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Joseph Heller Obituary
Joseph M. Heller, of South Fallsburg, died on Wednesday March 5 at O.R.M.C. Horton Campus Middletown, NY. He was 34.
The son of Walter M. and Roberta E. House Heller, he was born on January 17, 1974 in Goshen, NY. He was a graduate of Minisink Valley High School and attended the Culinary Arts program at BOCES Vo-Tech. Joe worked as a Residential Counselor for the Center for Discovery in Harris, NY.
In addition to his parents, Walter and Roberta, he is survived by his beloved son and daughter, Joseph Walter and Lori Ann Heller of South Fallsburg, his estranged wife, Patricia Starr Heller, brothers, Andrew Heller and his wife, Christine of Warwick, Darryle Heller and his companion, Terri Shene of Bloomingburg; sisters, Ellen Decker and her husband, Wayne of Sidney, Betty Babcock and her husband Claude of Bullville, Nancy Heller and her companion, Robert Mackey of Chester, Jane Sanok and her husband, Scott of Westtown, Christine Heller and her companion, Thomas Hamilton of Deerpark; and many nieces, nephews and close friends; including his friend Fred Weibrecht who helped care for his children during his recent illness.
Visitation hours will be from 6 to 8 p.m, on Saturday, March 8, at Applebee-McPhillips Funeral Home, Inc., 130 Highland Avenue, Middletown, NY.
A Funeral Service of Remembrance will follow at 8 p.m. at the funeral home, with Rev. Jim Cocelle officiating. Cremation will be private at Cedar Hill Crematory in Middle Hope, NY.
Memorial donations in Joe's name may be made to the trust fund for his children the Joseph and Lori Ann Heller Trust, in care of Jane Sanok, PO Box Westtown, NY 10998.
Funeral arrangements under the direction of Applebee-McPhillips Funeral Home, Inc.; 845-343-6309
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Memories and Condolences
for Joseph Heller
frank
March 21, 2008
well i dont know where to start but i guess i have to start somewhere. i remember when i first meet joe, i was introduced to joe by his partner fred. i remember it like it was yesterday. at first glance i thought joe wouldnt be someone i wouldnt even become friends with or even talk to at all , but that wasnt the case. sterio types and judgin starting flowin in my mind at that time. i would never think that at that time (and now)i would have been so close to joe like i was. he not only showed me that people can be struggling throu life , with money, jobs, etc ( normal problems) but still can see the light at the end of all the struggles. he aslo showed me that sometimes u judge someone before u even get to know someone or get to walk in there shoes. i am thankful now and will always will be thankful for what he has done for me. that is more then words , or a gift that anyone can give someone. ( joe i know u left in such a hurry but i know that god had better mission for u in heaven, and i know that we never truely said good bye , but i dont know how to say goodbye, so for me what i am going to say to you is "see ya later girlfriend"
Evan
March 20, 2008
Joey,
i am so sad today as i have just learned of your passing, Although i know your in a wonderful place.
Joey, i am reminded of when we first met some 12 years ago. we were both young gay dads. trying to live an open and good life . Keeping our love of our children fore most in our plans. . I will think of you and look up to the heavens often
hugs and kisses
Evan in Ulster.
andrew heller
March 16, 2008
joe you will sadly missed even though we as brothers. did not see each other as much as I liked with both are busy lives with are own children.but when we did get together it was always a laugh. it was alot more fun with are other brother[darryle]. so don't worry about the children they will be fine they have plenty of love to guied there way .you looking down from heaven.on earth there mommy there2 sets of grand parents,also fred will guide there way.plenty of aunt's and uncles.there cousinsare here to play with. your friends and co workers are here to. so rest in peace love ya always bro . PS THERE IS BROTHER UP THERE TO GUIDE[WALTER]your 2 cousins,your both grand parents to guide you.try to stay out of trouble with god.you know how your older brother walter is but you are in good hands so don't worry.
Lisa McHugh
March 13, 2008
My son John is a resident at the Sunset House were Joe worked. He was truly a very caring and loving person. He showed great compassion for the work he did. My thoughts and prayers go out to his children and family.
fred eibrecht
March 13, 2008
joe i miss you every day and nite you was taken away from me and joey and lori so soon we had so many plans and now you are gone. we will ee you some day till then we all miss you so much.
love fred joey and lori
paige maxwell
March 12, 2008
My family got to know Joe through our children's football program. He was always supportive of the kids and friendly on the side line. I last saw him at our kids honor roll program where, as always, he supported his kids. My heart is so sad for Joe and Lori, who I've become so attached to. My thoughts and prayers are with you always. Dalton Maxwell's family
fred weibrecht
March 12, 2008
my love i miss you so much i always said that i am in love with you and you will always be in my hart.
your lover fred
fred weibrecht
March 11, 2008
my love i miss you every day and i still love you and will always love you joe.
love from fred weibercht your lover and friend you will be missed
Brenda Pierpoint
March 11, 2008
I worked with Joe at Price Chopper he was always so happy and full of energy. Im so sorry to hear of his passing. God be with you and your family at this sad time.
Bill Kittner
March 10, 2008
words cannot express the loss of such a great spirit.
Michael Green
March 10, 2008
"We're gonna have a good day today...... right? Most every day at Sunset would start off with Joe's optimism.
The world laid challenges at Joe's door.From what I could see, he met them all the best he could. And through it all he kept his childlike wonder and faith that the world would be kind to him today. Blessed are the meek, Joe. Rest in peace.
Jerry & Ruth Crofutt
March 10, 2008
We pray you rest in the tender care of our Lord & Savior during your time of loss. With our Sympathy.
Jerry & Ruth Ann Crofutt
Melissa
March 10, 2008
My love & condolences to Lori & Joey. May their life go smoothly. My sympathy to Joe's family & friends he left behind.
RoseAnna Briggs
March 9, 2008
To the family of Joseph Heller:
I am soooo sorry for your loss, Joe was a great friend to me in high school, and I was saddened to learn of his passing. My prayers are with his friends and family during this rough time. Though I hadn't seen Joe in years, we exchanged afew emails a couple times a year (christmas etc). He was truly special and very caring. deepest sympathies.
sara budd
March 9, 2008
joe was always a good friend and will forever be a part of my heart.he will be forever missed.
Mary Bushway
March 9, 2008
My sincere condolences to the family.
Stephanie House-Finch
March 8, 2008
To my dear Joey... Im sorry but I know that you are okay.You are now somewhere peaceful with uncle Cy and Grandma. I will miss you! I want to say Im sorry to my Aunt Roberta And Uncle Walt and to my cousins who were very close to me as kids..Janie..I love you honey, Darryle.you rock!, Chrissy..havent seen ya but you were the best,Ellen, Andy,Betty Nancy...(Miss You)I love you all and Im so sad over this. I have to leave this most important passage for him because it means so much to me...
A Letter From Heaven
To my dearest family and friends, something I’d like to say,
But first of all I want to let you know that I arrived O.K.
I’m writing this from Heaven, here I dwell with God above
Here there’s no more tears and sadness, here is just Eternal Love.
Please do not be unhappy just because I’m out of sight
Remember that I’m with you every morning, noon, and night.
That day I had to leave you, when life on earth was through
God picked me up and hugged me and said, “I welcome you,
It’s good to have you back again, you were missed while you were gone.
As for your dearest family, they’ll be here later on.
I need you here so badly, you’re part of my big plan
There’s so much that we have to do to help our mortal man.”
God gave me a list of things that he wished for me to do,
And foremost on that list was to watch and care for you.
I will be beside you every day, and week, and year.
And when you’re sad, I’m standing there to wipe away that tear.
And when you lie in bed at night, the day’s chores put to flight
God and I are close to you in the middle of the night.
When you think of my life on earth and all those loving years
Because you are human, they are bound to bring you tears.
But do not be afraid to cry, it does relieve the pain.
Remember there would be no flowers unless there was rain.
I wish that I could tell you what God has planned,
But if I were to tell you, you wouldn’t understand.
But one thing is for certain, though my life on earth is over,
I am closer to you now than I ever was before.
And to my many friends, trust that God knows best.
I’m not very far away from you, I’m just beyond the crest.
There are many rocky roads ahead of you, and many hills to climb.
But together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
It’s always been my philosophy and I’d like it for you, too,
That as you give the world, so the world will give to you.
If you can help somebody who’s in sorrow or in pain then you can
Say to God at night my day was not in vain. And now I am content with my life. It was worthwhile
Knowing as I passed along the way, that I made somebody smile.
So if you meet somebody who is down and feeling low, just lend a hand to pick them up as on your way you go.
When you’re walking down the street and you’ve got me on your mind,
I’m walking in your footsteps, only half a step behind.
And when you feel that gentle breeze or the wind upon your face,
That’s me giving you a great big hug, or just a soft embrace.
And when it’s time for you to go from that body to be free,
Remember you’re not going, you’re coming here to me.
And I will always, always love you, from that land way above.
We’ll be in touch soon, P.S. God sends His love.
Ruth Ann Mahaffey (author)
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Janet & Bill Sutherland
March 8, 2008
To Roberta Heller and family
May God give you comford & strength in this time of sorrow. You are in our prayers.
Staff from Sunset Hill
March 8, 2008
To Dear Co-worker and friend:
You will be missed dearly here at the Sunset House(Center for Discover),especially on Saturday morning, when we use to go in the atrium to dance and sing with all involved. Our thoughts of you will remain alive. Sending our sympathy to your children and family.
Staff from Sunset Hill
March 8, 2008
Remember
Remember me when I am gone away,
Gone far away into the silent land;
When you can no more hold me by the hand,
Nor I half turn to go yet turning stay.
Remember me when no more day by day
You tell me of our future that you plann'd:
Only remember me; you understand
It will be late to counsel then or pray.
Yet if you should forget me for a while
And afterwards remember, do not grieve:
For if the darkness and corruption leave
A vestige of the thoughts that once I had,
Better by far you should forget and smile
Than that you should remember and be sad.
By Christina Rossetti
The Poetry Foundation
patty jones
March 8, 2008
hey joe,wish this didnt happen you have left alot of people very sad.you were a great father great husband and nicest guy there is.dont worry pat will take over now with fred's help your kids will be fine.will miss you and love ya keep those blue eyes shining up their. patty
Linda & Debbie
March 7, 2008
We would like to send our condolences to the Joesph Heller family. We are so sorry for your lose. And to Joey and Lori our deepest sympathy for your lose. And to Fred, Joe was a good guy, he will be sadly missed. Our prayers and thoughts are with you in this time of need.
Remember our fireside chats.
TAMMY TRUEX
March 7, 2008
DEAR JOEYhappy and sad times may come and go but the memories that we have shared will last forever.JOEY you will be sadly missed but your in god hands now.HAVE a fuzzy navel on me. MY thoughts and prayers our with your children and family and fred .PLEASE REST your head and know that your children will always be taken care of and will always hold their father in their hearts and heads as long as IM alive. I LOVE YOU .mikey said that he will miss uncle joey and his goofy ways ILOVE YOU AND YOU WERE A GREAT BROTHERINLAW AS WELL AS MY GOOD FRIEND HUGS AND KISSES LOVE ALWAYS YOUR SISTER-IN LAW TAMMY TRUEX.
Kathy Trotta, RN
March 7, 2008
Joe was always so kind and courteous. Most striking of all was the great and wonderful love he had for his children, a gift I hope they can hold on to always. My sincere and heartfelt sympathy to all his family and children.
Bill McGrady (bus driver)
March 7, 2008
May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.My deepest condolences to all the family.
Gary & Angie Linton
March 7, 2008
To the entire Heller Family. With condolences and great sympathy we wish you all the best at this sad time. We hope the best for not only Joe's children but the whole family and partner.
Gary & Angie Linton
March 7, 2008
To the entire Heller Family. With condolences and great sympathy we wish you all the best at this sad time. We hope the best for not only Joe's children but the whole family and partner.
Christianne "Cricket" Popper
March 7, 2008
Uncle Walt & Aunt Roberta & Family, I am so sorry for your loss. Since there are so many of us Heller's, I really only know Joey from the family reunions. May God offer you all comfort and give you all strength in your hour of need. May your memories bring smiles to your faces. May you find peace and joy knowing that we will all be together again in paradise. You are all in my thoughts and prayers. I know my grandma and poppy (Edith & Don Cornish) will watch over Joey until your together again.
ali Eckerson (Horton)
March 7, 2008
Joe always had a kind word and smile. Our thoughts are with his family.
Marilyn Brozycki Smith
March 7, 2008
To the Heller Family and to Joey's children, our deepest sympathy and condolences. We will always remember Joey as a good, sweet kid. God rest his soul.
The Brozycki Family
(John, Johnny, Tommy, Marilyn and families)
patty jones
March 7, 2008
will miss ya joe,miss teasing ya,wish this never happen what a great job with the kids great dad very good husband pat will miss ya and were all helping with the kids.fred has done so much for them.your job is done here pat will take over and fred will always be around.your wishes have been granted so have fun up there.behave yourself keep them blue eyes shining.love and miss you patty.
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