy

October 13, 2006

Today is Jayce b-day,i remember that was the last time we talked. you were so excited, like little kid. because of your grandson. its still bugs me that we didnt talk the nexts day, we talked everyday but that day, i guess it just wasnt in gods plan for the day, i love you and miss you more and more everyday, forever in my heart you will stay,

Kimmy

September 23, 2006

Gary, i have been thinking about you, so much lately. i find myself getting really sad too. but i still see that big smile of yours in my head, still trying to keep me strong from a above star. i will forever keep the memories and your heart, in mine. i miss you sooo cuz. i think i will come visit this weekend.i will bring you a B&C for old times.

Sandra

September 21, 2006

I miss you so much you bigdummy,I am so greatful that I got to have you and Venita in my life. I've known you two for many many years, threw good times and bad and for the most part I think we all turned out pretty ok. WILL NEVER FORGET YOU BUDDY, MISS YOU LOTS, LOVE SNDRA

Christy Bartlett

September 16, 2006

Gary, I find myself laughing out loud at all the stupid things we use to do,and then crack up so bad later.Those days seem like yesterday,and yet a lifetime away too.It sucks how we take life for granted!!!!!!!I think about sunnys 1st birthday party,then tom,then angie.Man we were kids our selves.Now im a grandma,and your gone!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I catch myself wanting to go visit ya and hang out,laugh and tell you my problums.And when i left i always felt just a little better.I miss you lots. Forever mouse.......................

kelly bacon

September 15, 2006

Hi

It has been awhile since I last wrote to you,I miss you very much.

I have dreams of you every so often,and when I wake up I laugh about them ,becouse they are about you when you was a young boy.

When I think of you it brings a big smile to my face.

love Kelly Bacon

Kimmy

September 13, 2006

Gary, its about month 11 .everyday i wish you were here with us, instead of heaven. i miss that big smile thats was always on your face.as long as i live,noone in this world, will ever take your place. i miss you more and more, each and everyday, nomatter what i do, i cant stop the tears from coming my way, but i know in my heart, that i will see you agian someday, love you soooo much,

Christy Bartlett

September 6, 2006

Gary,

hey,hey,hey,my,my,my,.............

man do i think of u so often.IMISS U Friend!!!!!I miss our long talks

and so so many laughs.

forever mouse

Kimmy

August 31, 2006

Gary, i wook up in the middle of the night. i could smell your cologne.then when i was on my way to work. i seen this guy in a black truck that looked just like you. then i remember today is Thomas B-DAY along with my dads. i miss you sooooo sooooo much. everyday i wish you were here love ya soooo sooo much

venita payton

August 31, 2006

Good Afternoon Gary,

Hello there Hun,

So guess what today is? Yes our Tom Moose B-Day 22 years ago we had our son, our 2nd one. Hey guess what? Well your cousin Adam an Sharon moved out on Monday, Kim an Greg come up an pick them up on. I think that was the best moved they ever did. I also wanted to tell you about an ask u if you remember the poem (My Two Boys!)? Well I found it, an that is going to be toms gift me an you . its so nice its going to be the best thing he can ever get from me from u Hun. Gary damn it Hun I miss so bad its crazy. Well am I ever be able to do it without you? Hey remember aug 22 was our 14 years of wedding day we become one, an also the 16th of this month was 26 years ago we become a couple an started our family well not the day we statred but alittle after that we did can u belive 26 years Gary, I was with you more then half my life. well me an Angie gots the family coming over for toms B-day dinner, guess what he wants for dinner pasta your best dinner not, Ha! Ha! i no how you hate the stuff. So I know you well be there with us, but i want you for real with me Gary! Well I got to go cause i got alot of stuff today to an you know me always raning late so I guess is good bye for now but not for long Hun, One day I well see you an be with you again like it use to be Gary an Venita or Venita an Gary not just Venita. You feel me Hun? Once again I Love You an Miss You so!

Yours one an only,

Venita Payton

KIMMY

August 14, 2006

TODAY IS MONTH TEN, OUR HEARTS JUST WONT MEND,OUR HEARTS ARE EMPTY AND BARE, EVERYDAY WE WISH YOU WERE HERE, EVERYDAY I KISS THE SHRINE OF YOU ON MY WALL.EVERYDAY THE TEARS STILL FALL.I CAN STILL HEAR YOUR VOICE, YOUR LAUGHTER IN MY EARS, MAYBE ITS MY WAY OF KEEPING YOU FOREVER CLOSE AND NEAR,I CANT BELIEVE ITS ALMOST BEEN A YEAR, SINCE YOU WENT TO HEAVEN AND YOU LEFT HERE, THAT NIGHT HAS BEEN PLAYING OVER AND OVER IN MY HEAD, I CAN STILL SEE YOU LAYING IN THAT HOSPITAL BED,YOU WERE ALREADY GONE, THERE WAS SO MUCH LEFT TO DO SO MUCH UNSAID, I REMEMBER TELLING YOU I LOVED YOU AS I KISS YOU ON YOUR CHEEK AND SIAD GOODBYE. I KNEW A PART OF ME WAS ABOUT TO DIE, THERES DAYS IM SO MAD AND ANGRY INSIDE, EVERYDAY I STILL ASK GOD WHY HIM WHY,I STILL DONT WANT TO BELIEVE THAT YOUR GONE, THAT THIS IS REALLY REAL, SOMETIMES I WISH I HAD A BLACK HEART SO I COULD KNOW LONGER FEEL, THE PAIN AND EMPTINESS IS SO UNREAL,GARY, IM SO SORRY WE DIDNT TALK THAT DAY THERES MUCH I STILL HAVE TO SAY, IM SORRY I NEVER TOLD YOU HOW YOU REALLY MEANT TO ME. IM SORRY I NEVER TOLD YOU I LOVED YOU UNTIL YOU HAD WINGS AND YOU WERE FLYING FREE, I HOPE YOU YOU ARE LISTING AND YOU CAN HEAR ME,I HOPE THAT YOU CAN FORGIVE ME, I THINK PEOPLE SOULD EVERYDAY TELL THERE LOVED ONES HOW THERE REALLY FEEL, BECAUSE IF THEY DONT IT WILL BE TO LATE AND THERE HEART WILL NEVER HEAL,

Kimmy

August 4, 2006

i know its been awhile.but it doesnt mean that your not in my heart, or my head, trust me you are with me 24.7 i will always carry you were ever i go. i miss you sooo much. you know Gar its seem like our family is falling apart. going there own ways. its seem like noone keeps in touch anymore. its real sad in my eyes. its like you were the glue that held us all togather. I LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU SOOO SOOO MUCH

venita payton

July 29, 2006

Well Hun,

Hello there. I just wanted to say Hi, I love you an, Miss You Dearly. Well its that time again for my dads birthday, an we are haveing it again at the house but only one thing well be missing, and guess what? That one thing is you, but we can do it. I was just looking at the picture on the web page an you was there at the table last year. Well i am sure he wont get that 5lb bag of peanuts like he did last year. He ate on that bag for about 3 months peanuts shells everywhere . well that all i really wanted to say. that is I love You and Miss You Gary Payton My One an Only Ever Well Be.

Love You Lots,

Your Little Old Grayed Hair Venita

Mary Fiala

July 24, 2006

Hello Gary, Sure is the edge of all nights lately. But, I have to say that not a day goes by that all of us feel the emptiness that lingers on without you here. I know you are always looking upon everyone, so things really stay on key for the most part. Could you maybe say a little extra to the lord please, just give us a sign to remind us how sticking together here, will keep us together when we go there too! Thanks a bunch, and as always we'll be missing your smile until we meet again. Love from Marold T

Kimmy

July 14, 2006

Well today is friday the 14 and i am having a really bad day. i went to the bank and as i was writing the date down. i just busted out crying.i really hate the 14th and i really hate it when it falls on a friday. its something that will stay with me for the rest of my life.9 months you have been gone from us, its feels like a lifetime since i seen you. I miss you soooo much i finally have something to look forward to when is my time to go. that is seeing you, love ya so much my Gar bear, you will forever be carried in my heart.

venita payton

July 13, 2006

Good Morning Hun,

I just wanted to say Hello an love ya.

I well write more later on today, I just got up about a half hour ago , an i got to get ready for work. But i wanted to say hi an that I love you an miss you lots! It isnt getting easier for me at all its seems like its getting worse. I'll write to you later Gary.

Remember that I love you forever an ever.

Love venita

Kimmy

July 3, 2006

Gary, could you please, have a talk with GOD and tell him that my heart cant take anymore. I been telling him but i dont know if he listening to me.between John and I we have lost 4 people in less then 9 months. you were the hardest but GG is killing me to. how does a person lose a father and a grandma within 8 WEEKS of eachothier i dont understand but i guess its something i never will.I feel so sorry for John and his family i had the ringer off that night. i will never forgive myself for that. i should have learned that one with you. i am a total mess right now trying to be strong for everyone. if it wasnt for your sister Amy helping me out with my kids. i would be a bigger mess, no matter what. she always there for me. im thankful for that. I miss you so much you big goofy guy. i need a gar bear hug right now love ya

Kimmy

June 26, 2006

I went to the 4 of july party at the lake.the fireworks were the best i ever saw. they were breathe taking. i made it half way threw them. i could feel my eye fighting of the tears.i was looking at your kids, Vee, and your grandkids theres Jayce not paying no mind to the sky. he is making angels in the sand.thats when the tears came rolling down. i slowly creeped away from everyone. i had to take 10 and pull myself togather. but Sue knew that i had been crying she had been crying too.we just hug eachother trying to be strong. everyone of us. wishing you were here. thinking about you. and deeply missing you.i know that you were with us that night. the angels in the sand made by your grandson Jayce was your sign to all of us. i miss you more and more everyday Love ya

Kimmy

June 18, 2006

Happy Fathers Day, love ya and miss you more and more everyday

venita payton

June 18, 2006

Happy Father's Day Gary!!

Hello Hun, Happy Dad Day! Just wanted to say that to you . Remember the day you first became a dad? You was crying in the window looking at our son Little Gary was here in the world on March 17,1983 you was the best dad from there on out anyone could ever have, an that was you Gary Payton! You was and still is the best Father anyone would want.Our 3 wonderful children which are now young adults, are so proud of there Dad, Gary M Payton! Hun I am also very proud of you and the things we have learned together from our 25 years together from our childhood to now. Gary I just wanted to say Thanks for making me happy and for being a wonderful father we could ever ask for. I also wamted to say that I Love You and Wish you a Happy Fathers Day Hun I well see you here soon I well be up to see you and talk to you today.

Love you very much,

Your wife Venita Jo Payton

Mary Fiala

June 17, 2006

Tomorrow will be a hard day for the kids and Venita. I sure will be there to try to help all. Gary we all feel the emptiness of your smile not here, please be here for them tomorrow give them a sign that you are there and will always be there. Love to all and you, MaroldT

mary fiala

June 13, 2006

Be Still

Be still like the grass on a melancholy summer day
Be still like desert shrub.

Be calm and you will hear your loved one speak, in the stillness, in the calm, their love resounds.

If you are still this promise I make, you will hear the voice of your loved one helping you along your way.

Kimmy

June 12, 2006

LASTNIGHT I WAS SITTING THERE LOOKING UP AT THE MOON.THINKING HOW WE ARE ALL A LITTLE LOST ARE LIFES SEEM TO BE OUT OF TUNE. I CANT BELIEVE ITS BEEN ALMOST 8 MONTHS IT FEELS LIKE YEARS IN AWAY BUT THE PAIN IS SO FRESH AND RAW LIKE IT WAS YESTERDAY. THE NIGHT YOU LEFT YOU TOOK A HUGE PIECE OF MY HEART. IN THE LAST 8 MONTHS WHATEVER WAS LEFT. BELIEVE ME IN SOMEWAY HAS BEEN TORN APART. BUT I CAN FEEL IT MAKING ME A STRONGER PERSON DAY BYE DAY. AND YES GARY MY EYES ARE FINALLY OPEN. I FINALLY GET WHAT ALL YOU WERE SAYING TO ME THAT DAY. IT JUST TOOK ME AWHILE TO UNDERSTAND IT. BUT YOU KNOW I DID JUST GET OFF THE SHORT BUS, HA, HA, I THINK SUMMER SO FAR SUCKS WITHOUT YOU. LIFE WITHOUT YOU SUCKS, ITS WIERD BUT WHENEVER I GET SAD AND I START TO WORRY ABOUT OUR FAMILY BECAUSE OF THIS OR THAT, YOUR FACE ALWAYS POPS IN MY HEAD WITH THIS BIG SMILE, I CAN HEAR YOUR VOICE TELLING ME KEEP YOUR HEAD UP. I WAS JUST TELLING SUE THAT TODAY. I KNOW ITS CRAZY BUT I KNOW YOU ARE AROULD ME EXSPECIALLY THE LAST COUPLES MONTHS. MAYBE JUST TO BE THERE FOR ME AND TO KEEP ME STRONG CRAZY. NOONE HERE EXCEPT JOHN AND MY KIDS CAN NO LONGER DO THAT. AND THE ONE PERSON THAT I LOOK TOO. THE MOST IS UP THERE SWINGING ON A STAR. LOVE YA AND MISS YOU MORE AND MORE EVERYDAY

venita payton

June 11, 2006

Hello There Hun,

well its a week away from your day, Fathers Day. I dont think its going to go very well with our family Hun, you know why cause the most wonderful father of the year and the last 26 years of our lives is not here with us. But we know that you are better off where you are its much better of a place i am sure of that, but why Hun.? You know the song that Danny has in your movie? It makes me cry but i got to hear it at least once aweek cause its the best song for me and its help me know that one day here I well see you soon, well not soon enough but i well be with you one day soon! That is a promise Gary ok. But i wanted to say to you , That you are the most wonderful Father anyone could over ask for you hear Hun? Dont you ever forget it! You know what Gary its like its not real still why? There is time i think that i am realize that you are not here with us, but then its so not real to me still . The song is all so true i know you here it when we all play it . Well i just want to say that I Miss you So Bad its makes me crazy knowing i well never get to see or hear you again well thats not true i see you and hear you in my dreams and in my thoughts everyday Hun

I love you very much!!

Venita Payton

James Fiala

June 8, 2006

Big Gary,

you are one of the most liked and loved people in the world. This guestbook shows it all. Everyone that writes has so many good things to say about you. I am no exception. You were always there for people when things needed a special touch. You were the man to do that. I know you're still with all of us, in our hearts and our spirits. Nobody will ever forget the things you did for them. Nor the way you touched our hearts. I love you guy and know that everyoune else does too. Your friend and family.

Kimmy

June 3, 2006

Gary well your sister got herself a harley davidson, its really nice.im still trying to get ust to her and josh having one i do have to say they to look good. it just kinda scares me. i get tears in my eyes everytime they pull up or pull away. John and Sue are going to coach them on everything.so i feel a little bit better knowing that. they are with them right now. im kinda jelly remember that one. you no i really cant see myself on a motorcycle for a really long time. its something that scares me really bad right now. only time will tell well between the dream i had lastnight and the tears in my eyes off and on all day.Im going to sleep like a baby tonight.you know i miss you more and more everyday i think about you everyday.as you can see i have keegan we were listening to music and he said Kimmy i want to listen to uncle Gary Cd so i put it on for him. he had the cutest look on his face for about a second.you know your nephew he keeps me on my toes thats forsure.well i love ya

Kimmy

June 3, 2006

well its in the middle of the night.i just had a dream about you, about an hour ago. so now i cant sleep.its wierd how i never really dream about you this is maybe the 3rd time but when i do. i always think what does that mean. it was a crazy dream. you were looking at us shaking your head with that big grin on your face. we kept yelling your name. you wouldnt say nothing then you slowly faded away i wook up saying Gary come back, please come back, then i realized it was a dream then i started to cry, I miss you sooooo much, maybe that dream was to let us know that your akay.i dont know. i just know that sometimes dreams seem so real that you just want to hold on to them forever. exspecially when there about you. well im really sad now i think i need to try to go back to bed maybe i will come visit so i can tell ya about the whole dream i love ya sooo much

venita payton

May 31, 2006

Hello Hun,

I just wanted to say hi, and today was your aunt ann funneral. And me and the kids an grandkids went its was ok for what was going on. But it wasnt the same we all was there but our family wasnt whole, there was one person gone an that was you. You know hun i know its life but its not our life. Our life wasnt surpose to be this way damm it. Gary days like this i cant handle. It makes me think of how life is to short to be messing up . You know what i am trying to say? Why you Gary? Why us and our family? It isnt surpose to be that way. Hun i want to see you please i need to. Do you hear me gary? Can you feel it? i know it was very nice to see sue an john I ve been wanting to see her for awhile now thats all i have been thinking is about her and how she is doing. I need to virst them more often then what i do now. its just me i guess but i know if i did it would be very nice they are all still my family and always will be family, they are my only family i really know was your family. Hun i wish you was here to share our wonderful grandbabies i know you are with us but i want you here whole ok, i dont want it like this but i got to live with it cause its all about life an that way its is. well you know what it really sucks!

Well i am going now for awhile just wanted to say Hi an Love you lots Gary!

Your wife venita

Kimmy

May 25, 2006

well now you have aunt Ann with you, swinging on a star. the last 7 months has been one heartache after another im trying so hard to be strong i really am, but i dont think i can take much more. im so worries about my mom i just wish you could tell me the outcome of her test, give me a sign. it seems like everyone mom is going threw something, i need your strength right now. Gary i wish you were here so you could give me one of your big bear hugs. I love you and miss you so much,

venita

May 23, 2006

Well Hello There Again Hun,

I just wanted to let you know that i am getting our pool ready for the summer, And yes its pretty hard cause there is times when i need to ask you how to do this an that and i can't. You know i never thought that there would be a day that you wasn't around me ornot with me, you know what i mean. At times gary i think i am not going to be able to do it without you i just want to throw my hands up and say take me with you hun, but i know i cant cause we have are beautfil family. so i know i cant go with you. I know you made me a very strong person that i am today is from you and thats whats keeps me going is you hun, i miss you so bad its really making crazy the last couple of weeks really been hard i dont know why but they are. But i am getting the pool done cause all i here in my head is you saying "now venita don't you mess that pump up cause its alot of money to fix it" so i am trying my best to get it done right. Well i got to go and put my dad to bed so i well let you go and write some more later . Gary remember Hun that you are always with me in my heart and always on my mind every day of life.

Love you Lots

Venita

venita payton

May 17, 2006

Well Hello Hun,

Just wanted to tell you how much I Miss you, and that I Love you Dearly Gary!! You know what? I never got to tell you that day that I love you but I know you know that. Gary yopu well always be the love of my life! thats all i wanted to say ok. I'll write to you again Hun.

Love you lots Gary.

Your wife venita Jo

Deb Schumacher

May 17, 2006

To one of the sweetest and genuine person I have ever known. I will never forget those dimples or that smile. You are missed deeply by everyone who knew you. Now you will ride free forever!!

KIM O'Connor

May 15, 2006

GARY, As Always i have you going and going in my head,Its been 7 mths now.Vee and I was just talking about how people say time heals all, We dont even think so.wild horses couldnt take anything about you away,i miss you soooo much.things are pretty crazy as you can see.i will pray for your mom today. im going to go see her in the morning.I bet your looking down and saying finally to me. I will always remember the conversation we had about "ME" I wish i would have listen to you along time ago.but your words will always be with me and it will keep me strong i love ya so much. everyday i wish you were here Kimmy

Kimberly O'Connor

May 2, 2006

well i have been thinking about you sooooo much. i was thinking about my B-DAY last year.we had so much fun.i know that was you. when i wook up. maybe that was your way of wishing me a happy b-day but as you know it cant be about me today. John Dad passed away.we have the rosary tonight.it will be the first one since you.im trying really hard to be strong for John. gods knows if it wasnt for him. i wouldnt of made it the last 6 months he was totally there for me when we lost you.so i need to do the same. im sure you and Pat are both swinging on a star. talking about the good old days. well i love and miss you soooo much, in my heart you will always be Kimmy

venita payton

April 25, 2006

To My Husband Gary,

If tears could build a stairway, and Memories a lane.

I'd walk up to Heaven and bring you back home again.



And Hun thats no lie you hear me Gary! I love you and miss you more an more each day .

Love you very much

Your wife Venita Jo

April 18, 2006

well your b-day is over with. and i just got home. Im really missing you, sorry we didnt stay that long but as always we got there late. i hope you like the drink we left and the other gifts, Denise and I went over Vees, after that i bet you were looking down like "what" but im really glad they got to talk. Denise is like a sister too me. and Vee your wife she family. it made me feel alot better. we had a really nice time. except i didnt get to see the boys, but it was still nice just to be with the rest of the family it will never ever be the same without you. well im starting to get really sad. so i gotta go so i can keep my promise. love and miss you sooo much.Kimmy

Brother Dan Heidi and Kids

April 17, 2006

Happy Birthday Brother... I think about you everyday and wish we could have had one of our family cookouts for your birthday. I miss fishing, hunting and drinking with you. I hope your happy and and having a great time, can't wait till we see each other again. I will try and offer anything I can to your boys and Angie like you would have.



Missing you just as much as the first night you left.

angela douchey

April 17, 2006

Hey Dad it has been a long time since I have wrote but not a day go's bye that I do not stop and think about you. I want to wish you a happy birhtday it is much different then the last one we all know that but I want you to know that I love you and miss you a lot that dream that I had the other night was great I have nit had one in such a long time that I got up right after the dream and stayed up for the day well we all had a drink for you today and until next time I love you and good night happy birthday

Venita Payton

April 17, 2006

Happy Birthday Hun!

Well today is your day, you are the big 41. I wish you was here to be with us on this special day I know you are where you are surpose to be in a much nicer place, and I know you are here with us also. Hun I just wanted to say once again, HAPPY BIRTHDAY!. I think I well have a drink for you and then one for me. Well Easter went real good, I know how you loved the holidays for all the food that we always cooked, I was thinking of you when I was making your chocolate pie that we always made cause you loved it alot. well I think of you every minute of the day and night not just then. You know what Gary I well always think of you no matter where I am at and what I am doing ok, you was and still are the love I well only know and that is my first love and only love, and well always be my husband Gary M Payton. Good bye Hun you have a wonderful time where you are at ok. Love your wife Venita Jo

Kimberly O'Connor

April 16, 2006

DEDICATED TO GARY PAYTON APRIL 17TH, TONIGHT I'LL DRINK A FEW BACARDI & COKES,I'LL EVEN TELL A COUPLE OF JOKES,I'LL THINK OF YOU EVERY MINUTE OF THE DAY. AND NOT JUST BECAUSE IT YOUR BIRTHDAY.I PROMISE I'LL TRY REAL HARD NOT TO CRY.I MISS YOU SOOO MUCH YOU BIG GOOFY GUY.I'LL TRY NOT TO KEEP ASKING GOD WHY HIM WHY. AS I LOOK TO YOU IN THAT SUNNY THEN STARRY SKY.I'LL THINK OF THE FUN WE HAD LAST YEAR.I'LL ASK GOD OF YOU. TO TAKE EXTRA CARE. BECAUSE YOU WERE EVERYONES, ONE AND ONLY GAR BEAR.GODS KNOWS HOW MUCH YOU ARE DEEPLY MISSED,AS THE NIGHT COMES TO AN END AND IM AGIAN MISSING MY COUSIN, MY FRIEND. I WILL ASK GOD FOR ONE LAST WISH. I'LL ASK HIM TO TELL YOU WE ALL LOVE YOU AND TO GIVE YOU A BIRTHDAY KISS. Kimmy

Kimberly O'Connor

April 12, 2006

as your up there riding them heavenly roads,please know,memories of you are worth gold,never forgotten stories of you will forever be told.your smile, your laughter, will live on long ever after.so many times we have missed. you so many times we have cried.but i know them big dimplys one day will be there to greet us on the other side love ya Kimmy

venita

April 7, 2006

Hello there Hun,

Well its the day after our little baby girl was born, which she is now 19 years old. She not our baby no more she is a young beautiful lady. We had a party for her at the house the day before, because the boys was leaving for vegas the day of her birthday so we had it that day before so we all can be together. It turn out very nice, but it wasn't the same with out you there. I know we got to move on and do as we would if you was there, just keep on doing the same old stuff. You know Gary its very hard without you here with us! I think that i am going to have to get another job just so i can help ours kids like you did but i can't do all that like you but i well be able to do alittle more but i need two jobs. its that crazy ha! ha!. the job with angie is going real well i like it, i also think that it brought me and her closer then what we was its very nice we get along better then what we did, i know you had alittle to do with this so i want to thank you hun You always was right well 80% of the time HA! HA!. Yes i know i should of listen to you instead i was stubben and half the time i didn't but it would of been right if i did. well you know what i mean i got to go now . just wanted to touch base with you cause i haven't in awhile . i'll be back soon to touch base some more hun. Remember that I LOVE YOU VERY MUCH and you are always in my heart never well a day goes by that your not in my thought! Love ya you wife venita

venita

April 7, 2006

I have memories in my pocket.
They rattle among the change.

My memories of you are treasures I carry wherever I go.

They are stored in bits and pieces, parts of a beautiful whole
They give me comfort when I think I am alone.

Yes, I have memories in my pocket, like so much other stuff I keep there.

But of all the treasures I have, it’s the memories of you that are the most precious.

Amy Beebe

April 5, 2006

Well brother its been awhile since I wrote in your guestbook...I been missing you alot lately. Well I always do, but its been wearing on me lately. We had a nice cookout tonight at Venitas for Angies b-day. Just wish that you couldnt been there in person, I am sure that you were there in spirit. Its amazing how big your little girl is growing up. And your new baby granddaughter is so sweet, boy does she look like her daddy. Which also looks like you. I will be sure to pay a visit to your grave site soon. We all love you so much and miss you dearly. Rest in peace brother. Love Amy, Josh and Keegan

kay hernandez

April 3, 2006

i am always going to miss that sexy smile,you were always a true friend. love always your friend kay

Kimberly O'Connor

April 3, 2006

Gary, i have been thinking about you so much lately,i always think about you.but i been thinking about you a whole lot more.maybe becouse i know if you were here you would be out riding, since its been nice out, crazy just last week it was snowing,i always said that omaha is the only place you can have 4 seasons in 24 hours sad but true. i have a feeling that spring and summer is going to be hard for all of us.i miss you more and more everyday.i still cant believe that your really gone.but not forever i know i will see you when its my time to go. i still see your smile.and i still hear your laughter in my ear. that is something i know wont ever fade.i will always hold on to it forever. i love ya my Gar Bear. i come see ya on your birthday and easter weekend Love ya Kimmy

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