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mom / sue acker
July 23, 2025
Hi Matty...it´s mom. I think of you every day and miss you still so much. I just celebrated my birthday... 73 years old and 23 years without being able to hug you. Hopefully someday I will be able to give you that hug. We all still talk about you, and mostly funny memories. I love you just as much as the day you were born... And like dad always says "love never dies." I really do believe that. I feel the love from you some days and I´m hoping you feel the love from me. Hope you´re making a lot of people laugh and found a new "hanger" to hang around in. Take good care now and say hi to God for me. Love you Addoo pie... mom
Ben
September 19, 2024
Hey little brother,
I found a frozen turkey in the garage freezer a few days ago, and we thawed it out and cooked it. About three bites in, I got one of those cold-cock punches in the soul remembering the story of you going on K-NIT news at SFHS, and answering the question "What are you most thankful for?" Your classmates shared their gratitude for family, for friends, for the blessings and celebrations of the holidays... you? You tucked your double chin into your chest, bugged your eyes, and crowed "TURRRKEYYY!!!" Legend has it they heard the laughter at La Canada High School...
It's those little things that get you... the sensory connections, the limbic brain stuff, cocooned and buried, but that find their way to the surface without warning, like a geyser of emotions. Still, after 22 years, it is not lost on me how many Dear Ones on this memorial have passed on to your side of the Universe. I can only hope you're all together, remembering the great times, laughing at the funny things, maybe even watching the millions of little reminders of you that happen in all of our lives every day-- when one of my kids does something that can only be described as "Matt-like," when I find a dime, when we find an old VHS tape you made, when a co-worker who never met you says something you used to say, like: "she BETTER be nice!!!!"
And all these years later-- you've been gone just as long as you were here, now-- you're not forgotten. There will always be sad moments, but some have been replaced with stories of your humor and your heroism. There will always be a big hole in our family, but some of it has been filled with your nephews and nieces who sometimes are so much like you, it's simultaneously terrifying and comforting. All these life events with kids, their friends, their sports, their talent shows, their achievements... you just would have LOVED all this. I hope somewhere, somehow, you are LOVING it from afar.
And there will always be questions about so many things, ...but some of those have been replaced with answers, with a reckoning, with peace through process. It's a long path, but your brothers are doing the work, with a little help from our friends.
There's something comforting about coming on here and seeing recent memories from people you impacted 22+ years ago. That's powerful, and it gives me strength to know you are remembered. We keep you alive in our hearts and heads. We miss you, but we carry you.
God, I hope you're out there. But as dad says: "When I did--no matter what happens-- I won't be disappointed."
Love you little brother.
John Rawlinson
June 13, 2023
Hi. My name is John. I'm work the night shift at the Huntington. I was just walking around the Japanese Garden and thought about the last time I saw Matt. It was right where I'm standing on the zigzag bridge. It was late in the afternoon and no one was around. He told me a really funny joke and we both laughed. That was the last time I saw him. Every now and then when I walk through here last at night I think of that.
Rafael Ramon Sanchez
February 3, 2022
Hi Matt,
I'm a perfect stranger but just wanted to let you know that your Mom touched our hearts at the Kairos mass last night speaking about how much she loves you.
Sounds like you were a great guy who brought joy to many. God keep you safe. My son is graduating this year with his brother starting this year to keep the tradition alive. God Bless, Rafael
Erin
July 20, 2021
Miss you, Matthew.
Chris Mazzone
December 30, 2017
Matt,
You popped in my mind today as you do every once in a while.
You remember when Fitz caught us smoking a cigarette behind the library? I was so scarred, but I tried to play it cool and laugh it off. I was only calmed cuz you were there with me. Remember how mad Brang was...Lol He was cool and never did anything. Just told us to stay out of trouble
I always remember that day.
Just wanted to say "wassup" buddy.
Chris m.
Maynor Solares
December 5, 2017
Hey Matt,
It's your old buddy Maynor from The Huntington, I've since moved on from there, way back in 2007. I live in San Francisco now. You popped into my head just now for no apparent reason. You sometimes do! Maybe it's a cosmic thing that we will never understand until we join you. Anyway, I was remembering how we used to clown around in the art galleries! I remember we used to come up with these ridiculous songs! Like I want to sleep with the elephants all night Remeber that one? We kept singing that line and busting up!? Anyway pal, hope you're making the angels laugh up their too! See you on the other side one day Hoss!'
Mary Sinclair (Sheridan)
September 12, 2015
Sending my love to Matt and the Acker family
Jesse G
November 7, 2014
Hey Matt, miss you buddy. Pass your place often. Always think of you. Love and miss you friend.
Kelly Maglio
April 8, 2011
Matt, seems like at least once a year I "see" you somewhere...most recently it was at the movies...crossing the street heading to the movies actually. You drove by me and for a split second I saw you smile. Maybe it was you, maybe it wasn't. But at least it gives me a feeling of peace, knowing that wherever you are...you're okay. My boyfriend and I recently moved in together...closer to your parents' house on Palo Verde as it turns out and so I drive by every day now on my way to work. I look over and have fond memories of the entire Acker/Burch families. Occasionally, "squirrelly" pops into my head and it reminds me of you and I smile to myself. I'll be seeing you, Matthew...
Kelly Maglio
July 21, 2010
Thinking of you, Matt :)
Terri Acker Baker
July 21, 2009
Hey, Matt the Gnat, could you please remind Aunt Aggie that she owes me the winning lottery numbers? I think she "forgot". Woke up this morning with such a sad heart. Not for you, because I know that you are up there playing Gin Rummy with Mom, and I know she won't ever let anyone win, so when you win, you are better than her and don't you forget it. Tell dad that we got this new (old) idiot cat from the pound that weighs 500 pounds and he thought he could walk across the top of the mesh gazebo above the spa...well that gazebo is on it's last legs and the mesh split and guess who swam their way out of the spa. Dad would have laughed, because he walked in soaking wet and when asked, he made a look like "what?" "no show here, move along" "No Comments from the peanut gallery"....I miss you and every so often there is this inconsolable grief that falls down on me and smothers me in its sadness. Beats me to the ground and then I have to get up again and live in this world without you and your wonderful you-ness. Then I remember that in a blink of an eye we will all be together again and that this world is simply the transit terminal...You just took an earlier train. But we will all meet up at the destination and boy, will we have some fun! I love you very much....Aunt Terri
Kelly Maglio
July 21, 2009
Hey Matt,
I've been thinking of you more often lately because I seem to be "seeing" you or people who look A LOT like you. Still that handsome Acker kid! Miss you, kiddo.
June 18, 2009
haaaaapppp... matty:
it's hard to believe you would be 29 today. i've been thinking of you all day, well, actually all week and wondering what you would look like now. you probably still have those piercing light blue eyes, those mega sideburns (well...maybe), and the driest sense of humor i've ever known. everyone really and truly still misses you...so much.
i don't know if you can see us or hear us or even know anything about us, but if you can, then i am sure you are laughing it up at tommy and christa chasing little caydence around and littler leighton taking it all in. you would be having sooo much fun with them, i just know...
...not to mention ben and brandy's little boy, 'nano'. he is ALL BOY and i'm already laffin' at ben's shocked face when nano does something 'so boy'. nano has a great laugh and you can't help but smile when you see him. he is an 'acker' all the way and i know how proud you were to always say you were one of the famous acker boys. i admit there were days when i cringed when asked if i was you guys' mom...but, i always admitted it. i loved you all and was and still am proud.
when i exercise i listen to my ipod. (hopefully they keep you updated on the new things down here)...and i have a lot of the old acker brother songs on it and so enjoy listening to you play bass. you were an amazing bass player. i miss that too.
all of your brothers are doing well. zach got married to stephanie ford, (yep...shawn's cousin) and they have the same birthday. i always remember how you couldn't wait for YOUR birthday when we were celebrating zach's on 6/11. now we celebrate zach and steffie together.
i also thought of you this week cause the lakers won the championship again and i remember you driving in that crazy truck with those huge purple and gold flags flowing from the back, which i am sure were illegal and way too long as they hindered the driver's vision behind you. i think you would have enjoyed seeing them win.
we are all into dodgers now and caydence and nano shake their hands and say "dodgers dodgers" over and over...really cute.
daniel is getting married next year to jessica and they are such a cute couple and happy. she keeps him in line...i know you would love her. she really really loves him ~ it's so obvious on her face. they are planning on getting married down by the old marine land at a new hotel right by the ocean and where the rock is and if daniel could have a fishing pole in one hand while holding jessie's with the other during the vows...he would.
as for jonny...remember how he was the king in 'the king and i'? well...he's done a lot of things now, but, of late...he's in a jack in the box commercial for the mini buffalo ranch chicken sandwiches and nano and caydence go nuts whenever they hear the music. so cute and those sandwiches ARE good. i know you would love them and be bragging how many you could eat in one session...i know you would win any contest. haha!
well...i just wanted to write you like we used to talk. i miss you coming into my room and spinning in my desk chair and talking about anything in the world. those are neat memories for me...and i'm sure everybody has neat memories of you too.
i just wish i knew for sure you that you are ok. that's the hardest thing for a mom...to know if her child is ok in the hereafter. i am hoping you are. it's true you know that love never dies...cause i still love you and your brothers so much. i know they still miss you. we still tell the same stories about you...it's so neat to have those stories...i wish we had you...but, that's not to be right now.
anyways...just wanted to pop on and say "haaaaappppy birthdayyyyyy" to you and i am sure caydence will blow the candles out on your cake tonite. you KNOW we're going to have one. :)
take good care now.
love you everyday,
mom
Kelly Maglio
June 18, 2009
Happy Birthday, Matt! You and my Dad share the same birthday :) Hope you're partying wherever you are, kiddo. Miss you. XOXOXO
Aunt Terri Acker-Gillin-Baker
July 21, 2006
July 21, 2006. Matt, the Gnat, you are in my thoughts all day today. Just now I walked outside of my office and asked you to send me a sign that you were ok. Just then, a beautiful, bright, iridescent, and HUGE red dragonfly flew right up to my out of nowhere and circled me and then went on it's merry way. Since there were no bushes in the parking lot to suddenly burst into burning flames, I will take the dragonfly as a sign that you are ok. I love you and miss you and keep finding dimes in the strangest places, so I know you are still with us. Love, Aunt Terri
mom
June 18, 2006
happy 26th birthday matty!
it is a beautiful sunny california day...the kind you liked to just sit on the front porch, play your bass and watch the action in the neighborhood. we got your favorite balloons out, we're havin' a bbq and just relaxin' today and thinkin' of funny times with you.
it goes without saying that the "missing you" never goes away. i still and always will miss you very much. i woke up at 2:08 a.m. this morning after dozing off for a minute or two and i just woke up and looked at the clock. i smiled cause that is the exact time you were born. no lie!
my memories of the nite you were born are still clearly cemented in my brain and i STILL can see you looking around in the bright lights of the delivery room with those blue blue eyes. a nurse even commented on how blue your eyes were and that just never changed and i know that i shall never forget them ~ nor will i EVER forget you. you are and always will be my 4th son and my baby bird.
i found your old slingshot the other day that i had taken away from you as a kid and hidden (after lucy appeared at the door)...i laughed when i found it and placed it on the mantle with the other "things" there...the "things" that are "memory joggers" for those of us who knew you and i am sure everyone will agree...those memories are cherished.
so later on ~ i'm gonna raise a glass of wine (yes me) to honor your birthday and you and until we meet again i hope you can feel my "air-bear hug" (i miss the real ones) ~ until i can get the "real one" again from you.
love always,
Bryan B.
July 28, 2005
If someone was to have told me three years ago, that my family and friends would gather to celebrate on July 21st, I would probably have told that person to, “Piss off.”
My family, and the world, lost a great person that day, my cousin Matt. Sure, we would smile again. We would laugh and joke, but on July 21st? There is no way. As far as I was concerned, the 21st of July, was a day of mourning. A sad day, where nothing is funny and the slightest thing can send you to tears. Yet, on July 21st my family and friends, were all laughing and joking. Yes, individually we had our moments of sadness, but collectively we found joy.
Why and how?
It is a valid question and well deserving of a legitimate answer. Tonight, I watched my aunt smile and play with my cousin’s baby, Maggie. Maggie has just learned to walk and naturally, it is the cutest thing in the world. We mourn one life, yet celebrate the beginning stages of another. While my aunt was grinning from ear to ear with the baby, my uncle laughed himself to tears watching the timeless classic Vacation. It was nice to hear him laugh. There is something extremely comforting about it.
Outside on the porch, Dan barbequed while Brady, Ben, Jonny, my dad and I sang Beatle tunes over and over. As all of you know, music is a major part of our lives. Without it, we would not be who we are today. I thank my elders for this wonderful gift that we have all been blessed with.
As the night progressed, the celebration became greater and greater. Our presence was graced with the lovely mother/daughter combo: Suzie and Caitlin. They are nothing short of amazing, towards my family and as human beings. They love us very much and the feeling is mutual. It is always nice to see them. I know Suzie has a lot of fun ordering me around like a cabana boy. If she wasn’t so nice, I would have stopped fetching her drinks long ago.
Other familiar sounds that are always soothing and comforting are: the giggles coming from Stephanie. Zach is always keeping her entertained. The crunching of leaves usually indicates that Bryan and Erin are on their way over. They are beautiful people and are always a pleasure. Hearing Ben and Brandy laughing is a good indication that something funny is being done with the camera. If you don’t have a “chins” picture yet, talk to my aunt. The chorus of laughs coming from my beautiful sisters whether at home or at my aunt’s, is also a welcoming feeling too.
July 21st, 2002 was a tragic day in all of our lives. It mentally beat us up and dragged us around but we got up. We somehow found a way to put our pieces, our lives, back together. I have heard my aunt say repeated. “We will be okay, we are Ackers.”
When I step back and think about this, the word “Acker” has more meaning than just a last name. Being an “Acker” is an essence; it is a way of life. When you are an “Acker” you live life the way it should be lived. Your life is filled with love, meaning and purpose.
All things considered, July 21st, 2005 was a nice night. I miss my cousin Matt but I find it rather amusing that he still has found away for us to laugh, smile and have a good time. Thanks Matt. Thank you Mom, Dad, Aunt Sue and Uncle Bill for my best friends and thank you everyone else mentioned and unmentioned (you know who you are), in this life and the next, for being apart of mine.
“We are all in someway or another, an Acker.”
Kelly Maglio
July 21, 2005
Matt, you went to that "big porch in the sky" as your Mom would say 3 years ago today and yet it feels like you were just here with all of us yesterday. I still "see" you from time to time driving in cars as they pass by, at the beach, even at crowded bars. It's only for a moment, but long enough for me to know you're doing alright. I miss you, Matt.
mom
June 17, 2005
happy birthday baby bird!
june 18, 1980 @ 2:08 a.m. you were born crying your head off with REAL tears...soon stopping and looking around the delivery room and squinting at the bright lights. as i held you, my 4th son i laffed at the irony of god giving a 4th boy into our family ...what a blessing though.
i don't really have much to say that you probably don't know already...i just miss you so now...everyday more and more. i still can hear your laugh, i see you being silly, i still feel your bear hugs, never will forget those blue blue eyes, i remember that "stomp dance" you used to do and everybody'd laugh, your amazing bass playing, bbq'ing at 2:00 a.m. in the rain with an umbrella, "barking" at people in cars as you passed them by, watching you do "up/downs" at football practice, seeing you pray in your bed at nite when i'd peek in at you, hearing you roar up in that old truck that sounded like a 747 coming up the street, the little doll arm out your shirt at fuller, you being fearless, so many many memories...everyday, everywhere...i love you matty and will always love you. but you know that.
happy 25th birthday matthew!
love you always,
Kelly Maglio
March 3, 2005
As you know, it was Tommy's birthday last week. Daniel threw Tommy a surprise birthday BBQ which was really cool because it stopped raining long enough for it to be a nice day. Unfortunately I missed most of the BBQ, but got there in time for your Mom's picture gallery slideshow. Saw lots of pictures I hadn't seen before, including ones of you and Daniel being your silly selves in front of the camera...hilarious! Also recent ones of Jonny in the studio resembling you! It's crazy how much you two look alike. It's been a while since I've stopped by, so I just wanted to say what's up. Miss you, Matt! XOXOXO
Bryan
January 24, 2005
Hey-
There has been a lot of down time at work and I can't help but let my mind wander/wonder what you might be up to. A while back, I read a passage in one of your mom's books that said when someone passes on he/she awakens in a field full of soft, warm, fuzzy creatures. The book described rabbits, bunnies and squirrels. Personally, I thought of a bunch of Shawn Greens.
(For those of you who don't know, Shawn Green is the name of at least three past and/or present Acker cats. All of which have held the title for the greatest cat in the world...literally.)
I've pictured that image many times over in my head. Oddly enough, it calms my emotions brings much comfort.
You know, its funny how emotions stir many thoughts. Zach sings about "wondering why" and Dan and Tommy "thank you for better dreams tonight." Jonny closes his eyes "for just a moment." Though the song carries on about a girl, I stop and think about those words and equate them to life in general.
"When I close my eyes for just a moment, and realize for just a moment."
The words play over and over in my head and I think about you. What there is for us to realize.
You are the one who makes me close my eyes for just a moment and realize. Realize that no matter what life can, is and will be good.
You watch over us every day and everyone looks back up and smiles We move forward and takes things one day at a time. You know, "your eyes are looking back in my direction" and "I thank you for better dreams." Yeah, its corny but it works.
I hope all is well.
Thanks for everything: then, now and to come.
Courtney Maglio-Boyadjian
July 22, 2004
My sister Kelly has always been close to the Acker family and I am lucky enough to remember little Matt from Assumption (he was really little to an 8th grader like me..haha). He and his family are in our thoughts and prayers always.
Barby Burch
July 21, 2004
Matthew~ It is difficult to find the right words to say how much I miss you. I truly miss seeing the big smile on your face with a foolish grin, as well as your daring blue eyes looking at me, wondering what you could possibly do to make me want to smack you silly! There were several of those times, whether it be when you were pulling the rubberbands from my perfect ponytails (mom worked so hard...lol), or when you were running around with David in your army gear aiming at the enemy...the girls!
I think about you all the time, wondering what antics you are getting into now, or how you are watching over all of us, laughing at how silly we all can be.
Matt, we all love you and miss you.
Love, your cousin~
Barby
Aunt Terri Baker
July 21, 2004
7/21/2004 - Two years ago today our Matt died. Alive in my heart forever. All my love to everyone who loves him and misses him...Terri
Kelly Maglio (Maglio Family)
July 21, 2004
Picture this: the year is 1989 and the school is Assumption. The play is "The Wizard of Oz." The Acker boys are playing all the major roles Ben as the Wizard, Daniel as the Lion, Tommy as the Farmer and there on stage for everyone to see is Matt (as a munchkin) being his usual playful self, getting the best of his classmate, JJ. I've known the Acker's for as long as I can remember. And my memories are all awesome memories like that filled with love, laughter, and of course, music. Matt, we all love and miss you yesterday, today, and tomorrow. Much love.
Cindy McLoughlin
July 16, 2004
Hello Family,
I cannot believe it's going to be 2 years. I have been saddened these past two years by a daily reminder of what the world has lost, but been very blessed to have become closer to each one of you and be welcomed into your wonderful family. Matt's picture remains on our refrigerator, where it will be forever. I think of him every single day, I talk to him often and I love talking to all of you about him -- it makes me feel like I did know him better than I did. You will always be my family and I will love you all forever.
"Mom 2"
Aunt Aggie Acker
July 15, 2004
To all the Ackers: Well it's almost two years since Matt left us and I find myself thinking of him more, not less. I really miss all the years we didn't keep in close touch...an occasional football game or holiday visit really weren't enough. I feel cheated because I didn't get to watch the boys grow up. I remember when they were babies, toddlers, and now all of a sudden they are adults. Thinking back on times past, it seems most of my memories beyond the toddler years involved Matt especially. It was Matt who accompanied Bill to meetings and coffee afterwards. He was just a kid but I was so impressed with his manners and how he shook hands with people, and fit right in with the adults at the table. It was Matt who helped Bill move me and my furniture that hot crapppy August day in 1992. It was Matt who showed up more often than not to pick me up when I needed a ride to an Acker function, or who volunteered to give me a ride home. MATT, IF YOU KNEW HOW MUCH YOU WERE LOVED, APPRECIATED, ADMIRED AND RESPECTED, YOU'D BE AMAZED!!!! At least I'm grateful for the times we did share. And I am committed to continuing to keep in touch with our family
To Ben, Dan, Tommy, Zach & Jonny - I will always be your Aunt Aggie and I will always love you no matter what. To Sue, I will always be your sister and I will always love you. And to Bill, you will always be my brother and I will always love you. I pray that your family finds peace and comfort. Love one another and don't take each other for granted. That's a hard lesson to learn.
Know that you are always in my heart and my prayers.
Love, Aggie
Bryan
June 15, 2004
Hey Matt-
As I sit here at work I can't help but think that that time of year is close at hand once again. In just a few days you'd have been twenty four. I hate referring to you as something of the past. You are not. You are with me everyday; thoughts, dreams, music...everything really. In a few weeks I'll be twenty-two. I can't help it but even as my birthday approaches, I can only think of you. I am going to be twenty-two. You were only twenty-two. I miss you. There are things that I wish you were physically around for. I guess that is me just being selfish.
You'd be happy to know that we finally got that G4. We are all bozoos with it though. I'm sure there will be many endless nights ahead. Burning out, smoking a lot of cigerettes and playing music into all hours of the night.
Last night I was there and you should have seen the way things were running. Tommy trying his hardest to be authoritive, Zach and I grab-assing and Jonny really working hard at playing that bass you had with the action so high. To this day I don't know how you did the things you did on that thing.
It has been a while since anyone has written in this. The last one to do so was your mom. She is truly an amazing person. We were pretty lucky growing up to have such great parents. I'm glad that this guest book is still up. For me, it is like another vehicle for reaching you.
There has been some other exciting news. Ben and Brandy got hitched. The next question is how long before she is knocked up?(sorry ben and brandy, I say it jokingly)
Well, free time is short lived. I have to go buddy. Unfortunately, I have to get back to work. Ole' G.W. is calling upon me to do some sort of nonsense. It was nice talking to you. Happy Birthday, we all love you!
mom
January 29, 2004
hey matty:
i just realized it's 2004 and it's almost 1 1/2 years since i looked into your blue blue eyes, heard you laff loud or heard you playing the bass on the front porch. i still think of you everyday and i hope i always do cause love never dies baby bird and i miss you so. life goes on here but not quite the same as before cause you're not in it. ben and brandy are getting married, dan is busy fishing and tommy is helping zach, jonny, bryan and andy with the pasadenagrifters and i know you'd be sooo proud of them. jonny is acting up a storm now on t.v. shows, movie auditions, he's so cute. so much to tell i'm just not sure if you can hear. < smile >
anyways...i wrote a song about you and since nobody wants to hear it cause it makes them sad sometimes (understandably) to talk about you - i thought i'd type it to you. it's kind of my "now" thoughts. here goes:
i miss the smoothness of the skin upon my face - but time and age have taken their toil and that i can't erase. i miss the peacefulness of coming through the door - but i can say most truthfully that i miss matthew more.
i miss the easy way i use to laugh and soothe a small kid's cries. i miss the twinkle that used to be alive in both my eyes. i miss the feeling of pulling a fish up on the shore - but i can say most truthfully that i miss matthew more.
i miss matthew more with his unpredictable ways. i miss that he was always here and around the house he'd laze. i miss saying "6 of them" - not, 2 or 3 or 4. now it's only 5 and it makes me miss matthew more.
i miss the smaller size my body used to wear. i miss how spry i used to be and around the house i'd tear. i miss the shopping and chasing them around the grocery store - but truthfully i can say that i miss matthew more.
i miss the fact that my life will be never quite the same. i know that i'll grow old missing matt and more than likely with this pain. i can get through another today but tomorrow i'm not so sure - probably because by then i'll miss matthew more.
take care now little number 4 -
i love you and miss you, but i am SURE you know that. be good and do good. ok?
love always,
mom
Bryan
December 15, 2002
Whats up Matt,
so what is like over there or up there or where ever you are? you gotta come visit me in my dreams and tell me about it? you know, music just ain't the same anymore without you, but i'm trying, i'm trying real hard! well i'm just swinging by to wish you a merry christmas and that i love you and miss you
Auntie Sharon
December 14, 2002
Hi Matt ~ Like everyone else, you are in my thoughts every single day. The holiday season is now upon us and you will be missed more than ever. But our hearts are full of love more so now because you are with Him and are a true saint. When I make the trek upstairs, I know your hand will be there to pull me up. (I think your Grandpa would say, "Oh God, I can't bend over and you're too damn heavy! MATT...get over here!") But I know how strong you are and you will lift me and embrace me. And I can't wait to hug you back. luv u always...auntie sharon
mom
December 10, 2002
merry chrisrmas matthew
remember that saying -
"everytime a bell rings - an angel gets his wings...?"
well, it's officially been changed to...
"everytime a bass is played, a superstar angel gets his superwings!"
from what i've heard lately - you must have the biggest superwings in heaven!
i love you and miss you, as everybody does.
mom
FSHA Friend
October 3, 2002
To the Acker Family,
I recently learned of your loss. Matt was a sweet, loving, beautiful, and kind young man. We knew each other in high school and I am saddened that we did not keep in touch. He always had a way of making myself and others laugh. I will miss him greatly and I will never forget him. My thoughts and prayers are with you. God bless!
AMORETTE
September 19, 2002
I WILL NEVER FORGET HIS SMILE AND LOVING TOUCH...HIS CARING HEART...BEAUTIFUL EYES! I LOOK FORWARD TO THE DAY I WILL SEE HIS MEMORABLE CHEEKS AGAIN...ALL MY PRAYERS TO THE ACKERS, -ALTERNATIVE STUDENT ~AMORETTE
graviela Quintana
September 10, 2002
There are really no words I can possibly say that haven't already been said. Matt was a great and wonderful guy. He will always remain in my heart and my prayers. He's the brightest star in the heavens, so , look up, hes there.
love you all..god bless
Pops
September 6, 2002
Just as the bells in the old brick tower of St. Andrews tolled the Angelus to Our Lady, a beautiful blue-eyed baby bird tried to fly from his nest, but got caught in a powerful updraft so common to the Arroyo Seco in late July.
The fledgling was never seen again, but Mama Bird and Papa Bird reminded the other baby birds about the great Dove in the sky.
Terri (Acker) Baker
August 28, 2002
I look at the world differently because I knew Matt. Since we lost him, hundreds if not thousands of people have commented that they had a personal and loving relationship with Matt. It is awesome to think that one person could touch so many lives in such a short period on earth. What I will remember in my heart about Matt is his sense of wonder and participation in life. Whether it was "dress rehearsal" of float tubing gear that he just bought, or his latest movie project that was so real that while filming somewhere in Pasadena they'd all be stopped by the authorities and have to explain they were just filming! Or watching him play the bass and just knowing he was gonna stop and let the drums fill in the riff and take the glory. He'd give you the riff, be the strength behind the music and never let you know he was keeping the beat so others could shine. That's just the way he was. Stronger than any of us...love Aunt Terri....
Mike Hernandez
August 21, 2002
Acker Family,
Matt was a super cool guy and he will be dearly missed. I went to high school with him and he was always upbeat and personable. I wish I could have known him better but Matt and myself always had good vibes from each other. My prayer go out to him and your family.
Sue Acker
August 19, 2002
Dear Friends and Family:
We love Matthew with all our hearts, souls and beings. He is our son, brother and friend. He is an "Acker" and always will be.
We all thank each of you for your love and kindness to us at this time and you are now all official "Ackers" as we have added each of you to our huge family of love.
Matthew will always be with us, with those blue, blue eyes, little smile, gentle nature and big bear hugs. We miss him tremendously, but also know we don't have to look far for him knowing he is with God...we don't look "up"...we look "around" at all of you and "there" is Matthew.
Matthew's chair is still on the porch and there it will remain, along with all of us and you, please visit anytime.
Thank you and we love you for sharing Matthew and God's love with us. Matthew is now sitting on God's porch. Lucky God! God bless you!
Sue, Bill, Ben, Daniel, Tommy, Zach and Jonny Acker...and of course Maxx.
Bryan
August 16, 2002
Matt was something else. People knew or wanted to know Matt because they knew he was something special. It wasn't because he was the cool guy with "slick re" hair or the person with the coolest car, far from, no Matt was just someone you liked. He had a personality that couldn't be matched. He inspired so many people to do so many things. How many people wanted to be in a band because of Matt? How many people stuck out thier last year of football because, Matt Acker was going to be on the team? He was a true talent in every way possible and i can't thank him enough for that. Motish, i'll keep playing like Gerry...love you forever and know you are always here.
Sandy & Gerry Burch
August 12, 2002
Dear Sue, Bill, Ben, Dan, Tom, Zach, and Jonny,
Matt continues to live on in our hearts and thoughts every day. It's comforting to know we have an angel in heaven, a direct link to Almighty God. Matt's beautiful smile, quick wit, and helpful spirit will always be remembered. We love you all so very, very much.
John and Helbing Helbing
August 5, 2002
With all the beautiful music you all gave to God, He must be taking good care of Matt. You are in our prayers.
Mark J. Patterson
August 4, 2002
Mr. & Mrs. Acker,
Thank you for bringing Matt into this world. You know as I that no words can explain what an incredible person he is. I wish your family well and hope will rest easy knowing that the brightest star in heaven in shinning upon you
Mike Batista
August 1, 2002
Acker Family,
Sorry to hear about your loss. Hope all is well and god bless.
eric hanson
August 1, 2002
I send my deepest condolences and really dont know what to say. I had only met Matt through Ben a couple of times, and was so surprised by this because I saw him only days before near the Allen-Villa liquor store. I have kept Matt in my prayers and will continue to do so. Eric
Caroline Kotzot
August 1, 2002
Dear Mrs and Mr Acker,
Our Lord said to weep with those who weep and mourn with those who mourn; I am so sorry. May the Spirit of Christ come upon your house to comfort and console you today.
Draw near to Him and He will draw near to you. This is promised in His Word.
I really wish that I had known Matt recently. I believe that he had a very sweet heart.
Sincerely,
Caroline Kotzot
Christine Helbing
July 30, 2002
I just heard the news and I can't quite believe it. I remember Matt as Barbie's little cousin interfering in our plans (but making us smile anyway). I remember the Assumption plays, too-- he was always so great and fun in them. Good luck, beauty and strength to you in these times. I'll be home next week and if I can do anything for you,please let me know. You're in my thoughts. Christy. [email protected]
a friend
July 29, 2002
Though I only knew Matt for a short amount of time in high school,I will always remember his playful nature and his ability to make everyone laugh. I am extremly saddened by your loss and I will your family in my prayers.
Henry Vartan
July 29, 2002
Ackers
I'm sorry, may the Divine Creator watch over you, and help your family during this time.
Monique Carroll
July 29, 2002
Dear Acker Family, Our hearts go out to you. We keep you in our thought and prayers. Blessed be. The Carroll Family
Sally Rowe
July 29, 2002
Sue I am so sorry for your loss. Words can not ease the pain but trust in the Savior can. His will is perfect.
Sharon Shirer
July 28, 2002
What to say? Except that I love all of you. You are an extraordinary family with talent coming out your ears. I wish I had just a fraction of all the Acker talent. Matt, you are such a character. Remember when I caught you driving at 13? You are my cutie addoo-pie with the curly blonde hair, amazing blue eyes and a heart of gold. I love you and will speak of you in the present tense because you will always be with me.
friend
July 28, 2002
mathew is now your guardian angel looking over you forever and ever....
Elizabeth Anderson
July 28, 2002
To the Ackers,
I am so sorry for all that you are going through right now. I don't really know what else to say to any of you, words seem so trivial. I know no one knows what it is like to be going through this but you, and your family. My thoughts and prayers are with you and Matt.
Elizabeth from PAS
(Darons sister)
D. M.
July 28, 2002
I am so very saddened to hear about your loss. I knew Matt during the alternative years. I have to say he was one of the most strong willed and charismatic individuals I have ever known. He (along with his brothers) influenced me greatly during my youth. Thanks and God Bless.
Brad Chatman
July 28, 2002
Dearest Acker family, relatives, and friends,
To you all, I send my deepest regards.... My thoughts and prayers are with all of you.
Sincerely,
Brad Chatman
Meryl, Dennis & Ryan Horan
July 27, 2002
Dear Sue and Boys -
There is nothing to be said to make any of this better. Just know that there are a lot of people who deeply care about all of you. Stay with one another, hold on to each other. Love and prayer will help you through. We are so sorry for your tremendous loss. There is nothing else to say except that we love you dearly and you are in our hearts and prayers.
Cara Hayman
July 27, 2002
I went to Alternative School the same time as Matt, and although I hardly knew him, his antics in class always made us laugh. I am very sorry for your loss.
George Locke
July 27, 2002
My dearest Sue and Boys.My sincerest condolences on your tragic loss. Although never having the pleasure of meeting Matthew in person it was obvious he was a loving talented kid.I will pray for Matthew and the Acker family. Im only sorry my words can not ease your pain.God Bless yous all.. Geo
Margie Page
July 27, 2002
Willow...I said a prayer immediately for you and your family...and I will continue to pray for you...I am so sorry...I will keep sending messages by phone and by email...please know you are not alone...I send you love and hugs and I will continue to pray for miracles...I am here for you...
Jean Moore
July 27, 2002
Sue Acker and family: My thoughts and prayers are with you. May the knowledge Matthew is now in God's presence bring you comfort and strength. Love, Jean
Jeff Van Dyke
July 27, 2002
To the Acker family, when I think about matthew, the only thing that comes to mind are times of laughter, and pure enjoyment . I thank God everyday for giving me the privilige to have known him. You are all in my prayers. God be with you. Sincerely, Jeffrey Van Dyke
Cynthia Mendoza
July 27, 2002
Ackers -
I was so sorry to hear about Matt's passing. My prayers and thoughts are with you. May you find comfort with God and one another.
Love,
Cindy Mendoza
Anonymous
July 27, 2002
I was so sad to hear of your loss. Matt was a kind and caring person. He will be deeply missed and always remembered by those who knew him. I am so sorry for your loss.
Thomas, Linda and Boys Mahoney
July 26, 2002
To The Acker Family,
Sincere sympathies on the loss of your dear son, and brother, Matt. Our prayers, and thoughts are offered on his behalf, and for your comfort during these difficult times. God's peace be with you all.
Tom, Linda, Tommy, Andrew, and Richard Mahoney
Sherrie & Myron Yanish
July 26, 2002
Dear Acker Family,
Our thoughts and prayers are with you all. Matt was such a gentle and kind young man, who always had such a warm and welcoming smile whenever we would see him. May God grant him the peace
he was searching for.
Daron Anderson
July 26, 2002
To The Ackers,
I was so sad to hear of your loss. I didn't belive my mom when she mentioned Matt's passing. It didn't seem real to me. Tom, I'm glad I was able to see you and Matt last week in Sierra Madre. It's been a while. As Matt asked, I said "hi" to Elizabeth for him. He had asked me to do that.
All is not lost however. I will always remember all the random events that we had at Alternative. Whatever the event was there was always the "Acker Twist" on things. Those memories will never be lost.
Matt will alwyays be remembered.
Old Friend from P.A.S.,
Daron Anderson
Janet
July 26, 2002
Sue,
May God watch over you and your family during this trying time. Your sorrow is felt by all whose life you have touched. Call if you need to talk. Much love and condolences to you and your family--
Edna & Hank
July 26, 2002
Oh my dear friend, I am deeply saddened to hear of your loss. I am keeping you and your family in my prayers. May God give you strength to endure.
Peggy Taylor
July 26, 2002
Words will never adequately express my heartfelt concern and sympathy for you all. I pray the Lord's peace, the love and comfort of family and friends, and joyfilled memories will carry you through this difficult time. love and blessings, peggy
Scott Levin
July 26, 2002
Acker family,
Words can not express the sadness I felt at the news of Matt's passing- it felt like losing a member of my own family. I will always cherish the memories our families shared growing up together- and Matt was always in the center of all the action! He will be greatly missed. My thoughts and prayers are with all of you- My love always, Scott Levin
Erin Moore
July 26, 2002
To the Acker Family:
I can only begin to imagine how such a loss may impact such a tightly knit family such as yours. I firmly believe, however, that your strength and closeness as a family will prove to be your best ally in overcoming such a grievous loss. My hearts and thoughts go out to each and every member of your family and circle of friends. I know that Matt will continue to live on in your love for one another and through the loving memories of him.
Much Love and My Truest Sympathy,
Erin Moore
Rebecca Hadfield
July 26, 2002
To Sue, Bill and family
We are saddened by your loss, he will be greatly missed. We hold close the good memories of growing up together. We know his spirit will always live on in the music. Our prayers are with you.
The Hadfield's
Jim, Sue, Sarah, & Rebecca
Julie Smith
July 25, 2002
To the Acker family:
We were saddened to hear of Matt's unfortunate passing. You are all such a wonderful family. May you find strength in God as well as each other through these difficult days. Cherish the memories and know that Matt and your family will be in our prayers.
Sincerely,
Julie and Anthony Smith
Michael Furtaw
July 25, 2002
I just found out what happened to Matt and am sad to hear it. He was a memorable classmate and he will be missed.
Daniel Acker
July 25, 2002
The people that were touched by Matthew and my family have been amazing! All the letters and flowers, Visitors and phone calls show how much you love my brother. My family and I can feel all the prayers and compassion that have been expressed in so many ways. We will always be a strong family and will have our Matthew in our hearts for ever. We cannot thank you enough for everything thats been done.
Alex
July 25, 2002
Dear Bill, Sue, Ben, Dan, Tom, Zach, and Jon:
May the Holy Angels lead him into paradise...Ours for a while...God's forever.
With prayers and with my heartfelt sympathy.
Alex (Los Angeles)
Catherine Sabin
July 25, 2002
Dear AckerFamily,
Our thoughts and prayers are with you at this difficult time. I remember Matt as a playful, humorous and respectful young man in the computer lab at Assumption School. Our deepest sympathy goes out to you and your family. We will remember Matt and your family in our prayers.
Ms. Sabin, Erin, Krista,
Danielle, Marisa & James
X
July 25, 2002
My wish is for you and your family to heal. I really don’t know what to say and I feel bad for some reason. not so much for the loss your family is experiencing, but for my inability to say anything that can make it better, do anything to change the events or just plain bring him back. I feel that I have failed as a friend and all I can do is send my love and compassion. I never knew your son but I knew of him by you and loved him because I love you. I can not take the pain from you or your family and I, like everyone else, stand helplessly hoping our words, thoughts, and prayers can somehow sooth the sorrow within your soul. Time will never heal what you feel but it will make it more bearable. Remember the laughter, the smiles, and the music of his voice and know that he is singing to you every night and kissing your tears. The love you gave him he now gives you. In the quiet of the moment he whispers to you his love and dusts you with his light. He lives on in each of you.
Kerri Yanish
July 25, 2002
Dear Acker Family,
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Matt was an amazing person, classmate and friend. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Carrie Levin
July 25, 2002
Dear Acker Family,
I am so sad to hear about your loss. The fun memories we have all had together will live on through our thoughts and stories. He will be greatly missed, but will be in our hearts forever. I love you all, and you know where to find me if you need anything.
Shannon Kazak
July 25, 2002
Such a tragic loss for such a loving family. I hope you can find strength in each other and in your friends and family. Matt and the Acker Family are in our prayers.
Our deepest sympathies,
The Kazak's
Bob, Shelly, Erin & R.C. Moore
July 25, 2002
Dear Bill, Sue and the Boys...We were so sorry to hear about Matt. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all. Just remember that he will always be at your sides and always in your hearts forever. If there is anything that we can do, please let us know.
Don Blair
July 25, 2002
Bill, Sue and all the boys,
My sympathy and prayers go out to you at this most terrible time. I hope you find help and support from all of those who knew and loved him. He's now at peace and I'm sure Maria is showing him around.
Mike Shirer
July 25, 2002
I have known Matt since his first birthday. To me, Matt always was and will be that little boy with all the curly blonde hair and big blue eyes. I am going to miss him terribly. Matt, you made a huge impression on everyone you met and everyone will be better for having you in their life. I miss you "addoo"...Matt you are in our hearts and you will live on forever.
a friend
July 25, 2002
you will be missed my friend. every moment of every day, you took a part of me with you and i'm proud to have had the chance to keep a part of you with me for the rest of my life. no kinder soul has ever been set free.
Selena, Nick, Jessica, Andrew
July 25, 2002
Sue, Bill.. Boys.. we are soo very saddened by your loss. words can not express
Kristin Yanish
July 24, 2002
Dear Ackers,
I am so sorry about Matt. You have been in my constant thoughts and prayers, and will remain there for a long time to come. Please take care of yourselves.
Kevin, Eric, Richie, Shirl & Richard Niewiroski
July 24, 2002
Words cannot describe our lose. We will forever remember Matt's kind and wonderful personality and will miss his gentle heart. Our thoughts, our prayers and our hearts are with Matt's family.
Mandy Sotelo Reynolds
July 24, 2002
Dear Ackers:
I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. Matt was extremely talented and I'm sure he will be missed a ton. My family's prayers are with you.
Will Sellers
July 24, 2002
I was very shocked and saddened to hear about Matt's passing. I will remember him as a friend for the rest of my life.
Ted Tekippe
July 24, 2002
Dear Ackers,
I was so saddened to hear of your terrible loss. My heart goes out to you and I will keep Matthew and all of you in my strongest prayers. Once again, my condolences.
Sincerely,
Aaron Sotelo
July 24, 2002
Dear Acker Family,
I am sadened to hear about your recent and tragic loss. Matt's memory will definitely live on through family and friends. My prayers go out to your family through these trying times.
Howard Fishman
July 24, 2002
Hello Sue,
Derek sadly told me about the loss of your son. I am so sorry about the pain you must be feeling.
My sympathies go out to you and your family.
I hope to talk with you soon. Best wishes always.
Christopher Walker
July 24, 2002
I am sorry for your loss. I went to school with Big Matt and he always made me laugh and smile. I will miss his smile and fun spirit.
Kathleen Polenzani
July 24, 2002
My thoughts and prayers are with the entire Acker Family. May you find strength in eachother.
A Friend for ever
July 24, 2002
To the Acker family Mom, Dad, Ben, Dan, Tommy, Zack, and Jonny I would like to say that Matt is still with us in our hearts and minds he will be with us now anytime we want him to be, his memory will never vanish. Matt will be greatly missed by everyone who ever knew his humor and charm or his many talents. May he find peace floating in an ocean of time and space.
Katie Crowley-Flynn
July 24, 2002
DEAR ACKER FAMILY - I HAVE KNOWN YOU ALL FOR A LONG TIME. MATTHEW'S VOICE MAY HAVE BEEN SILENCED BUT HIS LEGACY OF MUSIC LIVES ON IN OUR HEARTS AND MEMORIES. MAY GOD BLESS YOU AND MATTHEW ALWAYS. WITH LOVE KATIE, TOM & MATTHEW
Teresa Tuchscherer
July 24, 2002
I am so sorry for your loss, my famiy and I extend our deepest sympathy. Our prayers and toughts are with Matt and your family.
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