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Betty Proffer Obituary

Betty Mae Proffer, 79, of Virginia Beach, passed away on Tuesday, June 16, 2020. She was born and raised in Missouri and came to Virginia Beach as a young Navy wife. She was a loving and devoted wife, mother, sister and friend. She was a strong Christian and faithful member of Foundry Methodist Church for many years. She was a professional cake decorator who made beautiful wedding cakes, as well as a talented crocheter, making beautiful afghans and prayer shawls for her church, family and friends. Even in her retirement her love for people and desire to nuture was continued as she sewed face masks for family and friends. Betty was preceded in death by her husband of 39 years, Charles Proffer and parents Rose and Harvey Schaber. She is survived by her daughter, Tamara Lambert, her son David Proffer and sisters Rose Berner, Louise Koonce and Paula Schaber, many relatives and friends, as well as her beloved dogs Izzy and Sparky. A memorial service will be held at a later date.

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Published by The Virginian-Pilot on Jun. 21, 2020.

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Paula Schaber

June 25, 2020

This has been a terrible loss for me. I am shattered with the loss of my sister. She had great faith and always helped me with any life issues. I will always remember her beautiful smile and her love for her entire family and her pets. I know God is carrying her in his arms. Love you Betty.

Paula Schaber

June 25, 2020

This loss has been terribly hard for me. I am just shattered at the loss if my sister. She had such enormous faith and gave me lots of words of wisdom and so hard to know i can never talk with her again. I will always remember her beautiful smile and her love for her entire family. I know God has her safe in his arms.

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Kathy Brown

June 21, 2020

I always looked forward to seeing Betty when I visited friends in Virginia Beach. We had many adventures throughout the years as seat mates in the back of Debbys van. I will miss her!

Paula england

June 21, 2020

aunt Betty was one of my favorite aunts. She and uncle Charlie made us feel so welcome when we visited them. We didnt talk as often as we should have, but when we did, it was always kind things. I dont think she had a mean bone in her body. Im sure uncle Charlie was standing there with open arms, waiting for her.
My thoughts and prayers are with you, David and Tammy.

Linda Davis Rose

June 21, 2020

o sorry to hear about Aunt Betty...wonderful woman! Lots of great memories ❤ Prayers to Tammy and David

Deborah Proffer

June 21, 2020

Always ready for an adventure. Loved to travel with mom and I. She will be sorely missed.

Cindy Pillow

June 21, 2020

From the time she began dating Charlie she became the Aunt who was always ready for adventures. We took the bus to the circus, shopped for a deal, or baked cookies to send to Uncle Charlie. She always had a smile for you. She was a good friend and wonderful person to know. I will have a cup of tea and think of you fondly.

Cora Donham

June 21, 2020

This news is very very sad. Betty was such a vivacious and warm person. Every conversation with her was always filled with insight and laughter. Her hands created so many beautiful things. Today there is just a silence in my heart.

Cora

Louise Koonce

June 20, 2020

She was a beautiful lady with a beautiful smile. Always willing to help others. She not only was my sister but my friend. So many memories we have made together. She will be so missed but I know she is finally home & with the love of her life. No more suffering, no more pain.

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