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Martha A. Thornley

1931 - 2021

Martha A. Thornley obituary, 1931-2021, Wappingers Falls, NY

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Martha Thornley Obituary

Martha A. Thornley

Wappingers Falls - Martha A. (McGill) Gutowski Thornley passed away peacefully at her home in Wappingers Falls, NY, surrounded by her family, on July 7, 2021. She was 90 years old.

Martha was born in New York City in 1931 to Charles J. and Colette (Powers) McGill, but was raised in Fairfield, CT, together with her older brother John P. McGill. Her father ended his long career in journalism as the editor-in-chief of The Bridgeport Post.

Martha graduated from Lauralton Hall in Milford, CT, and received her BA in English from Trinity College in Washington, DC, in June 1953. The following September she married Joseph L. Gutowski whom she met during their college years when he was a student at Georgetown University (class of 1953). They settled in Wappingers Falls where they raised six children, Paul, John (Linda), Ann, Mary Schlitzer (Fred), Carl (Zinnia) and Robert (Lilia), who in turn gave her seven grandchildren and three great-grandchildren. Her loving and devoted husband Joseph predeceased her in 1993 as did her beloved son Paul in 1985, and beloved daughter-in-law Helen Ke in 1994.

In 2004 Martha married James T. Thornley, father of Kevin Thornley (Laura) and Kimberly Kane (Dale), and grandfather to four, who survives her at home.

As her children were leaving the nest, Martha returned to school and received an MSW from Adelphi University in 1981 followed by a rewarding career in social work at Vassar Brothers Hospital, retiring in 1993.

Martha made a Cursillo weekend retreat in 1966 and was very active in the movement throughout her life. She was also involved in Marriage Encounter and Tres Dias.

As a member of Christ Episcopal Church, Poughkeepsie, NY, for 20 years, Martha taught Sunday school and was a lector and Eucharistic Minister. She was one of the early founders of the overnight homeless shelter which opened its first five beds in the Christ Church parish house.

Martha also volunteered at the Beacon Correctional Facility for Women for 16 years working with the Kairos Prison Ministry program.

She was active in the early days of the AIDS epidemic working with "Bread for the Journey" to organize all churches to provide meals for those in need. At the time there were very few services and a great deal of fear.

She felt her life was blessed by faith, family and friends, and she was grateful for all of it. Her life was lived caring for those less fortunate.

The family would like to thank Hudson Valley Hospice, in particular Julie Eads Wooley and Tonya Jones, and Dr. and Mrs. Edward Schneider and staff for their compassionate care.

Calling hours will be held from 4:00 to 8:00 PM on Friday, July 16, 2021, at the Straub, Catalano, & Halvey Funeral Home, 55 E. Main St, Wappingers Falls, NY.

A Service of Christian Burial will be celebrated at 11:00 AM on Saturday July 17, 2021, at Christ Episcopal Church, 20 Carroll Street, Poughkeepsie, NY.

In lieu of flowers, the family welcomes donations to Hudson Valley Hospice (https://www.hvhospice.org/), Kairos Prison Ministry (https://www.kairosprisonministry.org/) and Dutchess Outreach (https://dutchessoutreach.org/).

To plant trees in memory, please visit the Sympathy Store.

Published by Poughkeepsie Journal from Jul. 10 to Jul. 14, 2021.

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LTC. Andrew B. Kelly (plsc)

July 4, 2025

We will always cherish the memory of Martha dancing with joy at Lilia and Rob´s wedding in Belize-a moment that perfectly captured her generous spirit and ability to unite us all in celebration. Her faith, kindness, and unwavering commitment to others continue to inspire our own work and fellowship here in Central Belize.
LTC. Andrew B. Kelly (plsc) & Family
Belize
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Frances Maddalone

July 4, 2024

Martha was a delightful woman of faith. Her soft voice called you to listen to her. If you knew her, you had to love her. She has been dearly missed.

SHONNIE M. FINNEGAN

July 16, 2021

I am grieving the loss of my dear College friend Martha, but counting my blessings for having had the gift of the love and friendship of such an amazing, kind, generous, and truly holy soul all these years. She was so much fun to be with too! My condolences to Jim and all the family. She always spoke so fondly of her children, their spouses and children, and her many friends in Poughkeepsie. Bless you, dear Martha. It isn't often that someone like you comes along.

Genie (Wienberg) Keating

July 16, 2021

John and Linda - my deepest sympathy at this difficult time. Martha was one of a kind, and one of the kindest people I ever met. May her memory bring you comfort in the days ahead. Genie

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Susanne Cuatt

July 15, 2021

Both your mom and dad were such supportive and loving friends to my parents. My thoughts are with you.

Yvette Holland

July 14, 2021

My deepest condolences to the grieving family. Ms. Martha was kind, sweet, and warmhearted. I was blessed to enjoy her hospitality in her lovely home. My favorite memory of her is the image of her laughing and dancing at Lilia and Rob's wedding in Belize. What a wonderful woman! May her soul rest in peace and rise in glory.

Andrew Delano, CarolAnn Hawkins, Trinity Delano, and Shane Delano

July 14, 2021

And in the Mystery to be, when time from time shall set us free, forgetting me, remember me.
- e.e. cummings

George & Margaret Gatzonis

July 14, 2021

Dear Carl and family

We send our deepest condolences at this difficult time our good thoughts and prayers are with you always.
May your beautiful mother rest in peace and may her memory be eternal xoxox

Mark and Joy Rodgers

July 14, 2021

Our condolences to the McGill, Gutowski and Thornley families. God Bless Y'all. We were sad to hear the news, but happy in the knowledge that Martha was with The Lord, in a better place. She was a sweet soul and a wonderful Aunt. Our only regret was the physical miles between us prevented our seeing more of her. Love and prayers to all.

Lilia Gutowski ( Daughter in Law)

July 14, 2021

Mom exemplifies "Greatness." Mom was extraordinarily exceptional in everything she said and did for me and her Family. Mom promised my country Belize on my wedding day that she will take care of me when I migrated to New York 26 years ago! Mom lived a life of being God´s hands and feet. I will miss her forever. I am grateful for her love and kindness through the years and I feel blessed and humbled having been a part of the fabric of her beautiful life. May your Soul Mom, Rest In Peace and rise in glory. I love you!

Laura Delano and Bob Celli

July 13, 2021

Martha was such a bright light spirit in this world...she will be so missed by so many. We always treasured the times we had with her at my Uncle John's family parties. She did so much good in the world and also raised a family of wonderful human beings. Bob and I and all the Delanos send our love and deepest condolences to all the family and loved ones.
Love forever.
Here is a photo from the last McGill/Gutowski gatherings at Mallard Drive, July 14th, (Bastille Day) 2018.

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Joan andHelmut

July 12, 2021

Rest In Peace, dear friend

Jamila

July 12, 2021

My sincere condolences to the entire family. Praying for you all during this difficult time. You will be missed phenomenal woman. May Ms. Martha soul RIP and rise in sweet glory.

Jay & Monica Flores

July 12, 2021

Martha was phenomenal person, shared a lasting beautiful and contagious smile. Thanks Martha for sharing-May she Rest In Peace. Our Prayerful Heartfelt Condolences for the Family.
Jay, Monica, Jamila and family.

Lucine M Schiller

July 11, 2021

"De Colores" is the joyous greeting Martha will hear as she enters her heavenly home! Her gentle manor, constant smile, attentive listening, words of wisdom, presence to those in need, her deep faith - all make her a role model for all. May angels go before her!

Paula Boccia

July 11, 2021

My dear Martha, you will always live in my heart as a wonderful role model and example of a true Christian woman. Your kindness and love for all was so obvious and you will be very missed! You lived all of the beatitudes so there´s no doubt in any of our hearts that the kingdom of heaven is yours. Love you beyond words my dear friend!

Frances Maddalone

July 11, 2021

Your mom was a lovely woman. I instantly saw her inner beauty. She is dancing in heaven with the rest of your loved ones who have gone before her. My deepest sympathy and prayers for all of you

Sister Dolores Liptak RSM

July 11, 2021

Martha was my closest high school classmate (Lauralton Hall, Milford, CT) and my dearest life-long friend. I was her maid of honor for her marriage to Joseph Gutowski. How blessed I felt.

Martha's greatest gift to me (and to others) was her thorough sense of goodness and caring in everything she did. A brilliant woman, she sought truth and love and lived it. She also defended it when necessary--but always in her remarkable gentle way. She was a beautiful woman to the very end.

To me, she particularly shared her hopes, dreams, and loyalty to the God she loved totally. She was well aware of all her blessings, especially her children and grandchildren. How she loved them! I am sure she lived her entire life like she lived her years with me when, for example, several times during our high school years, she made sure I knew that she could see the desire I also had to be the close friend of God's. She would act on that reality--even in remarkably public ways-- and especially when she wanted others to realize her love for the good she saw in them.

Although I was not part of her life after her marriage (and after I entered religious life), we stayed close in spirit. In Martha, I always felt I had a treasure. I knew I had been blessed by her firm friendship. I thank God for the gift He gave me in Martha.

Marian Wilkinson

July 11, 2021

May she rest in peace and may family find comfort in God the Savior during this time.

Dar, Rosa, Raisa, William, Jaylen Locario in Belize

July 11, 2021

Our Sincerest Condolences on the passing of your mother. She was an exceptional being and she will be missed by many.Sending hugs and Prayers your way. May her beautiful soul Rest in Peace.

Luke and Dativa Martinez and family.

July 11, 2021

Just knowing her and having shared meals with her and visiting her home will leave us with fond memories. May her soul rest in peace.
May her children and grandchildren find comfort in knowing that she lived a life of kindness.

Dana , Andrew, Kayla and Kdan Kelly in Belize

July 11, 2021

Deepest condolences to the family. We might not b there physically but our hearts and prayers goes out to you at this time. May her soul rest in peace and Rise in Glory.

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