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Kodye Fassbender Obituary
Kodye Michael Fassbender, age 16 of Grand Chute, passed away on Sunday, May 7, 2017 as a result of suicide. Our home is now void of Kodye's smiling face and quick witted personality. The world is now a bit dimmer. Kodye will forever be remembered for his avid love of the outdoors, his passion for Wounded Warriors and Mission 22 organizations and his willingness to always help a friend or a fellow classmate. Kodye had quite an impact on all those who knew him. He was a proud American and respected our country with a zeal not found in most teenagers.
We hope Kodye's death can be a catalyst for more open conversations around mental health and suicide awareness. If you or someone you know is struggling right now with mental health issues, please text HOPELINE to 741741.
Kodye was born on December 10, 2000 in Appleton, Wisconsin. He was currently a sophomore at Appleton North High School. He is survived by: his parents, Mike and Lisa Fassbender and his sister Nycole Fassbender, grandparents; Ruth Heenan, Larry Fassbender and Margene Fassbender, aunts, uncles and cousins; Michelle and Brian Niemuth, Scott and Daureen Heenan and their children Trent and Chelsey, Terry and Mary Heenan and their children, Tanner (Jen) Kleist, Madelyn, Kolton and Danielle Heenan, Tammy and Joe Nennig and their children Joe, Jr., Amanda (Jesse) Young, Andrew (Amanda) Nennig and Lacye Jo (Adam) Althaus, Randy Heenan and his children Justin and Brooke Heenan, Shelby (fiancé Shane Van Straten ) Draheim.
Kodye is further survived by special friends Larry Marmes, Brian and Leah Desens and their children Jack, Sam and Emma.
He is also survived by many other extended family members and some really great friends.
Kodye was preceded in death by his beloved G-Pa Tom Heenan, uncles; Tony and Daniel Heenan, great-grandparents; Ervin and Lavaughn (Oatman) Anderson, James and Mildren Heenan, Elmer Fassbender, Kenneth and Margaret Surprise, great uncles, Larry Griesbach, Tom Fassbender and Rick Trittin, great aunts, Ruth Flannery and Carol Fassbender.
Visitation for Kodye will be on Thursday, May 11, 2017 from 4:00pm to 8:00pm at Wichmann Funeral Homes, Superior Street location and on Friday, May 12, 2017 from 3:00pm to 4:00pm at The Mission Church, 314 N. Appleton Street in Appleton. Funeral Services for Kodye will be on Friday, May 12, 2017 at 4:00pm at The Mission Church with Rev. Dan Hintz officiating. For more information and to express condolences, please visit www.wichmannfuneralhomes.com.
In lieu of flowers, a memorial scholarship is being established at Appleton North High School to aid an upcoming graduate to pursue a career in the mental health field.
Memorials may also be given in Kodye's name to the Mission 22 Project or the Wounded Warrior Project.
The family wishes to thank the Grand Chute Police Department, Marquette University Police Department, the Mission Church and the Victim Crisis Responders, Jennifer and Carolyn for their support in our immediate time of need.
Mike, Lisa and Nycole also wish to thank all of their family and friends for their unwavering support during this especially difficult period of life.
"It's been a long day, without you my friend. And I'll tell you all about it when I see you again."
Kodye-
We hope and pray you've found the peace you sought. Part of our hearts went to heaven with you. The remaining parts we'll hold and remember you all our days. We'll always be proud to be called your mom, dad and sister. Until we meet again, our love for you is unending.
Love you. Mom, Dad and Nycole.
Kodye,
I am so heartbroken over losing you-you were my bud. Make sure G-Pa does the McDonald's runs til I see you again.
Love and miss you. G'Ma Heenan.
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Michelle & Paul Loebbaka
May 15, 2017
We are sad for your loss and although we can't possibly know what you are going through. We can imagine it, because we are parents too. Thank you for not being afraid to talk about suicide and mental health. You are doing a world of good by putting a face to it.
Have faith and be comforted knowing your souls will meet again.
Allissa Wyman
May 14, 2017
I'm so very sorry for your loss. I did not know Kodye very well but a friend of mine worked with him and I had talked to him a couple of times at school. He seemed like such a sweet kid. His passing has taken its toll on me and many others. I lost a friend earlier this year to suicide and I don't want to lose anyone else. I wish I had gotten to know him better. He will be missed but everyone who new him. I pray that he is safe in Gods arms and looks down on you with a smile on his face.
Lance Huntington
May 12, 2017
Lisa, I am so sorry for your loss. I cannot begin to imagine how hard this must be for you and your family. I can only hope that your grief subsides leaving the loving memories of Kodye that you and your family will always share.
Connie Braun
May 12, 2017
Nycole, I am sorry to hear of the loss of your brother. My prayers and thoughts are with you.
Karen
May 12, 2017
My thoughts and prayers go out to you. I didn't know Kodye but I feel the pain you're going through. We lost our daughter to suicide 8 years ago. It feels like it was yesterday. Don't ever blame yourselves. Taking his life is what he wanted. There'll always be the question WHY ?? Treasure the happy memories of him. He'll be in your hearts forever! You'll feel his presence every day. Be there for each other. Cry as you must, let the tears fall. Most of all, hold each other closer. God be with you through your painful journey.
Ruth Peterson
May 11, 2017
Thinking of your family.
Kim
May 11, 2017
We have a child at Appleton North and heard of your very sad loss. Our hearts break for you. Your are in our thoughts and prayers. Knowing that Kodye is in all his glory with God, hopefully in time, can give you comfort and peace.
Todd
May 11, 2017
I'm so very, very sorry to hear of your loss. My family has been touched by suicide as well. You will be in my prayers, God bless.
Randy & Sarah Van Camp, Amanda & Allison
May 11, 2017
Mike, Lisa and Nycole, We are so very sorry for your loss. Allison lost a very close friend a year ago to suicide and we know the anguish felt by her and his friends and family. May God be with you during this difficult journey. Know we are all with you in prayer.
Alaina Boncher
May 11, 2017
I'm so very sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time. I lost multiple uncles to suicide and wish there was more help available. Just know now that he's at peace and he's no longer battling with himself. Now he can watch over you and keep you safe until you meet again.
Jean
May 11, 2017
God bless this family. Wrap your loving arms around them and give them comfort and peace that only You can give. My dear Lord hear these cries from so many who have been touched by suicide thought, act, deed directly themselves, or in family, friends, neighbors, and classmates. Please Jesus help them to hear of Your Goodness and Hope. Fill them with Your Love that can penetrate the deepest and darkest sadness and pain and cast Your Light there. Clear their minds and hearts of despair and hopelessness. Guide those who encounter us to minister, counsel, and support during difficult times. My Dear Lord, thank you for everything we have been given. Let us celebrate the life of Kodye and take comfort knowing he is in paradise with You now and eternally. In Jesus name I pray.
Janet Lawrence
May 11, 2017
What a moving testament of Kodye's heart. Many suffering from depression and mental health issues will be helped by those seeking support in part by education and the families desire to spread awareness. My prayers for each family member and friend who loved Kodye. May God comfort you in your time of loss until reunited again.
Marian Look(Mrs. Look gr. 5)
May 11, 2017
Your former St. Edward family is keeping you in our thoughts and prayers this week. We are praying for your family at Morning Prayer each day. God's peace be with you all.
Deb Fick
May 11, 2017
I am so sorry for your loss . We lost our son 1 1/2 years ago. He died at 22 from heart disease . I pray for some peace for your family . God Bless
Debbie
May 11, 2017
So sorry for your loss. God bless. I can't even imagine how heart broken you all must be. Prayers
Bill Polce
May 10, 2017
I am very saddened to hear of Kodye's passing. I knew him for a short time during his 8th grade Einstein Eagle Football Season. I was one of 4 coaches that was impressed with Kodye the very first day of summer practice and every day thereafter. He was selfless, hardworking and a great teammate. He was so sincere and we always looked forward to interacting with him. Kodye will be missed and I am extremely sad for your loss and everyone who knew him. You are in our prayers...B Polce
Concerned mother
May 11, 2017
Don't know you but any suicide or attempt is near and dear to my heart. So sorry for your loss stay strong. Surviving from sons attempt and we struggle daily
Jo
May 11, 2017
I am truly sorry for you loss. May God grace you memories of you beloved family member Kodye. May God wrap is arms around him to give him comfort. My sincere wishes to your family in this time.God bless and keep your family strong!
S. S.
May 10, 2017
To loose a child under any condition is not easy, the days, months & years ahead too, will be difficult; ( we lost our child to a 4 month bout with cancer at the age of 31; she left behind her 4 month old child). I will have your family in our prayers & I thank you for the nice obituary of your son, Kodye--- let his memories live on forever & pray for strength-- we don't know you personally but will be thinking of you all.
Holly Lambrecht
May 11, 2017
My sincerest condolences to all of this young man's friends and family. This is just heartbreaking.
Jamie Derga
May 10, 2017
Thank you for supporting Mission 22 and for sharing such poignant heartfelt advice.
Amy Simon
May 10, 2017
I don't know the family, but I was sent this message by a very dear friend. My absolute condolences. What you wrote about Kodye is beautiful, and it takes a strong family to reach out to those who have mental health issues; there are more people than we will ever know.
My prayers go out to the family. One day you will all be together again.
Peace.
Love, Tom & Connie Ryan
May 10, 2017
Mike, Lisa, & Nycole, Our thoughts & prayers are with you in the loss of Kodye here on this earth. We can't even begin to imagine the suffering you are going through. May God hold you in His hands & carry you through with His blessings.
Betty jo Balzar
May 10, 2017
Leaving a prayer for peace for your family in this time, and the future as you move forward. Hold tight to each other and move forward as a family. I do not know you, and yet I sense your love for this child of yours. Thank you for calling it out as a suicide, we need to have more conversations to help our children through these times. Blessings sent your way.
Samantha ehm Scheibe
May 10, 2017
Kodye I'll miss you! Say hi and give gpa and Tony hugs for me! We love you!
Cindy Reffke
May 10, 2017
My heart goes out to you and your family, I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Thank you for your beautiful message to all. We offer a support group to help with your journey, you are not alone. Hugs to you.
Cindy Reffke
May 10, 2017
I am so sorry for your loss. I will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers. May you find peace in God's loving arms. Thank you for the beautiful and heartfelt message of Kodye's life and sharing where others might find help if needed.
The Gall Family
May 10, 2017
We are so sorry for your loss. Sending thoughts and prayers to all.
Lynda Washkoviak
May 10, 2017
As a former school counselor, I want to thank you for your willingness to share your grief and Kodye's pain. I believe your openness can encourage others struggling with similar pain to realize help is available, and that it is a good thing to ask for it. While I don't know you or your son, he sounds like a wonderful young man who will be greatly missed. I sorrow with you in his loss.
Linda
May 10, 2017
My MOST SINCERE sympathy! I didn't know you - or your family - but I lost my 14 year old nephew about 7 months ago. I know your pain. May the happy memories you have help you through this extremely difficult time!
Lisa Dorschner
May 10, 2017
Unfortunately I have never had the pleasure of meeting this young man, but it breaks my heart to see such young people in such despair. Kodye and I did have one thing in common and that was we share a passion for wounded warriors. I am making a donation to Wounded Warriors on his behalf. The obituary was beautifully written. God bless you all!
Deborah Collins
May 10, 2017
My heart is breaking for you at this time of sorrow. Please accept my deepest sympathy for this great loss to the entire Fassbender family.
May 10, 2017
Many parents are thanking God for your ability to share this very personal story. Our culture has changed greatly with social media and the world (cell phones) in our children's hands. I pray for God's peace and strength with your family.
Britney
May 10, 2017
I do you not know you or your loved one, but I am so so sorry for your loss. I commend you for being open about his death. I lost a friend to suicide 16 years ago. We need more awareness, especially for those struggling that contemplate suicide to see the other side past the depression. The pain in your heart will never go away, but you will learn to live with it and embrace the happy memories you hold.
L. W.
May 10, 2017
Thank you for your openness and honesty regarding your son's death. Suicide is so difficult and when I lost my son, I found people afraid to talk to me for fear they would say or do the "wrong" thing. My prayers are with you and your family.
Laurie
May 10, 2017
Deepest sympathy to you all for your devastating loss. A sincere thank you for sharing your story. As a retired death investigator of 20+ years suicide calls were the most difficult of any. Sending prayers to you.
Bob W.
May 10, 2017
My condolences. I will hang this on the Cross. My Father in heaven can deal with this much better than I.
Laura Horne
May 10, 2017
Prayers for Nycole and the Fassbender family. This is a beautiful tribute to Kodye. Love to you all.
Todd& Diane
May 10, 2017
Condolences
Justin Hemauer
May 10, 2017
Thoughts and prayers to the Fassbenders. Kodye was a great student and a great friend who'll be missed by countless.
Cheryl Watson
May 10, 2017
You honor Kodye's memory with your profound honesty concerning his death. Many of us have suffered through suicide in our families. You will get through this. Hours, days, weeks or years from now, when you read this, feel free to message me. We can go for coffee and talk. I will share your loss and your unspeakable sorrow. You are not alone. REMEMBER TO BREATHE.
Jan Trittin Smits
May 10, 2017
Our thoughts and prayers are with you! May God give you the strength to get through this very difficult time! Keep the wonderful memories that you have of Kodye at the fore-front. You will find comfort in all of these special memories!
Gma D.
May 10, 2017
So sorry for your loss...you have my sympathy in this time of need. I did not know your son but my great granddaughter did, she is at North High also. He sure was a wonderful young man. He is your angel now...God bless you all.
Anne B.
May 10, 2017
Many thoughts and prayers..Kodye will live forever in your minds and hearts.
Clare and Lou Miller
May 10, 2017
Do not personally know you but my prayers are with you for comfort and peace. Thank you for bringing this very painful message about suicide awareness because it could happen to any family at any time.
Bob Bohr
May 10, 2017
Condolences goes out to the extended families. Kodye, you will be missed
Evie Kettner
May 10, 2017
My prayers are most certainly going out for Kodye's entire family and friends. Mike, Lisa& Nycole I. have thought of you many times over the lost years we've had. I remember when Kodye was brought into Mr & Mrs K's.I am so very sorry for another tragic loss in your life. Never forgot you. Love Mrs K.
Sandra Hawley
May 10, 2017
I did not know Kodye, but my heart goes out to the entire family. I am Carol Hawley's (Tom Fassbender) sister.
Dawn & Mitch Bessette
May 10, 2017
There are no words that can fill the void. Just know that we send our most heartfelt condolences and hope you can celebrate Kodye's life through your memories every day.
Shelley Duphay
May 9, 2017
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Julie Winkler
May 9, 2017
I am so sorry that you have lost your son as we have lost our Erika just after Christmas. I can hardly breath knowing the hurt. Please know that I am sending hugs to your family. I believe that this world is getting to cruel for some of the best to be in. Please reach out to me if needed. Julie Winkler(mom of another senseless teen suicide of North High)
Kimberly
May 10, 2017
Kodye you are soaring with Angel's, prayers for your family , friends and people you have left here on Earth. God.be with you in your time of sorrow.
Kristi Kempen
May 10, 2017
We are so saddened by the news of Kodye's passing. These times are so difficult for the loved ones left behind. The "why", and "what if's" are so incredibly hard to process. Please know our love, thoughts, and prayers are with all of you. Love Leo & Kristi Kempen
Kari Niemann-Fuss
May 10, 2017
I'm so sorry to hear about Kodye. I cannot say I understand how you feel. I can say that I am the parent of 2 teenagers who struggle with depression. They have both been suicidal, and both have made attempts. Mental illness/depression runs in our family. I often feel guilty that I have passed this on to my children. I know what it's like to "wear" the fear of losing a child. I carry it with me always. Wondering, always wondering. I'm so sorry you had to find out what it is like to lose a child. I wish you peace
Ted and Diane
May 10, 2017
You have our deepest sympathies. Sending love and prayers!!
Troy
May 10, 2017
So very sorry for your loss! Your honesty will hopefully help many although it won't take away the pain you are feeling,I hope knowing that many people are holding you in their thoughts and prayers will somehow bring even the slightest bit of comfort.
K. Stevens
May 10, 2017
I did not know Kodye or family, but saw his obituary on facebook via a friend. I was very touched by your choice to be honest and forthcoming with the reason for his death. I volunteer for NAMI and had a daughter that twice attempted suicide. The world is so difficult for some of our kids. I am so sorry for what you are going through, and thank you for your being open. This will hopefully bring more attention to the issue. People need to know the prevelence of suicide; how real the threat and the continual need for services addressed to getting kids to share their pain and accept help. I am so so sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you and your family.
Jodi Clifford
May 9, 2017
Lisa, I'm SO sorry for your loss... my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time.
Brigette Murphy
May 9, 2017
I do not know Kodye or his family, however, I do know the pain and hurt you are all experiencing. I am so sorry and please accept my deepest condolences. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.
Aryssa Wright
May 9, 2017
I did not personally know him but I passed him and he seemed like an amazing person I'm sorry for your loss I remember this one day me being a bubbly person i am i said hi to random people and he was one of the only people who said hi back
Eric Dupland
May 9, 2017
We are so very sorry for your loss, my son Zachary was a very good friend of kodye, he had nothing but good thing to say about your son. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family in this difficult time.
Susan
May 10, 2017
Prayers and Love to your family at this time ...our family went through the same type of loss 6 years ago..they are not here, but never forgotten..Take Care of each other...God has Kodye in his arms now...
Dawn tuchscherer
May 10, 2017
My heart goes out to you all.words can not express my sorrow for you.hold each other a little closer.you two are very strong,you will manage to get through this somehow,one day at a time.our prayers are with you
mary
May 10, 2017
So, so sorry for your loss. I did not know Kodye, but lost my daughter in 2000 to suicide. She was 14. I do know your loss. look to your inner self, your relatives that have passed & what ever spiritual entity you need to go forward. Blessings to the family
Dr Ann Jones
May 9, 2017
I am so incredibly sorry for your family's loss in Kodye's death. Please know you are my thoughts and prayers.
Stacey Otten-Wyngaard
May 10, 2017
I am truly sorry for you and your family in the loss of your son. My heart pours out to you and your family in this time of soorow.
Donald & Vicky Gagne'
May 9, 2017
We were so very sorry to hear of Kodye's passing-please know you all are in our prayers. May God watch over all of you especially at this time.
Lisa Srenaski
May 9, 2017
I am so sorry for your loss. Kodye was much to young to leave this earth. I can't even imagine the pain this is causing for those close to him. I want to thank you, Mike and Lisa, for being open about Kodye's suicide. Too many families aren't and try to keep mental illness private. Thank you for helping ro raise awareness. May you find some peace and comfort in knowing that your openness may help someone else receive help. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your entire family.
Lynn Chernich (Fiestedt)
May 9, 2017
My heart aches for you all, so incredibly sorry for your loss. Many prayers being sent during this most difficult time. May you find peace and comfort in your memories
Cindy Buelow
May 9, 2017
Prayers to family and friends that knew Kodye. May God comfort you during the days ahead. I am truly sorry for your loss.
Amy Kierzek
May 9, 2017
My deepest sympathy on your loss of Kodye. He was a good friend to my son, who often would talk about their conversations - hockey, racing, politics, fishing. They had a lot in common and Bryan really thought highly of Kodye. He will be sadly missed and always remembered. I will keep all who loved him in my thoughts and prayers.
Sue Kozlovsky
May 9, 2017
I nm so very sorry for your loss. Praying for you and your family. I can't image the question and sadnessyou are all going through. So very sorry.
Cara Havey
May 9, 2017
Kodye will always be my little bestie. During the time I knew him, he was like a little brother to me. He was a very sweet kid and will be missed.
Ethan Thao
May 9, 2017
I am very sorry for your loss. My prayers are with the Fassbender family. Kodye was a very good friend. Always giving us something to laugh and smile about.
Nancy Jimenez
May 9, 2017
So very sorry for your loss. Our prayers are with you.
Tony Martin
May 9, 2017
Oh Fassbenders. So very sorry for your loss. Sending hugs and well wishes during this painful time. Kodye was always such a pleasure to work with that year we were together. I felt lucky to stay in touch with him the years after that too with his hunting stories.
Wishing You All the Strength in the World.
Tony
Paula Nelson
May 8, 2017
My full heart goes out to you, Lisa and family. I can't imagine the pain you're going through. God's blessings to you all and know I'm praying for your comfort and peace.
Denise
May 8, 2017
I am so very sorry for your loss. I can't imagine the questions and sadness you are all going through. May all the people that love you help to guide you through somewhat dealing with all the heavy-hearted times ahead. So very sorry.
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