Thomas Allen McCarthy M.D.

Thomas McCarthy Obituary

March 1, 1948 - October 28, 2008. He was a beloved pastor to family, friends, people of Hope Chapel, patients, and strangers. "He allowed us to feast on the fruit of the spirit." Galatians 5:22 "Thank you Pops for creating the man I am today. I pray I can become half the man you were." Jordan McCarthy. "In all that he did for others, he made us boys feel loved and cared for. Thank you for showing us how to be a great father. We love you." Kelly McCarthy. "Altruism and selflessness marked his life as he put Christ first. His life is an example and beacon of hope for us in this dying world; that there is something better beyond. I am convinced his ambition in life was to show us this; in his quiet confidence he accomplished just what he intended." Corey McCarthy. Memorial Services will be held at the Wells Fargo Center, in Santa Rosa, Friday, November 7th, at 2:00 p.m.

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Published by Press Democrat from Nov. 2 to Nov. 7, 2008.

Memories and Condolences
for Thomas McCarthy

10 Entries

Mickey Hoffman

November 9, 2008

God Bless Dr. McCarthy for saving my daughter's life with his insistance that she get a mammogram each year after she turned 40. For the short period of time that he was my physician, he was the kindest I have ever had and the most knowledgeable. Our sincerest condolences to his family and friends.

Michelle Larson

November 6, 2008

Dearest McCarthy Family,
Dr. Thomas McCarthy,
One man so profoundly humanitarian that he leaves us all a legacy of love and inspiration. He positively affected all who knew him. My family and I will always be blessed in having had him.
Our prayers are with you and yours in this time of HEARTFELT loss.
The Larson family.

Emie Chan

November 6, 2008

Dr McCarthy was my doctor since we moved in Rohnert Park in 1987. I started seeing him in 1988 when I started working for Red Lion. Little did I know that a former officemate at Red Lion, Bruce McCarthy was his brother. Bruce passed away years earlier. What a small world. My subsequent employers knew of Dr. McCarthy as well.

Dr McCarthy was very knowledgeable and pleasant all the time I went for my doctor's visit. I felt very comfortable and safe in his care. He calmed all my fears esp. during my pregnancy at a later age.

Our thoughts and prayers for the family and we will miss him a lot. Thank you for all the years of understanding, medical advice and care.

Heather Silveri

November 6, 2008

To Dr. McCarthy's family,
Mere words could never express the fondness and respect I had for your father and husband. What a gem. He saw me through my three pregnancies, was with us when my husband and I heard each heartbeat for the first time and having missed delivering my first two sons promised he would be there, no matter what, for the delivery of my last, precious bonus baby. I told him I had to have one more for him because he just had to be there! He delighted in our having three boys as he thought that was just great, he knew from experience.
We are so fragile in a way when we are pregnant and Dr. Mc Carthy was so kind, gentle and most importantly had a great sense of humor. Our relationship, young mother and doctor, was and is, a sacred bond. And then I found out that he was not only a Christian like myself but a pastor as well. I know our wonderful Lord had a hand in sending me to him.
Thank you for sharing your husband and father with me and so many others. I was so devasted by his passing, what a special role he had in my, my husband's and children's lives. I am encouraged by his example. A man of faith, honor and compassion...I hope he touches my three beautiful sons from Heaven with these amazing qualities.
McCarthy family, know that you were blessed to love and know a true angel among us. Our prayers of comfort to you all.
Heather, Doug, Scott, Drew and Brett Silveri

David Preskill

November 5, 2008

Friendship and respect across the years, Tom. Here's to the nights on L&D @ HGH and all the miles in between. Sandie, my sincere sympathy. The pain of loss is the proof of love...

Diane

November 4, 2008

The Lord is my Sheperd
I shall not want.
He maketh me to lie down
in green pastures: he leadeth me
beside the still waters.
He restoreth my soul: he leadeth me
in the paths of righteousness
for his name's sake.
Yea, though I walk through
the valley of the shadow of death,
I will fear no evil:
for thou art with me;
thy rod and thy staff they comfort me.
Thou preparest a table
before me in the presence
of mine enemies:
thou anointest my head with oil;
my cup runneth over.
Surely goodness and mercy
shall follow me all the days of my life:
and I will dwell
in the house of the Lord
for ever.
To the McCarthy Family. Dr. McCarthy was a wonderful man, he will be missed deeply by all that knew him, God Bless all of you.

Jim & Kim Hughes

November 4, 2008

Thank you Tom, for being there to help my two wonderful daughters find their way into this world. You were a great example to all around you. You were always there for Kim and I, you showed great care at all times. I remember the first time I was in the operating room with the first C-section. I think the nurses were ready to throw us both out. I remember the days at CMA Church and the church softball team and the great team member you were and the fellowship you provide. I remember when early in my wife?s second pregnancy and she miscarried and it turned out to be twins. At the time you felt that we might lose the second and with pray and care you let us wait, and sure enough we later had a heartbeat and a little girl who to this day is a fighter and strong willed for the Lord. I know that you are with the Lord and in his praise. You?ve run the race well (to short of a race). I hope the best for your family and may the Lord bless them during this time of loss. You will be missed by many by the lives you touched. Jim & Kim Hughes

Denise Neely Neely

November 2, 2008

To a Dear Doctor and Friend, you healed Eleanor of cancer, when she
became ill, you came to visit her in the hospital at the end of your long work day. You prayed with me, I will
never forget you. Love Denise Neely

mark and Sue Anapolsky

November 2, 2008

Our love and prayers go out to you all. Although our hearts are heavy for your loss we know that Tom is shining right now in glory and he is so very proud of you. Sincerely, Mark and Sue Anapolsky

Virgie McGrath

November 1, 2008

To my dearest family, some things I'd like to say...
but first of all, to let you know, that I arrived okay.
I'm writing this from heaven. Here I dwell with God above.
Here, there's no more tears of sadness; here is just eternal love.

Please do not be unhappy just because I'm out of sight.
Remember that I'm with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through,
God picked me up and hugged me and He said, "I welcome you."

It's good to have you back again; you were missed while you were gone.
As for your dearest family, they'll be here later on.
I need you here badly; you're part of my plan.
There's so much that we have to do, to help our mortal man.

God gave me a list of things, that he wished for me to do.
And foremost on the list, was to watch and care for you.
And when you lie in bed at night, the day's chores put to flight.
God and I are closest to you....in the middle of the night.

When you think of my life on earth, and all those loving years
because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears.
But do not be afraid to cry; it does relieve the pain.
Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.

I wish that I could tell you all that God has planned.
But if I were to tell you, you wouldn't understand.
But one thing is for certain, though my life on earth is o'er.
I'm closer to you now, than I ever was before.

There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb;
but together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
It was always my philosophy and I'd like it for you too...
that as you give unto the world, the world will give to you.

If you can help somebody who's in sorrow and pain,
then you can say to God at night......"My day was not in vain."
And now I am contented....that my life has been worthwhile,
knowing as I passed along the way, I made somebody smile.

So if you meet somebody who is sad and feeling low,
just lend a hand to pick him up, as on your way you go.
When you're walking down the street, and you've got me on your mind;
I'm walking in your footsteps only half a step behind.

And when it's time for you to go.... from that body to be free,
remember you're not going.....you're coming here to me.

Ruth Ann Mahaffey (author)
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