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CARPENTER, JR., JAMES B. COLONEL USMC, Ret.; 85 James Bert Carpenter, Jr. died Wednesday, March 2, 2005, after a long illness. He was born October 5, 1919, in Monroe, New York to James and Mildred Carpenter. He attended Monroe public schools and graduated 2 years early from high school to attend Columbia University. In 1940, he enlisted in the Marine Corps, was accepted into Officer's Candidate School in 1941, and received a regular commission upon graduation. In May of 1943, he married his lifelong sweetheart, Elizabeth Kaufman, of Richmond Hill, New York, and they remained happily married for 63 years. During WWII, he was ordered to the U.S. INDEPENDENCE and was at sea for 30 months, which included seven major operations from Wake Island, to strikes against the mainland of Japan. After the war he was stationed in Camp Lejeune, NC, Nashville, TN, Quantico, VA, and Pearl Harbor, HI. In 1955, he served with the 1st Marine Division at Camp Pendleton, CA., then attended Stanford University for post-graduate courses. In 1960, he was ordered to the 3rd Marine Division on Okinawa, for a year without his family. In 1965, he was ordered to Staff Commander, 6th Fleet in the Mediterranean on the flagship Independence. It was an unforgettable tour of duty, as the Six Day War and the attack on the Liberty occurred at that time. In 1967, he was ordered back to Quantico, and served as Chief of Staff for the Commanding General. Col. Carpenter retired from the Marine Corps in 1969, and moved to San Diego with his family. He then worked for San Diego City Schools as a Naval Science Instructor for the NJROTC program at Point Loma High School for five years. He finally "retired" in 1974, and set out to enjoy 33 years of travel and adventure with his beloved wife, Betsy. Their travels included many trips to Europe, South America and Hawaii. He was an avid tennis player, and played up until he was 82 years old. He also enjoyed ocean fishing and wrote travel articles. He was a member of the Military Order of the Caribou and a Knight in the Equestrian Order of the Knights of the Holy Sepulcher. He was a devout Catholic and involved in the International Serra Club for many years to promote vocations in the Church. Col. Carpenter was active member of St. Agnes Parish in Point Loma, where he volunteered many hours with their vocation committee. He was a respected and beloved husband, father, grandfather, uncle and friend, whose life was an outstanding example to all. He was preceded in death by his grandson: Robert J. Ellsworth IV. His survivors include his wife: Elizabeth Carpenter; daughter, Mary Ellsworth of Jamul; grandson, James Carpenter Ellsworth of Jamul; sister, Carolyn McLaughlin of Oceanside; nephew, Mark Van Etten and niece, Dale Temmel. A Memorial Mass is scheduled Thursday, March 10, 11:30 a.m. at St. Agnes Catholic Church, Point Loma, followed by an interment at Fort Rosecrans National Cemetery at 2 p.m. In lieu of flowers, memorial donations can be made to: Serra International, 70 E. Lake St., Ste. 1210, Chicago, IL 60601. Please sign the guest book at obituaries.uniontrib.com

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Published by San Diego Union-Tribune from Mar. 9 to Mar. 10, 2005.

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Izanne Leonard-Haak

March 28, 2005

I am the daughter of Col. Jack Leonard, Retired USMC, deceased, a long time friend of Col. Carpenter. Our whole family used to look forward to seeing Col. Carpentar once a year when he came East to attend the annual Military Order of the Caribou. Not only was he a lot of fun to be with, but he was the most handsome man I ever saw in a tuxedo (which he wore every year to the Caribou). A gentleman to the core. His devotion to his wife, the Sierra Club and his turtle will remain vivid memories for me for a lifetime. God speed, Colonel.

John Baptista Jr.

March 21, 2005

It has been 33 years since I graduated from Pt. Loma High School, class of 1972. It was there that Colonel James Carpenter came into my life. Since that time we have kept in touch and will especially remember the mission Christmas Cards.



I have often said he made me what I am today; yet he often told me he just took what my parents had made and polished it up.



I will always be grateful to all he did for me. He was the one who after my heart surgery in high school, and elimination from the Naval Academy, still believed in me and got me my full Naval schorship to USC.



Mrs. Carpenter and Mary, Col. C was some man! One who I will never forget.



May god bless all of you.



John Baptista Jr.

Class of 1972

Loveland, COlorado

Mark Van Etten

March 18, 2005

My cousin Bob (Jim's Son-in-Law) gave a wonderful eulogy at the church service. I also had the privelage to express my thoughts at the service. The essence of what I said follows:



A Tribute to Uncle Jim

March 10, 2005





My name is Mark. I am Jim Carpenter’s nephew. I like to think of myself as Jim Carpenter’s favorite nephew; although, I should tell you that I was his only one. Even if Uncle Jim had two-dozen nephews, I am certain that he would have had enough love for them all and would make them each feel as special as he made me feel. Uncle Jim was like a father to me. While I am deeply saddened by this great loss, I am grateful for the opportunity to share some of my thoughts and memories with you.



When I was a little boy, my Uncle Jim was a hero to me, someone who was larger than life. Often as we grow older, for various reasons, these feelings diminish. However, as I grew older, I gained a deeper understanding as to why I felt this way about him. As I matured, my understanding of this man continued to deepen with each passing year. Today my Uncle Jim is more a hero to me than he ever was. I would like to tell you why.



Throughout the course of your lives, you have undoubtedly met people that have made significant impressions upon you. We meet people that impress us because of their kindness, strength of character, wisdom, leadership, intelligence, athleticism or sense of humor. We respect them for their devotion to their family, religion and church, service to the country or being a mentor who helps guide us through challenging times in our lives. When we meet people that are exceptional in any of these areas they leave an indelible mark upon us. My Uncle Jim left a mark on me because he was singularly exceptional in all these areas.



Throughout my life I have been blessed to encounter truly exceptional and special. I say without doubt and from my heart that my Uncle Jim was the finest man I have ever known.



When the Lord decides that is my time to embark upon the journey from this life, there is one thing that I am sure of – should I not encounter my Uncle Jim during the journey, I will know that I am not in Heaven…



I love you Uncle Jim.

Rolf Zaeschmar

March 18, 2005

As an NJROTC cadet at Point Loma HS back in 1974, I remember Col. Carpenter as an outstanding leader, at a time when the military had some tough PR problems. But he never wavered in the amount of respect he demanded--and got--from us youths. When the Colonel arranged for us to take a trip to Hawaii over Easter vacation, we were bused to March AFB. Unfortunately there was a crisis in the far east, and there was one less spot on the plane. I got bumped, but Colonel Carpenter bought me a private plane ticket--out of his own pocket, so I rejoined the platoon in Honolulu a day later. He is the one who inspired me to join the Corps later(3rd Battalion, 4th Marines, 3rdMarDiv, '81-'84) Thanks for the memories, Colonel.



Semper Fi,



Rolf Zaeschmar(PLHS, Class of '76)

Robert Read

March 17, 2005

My deepest sympathy for your loss! From your description, your father certainly left his mark on this earth and did a lot of good for all of us.



Take care,



Bob Read

Mary Ellsworth

March 16, 2005

Thank you all so much for the kind words and memories of my father. For those of you who weren't able to attend the service, it was a really memorable one. His life touched so many people. We will miss him forever while on this earth. He has gone to heaven and is probably fishing with our son, Bobby....or playing tennis.

Mary Carpenter Ellsworth

Robert Graham

March 15, 2005

Mrs Carpenter I'm sorry to hear of Col. Carpenter death. He was my Naval Science instructor (NJROTC)in 1973-74 at Point Loma High School. Please accept my condolances.

Barbara Kramer

March 15, 2005

Dear Mary and Mrs. Carpenter,



I was so sorry to hear about Mr. Carpenter. I can just see him driving that cute green MG or taking Mary and I someplace before we got our licenses. He was such a kind man. My thoughts and prayers are with both of you and your family.



Sincerely,



Barbara Kramer



In case you don't remember me, Mary we knew each other in junior high and high school. My Dad was also a Marine

James M. Caraher

March 10, 2005

Dear Betsy, We know you and Jim through Serra. Jim's enthusiasm for Serra was an inspiration. You are in our prayers.



Jim and Annelis Caraher

Phoebe Burr Markley

March 9, 2005

My condolances to my good friend Mary and to her beloved mother Betsy.

Am honored to have known your father, how ever brief.

Aloha!

Jay and Lisa King

March 9, 2005

We were saddened to hear of the passing of "Uncle Jim." We know that Mark was very fond of his Uncle, and had tremendous respect and love for him. We will inlcude Uncle Jim in our prayers.

Jack Boyce

March 9, 2005

Condolances andlove to Betsey . Jack andMig Boyce

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