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Gary McIntosh Obituary

Gary McIntosh passed away Oct. 2 in Butner, N.C.

He was born on June 11, 1960.

Gary lived most of his life in Camarillo and leaves many friends.

He was preceded in death by his father, Delbert.

Gary leaves two daughters, Sara and Megan, and their mother, Diane; mother, Grace; sisters, Sandra, Carla, Karen, Marlene; brother, Garland; and many nieces and nephews.

Memorial services will be planned at a later time.

He will be missed by all.

To plant trees in memory, please visit the Sympathy Store.

Published by The Progress-Index from Oct. 3 to Oct. 6, 2007.

Memories and Condolences
for Gary McIntosh

Sponsored by Friends of Gary.

102 Entries

Deborah Phillips

October 3, 2021

Hey! its been 14 yrs since you went to join the family that went before. you now have your mom karen, carla , sandra with you.
your missed and love . I will see everyone one day and we will have an awesome party.
love you cousin.
Debbie

Farryn Melton

September 27, 2021

Happy birthday Gary. Think of you often. Wishing you peace and love

Debbie Phillips

June 13, 2013

Happy belated birthday! I was just telling Roy how Aunt grace and mom were prego at the same time with us. Man can u imagine the hormones when they were together. lol I think of u often, when I am sad I just remember that impish smile and I feel better. You are loved and missed more than u know.Give the our family hugs and kisses from me. Tell mom and dad I miss and love time. Thanks for watching over us. Love ya cuz

Farry Melton

June 12, 2013

Happy Birthday Gary, I hope that you see all these posts and know the love that exists for you all around, with your family and friends. I'm so glad this page is here as a testimony to you. I think of you often Gary. Happy Birthday! Your lil sis, Farryn

June 10, 2013

tomorrow is your birthday,june 11th and my anniversary....I know what you would have said if you were here so lets just say I got the last word this time!!Well I still think about you everyday and miss your smile and stupid comments. I go out to your place on Halloween and put scary stuff, when mom was here she would say to me "Marlene do you really think that's appropriate"? I just laughed and said "LETS get outta here"! Anyway this year I was thinking of putting that sheriff's badge on a pig with Buckleys name on it (tee hee), remember when you did that in the Buckhorn and he came in and tapped you on the shoulder?and away you went! Well just wanted to say I am thinking about you on your birthday wishing we could laugh one more time together, love you Gary.
Marlene Joseph (sister)

Debbie Phillips

November 3, 2011

Hey Gary! Just want to let u know that although I miss writing to u in Oct. that I have not forgot about you. Like anybody could with that smile and all. I know u are busy with Tyler just arriving and u showing him around. Just wanted to tell u that u are still loved and missed. Please tell my momma I love her and miss her like crazy and give her and ur mom a hug and kiss from me. Love ya always cuz,
Debbie

August 23, 2011

Hi Gary. Something happened last night that made me think of you and when I thought of you I smiled then wanted to cry. You always could make me feel all mixed up! Anyway, remember that time we were walking into Vons and you didn't notice that the sliding door had shut,(you were teasing me about something and looking back at me over your shoulder), and you ran right into that door so hard that you knocked it completely off its runner and it feel flat on the ground inside the store! I was laughing so hard I almost peed myself but you just ran your hand over your forehead and into your hair, smiled at the store clerks, and charmed them into not being mad about it! I swear, you got away with so much stuff because of that smile! Well, your daughters are truly yours because they both have done the same thing! Sara ran into the door at the bank and it instantly reminded me of you and again I laughed and almost peed myself! Then, last night, Megan ran into the door at Target and I said, "like father like daughter!" Oh my god Gary, I swear sometimes our girls will do something, or say something, or look a certain way and it's like I'm looking at you! It's a little eerie sometimes, but in a good way. I knew you'd get a kick out of that! And I do miss you Gary. Love, Diane

Marlene Joseph

December 28, 2010

Merry Christmas Gary,
Well it was another stressful Xmas...is there another kind? Went to Moms on Xmas eve and gave her a gift, she just doesn't like to go much anymore.
Just wanted to let you know how much I still miss you and wish I could just talk to you....tell Dad I think of him all the time also, and High Five Kylie for me and tell her Heather misses trading underwear gifts at Xmas with her!! I love you Gary.
Love Marlene

Carla Gilmour

December 25, 2010

Merry Christmas brother. We miss you so much. Yesterday Kim, Becky, and all the grandkids came over we got out the marble board you made and played!! Remember how we used to play that game, that was good times. I just wanted to let you know we still miss you and love you and you are always in our hearts. Tell Kylie and Dad I love them and miss them too!!

Debbie Parker-Phillips

October 7, 2010

Hey Gary! Well its been 3 yrs, but it seems like yesterday when your mom called me to tell me you had gone to heaven.I know u are in a better place,but miss u like crazy.I spoke to ur mom the other day and she said she had been to see u and ur dad.Keep watch over us and tell my mom I love and miss her. U will be forever in thoughts. Love ya!
Debbie ur fave cousin lol.

Carla Gilmour

October 6, 2010

Gary we miss you and think of you often. Our lives are all so different now. I wanted to get on here earlier but I've had the flu and ran to Ohio to pick up Andrew who stayed with Garland a while but decided to come home and you know how I am with him so I get in the car and go get him!! Long drive let me tell you. I have had the flu since I got back but I feel better today, not 100% but better. I just want you to know we hold you in our hearts and memories and miss you and love you and wish you were here. I love you Gary.

Marlene Joseph

October 2, 2010

Its been Three years today that you've been gone....I miss you Gary...The laugh and your smile...I think of you all the time, you really were a gentle soul. I love you Marlene

June 11, 2010

Hi Gary,
Today is your birthday and my anniversary....I've been married 14 years now!!! If you were here I know you'd say"Damn I feel sorry for Tim!" Well Garleand Buddy and Michael are all going to Ohio to live, Garland bought a place there! Luckey Leslie and Alice...really I think its really a good thing. Shawna took Mom out to your grave today, hope you were around for her. I miss you so much Gary...its really hard for me on some days...When I think of your sheepish smile I have to smile...tell Dad I love him ok. I love Gary watch over Garland and Buddy for me ok. Love You
Marlene

jeff hales

June 6, 2010

my dear friend, i last remember u sitting on the grass at the Center, smokin a marlboro and drinkin a coors, ur fav. seems like yesterday. life took us in different directions my old friend and god had a plan for u. u will always be in my heart and my memories. that crazy sense of humor and that wry smile. lol u were important to me and will be a part of me for the rest of my life. sleep well fonzie. with much luv jeffrey hales

Bob Hall

October 29, 2009

You know I've been thinking of something to write to mark the two years. I wanted to write something profound, something that could explain how I feel when I think of you which is often. But I found myself at a lost for words. It just now hit me why. It's because of the loss I feel. I think that when we lost you I lost a brother that I loved but also I lost a part of me. I lost a big part of my youth and when I look back on those days there is something missing now. There is something missing from my future too. You see I always thought we would get together "some day" and discuss our lives and experiences. Not with dismay or regret but rather just an honest conversation between brothers. I guess that conversation will have to wait for now. I pray that we will get an opportunity to talk again. Till then, fair well my friend, till we meet again. I love you,

Bob

October 3, 2009

Hi Gary,
It is hard to believe that two years has passed. I had not remembered that the date was October 2nd (it is also my wedding anniversary).
I also still think of you often, your face will pop up in my mind, I remember you always as a 16 or 17 year old with a great laugh and impish smile. Certain songs bring back memories of you (especially Aerosmith or Jimmy Hendrix)and it makes me smile. I remember so many memories with friends at my Dad's house in Camarillo and in Daunne's room.
You sister said it well, you are in all of their (and our) hearts, just wanted to let you know that.
I pray that you can see all these posts and know how loved you are. I also pray for your family and that God is with them as they miss and remember you.
Love, Farryn

Carla Gilmour

October 2, 2009

Gary well it's been 2 years ago today that you left us. My heart is heavy thinking about you and why it was to be. I know God has a plan for all of us it's not easy to understand them but we have to accept them. Lot's has happened in the past 2 years but some things never change and that includes the love we have for our families and the fact that we miss the ones who are gone. You will always be in our hearts and our minds as we live our lives and we cherish the memories and wish we could have had more. I feel that you are at peace and that you are home in Camarillo where you should be. You are so loved Gary and always was and always will be, rest in peace little brother till we meet again. I love you and miss you and wish you here to aggrivate Marlene, she misses you alot. Love you, Carla

Carla Gilmour

December 23, 2008

Gary, Merry Christmas baby brother, I think of you often and wish you were here. I have been talking to Angela and my heart just goes out to her. Your daughters are all doing good and are a joy. Garland is living with mom and they help each other out. We are all doing good here in Iowa we miss our little Kylie but we know she is safe in Heaven with God and that helps. Give her and dad our love we miss all of you so much and will see you there someday. I love Gary. Your sister Carla.

Farryn Melton

December 20, 2008

Hi Gary,
As you can see, everyone misses you and thinks of you often. It is wonderful to see the notes that are posted here and that your family and friends can keep you in their hearts and express their feelings thru this guest book, which will be here forever.
I think of you often, that impish smile and how fun you always were. I hope that you are happy and know that you are thought of often.
I pray for your family, especially your daughters and your Mom, that they have a peace and have a joyful Christmas. Knowing that is what you would want. And most importantly that God loves them and loves you.
Your friend, Farryn

Debbie Parker

December 19, 2008

Hey Gary it is Christmas time again and the 2nd since u have gone.Iknow it hard on Aunt Grace and the family,but knowing that u are with Uncle chief Kiley,Mom and the rest of the family makes it a little easier to bear.MOnday is mom birthday tell her Happy Birthday for me.This will be my 2nd Christmas without her,and I miss her so much, but I know u are there to to keep her laughing . U always had that impish smile and laugh that was so contagious.Merry Christmas my dear sweet cousin and tell the family Merry Christmas too.
I Love ya
Your Favorite Cousin
Debbie

Bob Hall

December 18, 2008

Well my friend you seem to visting me a lot in my dreams. I'm not sure what that means but I am always glad to see you. The problem is I always wake up and the realization hits that you are gone all over again. They say time heels all wounds, perhaps in time the sadness and sense of waiste will dissipate and I will be able to remember my brother and all the good times we had with a smile. Don't get me wrong I still smile when I think of you and some of the crazy things we did growing up. I just wish there would have been more time for good times. I believe I will see you again my friend then we will have unlimited time to smile. Untill then kick back and relax. love you Bro,
Bob

marlene Joseph

December 16, 2008

Gary,
Well here it is Christmas....can't believe it has gone by so fast! I was thinking about you and Dad and just needed to write and say I love you both and not a day goes by that I don't smile when I think about you...........I miss you so much!
Marlene

marlene sister

October 4, 2008

Hi Gary,
I have been thinking of you alot lately.......I can't believe its been a year since you left us! I went out to visit you and Dad a couple weeks ago, because Football season started, so I put raiders stickers on your headstone....I know you appricated it too...because Garland was with me , you know he was hating life...he tried to put a denver Bronco on there too...but I set him straight! Love you Gary and I miss you alot.
Love Marlene

Debbie Parker

July 11, 2008

Gary I think about u often and and still cant believe u are not with us.I miss u alot. u were always one of my favorite cousins. I miss you picking on me for my accent althought we both know I dont have one ha ha.
I try to talk to Aunt Grace a least twice a month,u know her and mom talked everyday.I know u are with all the family and in a way I envy u. U have no pain, no problems but we will all be together again and that will be some reunion . I miss u cousin, say hi to mom for me and let her know i love her lots and miss her more and if she can i need a visit.Tell Grandma and Grandpa hello and uncle chief too.
Till I see u again I Love ya

Your Favorite Cousin Debbie

Carla Gilmour

July 10, 2008

Gary I went to your grave in Camarillo when we came to visit in June. I still can't believe you are gone and I couldn't tell you good-bye. You have a beautiful plot and you are near dad. I put an angel on your grave and said a prayer, I was there with mom, Sara, Megan, and Marissa, how I wish I could have seen you. I thought about you so much on your birthday last month and you are on my mind alot, you will never be forgotten and always you will be loved. I know you are at peace and I want you to know your daughters are a great joy and you live on through them. I love you little brother and you will always be remembered for your beautiful smile and fun personality.

Farryn Melton

July 6, 2008

Hi Gary, I was thinking about you and wanted to write a note to say hello and that you were on my heart. I hope that your Mom and family are doing well. I hope others keep this guest book current with their thoughts.
God Bless You. Farryn (Christie) Melton

Gary, Cheryl Christie, Debi Dooley and Daunne Christie (1976)

Daunne Fraley (Christie)

November 12, 2007

Here is a photo I found from approximately 1976 of Gary with Cheryl Christie, Debi Dooley and myself.

Gary with Daunne Christie (1976)

Daunne Fraley (Christie)

November 12, 2007

Here is a photo of Gary and I that I found from approximately 1976.

Smiles Storm Skins

November 1, 2007

Gary you will be greatly missed and may the Valcaries carry your soal to Vahalla where you can sit amoungst the gods. Love and Hate (88)

That smile that always got him into trouble!!

October 26, 2007

Dad with his "BOYS"..gary kissing up as usual!

October 26, 2007

theres that smile!

October 26, 2007

He was so sweet

October 26, 2007

Doing what he loved best BBQ-ing

October 26, 2007

Gary and Garland "going to the DISCO!"

October 26, 2007

awwww what a cutie!! In uniform!

October 26, 2007

Gary with the "marble board" he made with sisters Karen & Carla and wife Diane...acting normal!

October 26, 2007

Gary with Mom and his neice Heather

October 26, 2007

Gary with his daughters Sara & Megan

October 26, 2007

theres that smile!

October 26, 2007

He was so sweet

October 26, 2007

Doing what he loved best BBQ-ing

October 26, 2007

awwww what a cutie!! In uniform!

October 26, 2007

Gary with the "marble board" he made with sisters Karen & Carla and wife Diane...acting normal!

October 26, 2007

Gary with Mom and his neice Heather

October 26, 2007

Gary with his daughters Sara & Megan

October 26, 2007

October 24, 2007

Gary, Debi and Tommy

October 24, 2007

Garland McIntosh

October 18, 2007

Well Little Brother I'm glad you are at peace and no longer in pain. Everybody has a story they remember and my most memorable was the night before I was getting married and a policeman walked up to us and ask what you had in your dart case. You said "none ya" and he asked "what does that mean?" and you told him, "none ya business." Of course he was not amused, again! Well little bro, the one thing we had between us was "you know me" and only you and I know what that means.

I love you little brother.

Garland McIntosh

Carla Gilmour

October 18, 2007

Second Photo entered by Carla

Carla Gilmour

October 18, 2007

I have summitted family pictures of Gary with his parents and brother and sisters in 1990 at Freedom Park in Camarillo and of his softball team, mostly family around 1991.

Garland McIntosh

October 18, 2007

Well Little Brother,
I am glad you at peace now and no longer in pain. Everyone has a favorite story, my most memorable was the night before I was getting married and this cop walked up to us and asked you what was in your dart case, and you said"none ya". He said "whats that"? You said none of your ---- business" and of course you got your butt kicked.
The one saying you and I always had between us was "you know me" and only you and i know what that means. I'll miss you little Bro..
I love You
Garland McIntosh

Michael Schafler

October 17, 2007

I came to know Gary later in his life. But much about what has been written in these pages about Gary as a young man remained true. Gary was a gentle soul with an easy smile and warm manner. He always exhibited what in this day and age is an extraordinary trait: the ability to put others needs and feelings before his own. I'm sure that Gary's life didn't turn out as he had planned, but it is incredibly important that he remained true to those important principles throughout. I know Gary will be missed and, because of his gentle soul and kind spirit, I'm sure that his family and friends will honor him too.

Mitch Jennett

October 16, 2007

I have been out of touch with Gary for many years but he was my best friend, he could always make me laugh. I also got in more trouble with him than anyone else, we were always up to something but we won’t go into that. I can remember in seventh grade dressing out for P.E. and Gary would come walking out with his shorts and cowboy boots, used to crack me up. My thoughts and prayers are with all of you that he left behind. Gary I have missed you all these years.

Toni Webster

October 15, 2007

Grace - The knowledge that Gary is no longer suffering and is with our Lord can bring only the relief a mother prays for in time of pain. Please know that I am with you in prayer as you go through your very painful grief process. I am truly blessed, also, to have you as a friend in my life at this time as you are one of the most gracious and kind people I know. God bless you and your family as your ties, now, are even stronger in Christ's spirit. Love, Toni Webster

Terry Anderson (Walsh)

October 14, 2007

Mrs McIntosh and family (thats you too Garland ) I was friends with Gary through my brother Pat and at one time Gary and I were roommates.Gary was always funny and full of life my heart goes out to you and Gary if you are reading this you are in a much better place. Keep a spot for me because someday we will all be roommates again.

Farryn Melton (Christie)

October 13, 2007

I have posted two pictures of Gary from back in the 1977/78 timeframe.
Please go to the photo album to see them and also please look for old photo's and post them. It would be a wonderful way to share memories of Gary. Blessings to his family.

Gary at age ~ 16 years old

October 13, 2007

Gary at age ~16 years old in his room

October 13, 2007

Dwight Deakin

October 12, 2007

Dear McIntosh Family & friends,
I grew up around the corner from Gary & have many, many, memories of growing up in the neighborhood. Mr. & Mrs Mc were ALWAYS very good to me & I ALWAYS felt at home there. It warms my heart to read the stories of Gary's life & most importantly that he believed in God!!

May God shine his blessings upon you all at this time of sorrow.

Gary,
Boy what a shock - I know you didn't choose to leave early, as you loved life WAY too much. God must have needed you for something important - VERY important!!

I'll look toward the future & pray to see you in Heaven with Jesus.

Take Care & See you on the other side my Friend!!

Sandy Bowers

October 12, 2007

Gary,
You were about 5 years old when I moved out of the house. I was the big sister that took care of you until then.
I remember when you lived in Fillmore and you would be having so much fun riding a pony from next door. We also had great times down at the river bottom swimming. You always had a big smile on your cute little face.

When I started bring Steve to the house you would pull his hair because it was so long, what a pain you were. Then on day you cut your foot, so Steve and I took you and the rest of the wild bunch to the Santa Paula Hospital. The doctor, a nurse, Steve and I were trying to hold you down, you were kicking and bucking like a wild horse. Steve watched as the doctor gave you an injection in the cut with all the blood and he passed out, hitting the wall and sliding to the floor. What a day that was! I don't think I came to visit again for a very long time.
We miss you, but we will remember all of the good times.
Love, Sandy

Sara McIntosh

October 12, 2007

Dad,

Reading all of about all these people who have loved you is a strange thing. They talk about a side of you I never really saw. It's the side of you I always wanted to since I was a child. I was always so angry with you dad....but that was a long time ago. And even when I was angry at you...I never hated you dad. Not ever. I always loved you. I still love you...I just wish things would have been different. But, I will see you again and when I do we will finally get to talk. Till then, love you, dad.

P.S. Tell Grandpa Chief and Kylie I said hey. And that I love them

Michael & Kandas Butler

October 10, 2007

Gary,
You could always make someone laugh even when they were down,wheather it was acting goofy,making faces or telling dirty jokes."Chili DOg" I miss and treasure the days of softball games with everyone at freedom park.One of the many secrets to life is "its not what you did for a job, or how much money you had or didn't have" its the things you leave behind in this world that counts...Sara and megan, and everyone you ever known can cherish, laugh and cry with. Tell Papa and Kylie we love them. Keep watching over us and we'll see you soon! P.S. By the way no feeding bag needed..Thanks for the good laughs.
Love
Michael and Kandas

James Pelton

October 9, 2007

May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.

Jim Haldeman

October 9, 2007

I grew up in Camarillo, Gary was one of the gang, He will be missed.

WOTM Chapter 1957 Camarillo

October 8, 2007

To the McIntosh family. The Camarillo Women of the Moose Chapter 1957 would like to express the Chapter's condolences to all of you.

Grace, your family has been a huge part of our Moose Family success from the beginning. Every loss is shared by those of us who over the past 18 years have become honorary members of the McIntosh family. We share your grief and want you all to know how much we love all of you.

Joe & Pat Pace

October 8, 2007

Dear Grace & family,

We know how hard it has been to see Gary so ill and not be able to do anything about it. A Mother's love is always surrounding her children. Thet love never dies.
We never met Gary but feel like we know him because of our Sunday School Class. Each week you let us know how he was doing and we prayed in class & at home.

Always remember that we love you and let us know if there is anything we can do to help you. A phone call, a visit & remember we are praying for you.

In His love,

Joe & Pat Pace

Christopher Carter

October 7, 2007

To all of Gary's family I send my deepest condolences and upmost respect. I'm sorry for your loss.

Marlene Joseph

October 7, 2007

Gary,
It seems I have been grieving for so long,that when that dreaded phone call came, I almost wanted to celebrate for you....but my heart was in pain.
When you were so sick in Colorado, Karen and I came to see you,when we heard how sick you were I said"I'm going".I had been carrying such a heavy load over not spending enough time with Dad before he left,nor could I go in the room where the rest of the family was....please tell him I'm sorry.I also knew Mom needed to know her "baby" was getting the right care. You never woke up while we were there,but not because I didn't try. I was so excited to see you I started rubbing and tapping your arm saying "Gary its me Marlene"...thats when your nurse came in and asked me to stop doing that and to speak softly(like a McIntosh knows how to talk quietly!)he said I was agitating you...I thought to myslf"whats new!"I brought you a cross Gary but they wouldn't let me leave it, so that night in the hotel room I held that cross real tight in my hand and said alot of prayers for you, Kylie,Becky, Carla,and Dad. The next day we had to go home so we were saying our good-byes to you and when I leaned over to kiss your cheek I slipped that cross under yor pillow..and I saw your smile in my head..I hope you knew it was there. A few weeks later you woke up and they had you call Mom she was so excited Gary, I took her to see you, she could hardly wait.When I saw you all my hopes were gone because you seemed to have already left..I didn't get to see "that smile".But at least Mom got to run her fingers through your hair(she always said Gary has the prettiest hair)and kiss her baby good-bye. Mom will never forget that tear running down your cheek and the little wave you gave her as we left.
Gary I always felt I knew you soul and it was a great one, so fun to be around..always getting the family together. I feel like you were always such a lost soul, and held secret pain around..no worries anymore Gary.I hope you and Dad played dominoes on his birthday and cracked jokes about all of us.I'll wear your Raider hat on one of the games and bet against Garland..no promises though you know Garland ..he'll either cheat or con me out of the money!
I want you to know I am still fighting for you Gary and I'm not giving up until I feel its right..feel free to help me out.
Tell Dad I love him and Kylie too and tell her not to forget to wear a thong on Xmas!
I love you Gary
your favorite sister
(you know the pretty one)

Daunne Fraley (Christie)

October 6, 2007

Dear Grace & all of Gary's family,

I am so very sorry for your loss. This is a difficult time for all who loved and knew Gary. Gary will always hold a special place in my heart. He was a big part of my teenage years. His passing has brought up so many old memories of Gary. I loved his smile and his mischievious and sparkling eyes. Gary was always fun to be around, never a dull moment. All the girls liked Gary because he was such a thoughtful person and he made you feel good about yourself. I always knew that I would see Gary again as adults with families of our own. I have prayed for him over these past few years, but now I won't be seeing him and meeting his family and it breaks my heart for the loss of someone who deserves to still be here with his family and friends. Years ago, I remember Gary leaving on a bus (was it to North Dakota?) anyway, I wrote him a letter and I chickened out and never gave him. It said what a great person he is, how much I care about him, and to take care of yourself and that I will miss you. Well, Gary, it is obvious that you made an impact on so many peoples lives over the years, you have so many friends and family that care about you. We will ALL miss you. God Bless you in heaven and may God watch over your Mom and the rest of your family.

Robert Williams

October 6, 2007

to Grace& the family...Our heartfelt condolences for your loss also we remember Kylie Bob & Esperanza

Rebecca Williams

October 6, 2007

Gary, I've been reading everyones entries and can see how much you were loved. Does it bring a smile to your face as you look down from above? I doubt you really knew how many lives you truely touched or how many people loved you oh so very much. I wish you could have been here when my little girl died, my life got turned upside down, I was broken up inside. Although the pain of loss never goes away, it's comforting to know we'll be together again some day. So goodbye for now my uncle, until we meet again, take care of my sweet little Kylie, Your new life now begins.

Heather Homami

October 5, 2007

Gary McIntosh
I am going to miss the way Gary and I would fight over who would cleand the bathrooms, he always gave in of course! Gary was like that, always did what the ladies said. I look at this guestbook and feel like I didnt know my uncle the way others did. He touched so many peoples lives, and I hope that even in his death he will continue to touch, heal, and help people. Tell grandpa and Kylie that I love them and miss them too!
See you in heaven one day, I will have the Ajax ready!
PS. Thanks for always looking in my closet for monsters, even though I was 22 years old...

Tom Lynch

October 5, 2007

To the family when I heard that Gary had passed away I was flooded with childhood memories. And how much time I spent at the McIntosh house and how much fun we had. They were great times in my life. And and I will always hold though memories of Gary and I dear . I thank God for that time and for you Grace for you putting up with all our mischief. I ask you Lord to comfort Gary's family and bless them in Jesus name.

Tim Joseph

October 4, 2007

Gary,
Everytime I got to see you,we always had a good time together and laughed alot....I didn't get to see enough....you were a great brother in law.
Love,
Tim

Grace McIntosh

October 4, 2007

Gary,
We little knew that morning that God was going to call your name, in life we loved you dearly, in death we do the same.
It broke our hearts to lose you, you did not go alone, for part of us went with you the day God called you home.
You left us peaceful memories,your love is still our guide,and though we cannot see you,you are always at our side.
Our family chain is broken and nothing seems the same,but as God calls us one by one the chain will link again.
Gary, you are the light of my life.
I loved you so much. Its a big void in my life without you.
All My Love
Mom

Diane McIntosh

October 4, 2007

Gary,
It's funny, but I feel like I've been missing you for a very long time now. I've been crying as I read the messages from the people that knew and loved you. I will make sure that our daughters read them so that maybe they can gain insight into a part of you that they will never get the chance to see firsthand. And you are here with me, every day, because of our girls. I see in them the parts of you that I loved. You told me once that no matter what happened, we would never really be apart...and when I look at our girls I know that you were right.

Thank you Gary, for our beautiful daughters. You know that I will always take good care of them. Thank you for your family, who have become my family. I would be lost without them. And thank you Gary, for the good times that we had, for all the laughter, and for the crazy adventures. I am all the richer for them. Those are the things I choose to remember. I'll miss you Gary. Sleep with the angels.

Love, Diane

Angela Delfino (Lopez)

October 4, 2007

McIntosh family,
I am sorry for your loss. Gary was a good guy. He is now at peace. I spoke with Theda (Grace) just the other day after many, many years. Know that he is no longer in pain, I hope this brings comfort. I remember spending many days with Karen, our kids hanging out together. Theda, thank you for always being so good to me and believing in me. Please let me know when a memorial will be held. My thoughts are with you.

Debi Dooley

October 4, 2007

Gary and I became friends when I moved around the corner from him in 6th grade. Oh the nights we would sneak out and meet at the corner and just "Hang Out". Or the nights Pam would spend the night at my house and without fail, Gary would come tapping on my window.
I lost touch with Gary many years ago, but he has been, and will always be, in my thoughts, my heart, and in my prayers.
I loved you Gary. You were a very important part of my girlhood, and a very special friend.
Debi Dooley (Tarantino)

Pam Boyett

October 4, 2007

First Love will always hold a special place in your heart. Gary was mine.
We were freshman's in high school out at a party on a Friday night when we first got together. I still remember that first kiss (I later learned this was a one dollar bet he had with Bob Hall) By the way Bob you never paid up.
Some of Gary's guy friends could never understand why all the girls loved Gary. It was his impish grin, his smiling eyes his laughter (even when you were mad at him) and the way he made you feel special.
Gary I am grateful for the time we spent together these last several years I just wish we could have had more time. I know you are in Heaven with your Dad I know how much you missed him.
You hold that special place in my heart that will never be replaced. I will Love you always!
Pam

Alice McIntosh

October 3, 2007

Gary I love you and I will miss you! I will always remember you, as my fun loving uncle. God bless you.

Cheryl Christie

October 3, 2007

To All of Gary's Family,

Gary was a friend of mine back in our Cam High days in the 70's. I have many good memories of us all (Bob Hall, Pam, Lori Reidel, Daunne, Farryn, Debi Tarantino, Jimmy Hendrix music, the "Rec", & our house on Kendall Ave.) and so much more. Hanging out and having fun! Both of my sisters dated Gary and I just carried a secret crush. His adorable smile, personality, and all those memories are a large part of my life that I will always fondly look back upon.

We were both born in 1960, and I am so much more than sad, to have to write this. But I know that he is in a peaceful, comfortable place. Gary, know that you've had more friends that have cared for you than you knew. I wish your soul peace.

I offer my sympathies to you all, and know that there are many more friends out there that may not get the chance to write in this book.

My Sympathies,
Cheryl Christie

Bob Hall

October 3, 2007

Gary,
I have loved you like a brother for over 35 years. You have been in my thoughts and prayers for all of those years. We've spoken and you know you have been an inspiration to me. Many who read this perhaps won't understand that statement but I know you do. "But for the grace of God there go I". There are many things I've come to realize I will never understand in this life time. Okay I said it, I guess I don't know everything but don't tell nobody else. :) God works in misterious ways my friend. I choose to believe that when it's all said and done our time on this earth will be irrelevant and all the questions will be answered and make sense. Until that time I'll keep the faith my Brother. Listen we talked about this time and I promised you I would not try to make you out to be something you were not. That is not my intention here. We all make our choices and have to live with them and in the end we die with them. However "Ye who is with out sin cast the first stone." I got no stones for you Brother only love. I knew your heart as did your friends and family. I spoke with Grace this morning along with Marlene. Grace said something that brought me comfort, God Bless her. She said today was Chief's birthday and she figured you must have decided to join him to celebrate together. That brought a smile to my face. I can see you and Chief laughing and cracking jokes, enjoying yourselves, no pain, no soworrow, just everlasting peace. I read Becky and Kimmy's along with Tracy's entries into this book. I remembered when you use to baby-sit them all summer long and Carla would pay you once a month. Paydays were the best weekends we ever spent, hidding our activities from Garland and trying to fool Chief and Grace. I got news for you buddy I don't think we ever fooled them. I remeber the day my father died and I was late coming back to the house after the funeral. You were there in the front yard waiting for me most everyone else was inside but you waited for me. You walked up and gave me a hug and wispered "dying the easy part , it living on thats hard." I understood it then and I understand it now. This isn't goodbye my brother. Just till we meet again.

Farryn Melton (Christie)

October 3, 2007

Gary, You were such an important part of my childhood. I remember so many good times 'hanging out' with you. I've thought of you often over the years and although I got updates on you through Cheryl and Pam, I wish that we had kept in touch. I am really sorry that I didn't get a chance to see you before you went to heaven. It was on my heart and I just didn't do it. I'll always be sorry for that. But I know that you accepted Christ and are in heaven. May there be comfort in that for your Mom and family. God bless you and be with your family. Love, Farryn (Christie) Melton

David and Gale Parker

October 3, 2007

Our thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort.

Shawna Hernandez

October 3, 2007

God looked around His garden
And found an empty place.
He then looked upon the earth
And saw your tired face.

He put His arm around you
And lifted you to rest.
God's garden must be beautiful
He always takes the best.

He knew that you were suffering.
He knew you were in pain.
He knew that you would never
Get well on earth again.

He saw the road was getting rough,
And the hills were hard to climb.
So He closed your eyelids,
And whispered, "Peace be thine."

It broke our hearts to lose you,
But you didn't go alone.
For part of us went with you
The day God called you Home.

Peggy Crouch (Coffman)

October 3, 2007

Although my memories of you are as a grinning little kid, I do know of the great love your Mom and family have for you as a son and brother through out the years. I also know that in Gods presence you now have peace, healing, and love. Please know that I will be here to help and support your Mom and sister until they can join you in Gods light!

KAREN KEE

October 3, 2007

GARY,I'M SO HAPPY I GOT TO SEE YOU
BEFORE YOU LEFT US...AND IKNOW I'LL SEE YOU,KYLIE, AND DAD SOON.
I'LL ALWAYS REMEMBER THE TIME YOU WERE EATING OYSTER SOUP AND PRETENTED TO COVER YOUR MOUTH AND COUGH THEN OPENED YOUR HAND AND SHOWED US THAT NASTY OYSTER AND MADE US ALL SICK THEN OF COURSE WE LAUGHED! WE STILL TALK ABOUT THAT ALL THE TIME. I MISS YOU AND LOVE YOU GARY....GIVE DAD AND KYLIE MY LOVE.
YOUR SISTER
KAREN

Tracy Ortega

October 3, 2007

My dearest sweet uncle,
I treasure the memories of us growing up toghether. And everytime I hear the rolling stones I think of you. I'll be with you soon!. Your niece Tracy.

Mickey Martin

October 3, 2007

To the family,
I'm very sorry for your loss.
Mickey Riedel Martin

Leslie McIntosh

October 3, 2007

Gary, I miss you already!But, I'm so glad that I got to see you, & spend a little time with you at Grace's house when we were all there. It was so fun seeing you & Alice taking all those cheap shots at each other, & both of you getting in trouble with Grace. Thanks for being there for me through 9 long months, in Arkansas, for creep sake! I never would have made it through being pregnant without you there playing Gin, & Parchesi, & watching Liz at Luke & Laura's wedding with me! I'll be seeing you sometime; try not to get kicked out! Love & prayers from Leslie

Kimberly Campbell

October 3, 2007

Gary I am glad you are in heaven now. I will miss you. I love you...

Kimberly Campbell

October 3, 2007

Gary I am glad you are in heaven now. I will miss you. I love you...

Carol Wilson

October 3, 2007

God gave you a Beautiful Son, Brother and Uncle but felt it was time to take him home to rest and be safe in his arms forever. I know all of your hearts are heavy and the burdens are sometimes hard to bear but the Joys you all shared will always stay with you and comfort you until you meet again. God Bless You All........
Carol

Tommy Parker

October 3, 2007

Gary, I will always remember us growing up, we had so much fun. I wish we could have spent more time together as adults. You will be missed greatly. Say hi to mom for me..
Tommy Parker

ina sperling

October 3, 2007

Grace, I am so happy I got the chance to know Gary. He is now finally at peace in heaven with his dad and great niece Kylie. Your family is very special to me and I love them all very much.

Debbie Parker-Phillips

October 3, 2007

I am glad you are free and at peace now at God's side
you were always one of my favorites.
give momma hug a for me. I will so miss you.

Debbie Parker

October 3, 2007

To my dearest family, some things I'd like to say...
but first of all, to let you know, that I arrived okay.
I'm writing this from heaven. Here I dwell with God above.
Here, there's no more tears of sadness; here is just eternal love.

Please do not be unhappy just because I'm out of sight.
Remember that I'm with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through,
God picked me up and hugged me and He said, "I welcome you."

It's good to have you back again; you were missed while you were gone.
As for your dearest family, they'll be here later on.
I need you here badly; you're part of my plan.
There's so much that we have to do, to help our mortal man."

God gave me a list of things, that he wished for me to do.
And foremost on the list, was to watch and care for you.
And when you lie in bed at night, the day's chores put to flight.
God and I are closest to you....in the middle of the night.

When you think of my life on earth, and all those loving years
because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears.
But do not be afraid to cry; it does relieve the pain.
Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.

I wish that I could tell you all that God has planned.
But if I were to tell you, you wouldn't understand.
But one thing is for certain, though my life on earth is o'er.
I'm closer to you now, than I ever was before.

There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb;
but together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
It was always my philosophy and I'd like it for you too...
that as you give unto the world, the world will give to you.

If you can help somebody who's in sorrow and pain,
then you can say to God at night......"My day was not in vain."
And now I am contented....that my life has been worthwhile,
knowing as I passed along the way, I made somebody smile.

So if you meet somebody who is sad and feeling low,
just lend a hand to pick him up, as on your way you go.
When you're walking down the street, and you've got me on your mind;
I'm walking in your footsteps only half a step behind.

And when it's time for you to go.... from that body to be free,
remember you're not going.....you're coming here to me.

Ruth Ann Mahaffey (author)
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