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Peter Baer Gontrum

1932 - 2013

Peter Baer Gontrum obituary, 1932-2013, Eugene, OR

Peter Gontrum Obituary

Peter Baer
Gontrum

1932 - 2013

Peter Baer Gontrum, professor emeritus, University of Oregon, died May 24 of pneumonia. He was 81.

Born in Baltimore, Maryland, on February 13, 1932, Peter was the only child of Mildred Baer, a nurse, and Edwin K. Gontrum, a lawyer. He attended Friends School in Baltimore, relishing all aspects of his school life, but particularly loved sports. It was at Friends School that he discovered football, lacrosse, and basketball, which in his later life evolved into a loyalty to the former Baltimore Colts and the Orioles. He took pleasure in remembering that he was named to the "All Maryland" lacrosse team for high school in 1950.

After Friends School, Peter attended Haverford College near Philadelphia where he became interested in German language and literature. Following graduation from Haverford, he went on to receive an MA from Princeton University in German and French literature. During the summer of 1954, aboard a student transport ship headed to Europe, he met his future wife Margaret Martin Dandy, also of Baltimore, and at that time, a junior at Wellesley College. While listening to the recordings of Bach's B Minor Mass crossing the Atlantic, they discovered they shared a love of Bach, Mozart, and European literature, which enriched their subsequent 59 years together. Soon after marriage in 1956, Peter and Maggie moved to Munich where Peter enrolled in a doctoral program at the University of Munich. Peter completed his dissertation on the German/Swiss novelist and poet Hermann Hesse in 1958.

Upon return to the U.S., Peter first joined the faculty at the University of Chicago in 1959 and then in 1961 moved to the University of Oregon. He received several Humboldt grants to study the writers Max Frisch, Friedrich Dürrenmatt, and Rainer Maria Rilke and received the University of Oregon's Ersted Award for Excellence in Teaching in 1969. In 1974, he was selected as a Fulbright Scholar to conduct research in Germany.

Although he endured the health challenges of MS in his later years, Peter continued to teach until 1994. Peter was a born teacher; he loved sitting around a seminar table exchanging ideas with his students. He loved his family, listening to the music of the Bach Festival and the Mozart Players, meeting old friends and discovering new ones, immersing himself in Oregon's streams, cold lakes, and the Eugene YMCA pool. All who met him were left with the feeling of being appreciated and understood. In his last year at Fox Hollow Residential Care, his life was enriched by thoughtful and loving caregivers who could laugh with him and recognize the warmth in one another.

Survivors include his wife, Margaret, two daughters, Catherine Tibbitts of Eugene and Elsa Gontrum of Atherton, California, a son, David Gontrum of Salt Lake City, and seven grandchildren.

Arrangements by Musgrove Family Mortuary in Eugene. A private memorial will be planned for later in the summer. Please use the Legacy.com link to leave condolences for the family.

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Published by Eugene Register-Guard on Jun. 2, 2013.

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Bob Barton

July 23, 2013

Peter and I were close friends at Haverford in the '50s, but we lost contact in the pursuit of our careers. I helped my late wife cope with MS for 52 years. I know his family and many friends will miss his sweet spirit. God bless his memory.

Tom Nadar

July 15, 2013

Peter was such a remarkable man, a caring and supportive colleague, and a gentle friend. Knowing him enriched my life beyond measure. My heartfelt sympathy to Maggie, and to Katy, Elsa and David on their loss.

June 27, 2013

I am so sorry and sad to hear this news and send so much love to David, Maggie and the family. The time I spent with Peter and Maggie had such a profound impact on me and I think of it as a time filled with sunshine and challenging conversations and wise advice and tenderness. I feel so fortunate to have had that time together, and it is as vivid in my memory as though it were yesterday....

Eva Bernhard

June 15, 2013

In remembering (nearly!) a lifetime of having known Peter's wonderful spirit, this seems most appropriate:

The Apple Orchard

Come let us watch the sun go down
and walk in twilight through the orchard's green.
Does it not seem as if we had for long
collected, saved and harbored within us
old memories? To find releases and seek
new hopes, remembering half-forgotten joys,
mingled with darkness coming from within,
as we randomly voice our thoughts aloud
wandering beneath these harvest-laden trees
reminiscent of Durer woodcuts, branches
which, bent under the fully ripened fruit,
wait patiently, trying to outlast, to
serve another season's hundred days of toil,
straining, uncomplaining, by not breaking
but succeeding, even though the burden
should at times seem almost past endurance.
Not to falter! Not to be found wanting!

Thus must it be, when willingly you strive
throughout a long and uncomplaining life,
committed to one goal: to give yourself!
And silently to grow and to bear fruit.
Rainer Maria Rilke

June 13, 2013

Peter's passing brought to an end a friendship of nearly 60 years. For most of that time, we lived 6,000 miles apart,and meetings were rare. But they were special.
Among many memories are four days in 1957 in Salzburg with Peter and Mozart, and, years later, a warm evening on the deck of the house in Fairmount, drinking wine in the company of wonderful friends. Peter will be remembered for many qualities-his humour,his warmth,his humanity; add to that the courage with which he faced many years of illness.
One cannot write about Peter without mentioning Maggie. She gave her loving care and attention throughout their lives together.
I feel privileged to have known Peter during my life.

Michael Rowland, Suffolk, England.

June 11, 2013

My children and I knew Peter as a gentle person and a loyal friend.

Fred Munz

June 10, 2013

Maggie and family:
Our thoughts are with you and we miss Peter very much. We will be in touch and hope to see you soon.
Love,
Jo and Pete von Hippel

Bean Comrada

June 10, 2013

Many good memories over the years of Peter's cheerfulness, thoughtfulness, and kindness. With best, best wishes to Maggie and family.

Nancy Bray

June 9, 2013

We were sad to hear of Peter's passing. He was such a good friend to my mother during the few months that she lived at Fox Hollow. He made her feel welcome there, and they shared many stories of their life histories and events. He was so interested in everyone and everything --- truly a remarkable man. Our deepest sympathy to Maggie and family.

Nancy Bray and Herb Everett

Richard & Carole Stein

June 6, 2013

Even though we knew Peter had been ill for some time, news of his death came as a shock. Peter remained spirited and vibrant even during his illness, and never failed to greet us with a smile and a witty reference to some area of common interest.

As a UO Professor, Peter was a figure of intelligence and good sense. But it is his graciousness that we both will remember most. From my first arrival @ UO, Peter was one of the faculty who greeted me with most warmth and interest. That collegiality and genuine human concern never dimmed over the next decades, even though we were only briefly in the same "unit" (for the few years when I served on the Comparative Literature Committee).

Our later meetings were at concerts or simply passing on the street. Peter remained enthusiastic and interested, a model of humanity, even when his disability might have made him bitter. His composite virtues can be summed up more briefly in Yiddish (and I have no idea what he would have thought of this linguistic digression): Peter was a mensch.

One more word. Especially in late years, when he was confined to a wheel chair, we never saw Peter without seeing Maggie, who remained loving and caring during what must have been a difficult time. But they always had been a model couple. Peter's own joie de vivre seemed to us a reflection of their joint energy, their mutual love and enthusiasm. We never thought of one without the other. That's another reason we send Maggie special condolences.

With love,

Dick & Carole Stein

Christie McDonald

June 6, 2013

Peter was a fine man. I so cherished seeing he and Maggie at museum events. He will be deeply missed. Maggie, take care of yourself!

Barbara Ver West

June 6, 2013

My deepest sympathy for your family. I was so fortunate to meet Peter in 2008 when I started my position at the UO & have only heard wonderful things about Peter from our German & Scandinavian faculty.

Tobias Brown

June 4, 2013

My first strong memory of Peter was seeing his large frame folded into a small closet as he snared the many fishing lines of eager four-year-old birthday party attendees. Peter being Peter, as he attached each surprise gift to the fishing lines he also felt obligated to provide a convincing amount of swirling and tugging to at least give the facsimile of a trout if not a small salmon. My very special memory of Peter was seeing a large man shoot down from the bleachers at my South Eugene High School graduation as the award of my diploma was greeted by more than a few “boos” as the result of some strongly worded editorials penned in youthful exuberance. The big arm around my shoulders coupled with “I want you to know we all cheered” was the perfect salve to a shaky adolescent. If I had to choose a word to describe Peter it would be “heart”. If I had to describe a marriage that defined the term “tender care in sickness and health” if would be Maggie and Peter's. As the “kids” of Fairmount cross the transom into middle age, I am sure the Peter and Maggie's of our world have no idea how they shine in our minds as beacons and guides of lives well lived.

Charles Lachman

June 4, 2013

For many years, the brightest spot of the evening at any museum event was running into Peter---his wit and warmth will be sorely missed by us both.
Charles and Alexa

Steve and Marsha Shankman

June 3, 2013

We were very sorry to learn of Peter's passing. He was an exceptionally kind, modest man of culture and learning. He always seemed genuinely interested in what we had to say, always appreciated others, and often went out of his way to extend a compliment that brightened our day.

We send our sincere condolences to Maggie and the entire family. We will miss Peter and his gentle, sympathetic, and engaged presence.

Kristin Bach Kautz

June 3, 2013

Peter was a great teacher who loved his field and loved to challenge his student to think. I loved his sense of humor and zest for all things in life. As he got older, I was privileged to still know him and found his affection for his students, including me, to be so touching and affirming. He didn't forget that ever and he loved his family, including all of his UO students. It was a great pleasure to know him.

June 3, 2013

I remember so well when not long after I joined the department in 1967 Jim, Peter and I hiked to Jefferson Park and Peter jumped into one of those icy little mountain lakes urging Jim and me to "come on in, the
water is great!"

Peter with Friends

Geoff Nicholls

June 3, 2013

Peter with Roger Nicholls

Geoff Nicholls

June 3, 2013

Geoff Nicholls

June 3, 2013

I have so many fond memories of Peter as our families celebrated holidays or went for hikes and trips. He was always so warm and genuinely pleased his friends were part of his life. He will be missed.

Esther and Gary Jacobson-Tepfer

June 3, 2013

Peter was a brave, kind and considerate person. We don't ever recall meeting him but that he had a smile on his face. He has been a part of the campus since I first came here...so long ago.
Maggie, family: we send you all our condolences on Peter's passing.
Esther and Gary

Kate Nicholls

June 3, 2013

I have so many lovely memories of Peter from growing up. He was such a kind man, and always interested in hearing about what was going on in your life. I will always remember German Department get-togethers and family gatherings at the Gontrum home. All my love to Maggie, Katy, Elsa, David and their families.

Kurt Krueger

June 3, 2013

Peter was a great man and a great professor. I recall being literally mesmerized during a lecture of his on German expressionist poetry. And a fine story-teller ... his description of post-war Vienna was unforgettable. He is truly missed. My thoughts are with you, Maggie and Katie.

Laura Henry

June 3, 2013

When we were growing up on Fairmount Blvd, he was ready with his video camera to catch us at gocarts, lighting a Christmas tree, or hosting a neighborhood gathering. And on into young adulthood he was always there with kind counsel and comfort, or a story for a little one. He will always be remembered for his extraordinary kindness

Charles Wright

June 2, 2013

Peter was well known as one of the leading scholars on campus. Thoughtful, considerate, genuinely cheerful and academically solid. It was a privilege to have known him.

June 2, 2013

wonderful uncle peter! forever a gentle soul.

David Jensen

June 2, 2013

Peter and family were my wonderful neighbors on Fairmount over 3 decades ago. I will always remember his intelligence, smile, and warmth. I also had the wonderful experience of spending a few days with Peter and family on Cape Cod. A true gentleman whom enhanced the lives of many students and friends.
David Jensen, Vida, Oregon

The Howards

June 2, 2013

Our wonderful neighbor will be very much missed and very fondly remembered. Fairmount Blvd. will never be the same without Peter to enhance it with his wit and bonhomie. Our condolences to all of Peter's family.

Tom Dorland

June 2, 2013

Peter was an exceptional man who both cared for others and positively influenced many lives in and beyond Eugene.

June 2, 2013

We are so lucky to have met this wonderful man. He will live on forever in our loving thoughts.

Dan Turner - Christine Bowen

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