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Reuben H. Bergman

Reuben Bergman Obituary

Family-Placed Funeral Notice

REUBEN H. BERGMAN 84, of Lake Worth, formerly of New Rochelle, NY passed away Feb. 7, 2004. He is survived by wife Renee; sons Roger (Kathy) and Robert (Dale); daughter Ritzya (Richard) Mitchell; daughter-in-law Bonnie; grandchildren Ross, Brandy, Aaron, Casey, Robert, Ryan, Renana; great grandchildren Sarah and Evan; sister Hannah Glickhouse. He was predeceased by son Richard. A memorial service will be held on February 10, 2004 (Tues.) 10:00AM. Riverside-Gordon, 4714 Okeechobee Boulevard, West Palm Beach, Florida (561) 683-8676. A contribution in his memory may be made to the J. Robert Lauer Hospice Center or the Scholarship Fund of the Palm Beach County Music TeacherÕs Assn.

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Published by The Palm Beach Post on Feb. 9, 2004.

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58 Entries

Ashley Pascual

March 8, 2006

I'm very happy for you now that your wife has now joined you up in heaven.May you two enjoy life up there together along with your son.Many warm wishes, your wife's 10 year old student

Ashley Pascual

renee bergman

February 7, 2006

Dear Rube, Well it's two years today since I last saw you, but it's been at least once a month since I've spoken to you. Actually, you spoke to me twice: both times to assure me that you were OK and not to worry.
Actually I worry a lot. Not about you, but me. I've been back to hospital again since we last spoke, this time I'm anemic, and need some blood transfusion. The hospital had a waiting list of 11 beds ahead of mine. So I went back home until tomorrow at 6 AM when the Wellington Hospital van comes to pick me up. It's a one day procedure, so I'll be home by evening, I hope.
There's a home nursing service I've signed up for, daily,eight hours a day, for one month, covered by Medicare.???. Maybe, I hope. If not the home health care will pick it up. That's probably more like it.
Robbie will be arriving late Thursday night, so no nurse on Friday, Cleaning service in the afternoon. Robbie service the rest of the time. Ritzya and Renanah arrive on Sunday, and overlap for Two days. Then when Ritz leaves, Rita will be here for two nights. And then I'll have the house to myself again. All that time, the nurses should be here, doing for me what I can no longer do for myself.
Three hospitalizations in three months. That's how it was with you. I'd like to hang on until after Our birthday. But the pain is muchworse now,due to all those broken ribs, from coughing. It's getting pretty late now, and I'm tired. Look for me at the regular time next month, or, "stay tuned for late breaking news when it happens".
Much love, your wife, Renee, who else?

renee bergman

January 21, 2006

Just a middle of the month quickie: I just spent a few days at Wellington regional Hospital again because the coumadin registered a whopping over 12. Normal is 2-3. It seems rhere was an interaction between the flax seed , grape seed and warfarin, and it went sky high, big danger of hemorrage. After four units of frozen plasma, and some vitamin K, I'm back to acceptable levels, and I can't take the supplements any more. so sad. And a holististic doctor that I called isn't accepting new patients until March or April. Do you think I can hang on that Long? Sometimes I think yes, sometimes no. I'll let you know. Much love, from Mrs. Krankheit, your wife.

renee bergman

January 11, 2006

Hey, guess what! It's the 11 of January, 2006.

Dear Rube, Please forgive me. Time just ran away. Ritzya and Renanah just spent a week here, from Dec. 30 to Jan 7. And my sister Rocky arrived the same day that our children left. What fun we had!

With Ritzya and Renanah to help, we had a party for 50 friends and angels who have helped me since I got sick: people who have brought me food, driven me to MD appts, called and helped during hurricanes. They are truly little angels. But our daughter and granddaughter are higher angels. They, we, made 200 latkes w/ apple sauce, and sour cream, 200 Hannukkah shaped cookies, decorated the house appropriately, and had a wonderful party. Then it took two days to clean up, and rest, and think what to do with left over food. Then they left.

We did somewhat the same thing with Rocky, but it was all family and old friends, Edna and Sy, Elaine, cousins, Bob and Myrna, etc. We had coldcuts, Rocky made a mousse, and we did sisterly type things together. It was another good party.

Now everyone is gone, and I'm back to routine of doctor visits, treatments, X rays, etc. Saw Dr. Spitz, oncologist, he has to do some "let's see what's next" thinking. I'm not happy about that. I see DR. Sanchez, the pulmonologist in about an hour to see about my incessant coughing. It's really bad, and painful. Then there is another "PET" scan for this Saturday. I have a new cleaning woman coming in on Friday. The house is realy too much for me to handle.

That's all for now. Love from your old and ailing wife.

renee bergman

December 7, 2005

Dearest Ruby,

The last we spoke, I was getting ready for Thanksgiving with Ritzya, Renanah, and me. We had a lovely visit. Our daughter was her usual ambitious and efficient self, and helped me organize. We went to Bohemian Gardens for Thnksgvng with my friend Evvy. Daughter had broiled lobster, and we had other stuff from the regular menu. Bonnie sent a gorgeous cornucopia filled with fruit and flowers, and we brought it to the restaurant where it decorated the entire dining room. Good!

There might have been other details that week, but I can't remember them because I got very sick this week. After tests and sonogram, I have "deep vein thrombosis", a series of blood clots which cause my left leg to swell dangerously . So, last Wed. I canceled lessons and checked into Wellington Regional Hospital where I stayed until yesterday.. I now have to take coumadin, and oxygen, and nebulizer, and a whole slew of other treatments because the clots have gotten to my lungs.(dangerous)

t;A nurse comes daily to check the blood and vitals and report to the doctors. It's a whole deja-vu for me having gone thru all these steps with you so recently. My life is entirely in the MD's hands. I've finished with radiation and chemo. Maybe I'll be eligible for test trials because there is no more medicine that can help the cancer. But I will go for ProTime, and other check-ups, and stay very close to home.

Meanwhile, people say I'm very brave. It's simply facing the inevitable with grace and good humor. Is there any choice?

Ritzya and Renanah will be returning on Dec. 30 to celebrate Hannukah, New Year's, and Renanah's tenth birthday. We will make appropriate plans for each event.
Much love, and more news when I write again next month. Your wife, Renee

renee bergman

November 7, 2005

My dear husband,

Guess what? We had another hurricane. This was a doozie! Student parents and four kids came and secured the house for me: the shutters, and the metal bars. Everything was battened down tight, and groceries and other supplies stored. Bob and Myrna came with corned beef sandwiches, batteries, etc.

And then the storm hit. I never want to go through one like that again. The storm knocked down several of the metal panels, and they blew all over, two of the window blinds blew open. Man, it was scarey! Next hurricane, I go to the airport and buy a ticket to anywhere but here. The usual out door damage: mail box, trees, roof shingles. All minor.

The storm blew out all power: no gas, no phone, no electricity, no traffic signals, no hospitals, no grocery stores, no nothing. But Robbie flew in the day that Fort Lauderdale opened its airport: Friday Oct.28, five days after the 'cane hit. He brought a cooler filled with all kinds of fresh food from California, stuff that could not be bought here: grapes, apples, bread, meat, chicken, tomatoes, salad veggies, brownies, bananas, grapefruit, etc. Can you imagine living in Florida and not getting any fresh food, or water, or ice?

Well of course, all the Radiation therapy was cancelled as well. We lost a week of treatment until the power went back on. Meanwhile I seem to be having some kind of reaction to the treatments because my blood work is all askew, so I'm not having any treatments at all now. This is bad, because only these treatments can hold back the advance of the cancer. I'll be spending more time with doctors now than before. I'm usually too tired to go to temple on Friday nights, but I try to make it on Saturday.

I had a good visit with Robbie. He's determined to update my 'puter. OK. Whatever. Roger will be back next week, and Randy (ritzya) is coming for Thanksgiving with Renanah. We'll be having lobster, her choice. OK by me. I'll let you know how this all turns out. Love, Me.

renee bergman

October 10, 2005

Dearest Ruby,

Well, the scond chemo wasn't as bad as the first....but still some painful after effects, plus a numbing of the toes and fingers which makes it pretty hard to play the piano. But I don't stop...if you don't use it, you lose it. We know that very well.

Now, the doctor has ordered more CT scans to see if there are any changes. Well, not enough. In fact one of the lesions is larger. So she's changing the meds. I've had a third chemo, and the side effects are different. But anyway, I've decided to change Drs. I spoke to Dr. Sanchez who reccommended a Dr. Daniel Spitzer. I went to see him on Friday, and I like him better. He looks me in the eye, and answers my questions. So now we had to take more tests: a PET scan to identify any new areas of cancer, and another CT scan of the lower lumbar region. They suspect metastices which will have to be zapped by radiation therapy ASAP. So my days are measured by; office visits, and feeling nauseous, or just plain tired. In between, I teach when I feel well.

Edna Mann invitied me and Elaine Halpern for dinner after Rosh Hashonah. Sy Kolesnick's son, Richard is doing research on cancer drugs at Sloan Kettering. I spoke to him. Had dinner with Rosanne and Marvin, and have received oodles of phone calls from people who wish me well.

Roger arrives tomorrow for Yom Kippur, and then my next visitor will be Robbie from California on Halloween. Our children really care for me. Even Bonnie calls once in a while, and so does Hannah. I wish you would call. I know you would if you could.

Much love, Your wife, Renee

renee bergman

September 8, 2005

Hello again:

Sorry we are late this month,'puter problems. Roger is here for a quick visit,and he fixed the 'puter. It wasn't easy.

Well, I had my first chemo treatment. It wasn't bad in itself: six hours of IV type drips, much like dialysis. Rita came with me,and I was okay for two days. Then everything hit the fan--I cannot remember being so sick and in so much pain. Believe me, awful, and in the middle we had a serious hurricane, Katrina which destroyed New Orleans, and much of the Gulf Coast. Our country is really a third world war zone with destruction, and famine throughout Louisiana and Mississippi.

Meanwhile, Renee has lost all her hair, and went shopping with cousin Barbara to buy a wig. It looks nice, stylish, and a nice color blonde.

I have three weeks between chemo treatments, so this week I feel pretty good, and have started teaching again.(against Dr's orders) Roger is helping me with paper work, and settling affairs: Rita is trying to evaluate some of the treasures in this house to get ready for sale. Ritzya(Randy) is busy cleaning out my closets, and kitchen cabinets. Our friends and neighbors are very helpful with meals and transportation. The Doctor will not tell me how long I have before I join you. She says every case is different. But I have already organized help in the house when I need it. So I am pretty well prepared.

Much love, See you soon. Your wife, Renee

renee Bergman

August 7, 2005

Dear Ruby,

Well,I promised you a full account of my vacation up north. Took auto train from Sanford, Fl. ( a four hour drive on turnpike),arrived at Herndon about one P.M.the next day. Happy to see everyone. You know that Ritzya and Rick have been separated for two years now. He has a little apartment about a mile from the house. He has a good job,and they are paying their bills.

After a few days, I got on the NJTurnpike and headed for Manhattan to Roger's place. From there,to the country house to get ready for the annual picnic to which Roger and Kathy were hosts. They did a fabulous job, and everybody had a good time. The weather was fabulous, and we had 47 cousins there, including Robbie from Cal., and Aaron and Brandy. I did not get to see Hannah this trip.

While in Washington, in Arlington,on the way to visit you, (we never got there), I was rear-ended by a kid of 26, with a suspended license and no insurance. We were towed 30 miles back to Herndon, but the car is drivable, and only body damage in the rear. Allstate took care of everything. Lexus doesn't do road service for accidents or theft, only flat tires and dead batteries, etc. Sooo-----

While I was away, the house was tented for termite treatment, a new roof is being installed now, repairs to hot water, and air conditioner this week also.

I spent Friday with lawyers trying to get my affairs in order: we redid my will, the Trust, appointed Roger Executor, and appointed my accountant Dave Hirsch to pay bills if I'm not able. My new portrait has arrived, and it will be framed on Monday. I think it is more like a charicature, but everyone likes it; it's a head shot, eyes closed, big smile while playing the piano--two hands on keyboard. It is a happy picture, not flattering, but definitely me. I'm glad we have it as a record of how I looked before I got sick which I am about to do.

I have an appointment with your Dr. Sanchez, pulmonologist, for Tuesday A.M. and he will go over the CAT scan which shows all those tremendous growths in my lungs. They are either benign or malignant. In either case I need to be treated. So the diagnosis will be done in the next few days. I have postponed my teaching until September. (School starts here this week.) I hate to cancel lessons. It's my most fun activity.

So this letter may be my last: in which case, please know that I love you more than life itself, and am ready for whatever the future has in store. Yours forever, Renee

Renee Bergman

July 10, 2005

Dear Ruby,

Well that just goes to show that time is moving even faster than I thought. I totally missed the 7th of the month. So please accept belated news:

Much happening to the house. Termites are back,and we are being tented again, with no rebate from former services. Do you remember how we had to move to a motel in 2001? Well this time I'm having the work done while I'm on vacation up north. It's a lot of hard work to prepare. All foods, or anything consumable, has to be double bagged and sealed air-proof, including everything in the freezers and refrig. Meds. pills, sodas, booze, etc. It's like moving to another house. All cabinets and shelves are emptied.

But that's not all! We had a leak in the hot water system and a great flood in the garage. Now fixed.

But that's not all. We're getting a new roof! Insurance has agreed to replace and update the roof because of hurricane damage. They have already given me a sizable check, and will cover previous temporary roof repairs, loss of spoiled food during last hurricanes.

But that's not all! I've got a reservation on the Autotrain going up to Wash.D.C. The little speedster and I will board on Wednesday at Sanford, ride coach, have buffet meals, round trip for $440. It costs more than air fare, but I can go to see Aaron, Bonnie, Randy, Rocky, Hannah, Brandy, and get to the family picnic at Roger and Kathie's country house.

But that's not all! Kasey came down for a visit, unsolicited and extremely welcome. We spent a wonderful couple of days "bonding" and getting acquainted.

But that's not all! I've been really sick for the past few weeks with coughing beyond anything you could believe. I finally went to Dr. Javed, who prescribed antibiotic ($112 for 10 pills) nebulizer,X rays,inhalers,cough medicine and xanax to take care of withdrawal symptoms because I finally stopped smoking after 70 years. And yesterday went for a CAT scan to check the progress of the lung healing. Results not yet in. There will probably be more treatment necessary, but you'll find out after my vacation.

But that's not all! I think I told you that I'm having my portrait painted by a fantastic artist. I've seen the rough sketches. There will be semi-profile with hands at the keyboard, and all the while listening to and playing the piano. The face of concentration is very different. Although it won't be scarey looking, it will be a "working" face.

And at last, I was smart enough to cancel all piano lesson for the month of July!!! Can you imagine covering all this ground and keeping to a schedule too? I also have not been to Temple for a few weeks. Actually have been too tired and sick to move. But I'm on the mend, and by the time I write to you again, all should be well.

Much love, Wifey

Renee Bergman

June 7, 2005

Dear Long Lost Lover and Husband:

Today is Rita's 70th birthday. How she was in love with you when she was five years old! You were her handsome shining knight in army uniform. And you were mine. All the women in our family felt the same way. You had it made! And over the years, nothing changed. You were the wise and loving hero for a lifetime.

And now, your monthly update: Today was the last of my students' auditions, and they went very well. Lior Willinger has changed piano teachers and no longer studies with me. Let me tell you, it was quite a shock. He is studying with a Chinese teacher, and identifies with the Chinese community. It is a horizontal change for him. She is a good teacher, very focused on competition, and I focus more on musical skills such as transposition, accompanying, performance, and am more eclectic since I do modern composers and jazz. She does strictly classical.

We have had heavy rain for the last ten days (think Noah) with no end in sight. Everyone is preparing for a tough hurricane season. I am OK.

Roger and Kathy are hosting this year's cousins picnic. They are a little nervous about it. Kathie is always nervous. I'm sure with his creativity, Roger will provide a unique experience for all. It is scheduled for July 23, and I will keep you posted.

June has been a slow month for news. That's good. I can only tell you that with time, I am getting used to being my own person really for the first time in my life. It is taking me a long time to get to know "me" as a single person. It has advantages, and disadvantages.

Many loving memories, from your wife, Renee

Renee Bergman

May 8, 2005

Hi there,

Well, my trip up north was spectacular! I accomplished almost everything I set out to do.

Steve W. picked me up early Friiday morning, Ap 15, flight uneventful, arr. La Guardia on time, and Roger picked me up. Went to NJ,stopped at our favorite diner in Montville for lunch and proceded to visit Bobbie Schreiber in a nursing home in Denville. She's had a stroke that interferes with her use of language: she speaks but the words come out all wrong,and although she speaks clearly, you can't follow the conversation. It's very frustrating because she understands everything, but can't get the words right. She is thin and frail, and well cared for. Then Roger drove me to the Embassy Suites where I booked 2 rooms: for Randy (Ritzya), and her three kids, and sister Rita.

Later that night went to a dinner sponsored by Roxanne and Marshall in honor of the next day's Bat Mitzvah of Becky. Oh, we attended a boring and long Shabbat service before.

We attended more long and boring Shabbat services on Sat. Becky did a fine job in her Hebrew, but we couldn't understand her English words; she spoke so fast and softly. Short "oneg" after services consisting of herring, gefilte fish,cookies etc. Then we proceded to a fabulous reception at a local hotel. Let me tell you, a wedding couldn't have been nicer. There were over 40 kids, and lot of grown-ups, hors d'oeuvres, gifts, games, favors, funny hats, 2 DJs, one MC, and six dancing girls to get the kids up and participating. A happy time.

Next, Rob and Dale brought me to Bonnie's where I met Brandy and family, and finally met our new great grandson, Jude. He's a nice lttle baby, but has bad colic, and has to be held to keep him from crying, ostensibly due to stomach pain or gas. Believe it or not, this nursing baby is on Infant Zantac! Kia looks good.

On Sunday everyone left, and I went to Rocky's for the night. We did the sister things: shopping, cooking, reminiscing, etc. Tuesday Roger brought me to see Hannah. She's still in rehab because of her broken neck, and wears a cage strapped to her head to keep it immobile, and a large harness on her upper body. She has all her marbles: alert, determined to get better,and we played Bingo for a while. Then to the city.

Wed. went to theater to see a play about Molly Picon. It was full of yiddishkite, and a lot of yiddish songs; a one woman show with a small klezmer triobehind her. It was an intimate show, more suited to a cabaret with audience participation in some of the songs. Nice, you would have loved it. Thurs went to the MOMA and it was absolutely exciting! We started on the 5th floor and went from gallery to gallery and never got off that level. There was so much to see. Lunch for two---$42.00. Wow! Delicious, and nicely served on lovely china. That afternoon I took a bus uptown to the old Juilliard building on 122St. and wandered through the building at leisure. I rode up and down the elevators,went into offices and classrooms, day room, concert hall, and sat down in the old recital hall where we assembled on Dec.8,1941 tohear Pres. Roosevelt's speech about a day of infamy. Full of nostalgia. The building is now the Manhattan School of Music, and has an extension for dormitory. Nobody stopped this little old ladywithshopping bag wandering all around,even though there were guards at the entrances.

On Fri returned to NJ to spend Shabbat with Rock and Marsh. Their synagogue is alive with youth, singles, and marrieds singing and enjoying comeraderie. Quite a contrast to the one in White Meadow Lake. Sat I helped prepare for Seder that night. Rock had 27 people. And believe it or not, Aaron and Kia , and Randy and Robert, and Renanah drove up again from Delaware and Virgina. I brought purple shirts with red hat designs for all the women over 50, and so did Kathy. We had a woderful time. I laughed and laughed at nothing. I was high on love with my family. All in all, a very perfect vacation.

Returned to Fl on Sunday. Steve met me again, and whisked me over to Shirley and Ray Milenko's for seder dinner.

Tomorrow is Mother's Day, and I am invited for a big Italian Sunday dinner at the home of one of my students.

That's all for now. Until we meet again, I remain, as ever, your loving old lady, Renee

Renee Bergman

April 7, 2005

Dearube,

Well,another month has flown by. And so has another birthday for me, 83 now. This has been a good birthday. Received so many cards and phone calls from friends, family, and students. I've been taken out to lunch four times this week, by Steve W., Rosanne and Marvin, a new adult student, a cake party by another new student. This is the first birthday that lasted four days: I say that's because my mother was in labor for three. I received an orchid plant from Joanie and Steve Kapnick(Lotte Brandeis' daughter), and a dozen roses from a student, and another potted plant from a student. I'm so happy. I am loved by so many people and I appreciate them. But no one hugs the way you do, and no touch on the cheek feels like your soft beautifully manicured hands. The trouble is, that every time I get a hug, I close my eyes and try to feel you or Richard. He was also a good hugger.

Meanwhile I helped to celebrate Dave Zucker's 90th birthday on April 5 at an open house last Tuesday. Helped to celebrate Honey-Jack's 60th anniversary at Admiral's Cove club house; a very lavish affair. Good.

Our taxes are done, both state and federal. We got a refund which I turned back to the IRS, and Dave Hirsch only charged $400, same as Norman. He's very competant and I'm glad I found him. My teeth are clean, and my bone density is good.

On Friday, one week from tomorrow, I'm looking forward to Becky's Bat Mitzvah in NJ. Everybody will be there. All our children and grandchildren and great-grandchildren, and brothers and sisters. They are coming from Calif., Del., Va., Albany, Fl., and Conn. I can't help thinking maybe they're coming to see me too. While I'm there, I plan to visit with Hannah and friend Bobbe Screiber. Maybe I'll get to the theater for a matinee, and I will return to Rocky's for seder the following Saturday. I'll return to Fl. on Sunday, April 24.

I must tell you about Purim at temple. The rabbi wore a white mask and black cape as in the Phantom of the Opera, and the cantor wore a cat costume with tail and whiskers. The entire liturgy was set to Broadway show tunes like: West Side story, Oklahoma, Sound of Music, etc.(sung in traditional Hebrew words). It was the most fun service I've ever attended. It was a good choice to join the temple.

So, although I keep busy, and getting on with life, life is getting on with me too. When I look into the mirror, I see a wrinkled old woman. When I get on the scale, I see a getting heavier woman. When I climb the stairs or run, I feel a tired old woman. When I think inside my head, I think I'm energetic and alert and happy. Sooo, the answer is, don't look in the mirror.

Happy and Sad, my love to you always. I am your Renee.

Renee Bergman

March 8, 2005

P.S. I meant to tell you that I have an accountant. (Norm was not interested.) He is David Hirsch, parent of a former student, and a good friend of Steve and Lily Willinger. The tax is as complicated as ever, and I didn't make any advance payments through the year. So we will have to pay some. I kept good records this year. You would be proud. I feel comfortable with this man. So don't worry about it. Love, Me.

Renee Bergman

March 8, 2005

To my dear long lost husband:

I don't know how it happens, but TIME has speeded up: the clocks, the days, the months, and now the years. I cannot ever remember time going so fast. It's troubling to me, because, obviously TIME is running out. I feel it, every day. No sooner does Monday come along, it magically becomes Friday. And the week in the middle is lost. I don't know where.

For example: The piano lessons are routine, meals are routine, TV is routine. Doctor visits are regular, bills get paid, Friday night services, etc. etc. So maybe I'm busy, but bored.

Except for the plans for April when I'll be going to Dave Zucker's 90th birthday, Honey and Jack's 60th anniversary, and Becky Joseph's Bat Mitzvah in NJ. These are good things.

But there are bad things too. My friend Selma Cohen is very sick, and so is Belle Bennett's granddaughter. And Bobbie Schreiber is still with her stroke, etc. etc.

I guess the news this month is dull. And I miss you more now than before. Especially Richard. It's strange, because he left home to go to college at age nineteen, and never returned. He was married for 35 years, lived and died, and I miss him. He was a wonderful man, and I learned a lot from his courage and wisdom. Imagine what Bonnie must be going through. Her loss is great. And that of their children too. But I had you and your love for 62 years. We grew old together, and now I'm getting older without you. Coping is good, but no fun.

Thank God I have my teaching, and get plenty of hugs every day. Also great compliments from the parents who really appreciate me. That should compensate because I am doing a good job, but the one hug I need, I can't have. Hence, tears well up, and Time flies, and flies.

I miss you my love. Maybe April will be better. Care for me.

Your loving wife, Renee

Renee Bergman

February 7, 2005

To my dear Ruby:

Well, good news! We have a new great grandson born on Feb. 6 at 1:30 AM. He is to be called JUDE ELIJAH BERGMAN, and weighs a whopping 8 pounds and 13 ounces. Bonnie called from Delaware to give me the news and I promptly relayed the message to everyone. Kia and Aaron are doing fine.

I'm glad he wasn't born today, Feb. 7, because I want to reserve that day for you and me: the day we were married at the Biltmore, and the day you left us 62 years later. I have had a bit of a rough time this week, because I was remembering the ten days at hospice, and the final good byes. I vascillated between teary eyes and loving memories, but I tried to keep busy. That's not hard for me to do.

It's getting close to tax time, so I spent a lot of time getting things together for a new accountant. Norm is retired, and I haven't yet decided whom to call. You'll find out in my next letter.

Meanwhile Super Bowl XXXIX is over and the New England Patriots won their third in a row. (I think). I was remembering watching last year's game with you and the kids in Hospice. You were so alert.

In other news, we lost Harvey Bennett this month, Johnny Carson, and Ossie Davis. My friend Bobbie Wellen has had a serious stroke, but is in a nursing home unable to communicate. On the more pleasant side, I have made contact with cousin Steve Ross, (Bert and Norma's son) and Rita Rubin, the daughter of some very dear friends of Rosie and Henry. So old friends die, and other old friends resurface.

In honor of our first year apart, you have bought me a little new diamond ring with one sparkling Ruby at the center. You, Ruby, still remain the center of my life, guiding me and reminding me of the good way to live. Thank you. I will always be grateful for that.

All my love forever, Renee

Renee Bergman

January 8, 2005

Hello again my dear,

Tonight I played again at temple services. It went better than last time. I was more comfortable and only missed one cue. I also got a good clean health report from all the doctors. I haven't had a physical check up in over two years. It seems as though I put my health on hold while you were hurting. So we had MRI's, Xrays, blood work, etc. All reports came back good including cholesterol and blood sugar. So you don't have to worry. I'm OK.

But my sister Rita seems to think I have slowed down. Well, she is right about that. I don't drive far if I don't have to, and I avoid going to the airport, especially at night. I think that's just showing good sense. But she thinks I'm chicken. She's right. Why put yourself in harm's way if it can be avoided?

We got through New Year's Eve okay. Went to sevices at Temple, then out to dinner with a few of my widow lady friends. I brought along my keyboard and we sang some songs. We were home at 8:45. And then I watched the ball drop. No big deal.

I was invited to Christmas dinner at the Leavitt's, long time students and friends of ours. I was honored to be with their family as the only outsider.

I got interested in cooking again, and made some dishes that I'm sure you would never have tried: Lobster curry, sauteed peanuts, banana chutney, and invited Honey and Jack (with his aide), Harriet, Stan and his new friend Shirley, and my new friend Evelyn to share a lovely lunch. We had hors d'oeuvres and sangria on the porch, and then dinner inside. I was proud because everything went so well.

Your 85th birthday came and went, but not unnoticed by me and Hannah. Richard's yarzeit was another thing altogether. I found that very hard to take, as did Bonnie, with whom I am in close touch.

We had two or three days of really cold weather: heat on, sweaters on. And poof! the next day started warming up. I opened the windows, and loved the fresh clean, non-humid air.

Mark Gable repaired the roof; replaced about 100 tiles and only charged about three hundred dollars.

Soon I will have to think about taxes. I have to get a new accountant. Norm doesn't want to do it any more. But we're in very good shape.

It's very late on the night of Jan. 7, and I don't think I can get this in on time. So my greeting to you this month will be one day late. But just as sweet and loving as ever, I remain your devoted and loving wife, Renee

Next month will be one year since I last saw you. I wonder how I'll make it through the memory of that last week. Until February, then.

Renee Bergman

December 7, 2004

To my dear and long lost husband:

Hello once again. I feel like these letters I write are like the ones we used to write when you were overseas during the war. You were gone over two years then, and only nine months now. How did we survive all that time without seeing each other? Well, it's harder now because I know for sure that you are not coming back, ever.

Well I survived our anniversary. I planned the day carefully. Temple in the morning, students in the afternoon, and dinner at Evelyn's (my new friend from Lakes of Sherbrooke and temple). I got through it okay.

The word got out that I'm a pianist, through that dinner party when I played for the guests, and the cantor called me to fill in as accompanist for Friday night services. It went okay, and I got paid $100. I didn't expect that. But I wouldn't want to do it on a regular basis.

Thanksgiving without you was the next hurdle. So---Thursday I met cousin Barbara and Marv and Rosanne, and we went to Pete's, that fancy restaurant in Boca. Believe me, it was highly mediocre. Poor service, food cold, mini portions. Oh well, we were together. On Friday , went with Stan and his girl friend Shirley to Honeyjack's in Jupiter for a Kosher dinner with their son Paul and family. The kids became "frum" and orthodox, so Kathy prepared the dinner with Shabbos candles, etc. A very strange turn of events, but meaningful for them. On Saturday, I went to another dinner party with another new friend from the Lakes of Sherbrooke and my bereavement group. She had five widow ladies like me, and we enjoyed turkey and trimmings. So we got through Thanksgiving.

I keep saying "we" as though you were there. Maybe you were.

Now I am preparing my students for our annual day at the mall in Boynton Beach. I have 25 or so students participating. They play pretty well, and I've organized a wind choir with students who play secondary instruments. We have 2 oboes, 2 French horns, a clarinet, a trumpet, and a saxophone. I have arranged the scoring for three Xmas carols, and two Hannukkah songs. These kids are fabulous! They had only one rehearsal, and I would put them in the lobby of the White House to perform. They are that good. I'm so pleased. I'll let you know how it turns out after their performance on Dec.11.

Tonight is the first night of Hannukkah, as well as the anniversary of "the day of infamy" Do you remember what you were doing then?

I spoke to Bonnie today. She is not doing so well, emotionally. It will be a year next week since Richie died, and she keeps looking for him. But all is not so sad. She is getting a new grandson in January or February, and has that to look forward to. She will deliver the baby in Delaware, as she has delivered our other two great-grand-children. And I alsosoke to Hannah today. They already had the unveiling for Sam, and their house has been emptied, painted and sold for about $350,000. She told me they paid $17,000 when it was new. Nice profit. She needs that money to help pay for her residence in the nursing home. But she's doing OK.

As for me, I went to the theater alone on Saturday night, something I have never done before. I'm a big girl now, and I am doing everything alone now. It's different, believe me, but not difficult. I am getting stronger, and can cope. Regards from Belle. She's in town. The weather is delightful, cool nights, warm days. You'd love it. That's it for this month. I have no plans yet for New Year's Eve. But you'll hear about it next month when I write again.

All my love from your faithful and everloving child bride. Renee

Renee Bergman

November 7, 2004

Dearest Ruby,

Well, here it is the 7th of the month again, and time to tell you the latest news. The most exciting happened yesterday, Saturday. I didn't go to temple as usual. I went to Lexus and bought a new car! There was really nothing wrong with the 'old' car. Simply that the warrantee had run out. The new one is a fireman red sports car with alternate stick shift, or automatic transmission. It has 6 cylinders and chrome wheels, and special tires capable of speeds up to and over 100 mi. per hour. I don't think I'll ever, ever try it, but it's compact, 4 door, and smaller than our other sedate black sedan. It's brand new, and has gone only thirty miles so far. I've leased it for four years, and has payments of about $450.00 per month. No money down, and refund check of $12,800 coming in the mail for our old car. I did the math, and it's a good deal. Who knows where I'll be four years from now at the age of 87? I'm a little embarrassed at driving such a snazzy car around town. I'm supposed to be grieving for you, but no longer all day, every day. The nights are still tough, but the days are busy.

Later last night, Steve and Lily took me and their kids to an outdoor concert at Meizner Park in Boca Raton.

We have lost two more friends this week: Joe Rosenthal and Morris Katzen both from Buttonwood West. I am always thinking: Who's next? Hence, my determination to go on and do the best we can, and celebrate life.

Our turtle is fine, and grown really big now. He's (she's) bigger than the back of my hand, and very strong. Constanly trying to get out of the much larger bowl that he lives in. And he has succeeded once or twice, but he can't go anywhere because he's in the little front screened entryway.

Last Saturday, I had my annual Halloween piano party. It was fun with lots of creative costumes, food, and good piano music. I'm proud of my kids, and I think they are proud of me too. One of the parents took lots of pictures and posted 40 of them on my new web site. I came out looking so old! When I'm behind my face, I don't see it. I wore my usual Halloween getup, and there were a million kids Trick or Treating. I had plenty of stuff left over from the party. Some of the beggars were quite old. I kept asking, "Are you a kid or a grown-up?" Because they actually were adults who were begging in full costume. I guess times have changed.

The presidential election is over, and, I suppose you already heard that George W. has been reelected. We'll just have to wait another four years to try again. Just when the new red Lexus lease runs out.

Regards from Miguel. He calls once in a while to see how I'm getting along. Except for Honey, (who has her own problems) I rarely see or hear from any of our old friends. I still play bridge on Tuesday night, and the only people I socialize with are the new widow ladies I've met and good old Steve and Lily.

Until next time, I remain, as ever, your faithful and loving wife, Renee

Renee Bergman

October 8, 2004

To my dear Ruby:

Well, here we are again, the 7th of the month and it's time to share my experiences with you.

We've had another hurricane. This one was much stronger than the one before, although it didn't last as long. It was much scarier. Bob and Myrna came once again with food, and batteries, and portable TV with which to cope when the power and phones failed again. It was wonderful having them here with me. Without them, I might have curled up in a corner in fetal position and waited for days before I moved. I was really terrified this time. I don't know why, maybe just the accumulation of tension and nerves.

I don't remember if I told you that Roger visited again--between the hurricanes. He saw the devastation caused by the first one, and helped me clean up the debris etc. But then, he left just in time for the next one to hit, on Yom Kippur.

If you ask me, I think George Bush had something to do with it. LOL. But that can't be right, his brother is the Governor of Florida,

and we've had 4 hurricanes in six weeks--two have hit the east coast, but Central and west Fl. have had all four. Terrible disaster.

Here I go ranting on about disaster and haven't told you the good news. I've been to the dentist, seen Dr. Greer, and Dr. Smith. Doesn't that sound like normal? And I've played bridge with my new friends from Temple,and gone out for lunch and movies with my new friends from the bereavement center. These are people in much the same level of life as I am but who are not employed as I am with my teaching. They are nice old ladies who are coping with old age and loneliness as I am. And doing OK. We help each other.

That's about it for now. I can't remember anything earthshaking to report except that I love you and always will.

Your ever-loving wife, Renee

Renee Bergman

September 13, 2004

To my dearest husband:

We have just spent a harrowing 2 weeks here in Sunny Florida. "Frances", a hurricane such as we have never experienced before struck with a vengeance. We were prepared as much as possible: plenty of batteries, candles, water, canned goods etc. Hurricane shutters in place, and then we waited. Warnings were up for days. Shelters were full. I was a bit nervous about being alone, so I called Bobby and Myrna who were under mandatory evacuation because they are near the beach. They came down last Thursday with their supplies added to our own. We were okay for Thus. and Fri., but then on Saturday, the power went out. No phone, electricity, mail, or newspapers. The winds came by on Saturday night at 100 miles per hour. It was scary, you bet!

We lost our banana trees, and the great big shrub in back of our house, and a lot of shingles from the roof which will need repair.

Bob and Myrna left on Sunday afternoon, but the winds were still blowing.

At least ten of my students came by to see if I was alright, and every one of our neighbors on both sides of the street offered to help with water, ice, and other supplies. Our children called on the cell phone until the circuits went out.

Finally the phone service resumed on Tues. night, and on Wed. we got our power back. (Some people still don't have power). That's why my letter to you is so late this month. Also my computer got fried, and it didn't get repaired until today. (courtesy of one of my students and his Dad,who earned one month free piano lessons for the excellent job they did).

If I had any other news for you, it has paled, and nothing was important except surviving the elements.

I am glad you were not here to experience the terror and inconvenience. You (we) would have had to go to the VA or special needs shelter. But there was no power for oxygen, and Good Sam hosp. was evacuated because of flooding. The VA hosp. had not enough power from its generators to provide air conditioning. They had flooding on three floors. People could not get to work because of road blocks, no traffic lights, and no gasoline.

A curfew is still in effect from 8PM to 6 AM. All schools are closed as are shops and restaurants. Gradually, things are getting better, and there are food and ice distribution centers at malls and parks. The Gables drove to Boca to get ice, but there was none. They finally went to Tennessee, and the Hodes and HoneyJack flew to NY. One neighbor drove to Miami and brought me two bags of ice, and I took the defrosted meat from our freezer over there. He fired up the bar-b-cue and we had a feast of yellow fin tuna, chicken, beef, and pork loins. We did well when we moved into this area. Such good people!

Roger is coming down on Tuesday (tomorrow) to spend Rosh Hashonah with me, in spite of the threat of another approaching hurricane, "Ivan". We'll keep our shutters up and hope for the best.

Well that's all for now from your loving wife, Renee

Renee Bergman

August 20, 2004

Dear one,

Just an extra message from my vacation trip up north. I forgot to tell you that Roger and I visited Hannah at her new residence in Rockland County, N.Y.

She is well, walks with a walker, plays canasta and bingo. Has lots of friends, and hates the food. She is on dialysis three times a week,and complains bitterly, but is really OK. I though you might want to know.

All my love, your wife, Renee

Renee Bergman

August 7, 2004

To my dear and everloving husband:

I have so much to tell you this month. I hope this doesn't sound strange, but I feel like a bird let out of a cage. For the first time in my life, I can do what I please when I please. Let me explain.

When I was a little girl, I had to tell my parents where I was going, what time I'd be back, and leave a telephone number. Then when we had children, we did the same for the baby-sitters. Then the same routine after the children grew up because one or the other of us would worry about the other. It became all the more important after you got sick about fifteen years ago. I was worried about you being alone, or in need of something.

Now it's all different. I have no one to tell. So when I planned my vacation, I bought a one way ticket to D.C. not knowing when I'd be back

and it didn't matter.

So I spent three days with Ritzya and family. We went to visit you. Your beautiful white stone marker is in place, properly engraved, and summer flowers are in full bloom.

On Saturday, we rented a big van to drive up to New Jersey with Renanah, Ryan, and Ritz. We stopped at Bonnie's where Aaron, Kia and the Marshall's were waiting for us. We have two BEAUTIFUL great-grandchildren. Sarah had been prompted by her mother, Brandy, and greeted me in a high piping voice: "Hello, Grandma Renee!" Her diction is perfect, she is bright and charming, and is a clone of Brandy when she was little. Evan, little fellow of 18 months, doesn't speak, but he is a little butter- ball just like Richard was. Both children have very curly blonde hair and are well disciplined and a pleasure to be with. Brandy and Steve are doing a great job. We all had our sad moments, missing both you and Richard. But both your presences were strongly felt.

That evening we checked into our favorite hotel: Embassy suites, and Rita came and stayed with us overnight. The Sunday picnic was rained out, so we stayed indoors at Laura's. All the children played piano for me. Renanah, Ryan, and Becky, and Allison. They are good.

On Monday, I went to Rocky's and Marshall's. They have rebuilt their house, and added a new wing as big as the one we had on North Ave. It's really nice.

Tueadsay, Roger picked me up and I went to Manhattan where I played 'tourist'. Went to theater, took a boatride around Manhattan Island. Saw the Statue of Liberty, Ellis Island, Ground Zero, etc. Another evening, we went to a play reading in lower Manhattan. I found it all very glamorous. We rode in taxis. The fare from 100th St. to Times Square is $10. The apartment is very small. There were five of us: me, kathy, Roger, Kasey (who will be 21) and her boyfriend Alex whom you met last August at St. Barnanbus. I love New York!

Finally, Kathy took me to the country house at Greenwood Lake where I took the 'cure'. She made me sit on the deck and read, and relax a lot. When Roger came up, we spent some time gardening and other chores. All the time with them we had gourmet meals either at home or out. It was the best vacation I've had in years.

I came home fully rested, well loved and cared about, and ready to begin teaching again. School starts on Aug. 11, and I've got a pretty busy schedule planned.

So you can see, I'm doing OK, but miss you most of all when I see or hear something that might be of interest to you. Then those now familiar tears well up again and bless the moment.

All my love , dear husband, forever. Your Renee

Renee Bergman

July 7, 2004

My dearest husband:

Each time I write to you I find it harder to express how much I miss you. So many things trigger memories, and then I react the way you always did--my eyes get all blurry with tears and I want to share these things with you.

The 4th of July celebration, the Stars and Stripes Forever, reviewing old greeting cards with your unfailing sense of humor, visiting with Harriet, Honey and Jack, and Stan.

The annual family picnic is this weekend, and I am going for the first time without you. I'm stopping in D.C. again to see how you're doing along with the Mitchells. I imagine you as comfortable, in good health, and relaxed. Don't worry about us. Our family is close and caring.

I'm excited about meeting our great-grandchildren, Sarah who is two and a half years old now, and Evan for the first time. he is almost one year old now. They won't know who I am, but I will know who they are.

I'll be away from Florida for about 2 weeks, and fill you in when I write again next month.

All my love, missing you.

From your devoted wife, Renee.

Renee Bergman

June 9, 2004

To my dearest husband:

In the last month since I spoke to you, we have just about finished the house repairs. Only a few finishing touches remain. Roger has been very attentive, and been down to visit and help me deal with legal and financial affairs. The other children have called in regularly as well.

I go to Temple on Friday nights and I feel comfortable in that environment. I enjoy the singing and warmth, and the content of the service is meaningful to me. I feel very close to you and Richard there.

You know, among all the things we have remembered about you in the last four months, no one mentioned your graduation from CCNY, nor has anyone mentioned your affinity, no, genius with numbers. It was such a strong part of your many talents. I remember the night you had a contest in Japan with a man with an abacus. You challenged him to a race in totalling up the day's receipts. You did it in your head, and he used the abacus. You beat him! But, (smile) you were off by one digit in the tens column.

More and more happy memories keep crowding in.

It is true. Sad times pass and only happy memories remain.

All my love, from your faithful friend and wife, Renee.

Renee Bergman

May 7, 2004

To my dear husband:

It has been three long months, my love, and I miss you so.

"My Buddy" by Donaldson-Kahn

Nights are long since you went away,

I think about you all through the day, my Buddy,

No Buddy quite so true.

Miss your voice, the touch of your hand,

Just long to know that you understand.

My Buddy, my Buddy,

Your Buddy misses you.

Renee Bergman

April 7, 2004

Hello, my dear:

As I promised, it has been one month since I last wrote to you. Ritzya and I celebrated our birthdays on April 5. She, her fiftieth, and I my 82nd. We had a lovely Seder in the evening, and received flowers from Rob'n'Dale, phone calls from Bonnie, Marshall C., Robert Mitchell, and a real live visit from Roger and Kathy. They brought piles of stuff: Gifts for both of us; also yummy fresh strawberries, wine, and 'schmurah matzos'.

The next morning, we went to visit you at Arlington National Cemetery. You are in a Columbarium,

Court: 5; Section: KK; Stack: 9; Niche: 4. Easy to find, and surrounded by benches, flowers, and lovely shrubs. The cherry trees are in full bloom, tulips and daffodils, and forsythia. Unfortunately, although brilliant sun was shining, the temperature was bitter cold. We took some pictures, and then left for the warmth of the car. You are in a beautiful place, Ruby; and in some good company.

I have met many of Ritzya's friends, warm and loving people. Tonight Iram and Linnie are coming to dinner.

It has only been two months, dear, since you are gone, but it seems like years since we were together.

You'll like the new color of our house, being painted pale peach even as we speak. The trim is a darker color, something like a light rust. Mark Gable is doing it. The turtle is at Steve Willinger's, and I'll be going home on Friday, April 9. I'm full of Matzos, and have had your share of hard boiled eggs, gefilte fish, and matzoh brie along with my own.

I miss you very much, my husband, and will write again on the 7th of next month. All my love forever, Renee

Billie Jung

March 9, 2004

Dear Renee,

Sorry to hear about Reuben. I would have come to the funeral if I had known sooner. My thoughts are with you, and may God keep you in His care.

Love you, Billie Jung

Arthur F. Smith, M.D. and Staff

March 9, 2004

Extending our sincerest sympathy to you and your family at this time of sorrow.

Edith Glick

March 9, 2004

If it helps at all just to know someone cares, then I want you to know I care deeply.

I feel for you in this time of stress and sorrow. I can walk in your shoes.

Carlos Sanchez, M.D.

March 9, 2004

Dear Mrs. Bergman,

I'm sorry to hear of Reuben's passing. I hope he is at peace and that you will be also.

Thinking of you, Carlos Sanchez

Mary McOwen

March 9, 2004

Renee: I just wanted you to know that you are specially in my heart andthoughts at this time of sorrow and life changing events.

Lynn Eigg

March 9, 2004

I was so sorry to hear about your second blow--Life is sometimes not fair at all!

I have fond memories of Ruby's sense of humor and courtliness. Fondly, Lynn

Renee Bergman

March 7, 2004

To my dear husband:

It is one month today since we parted, and I have so much to tell you.

Did youremember that we were married at the Biltmore in NYC on Feb 7,1943? Coincidence or Fate?

You came to visit me one night last week. You look marvelous; strong and healthy, muscles well filled out, light on your feet, walking briskly and smiling. You were wearing shorts and a Tshirt.

I've been busy sorting out papers and answering mail. Thank you for being so organized and planning so well.

If you don't already know it, you're at Arlington National Cemetery in Washington, D.C. and we're coming to visit during Seder week. I'll see you then. More next month.

Love from your wife forever, Renee

Carolyn Gable

March 4, 2004

Please know that you are in our thoughts and prayers. I have no wonderful words to impart, just the knowledge that we are here for you.

May God grant you peace and strength. We love you.

The Gable and Morales Family

"For He shall give His angels charge over thee, to keep thee in all thy ways." Psalm 91:11

Laura C. Joseph

March 4, 2004

We're all thinking of you.

Love, Stu, Laura, Allison, Becky, and Melissa

David and Alima davis

March 4, 2004

I was sad to hear about Ruby's passing. I have deep memories as I've known you both all my life.

Alima and I both send you prayers of peace and comfort. We know how painful grief can be.

I can only say that based on my experiences I KNOW that death is not the end of Life.

With love, David and Alima

Barry Weinberg

March 4, 2004

I can only imagine the compounded pain you are feeling at this time. My thoughts and prayers are with you for strength and healing. May beautiful memories sustain you.

Love, Barry

Debby and Jay Pravda

March 4, 2004

We were so very sorry to hear about Ruby's passing, as well as the passing of Richard. I can only imagine the grief you must be going through, as I know how hard it was for me when my mother died.

We want you to know that you have our deepest sympathy and that our thoughts and prayers are with you and all your children.

We were glad we were able to spend some time with you and Ruby when we were last in Florida.

Please send our regards and condolences to the family.

Ruby will be remembered with fondness and love.

Please let us know if we can do anything for you or your family.

Much Love, Debbie and Jay

Jack Weinstein

March 4, 2004

I was sorry to hear about Ruby's passing. How very sad for you to have two such painful losses in such a short period of time. My heart goes out to you.

I have many fond memories of Ruby, his boundless energy and unfailing sense of humor. To me as a child, he was reassuring proof that you could be a grown-up and still have fun. He will be missed.

With love, Jack

Ross Bergman

March 4, 2004

Sorry I was unable to attend Ruby's funeral. I was leaving for an out-of-town meeting when I heard the news and could not get out of my prior commitments.

I couldn't even begin to imagine what it must be like losing two members of the immediate family over a period of just a few weeks. I do get some comfort, however, in knowing that his passing was a peaceful one, just like my father's was, and that he isn't suffering any longer.

I know that the upcoming mourning period will be difficult for you, but will hopefully provide you with a sense of relief as well. Ruby was a remarkable, caring individual who did a great deal for our family. He will surely be missed.

Love, Ross Bergman, Oldest Grandson

Connie MacNamara

March 4, 2004

I was sorry to hear of the passing of your husband and son. I know you will have comfort from your family and many friends.

Please know that you are in my thoughts.

Love, Connie MacNamara

Naomi Greenfield

March 4, 2004

Jerry and I send you our warmest love and tender feelings on the passing of your very dear Ruby.

I am so glad that I got to know him, even if just a little. He is such a dear soul. And because of that I know that God is cradeling him now.

To know people who are happily married after so many years is very inspiring. I hope Jerry and I enjoy as many wonderful years together.

Naomi and Jerry

Andrea Glickhouse-Zachem

March 4, 2004

It is with great sadness that I am writing this note to you. It has become all too familiar these last two months to send these notes to our family.

I loved my Uncle Ruby--his toothy smile and funny jokes. I'll always remember Thanksgiving with him watching football.

I used to like him coming to have dinner with us after my grandmother died, on his way home from work.

One of my favorite memories was when he took my mother and me out to lunch at Morgen's.

It seems unfathomable that Ruby is no longer with us.

We wish you peace during this very difficult time and the knowledge that we nourn your loss. Andi

marvin/rosanne kleinman

February 21, 2004

We loved and respected Reuben for l3 years. He was always upbeat and just a pleasure to be with. He will be thought of and loved always.

Ann and Jim Loeb

February 19, 2004

Renee, Roger, Robbie and Randy: Ruby was special to us all. He made us smile and he made us laugh. We loved being with him - and we love you all. We will all miss him. He was a special part of our family.

Marcia and Dick Volpert

February 17, 2004

Dear Renee, Roger, Robbie and Randy:

Dick and I send you all our love and condolences on your most recent loss. Rubie was an original. I remember him joining the Roth family when I was just six years old. He was a valuable addition to the family and will be missed.

Much love,

Marcia and Dick

Steve Willinger

February 16, 2004

To the Bergman Family,

Ruby was a man who came to

our house and talked to us when we

were children. He called me Stevie in 1959 and 2004.Ruby told us

stories that made us smile. In our recent conversations, his love for his family, concern for Israel and

care for the well-being of others

were always the prominent topics.

Judy Borus

February 15, 2004

My dear cousin, Ruby - you will be missed.

Marilyn Farber Jacobs

February 15, 2004

Dear dear Renee:

I will always treasure the lunch that you, Ruby and I shared some months back, and remember Ruby's wonderful sense of humor, playfulness, and how down-to-earth and bright he was. I'm glad you and I found each other again... after more years than I want to admit. I still can sit down at a piano and play some tunes... what you taught me "all those years ago" was not in vain!

Love, always,

Marilyn

Renee Bergman

February 15, 2004

To my dear husband of sixty-one years:

You'll never know just how much I miss you,

You'll never know just how much I care.

And if I tried, I still couldn't hide my love for you,

You ought to know, for haven't I told you so,

A million or more times.

You went away and my heart went with you,

I speak your name in my every prayer.

If there is some other way to say that I love you,

I swear I don't know how,

You'll never know if you don't know now.

Words by Harry Warren.

Deborah and Jay Brodie/Brill

February 14, 2004

Y'va-re'ch'cha Adonai v'yishmarecha

Ya'air Adonai panav aleicha ve'choonecha

Yesah Adonai panav aleicha v'yasame

l'cha shalom.

May Adonai bless you and keep you

May Adonai show you favor and be

gracious to you

May Adonai show you kindness and grant

you peace.

Amen

The kindness, caring, and humility that is a part of Robert and Dale's life is a legacy to the memory of Robert's father.

Roger Bergman

February 14, 2004

We have come together today to remember my dad, not as a testimonial and not to roast him (although tempting), but to remember him. Those of us who are 8 years old, or 17, or 60 like me, don't remember the boy who knew Red Buttons on the streets of The Bronx or the handsome soldier who returned from Europe in uniform. I did know him for the last 60 years, so here are some of my images of him.

I remember his teaching me to dance when I was in the fifth grade. He did love a lively lindy! Even earlier, I remember him riding my first new bicycle down the hill on Inverness Road, lickety split through the stop sign on Perth Avenue. He looked about as awkward on a 9-year old's bike as an adult could possibly be.

I remember a man who taught us by example what standards of ethical behavior we should set, a man who taught us by example how to enjoy the subtleties of a good joke as well as the satisfaction of a good, corny pun. I remember a man who loved being Jewish.

Basically, we all remember him. And w're going to miss him. I love you, Dad.

Mike Van Dyck

February 10, 2004

Robert & Dale

Please accept our condolences

Mike& Lois

Gina & Charlie Clapper

February 10, 2004

Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Gina & Charlie

Kae Bletcher

February 9, 2004

My thoughts and prayers are with you

during this difficult time.

Fondly, Kae Bletcher

Peggy Ferguson

February 9, 2004

Robert, My thoughts are with you. Peggy