Thomas A. DePersis

Thomas DePersis Obituary

Thomas A. DePersis
of Binghamton
Funeral Services for Thomas A. DePersis will be held Tuesday, 9 a.m. at the Sedlock Funeral Home, Inc., 161 Clinton St, and 9:30 a.m. at St. Cyril's Church, where a Funeral Mass will be offered for him. Burial will be in Calvary Cemetery with full Military Honors.

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Published by Press & Sun-Bulletin on Jul. 22, 2008.

Memories and Condolences
for Thomas DePersis

13 Entries

Jim DePersis

July 13, 2023

I miss you. Have a Gin and Tonic waiting for me when I get there.

Cindy Moyster

July 23, 2008

Tomas, You will be deeply missed by all whose lives you have touched. as you always said once a friend always a friend. and I am so glad that we kept in contact with one another through out the years, To the DePersis family my prays are with you at this time \. Cindy

Tony Allegrino

July 23, 2008

What can I say about you Tommy, you were a great friend to me and father over the years! I will never forget all the good times and laughs we all spent together..wish I could have made it up!! You will be greatly missed, love ya man!!

Elaine Randazzo

July 23, 2008

For those of you that could not attend the funeral yesterday, below are the words that I spoke of my uncle....

My grandmother asked me to say a few words about my uncle. I told her that there was no way I was going to be able to speak today and then I got the look that told me I would be doing exactly that and standing here speaking. Now any of you that know my grandmother know what I am talking about and that somehow you don’t quite say no to her. My uncle used to tell me that she was relentless and could get you to do anything and by the end of it you would think it was your idea in the first place so you might as well just do it in the beginning and save your energy.

So I was given the challenge of finding some words that could possibly sum Tom up in 3-5 minutes. Now I think any of you here today would agree that it would take quite a bit longer than that if not a lifetime in itself.

What I found came to mind when I thought about what to say were memories that he shared with me about some of you…..how my grandmother always took care of anything he asked her for even with the last iron of his shirt for him today ….how he was only one week old when his sister stood at the top of a staircase with him in her arms ready to show visitors her new brother since everyone seemed to be coming over to see him and she might as well make it easier for them or a memory of her throwing a tv tray at him only to find it bounced back to her and landed her in the hospital with stitches cut open in the midst of winter in an emergency room full of ski injuries only for her to have to announce her injury was from trying to hit her brother…...but he always knew to call Theresa before his father Gino when trouble lurked especially when out with the Black Sheep Squadron Cousin Jimmy…..

How he could drink countless pots of coffee with Sammy talking through a rough time and how Sammy’s choice of a football team could only be chalked up to insanity …..I found it impossible to single out just one memory I have heard about him and Kevin let alone repeat any of them in a church, but I will say the memories are countless, the love was great, and I would only be so lucky to have a friend that could bring a smile to my face with each story told as he did when telling of me of their times...

How Debbie’s flower pots on the deck were looking nice recently although he always did say he was the better cook and how your and Chrissy’s Christmas tree and lights weren’t so bad after all, but Debbie exactly how could you leave him no speedies on the grill after the golf tournament last year….please be sure to enjoy his pool in this heat as he wouldn’t have wanted it any other way….

How he could always count on Butch stopping by when in Binghamton to talk and have a drink…

Dante, well I think just about every one of us here today could tell you a memory he told of you...you truly are your father’s son….as he always said…love you Boomer…..

How when exactly Joe was going to get new golf clubs so your callaways find their new home in the back of his jeep or all the texts sent between you two forcing me to get unlimited messaging on your cell phone. The memory of him building towers with my daughter Gabriella explaining to her that you got to have a strong foundation before you can build upward and just the other day received a Jets sweatsuit from him for my 8 week old Sophia.

Now I come to a memory of my own of him and all that comes to mind is what I have learned from him. I learned that life is short. To forgive is the greatest gift you can give a person. To stop taking everything so darn serious and just enjoy life sometimes. Always do what you have to do and don’t worry about what everyone else will think. That family means the world – it is an unconditional love that will always be there in your darkest days no matter what. Friendship is either all or nothing – you don’t do it half way or some of the times. He would do anything and would always be there for someone he loved – it is just that simple.

So I think we sit here left behind with emptiness, but one that my uncle would certainly want us to fill with happy memories, parties, and a lot of good times in his name to always be carried in our hearts. He enjoyed living, - he was an extremist at absolutely everything he did and lived life whether bad or good to the fullest and always loved having people over so I cannot think of anyway to honor him than doing that exact same thing each and every day going forward..

Sally & Jim O'Malley

July 21, 2008

Tommy was a spirited person. He had a special gift about him that made everyone feel welcomed and loved. We were truely lucky to be apart of his circle her on earth. Till we met again big guy...... may your cup overflow........ Much sympathy to the family. Our thought and prayers are with you. Tommy will be greatly missed. The world has lost a precious gift. Love ya Tommy!

Tony Williams

July 20, 2008

The DePersis Family,I am so sorry to hear of Tom,s passing.I met Tom back in the 80,s when he worked for the Town of Dickinson with my father.We later became better friends as we got to know each other.I will remember Tom for the good man he was and how he enjoyed his family, friends and life.May He Rest In Peace.

debbie huddle

July 20, 2008

Dorothy and Theresa, I have known your family for 33 years. Tom was unique!! He tried to act tough but had this gentle side that few people saw. Family and friendship were important to him. Once you were his friend, you were always his friend. Through out the years, I could call him at any time and he would be there;something I always cherished.
The last time I talked to Tom was in April when Theresa was in the hospital. We ironically talked about death. He wanted to be at Sedlocks....didn't want anyone "kissing on" him....And he was going to be looking to see who sent the biggest flower arrangement!! (That was so Tom!) Oh, and that he wanted a big party afterward. He will be forever missed. Prayers to you all. Tom, may you rest in peace. Debbie

Peter Seidenberg

July 20, 2008

Many sympathies from Sue (Terenzi) Seidenberg and our whole family in Rochester.

Hank and Sheila Runyon

July 20, 2008

Dorothy & Theresa:

Sorry to hear of the passing of your son and brother. Please know that our prayers are with you at this most difficult time.

Hank and Sheila Runyon

Adele Belfiglio

July 19, 2008

To the DePersis family, my thoughts and prayers are with you all in this difficult time, Tom will be missed by all who knew him, Tom will always have a special place in my heart, I'm glad I had the pleasure of knowing Tom and his family, I will miss his charm and beautiful smile.

Patricia DePersis

July 19, 2008

Good-Bye Tomas'

donna raley

July 19, 2008

To the family, My heartfelt sympathy's to all of you.Thomas will alway's hold a special place in my heart. Love, Donna

James DePersis

July 19, 2008

I will always remember the basket bottle ceiling in the bar room of his house and how it was created. Always remember, the Black Sheep Squadron rules.

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