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Barbara Meier Obituary

Barbara Jo Hoefer Meier

Barbara Jo Hoefer Meier, 82, passed away on Thursday, December 10, 2020, after a lifetime of love and care shared with family and friends, and service within her community.

Barbara is survived by her beloved husband, John W. Meier, children Brian Jacob Meier and Julia Beth Meier, grandchildren Kristen Meier and Tariq Meier, and great-grandchildren Bently and Sawyer Meier with whom she spent many happy days. She is also survived by sister Margaret L. "Peggy" Hoefer McCollum (Donald), brother Alden J. "Buz" Hoefer (Marion Stuart), and the nieces and nephews who remember her as "the cool aunt" who drove a Mustang convertible and introduced them to sewing, Pringles, Chinese food, and Chicago's Museum of Science and Industry. Any acknowledgments would be incomplete without an expression of love and appreciation to Cheryl Humleker and Carol Haanen, Barbara and John's dear friends.

Barbara is preceded in death by her parents John Orville Hoefer and Elizabeth Ena Phipps Hoefer, and infant sister Karla Beth Hoefer.

Born December 8, 1938, and raised in Worthington, Minnesota, Barbara grew into a witty, creative young woman and a talented singer and pianist. She graduated a top student at Worthington High, and her siblings maintain she was the smartest among them. She earned a bachelor's degree in English from the University of South Dakota in Brookings, then her M.A. in Educational Psychology from the University of Minnesota, Minneapolis. She began her career as an educator in White Bear Lake, Minnesota.

After marrying John, Barbara worked as a school guidance counselor in the Des Plaines, Illinois, area. The family relocated to Appleton, Wisconsin, and she joined the guidance staff at Fox Valley Technical College in Grand Chute where she is still remembered fondly. For 29 years, she helped students in the Fox Valley area map out next steps in their lives as well as careers.

A life-long advocate for opportunities and rights for women, Barbara was a leader in the American Association of University Women. She served as president of the Wisconsin AAUW's state board (1991-1993), on the national board for program development (1993-1995), and as program coordinator for the Great Lakes region (1996-1998). She also contributed her considerable organizational skills to the AAUW's annual book sale.

Barbara and John were long-time members of the Congregational United Church of Christ in Neenah/Menasha, Wisconsin, where she was a highly productive member of the prayer shawl knitting group.

Barb's talent with knitting needles - and her sewing machine - will continue to bless her family and friends. Her hand-crafted ornaments hang on many a Christmas tree, her heirloom Christmas stockings will continue to be hung each year, and her shawls and afghans remain sources of comfort year-round. She will also be remembered for her contagious laughter that would leave her shoulders shaking.

Due to the pandemic, there will be no memorial service, and Barbara's life will be honored in the Memorial Gardens of the First Congregational Church in Oconomowoc, Wisconsin. In lieu of flowers, her family requests donations be made to the AAUW's education programs (https://www.aauw.org/issues/education/) and the Juvenile Diabetes Research Foundation (https://www.jdrf.org/fundraising/). The family also extends its appreciation and gratitude to the healthcare providers at the Theda Clark Regional Medical Center in Neenah.

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Published by Appleton Post-Crescent from Dec. 17 to Dec. 20, 2020.

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Sidna Bookout

January 11, 2021

I was saddened and surprised to learn about Barbara's passing today. My sympathies go to John and Barbara and John's children and grandchildren. Barbara and I were both counselors at Fox Valley Technical College in the 1970's and 80's. I also worked with her in AAUW when she was the Wisconsin State President and I was President of the Milwaukee branch. She was a wonderful lady who will be missed greatly by everyone who knew her.

Kathy McCollum Freeland

December 18, 2020

My beautiful Aunt Barb! You taught me how to make Christmas bows, belt out a song from a musical (I remember your attempts to explain the meaning of Gonna Wash That Man Right Outta My Hair...), took me on wild rides in your fancy convertible and for slow ones on the Como Park tortoise. You made matching bedspreads and curtains for my sister Lynne and me, coats, dresses, purses and later taught me to sew. And you were the one who talked my mother into letting me shave my legs! I am forever indebted to you!
Just days before your hospitalization, we shared texts about books we were reading, InstantPots, Pinterest and recipe sharing. You touched my life in ways I never knew until you were gone and I miss you dearly.
This week we will celebrate Winter Solstice and thank our ancestors for all they sacrificed for us, for all we learned from them - and still learn- and for the joy they brought to our lives. Your precious self will be included this year. I only hope you can look down on me and take some pride in the woman you helped create. I know there are many many jewels in your crown in heaven. You shall be forever treasured.

Linda Langner

December 18, 2020

I worked for Barbara for 10 years at Fox Valley Technical College in the Health & Human Services Division. She was a dedicated counselor and student advocate.

My sympathies to the family.

Tara Thede

December 18, 2020

Brian and Julie, my deepest condolences on the loss of your mom. I have such great memories of her from both Americanos and Northmen. May she Rest In Peace!

Judy & Austin Boncher

December 18, 2020

John, Brian, & Julia...please know our sympathy and thoughts are with you. As your neighbors, we have many memories of fun times together. As a colleague of Barb’s at FVTC, there are also memories of the work there that we did together. We are so sorry for your loss. With thoughts and prayers,
Judy & Austin Boncher

Sandi Moore

December 17, 2020

I had the privilege to work with Barbara at FVTC for several years. She was an advocate for her students; she also was a strong supporter of the underprivileged. Besides her great impact on staff and students at FVTC, Barbara lent her time and talents to many roles in AAUW over the years . My condolences to John and the rest of the family. RIP my friend.

BJ OConnor-Schevers

December 17, 2020

In loving memory of a wonderful person. Love you and miss you always.

Ed Mathwig

December 17, 2020

As a professional working at a sister Wisconsin Technical College, I grew to know Barb with admiration and respect. What she did on behalf of so many others during the course of her career is priceless.

Peggy McCollum

December 17, 2020

She was almost 4 years younger than I am. We used to play with our dolls in the spirhea bushes in front of our house in Worthington. She was really good at math and I wasn’t. I was very jealous. I will miss her desperately.

Linda Lazic

December 17, 2020

Barb and I were colleagues at Fox Valley Technical College and my memories of her include her dedication to helping our students to achieve their career goals. Barb was a determined advocate for the people we served.

My condolences to her family and friends.

Ellen Krueger

December 17, 2020

I met Barb in early 1974 after moving to Appleton and joining AAUW. I worked alongside her in various capacities in the community & quickly saw the dedication, determination, enthusiasm, and hard work ethic she poured into everything in which she was involved. We were FVTC colleagues for many years, and her impact on and concern for helping students is well-remembered.
For many years, John and Barb lived
close to my home, and I purposely included their street on my walks, hoping to find Barb outside where we would enjoy a lively
conversation and many laughs!
“Some people come into this world and touch our lives in such a way that we are never ever the same.”
Rest in sweet peace, treasured friend, your work here on earth may be finished, but I know there is much more ahead for you! ❤

Dorothea Edgington

December 17, 2020

A wonderful friend since we met at South Dakota State in 1956. I will sorely miss our almost daily email chats. Barb was a wonderful lady!

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