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Connie Cousin
September 9, 2009
My Dear Sweet Cousin Jimmy
Your death has given me pause for some serious contemplation.
Memorial Day Week-End 2009, I went to Jones Beach to enjoy a Canadian and USA Military Air Show. I was astounded at the acrobatic precision of today’s fighter jets.
I considered the intense analytic study that happened in the minds of expert scientists, engineers, builders, mechanics, testing, refining, then testing again, and refining again until they got it right. Many hours of trial and error till they reached high performance capability.
In speaking with a Fighter Pilot, he told me there were Nine Jets in Formation, Measured Ten Feet Distance, front, back, and on each side, Between Each Jet. Many hours of practice before this remarkable performance could occur.
I considered, if it makes a difference how we build those fighter jets in order to achieve high performance, does it likewise make a difference in how we live our lives during our earthly sojourn? And does the life we live determine where we go in the hereafter?
I wondered about the person who lives recklessly, carefree, with total disregard for the impact He has on other people. I wondered, does He get the same reward as the one who lives a life that serves, builds and improves the lives of others?
Softly, Sweetly, Quietly, Drifting into a Dream Like State, Jimmy, You Answered Me:
“Let Not the Sins of Others, Nor Their Short Comings Stop Your Progress. You Are Here Upon This Earth to Make Eternal Progress. Everyone Gets Off Course from time to time. When This Happens, No Worries. Just Return to Required Steps to Achieve Your Written Goals. Remember, and Never Forget to NOT Let the Sins of Others, Nor Their Short Comings Stop Your Progress. And yes, the life you live Does Determine where you go in the hereafter.”
I Dreamed That You Told Me About the Interview with God, and the questions God asks when we depart, leaving the physical body behind to move onto the next phase of life. In my dream, you told me:
God Speaking:
1. How did you treat your life partner?
2. How did you treat the children in your life?
3. How did you treat those who parented you?
4. How did you treat other relatives, friends, and neighbors?
5. How Is the world a better place for you having lived there?
My Dear Sweet Cousin Jimmy, Your Death has given me pause for serious contemplation.
I Dreamed That You Told Me That There Are No Descriptive Words to Tell Me of the Magnitude of the Glory of the Place You Now Dwell.
I Dreamed That You Told Me That The Highest Heavenly Estate Is beyond measure, magnificently beautiful than words will ever describe. You told me that Sentinels Guard the protected place where good people go when they, like the hand that lifts out of the glove leaving the glove lifeless, likewise, humans lift out of their body, leaving it lifeless. Humans then move onto the next life phase to meet the God who created them. Complete their interview. And then go to the place where they will forever dwell.
Jimmy, you described a most pleasant, peaceful place of rest from trials and worries, where you went to. Hearing your story makes me want to live my life in such a way as to reach the highest level of Glory, so that when my time comes, I can greet you, and all my beloved departed ones.
Jimmy, I salute you, and look forward to the time when we smile at one another, standing face to face. God Be With You Till We Meet Again!
Love Always, Cousin Connie
September 7, 2009
My cousin Jimmy will be missed.. We always wanted him to come back home.. He had a mind of his own.. He did like his football.. He also enjoyed when I served deviled eggs.. He said they were his favorite.. You will be missed.. I believe you are with your mom now.. She will watch over you..
Nicky, I pray you and your family can be strong.. I can only imagine the pain.. The Mendola's are tough so I know you will be okay.. Love you..
Uncle Sammy, I am here for you whenever you need.. I pray for strength for you... Love you..
R.I.P. James Mendola
You will never be forgot...
Cousin Marie and Family...
Concetta Curiale
September 7, 2009
Thursday, August 27, 2009
Eulogy composed by Brother Nicholas Vincent Mendola and Cousin Concetta Curiale for James Anthony Mendola
Orator: Cousin Concetta
Jim was born on September 29, 1967. He made Salvatore and Betty Ann proud parents. About three years later, I joined Jimmy and our family had begun. We enjoyed a special bond of brotherhood. I remember playing together as little boys, riding bikes, playing baseball, basketball, and Mom taking us to Church on Sundays. We were always together.
Jim?s favorite football team was the Dallas Cowboys. What he liked more than the Dallas Cowboys were their Cheerleaders. He loved Chocolate Ice Cream, and his favorite color was blue.
Jim was as Honest a Fellow, and Trustworthy a person as anyone could hope to meet. He was always well liked by anyone who came to know him. Jim had an uncanny ability to remember Birthdays, Dates, and anything related to Sports. He graduated from Washingtonville H.S. in 1986. Jim followed his dream of moving to Las Vegas where he wanted to settle and start an independent life of his own.
Jim was Uncle to my Son Sal, and my Daughter Nicole. He continues to be loved by many Cousins, Aunts, Uncles, Friends, and All who knew him. Jim?s life here on earth was cut way too short. He will be sorely missed by many Friends and Family.
JIM, YOU WILL ALWAYS BE IN OUR HEARTS AND IN OUR DREAMS.
Jim, I know you will always be watching our family. You made us proud of you, and we will go on to live in a way that will make you proud of us.
WE HONOR YOU, and we have many fond treasured memories of you. YOU ARE one of the Greatest Gifts that God ever gave us. We wish you could have shared your secret with us before you moved onto the next realm of life ? How were you able to eat a pound of spaghetti, and Not gain a pound?
above composed by brother Nicholas
below composed by cousin Concetta, and approved by Nicholas, and also Salvatore who is the father of the deceased
The spirits of All Men, as soon as they are departed from this mortal body are then taken home to that God who gave them life.
Worthy ones are received into a state of happiness, which is called Paradise. Paradise is a state of rest from all troubles and from all care and sorrow.
Life is filled with varieties of times and seasons. We experience the best of times and the worst of times.
In my most painfully difficult challenges, I ask God ? ?Why??
In my mind, Not in my ears. In my mind, God told me: ?I gave you resistance to make you more strong and capable in every aspect of your life. There must needs be opposition in all things that you might learn and grow.?
When I complained to God ? This is too big for me to handle.
God told me: ?You can do it. I know you can. For I created you, and I know your limitations, and this is Not one of them.?
Today we gather together as a family of friends and relatives. We are a Gift From God to each other. In a Team Effort, we can help one another rise above where we are. We are a strength and support to each other.
When we do what is right, we have God on our side. One Good Person with God on his side makes a majority. Majority Always Wins.
We will get through this most difficult time, and we will be a better people because of it. Remember that the strongest body builders are the ones who work with the greatest resistance.
There are many things I do Not understand. But I do know one thing for sure. That is we will be stronger, and gathering here together in support for one another, we are in a Team Effort strengthening the bond between us as a Family, As God?s Children.
We are here to lighten the burden of those of us who are right now hurting the most.
I have no doubt that James Anthony Mendola knows you are here to Honor him. He loves and appreciates you for that.
It is okay to grieve in whatever unique way that is right for each of us. Take one day at a time. Grieve and don?t get stuck in the grieving process.
Each day consists of many moments. Remember to allocate some moments to Remembering the Best of Times. Allocate other moments to set short and long term goals. Allocate time to work hard to reach those goals.
We each need to make Jimmy smile down on us. If we get stuck in the grieving process, we will distract Jimmy from where his focus needs to be. It will slow his progression in the Realm of where he is.
I know that one day we will each individually meet Jimmy face to face in a Warm, Welcome Embrace. Until then, let us show Jimmy that we will fill some of our daily moments with Joy in Remembering the Best of Times We Each Shared and Experienced With Him.
Jimmy, We Fill You With Rich Supply of Our Love As We Honor You.
I speak these words in the Name of Jesus Christ, Amen.
Liz Conway
August 26, 2009
MY condolences to the mendola family. He will be remembered fondly
Kerry Dougherty
August 26, 2009
Nick and Family,
May all your good memories of Jimmy help you through this hard time. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Cousin Joe & Casey
August 25, 2009
A Reminiscence
YES, thou art gone! and never more
Thy sunny smile shall gladden me;
But I may pass the old church door,
And pace the floor that covers thee.
May stand upon the cold, damp stone,
And think that, frozen, lies below
The lightest heart that I have known,
The kindest I shall ever know.
Yet, though I cannot see thee more,
'Tis still a comfort to have seen;
And though thy transient life is o'er,
'Tis sweet to think that thou hast been;
To think a soul so near divine,
Within a form so angel fair,
United to a heart like thine,
Has gladdened once our humble sphere.
By Anne Bronte
The Poetry Foundation
Nicholas Mendola
August 24, 2009
It is very comforting for my family to hear from all of you. I'm sure my brother would remember each one of you and also know your birthdays too. He touched many people with his gentle kindness and will be greatly missed.
Kevin Thomas
August 24, 2009
A profound loss. I lived on Sears Rd. growing up and spent many days after school watching Jimmy shoot hoop after hoop in the back yard. Our prayers go out to your family.
Ellen Berkowitz-Makow
August 24, 2009
So sorry to hear of Jimmy's passing . We went to Round Hill up to High School together. Just like Sandra said his memory for detail was extraordinary. The Mendola family is in my thoughts.
August 24, 2009
I was sorry to hear about Jimmy's passing. He was always so nice to everyone. What a great guy. My condolences to the Family.
Ellen Berkowitz-Makow
Jeanine Gill - Gregory
August 24, 2009
I am so sad to hear of Jim's Passing. We went to school together from elem to high school... My sincerest condolnences to the Mendola family. You are in my thoughts and Prayers. I am so sorry for your loss.
Dee=Dee Whelan-Smith
August 24, 2009
I am so sorry to hear that Jimmy passed away. I have known him since first grade. He was always so very nice. We had a lot of laughs together over the years. Your family is in our prayers.
Sandra Duggan-Woolsey
August 21, 2009
I am saddened to hear of Jim's passing. Jim and I lived in the say development and we also attend school together (Round Hill on upto Senior High). I have many memories of Jim. Of course, my memory was never a match to his. He impressed so many of us with remembering details ~ tiny details and many of them. Who, what, where and when? Jim remembered everything. My thoughts and prayers are extended to the Mendola family. I am so sorry for your loss.
Christine Skennion Hoisington
August 21, 2009
I am so sorry to hear this news. Jim was a classmate of mine growing up in Worley Heights. My thoughts and prayers are with your family.
Corinne Wyman
August 21, 2009
Nick,
So sorry to hear of Jims passing. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during your time of loss.
Corinne
Corinne Wyman
August 21, 2009
Nick,
So Sorry to hear of Jims passing. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this time of loss.
Corinne.
Tom Murray and the Staff of Ferguson Funeral Home
August 21, 2009
Extending our sincerest condolences.
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