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Robert Mehaffy Obituary

Robert Mehaffy
December 4, 1935 - January 26, 2022
Folsom, California - Robert (Bob) Eugene Mehaffy
Bob Mehaffy succumbed to pancreatic cancer at home with his loving wife, Carol, and other family members at his bedside.
Born in Stockton, CA, the second of four children and the only son of Robert Cecil and Martha Williams Mehaffy, Bob grew up on ranches near Stockton and, later, Placerville. Eager to leave the ranching life behind, he joined the U. S. Navy shortly after graduation from El Dorado High School, in Placerville.
After his service in the Navy Construction Battalion ("Seabees"), he returned to the Sacramento Area, where he enrolled in Sacramento City College followed by Sacramento State College (now California State University, Sacramento). At the latter college, he attained both BA and MA degrees.
In 1970, after a few years of teaching high school English in the Sacramento City School District, he obtained a position teaching English at American River College, where he spent the remainder of his career until his retirement in 1996.
While teaching English at ARC, he also partnered with two other English instructors on campus to write textbooks for English composition classes. Together, the threesome wrote and revised several editions for the various levels of freshman English, these textbooks assigned to numbers of students at American River College as well as throughout the U. S. As well as writing, Bob greatly enjoyed speaking at conferences around the country on the new approaches to teaching composition that these books introduced.
Bob also served as chairman of the English Department for many years.
His abiding passion, however, was bluewater sailing. After he purchased his first small sailboat in the early 1960s, he was never without a sailboat for more than a few months for the remainder of his life. He sailed his early boats not only in San Francisco Bay, where he moored them, but up and down the California Coast, and to Hawai'i and back as well.
Soon after embracing sailing, he also began writing magazine articles about his adventures on the water as well as about the sailing and upkeep of bluewater boats. These articles, illustrated by nautical photographs he had taken, were published by both local and national boating magazines.
One of the many endearing qualities about Bob was his generosity, manifested in many events of his daily life but no more so than in his eagerness to share his passion for sailing adventures with family, friends and colleagues. Several times throughout each school year, he planned a weekend sail day on San Francisco Bay to share with those colleagues who had professed an interest in sailing.
At American River College, he met his future wife, the former Carolyn (Carol) Jewett, also a faculty member of the English Department. Carol readily embraced the cruising life, and the couple spent virtually every weekend and all summer on either the Resolute or, in later years, the Carricklee.
After their retirement from the college in 1996-97, the couple sailed Carricklee, a Hardin 45 ketch, initially to Hawai'i, where they spent a year exploring all the islands in the Hawaiian Chain. Obtaining permission from the U.S. Fish and Wildlife Service, the Mehaffys then sailed to Midway Atoll, near the northwestern extremity of the Hawaiian Chain, without exception the highlight of their cruising years.
Returning to Hawai'i, the Mehaffys readied Carricklee for the voyage back to the Continental U.S. by way of Puget Sound and then Alaska.
During their 23 years of continuous cruising (except for summers spent back in the States, out of the heat of the Tropics), they also sailed along the Pacific Coasts of Central and South America and then through the Panama Canal into the Caribbean, where they spent a few years before returning to cruise both the Pacific Coast and the Sea of Cortez, in Mexico.
During their years of cruising, the Mehaffys wrote scores of articles for boating magazines as well as three cruising books and spoke at numerous boating shows along the U.S. Pacific Coast.
In 2019, the Carricklee was moored in Mazatlan, Mexico, when the Mehaffys sold it after Bob's cancer diagnosis.
All those who knew him will remember Bob for his exuberance for life generally. He had a constant twinkle in his eye that lit up the world of all those around him. He will be greatly missed by his family and his many friends.
Bob was preceded in death by two sisters, Aileen Nicolls and Florence Stevens. Survivors include his wife, Carol; sister Nola Stilwell; nieces Deborah Nicolls and Carrie Stilwell; nephews Randy Stevens and David Nicolls; a grand-niece and -nephew; step-daughter Kimberly DeArton; six step-grandchildren, and thirteen step-great-grandchildren.
In lieu of flowers, his family suggests any who wish to express their respect and love for him do so with a donation in his name to the Marine Mammal Center, 2000 Bunker Rd., Sausalito, CA, 94965, or give.marinemammalcenter.org.

To plant trees in memory, please visit the Sympathy Store.

Published by The Sacramento Bee on Feb. 6, 2022.

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Kurt Lysen

January 31, 2024

I see I already posted before. I'm sorry!

Kurt Lysen

January 31, 2024

I met Bob and his first wife in the Ala Wai Harbor circa 1974 when they sailed their 32' ketch to Hawaii. They entrusted me to babysit the boat whilst they went back to California for Christmas. We kept in contact for a few years and Bob always told me to start writing about my sailing adventures, as he thought I did a pretty good job writing letters back & forth with him. Not bad for a high school dropout! I enjoyed reading Bob's informative magazine articles, but somehow lost connection over the tears. I found Bob's phone number one day and called, but had to leave a voice mail. I found out not long after that he had passed just before my call. I'm so sad to have missed catching up. Bob was a wonderful human being, and he enriched lives wherever he went. Aloha, my friend

Kurt Lysen

March 13, 2022

I met Bob in Honolulu as a teenager sometime in 1974. He had a Mariner 32 ketch and kept her anchored in the Ala Wai Harbor. I watched over her while he went back home for Christmas. He was such a great man who wrote some great stories about the sailing/cruising life. He always told me that I had a knack for writing also, as letter writing was the main way to keep in touch back then. Someday I'll write that book he insisted on seeing. So sorry I missed reconnecting with Bob before he passed. Great memories always. Rest in love, buddy!

William Mehaffy

February 28, 2022

So sad to read of Bob's passing - a true gentleman. The thoughts of the extended family in Northern Ireland are with Carol and his family and friends in California. Many special memories of time spent in Bob's company, reading his emails / travelogues and just generally catching up. He will be sorely missed by all

Joni Russell

February 14, 2022

So deeply sorry for your loss of Bob. I was hoping to see you both in Oregon this past summer. My special - happy memory of Bob - will be all of us girls and Bob at Mtn. View, Ar. He was so gracious and patient surrounded by us gals. Sending love to you.

Richard Wallinder

February 8, 2022

Mr. Mehaffy was my home room teacher my sophomore more year at Luther Burbank High School(which turned out to be his last year before going to ARC).
I always looked forward to home room sessions as Mr. Mehaffy was always so positive and upbeat. I wish there were more teachers like him.

Steve Bertino

February 7, 2022

Bob Mehaffy was one of my most influential instructors at American River College. Along with Dick Guchus and Bob Frew, this English faculty gave me the path toward better writing. Their guidance enabled me to achieve my academic goals and professional achievement. RIP Bob M.

Pamela Schneider

February 7, 2022

Carol was a beloved English professor; later, she and Bob became my friends. I will never forget a day of sailing with my husband Harold on their beautiful sailboat in the San Francisco Bay. Bob was a gentle man, and the love he and Carol shared was an inspiration to me and my husband as we embarked on our own love story and lives together. These memories live on in those of us still here and carry us forward into the next life where we will know each other again, as we once were-young, and strong, and beautiful.

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