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Shelby Dow Obituary

Shelby John Dow 1947 ~ 2003  Shelby John Dow, 56, of Teaneck, New Jersey and Salt Lake City, Utah, unexpectedly died in Teaneck on December 24, 2003 of a coronary occlusion leaving his wife of 22 years, Dr. Audrey Lynne Athay Dow, two daughters, Audrey Allyson Athay Barnes (Don) and grandson, Fletcher William Barnes, of Gloucester, Virginia, and Emily Ashley Athay Dow of Teaneck and Washington, DC. Also by a cadre of dogs, cats, and a rat. Shelby was born February 9, 1947 to Rayburn and Merle Dow in Murray, Utah. He graduated from Jordan High School, where he formed his own dance band and played drums throughout Salt Lake and Park City. He attended Brigham Young University, graduated from Westminster College with a Bachelor of Science in Business and continued his education in New York at Pace University's Executive MBA program. The program included travel to and studying the European Economic Common Market in Brussels, Belgium, and Washington, D.C. After receiving his MBA, he completed post graduate studies at Pace in finance. Shelby's career began early at the age of 13 working at an egg ranch. He was serving in the Salt Lake County Sheriffs Department when he transferred to the Salt Lake County Animal Control later becoming the Director. During this time he served locally on animal welfare and community boards and Nationally was Vice President of NACA (National Animal Control Association). In 1983 he was recruited by American Humane Association in Denver, Colorado, where he traveled throughout the United States assessing shelter operations. In 1985, he was recruited as Vice President of the ASPCA (American Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals) in New York City. There he oversaw operations in all five boroughs, including the animal port at JFK International Airport. During the 1990's, Shelby was a private investor and published weekly an appropriately named, "The Dow Report" assessment of individual stocks' performance.  Shelby was active in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, and was a member of the Englewood Ward, Caldwell Stake, New Jersey. He completed a two year mission in Northern California. His marriage to Lynne was solemnized in the Salt Lake LDS Temple for time and all eternity. Throughout his life, Shelby had a secure testimony of his faith. Shelby's commitment to animals continued until his death. He was a consultant to PsyETA (Psychologists for the Ethical Treatment of Animals) and had just organized Animal PAC, a political action committee organized to elect individuals who are sensitive to and endorse animal rights legislation. His family will continue Animal PAC in his memory. In addition to Lynne, Ally, and Emily, he is survived by children from his first marriage, Elissa Anne Tenney (Craig) of American Fork; Christian James Dow and Allison Marie (Matthew) Ramirez, both of Sacramento, CA; and three granddaughters and two grandsons. He is also survived by his brother, EIray Dow (Janet), Sandy. Shelby's departure leaves an enormous void. He placed importance on his family) traveling with them extensively abroad, and enjoyed skiing and golfing, and renovating his two homes in Utah and New Jersey.  The family suggests contributions to be made in his name, in lieu of flowers to Animal PAC (584 Cumberland Avenue, Teaneck, NJ 07666), PsyETA, Washington, DC, or North Shore Animal League, Port Washington, N.Y. Memorial Services for Shelby were held on December 28, 2003 in Englewood, New Jersey, and will be held on Monay, January 5, 2004 at 2 p.m. at the Brookshire Ward, 3487 South 13th East, Salt Lake City, Utah.

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Published by The Salt Lake Tribune from Jan. 3 to Jan. 4, 2004.

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Kate Meighan

January 19, 2004

To Em, Mrs. Dow, and Ally:



I'm so sorry for your loss, but at the same time I'm so glad that I had the chance to know Mr. Dow...Dinner after Emily's Junior Ring Ceremony was a blast!! Liz and I will miss him, and we are always here to support the Dow family in all you do.



Love, Kate and Liz

Susan Harrison (Sund)

January 14, 2004

My condolences to Shelby's family. I went to school with Shelby, having grown up in Draper, and I graduated from Jordan High the same year as he did. From reading his obituary, I'm happy to learn that he accomplished a lot in his short life (I'm 56, also, and I don't think this is "old" yet). He was always a very nice person, friendly to everyone. He's now blessing the lives of those who are on the other side, who need his special kind of friendship. May God be with you until you are together again.

Susan (Sund) Harrison

Eureka, NV

Sonja Peasley

January 4, 2004

To the family, loved ones, and friends of Shelby: You are in my thoughts and prayers. How lucky for animals that he has been an untiring and continual advocate for their rights in this world. We need many more committed individuals like Shelby. God bless and comfort you all at this difficult time.

Deon (Garfield) Masker

January 3, 2004

Dear Lynne, Elissa Anne, Christian, Allison Marie, Allyson, Emily and grandchildren,



It is with great sadness that I write this today. It is hard to believe that my cousin, Shelby, being younger than me, would depart so unexpectedly. I loved him so much, as did you all, I'm sure.



I know my sadness is probably nowhere as profound as yours, but never-the-less, my heart goes out to you all at this time. Anytime is a hard time to lose a loved one, but especially it is so hard at Christmas time, when we are all joyful and happy.



There is so much to remember and say about Shelby that there is not enough room here to even begin. Just reading the obituary brings back so many memories of the family gatherings at Thanksgiving at either Aunt Merle and Uncle Rayburn's home or at Uncle Gus and Aunt Alice's or at our home, the Garfield's. We always had such fun when we gathered, even though the boy cousins out numbered the three Garfield girls.



Then there were the Howlett family parties that all the aunts, uncles, and cousins attended, most of them usually arranged by Shelby's mom. Come to think of it, I think the there were more boys than girls at those gatherings, too! Lots of Howlett boys, there was/is. We had so much fun with all the games, the laughter and stories told by our aunts and uncles of the good old days. Why we don't do things like that any more will always remain a mystery to me. Sometimes I think we have forgotten how to have fun anymore, what with all the tribulations surrounding us these days.



It was kind of sad that we all had to grow up and go our separate ways, leave Draper and some of us even leaving Utah. But, I guess our assignments in life were (and) are all different and moving away allowed us all to have those different experiences.



I remember the first time I ever saw a show on the Animal Planet Television station and it was about an animal lovers group in New York City called the ASPCA (American Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals) and I said to my husband, "My cousin, Shelby, is Director of that group!" He could hardly believe it!!



I see that I was NOT exactly correct in his title, but I am very proud that he was a part of them in the capacity that he was. I am also very proud that he loved the animals everywhere and sought to make life good for them. We should all take lessons from Shelby and all be so conscientious of God's creatures.



I remember the one and only time that I was ever able to get back East to New York City, I tried to get a visit in with the Dow's in Tea Neck, but as I recall they were just leaving on vacation or an assignment of some sort and were not going to be home the day that we could make it over there to New Jersey. I did get to visit with their home, though, as Shelby so very kindly told us how to access the house even though it was being remodeled, and my friend and I had a nice bedroom to rest our weary bodies in. We were so very grateful for such love and kindness, even though Shelby did not know the gal I was traveling with. I'm not sure that the parrot liked us being there, though. He/she (?) put up quite a fuss for such a long time before we finally all got to sleep.



I guess it is alright to write these kinds of things here. I can't really think of any other better place to say how much I loved Shelby. We will all miss Shelby, even though we know that he must be really enjoying himself again with his mom, dad, and sister and all his relatives. I hope that he is getting re-acquainted with ALL the Howletts and Dows, etc., the legacy of families who he belonged to.



As for those who are temporarily left behind and especially to Lynne, the children and the grandchildren, may the sting of Shelby's leaving so abruptly only hurt for a little while.



Even though it will probably seem like an eternity before we meet up with him again, I do believe time has speeded up on Earth. It seems like it was turning to a new century just a couple of months ago and here it is 2004 already. We will all be together too soon, I believe, some of us sooner than the others, but together we will be.



As much as I wish I could be there on Monday for the memorial service, it is basically impossible. Even though I love living in Idaho, it is at times like this that it is the pits. Not because of the snow and cold, but because of the distance between me and Utah. However, I will be there in spirit and I hope that you will feel my presence.



I love you all, even though some of you I have yet to meet in person.



May peace surround you all at this time of sorrow. Shelby is just away for a little while and he would want you to be happy and un-mournful. We must all carry on and finish what we need to do, so that we can all have another family reunion. It will be good.



Here's hugs for every one! ((((((HUGS))))))





With all my love,





Cousin Deon

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