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Timothy May Obituary

Services will be Thursday and Friday for Timothy D. May who passed away suddenly on July 15, 2007 he was 39.

Tim was born in Grove, Oklahoma and grew up in Miami, Oklahoma. He graduated from Miami High School in 1985 and later attended University of Oklahoma where he earned his Bachelors Degree in Political Science. He moved to Santa Cruz in 2000 and worked in the technology industry in Silicon Valley. He later began working for UCSC where he was a program analyst supporting the Chancellors Office.

In his spare time he enjoyed surfing, playing Frisbee golf, camping, fishing and spending time with his family.

He is survived by his wife, Julianne May of Santa Cruz; two sons, Harrison T. May and Thomas M. May both of Santa Cruz; his parents, Thomas H. May of Afton, Ok and Kathleen May of Calgary, Canada; he also leaves his two brothers, Tony May of New Castle, CO and Russell May of Orlando, FL.

Friends are invited to call at Benito & Azzaro Pacific Gardens Chapel 1050 Cayuga St, Santa Cruz, CA Thursday July 19 from 2 pm to 5pm and from 6:30 to 9 pm. A vigil prayer service will be Thursday evening at Pacific Gardens Chapel at 7pm. A Mass of Christian burial will be celebrated at Holy Cross Catholic Church 126 High St, Santa Cruz, CA Friday July 20 at 12 noon. Interment will be in Santa Cruz Memorial Park.

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Published by Santa Cruz Sentinel on Jul. 18, 2007.

Memories and Condolences
for Timothy May

Sponsored by Uncle Chris and Auntie Karen.

125 Entries

Will

July 12, 2024

My brother Tim - We still think of you every day and miss you. Celebrating your life all the time.
Will, Susan, Willy, Timmy and Katie Scott.

Ponca Barb

July 16, 2023

We are still missing you after these days.. Memories are so dear to me. Still sending positive vibes and love to your family!

Carol (King) Suder

July 16, 2021

Tim,

I see this reminder come up about your passing. It was and continues to be a shock.

What I like to think about most is the many conversations we had, at OU and when you came to Virginia and stayed with my family. You saw things in unique and interesting ways. I didn't always agree ;), but I always loved talking with you. I hope I made the cut...the top 5, because you certainly hold a place in my heart.

Love and peace,
Carol

Kiki May

July 15, 2021

My dearest Timmy, today marks 14 years since you judge her dear Lord in heaven. Your happiness must be overwhelming yet sadness remains for those you left behind.
Ask your mom, my heart cries every day as I miss you dearly and lumpy more. Your two boys I almost young man and I visit with him from time to time now.
Thomas told me he´s over 60 towel and Harrison hasn´t quite caught up to them. Hairy will be 16 next week. 14 and 16 and there fine young man.
I love you forever Tim
Mom

Kiki May

November 8, 2020

Happiest Heavenly Birthday my sweet son. I know you are beyond Happy. You are in my heart with such love ❤
I miss you , miss you. Pray for you earthly family please. I know God is holding you and He will Always be with us.
All my love xxxooo Mom

Kiki May

July 15, 2020

Well my dearest Timmy, this day marking 13 years is almost over. I tried my best at distraction but you turned up everywhere. It was okay and the missing you never ends. Some days are difficult but knowing you are with God and all our family is consoling.
You sons are really growing up and will be fine young men just like their Dad.
I love you dearly. xxxooo Mom.

Kiki May

July 14, 2019

My dearest Tim,

I miss and love you very much on this anniversary 12 years since you went into the arms of our dear Lord.

There is in today that goes by that you are not in my thoughts and prayers. Some of the days are a little easier now.
Pray for your earthly family so they may know more peace kindness and love.

Your darling boys are really growing. They are both going to be tall and this summer Harrison was really towering over me. Thomas not yet, but he will have his spurt. Both of the boys look like you, Harrison especially.

I hope to see them Labor Day and I always have thoughts of your first Labor day when Harrison was a few months old and you were planting your garden for the first time. We sat and watched you. I remember everything we did together and it gives me great joy every once in a while I'll shed a tear. I'm sure you don't like that as I know you are in a heavenly place that is more beautiful than anything anyone could ever imagine. And, with more joy and love that is unimaginable.

My heart yearns for you Tim but you were always in it and I hold you there with all my love. I can hear you with your drawl saying mom
Loving you forever
Mom.

Kiki May

November 8, 2018

Happy 51st earthly Birthday my dearest Timmy
A Mass is being said for you today and I'll be there probably shedding a tear in my heart.
Oh how I miss you.
I saw your darling boys in August with Hal for 4 days. Looks like that's all I get this year. My they are growing up and just delights. Harrison is just like you getting tall and lanky. Thomas is getting there too. Such loves.
You are always in my heart. Pray for us and my special intention. My love always xoxo Mom

Kiki May

July 15, 2017

My Dearest Timmy,

Today ten years ago our dear Lord took you in HIS arms to your heavenly home.
Not a day goes by without my heart aching for you, your smile, and love.
Knowing you are with God in all His glory and joy your Mom cannot imagine, consoles her.

I am having a Memorial Mass for you today at St. Agnes in Carstairs, AB.

Before that I plan to go to the Stampede for you and with you. You loved it so.
Then finally after 15 months I will see your two darling boys in August. I so wish I could see them at least twice a year. Thomas 10, and one week Harrison will be 12 are beautiful and I love them so much. They are what I have left of you on this earth and I to ache to see them. It is so easy for me to just hop "over the hill"

Pray for peace in our families Timmy and from above wrap us in your joy.

Always, your loving Mom

Workin Away!

November 10, 2016

Happy Birthday Brother. Miss you every day.

Love,

Will.

Kiki May

November 8, 2016

Dearest Timmy
Happy 49th Birthday. I know there is no time in Heaven so you are young forever..

I remember the day you were born so vividly. you were such a little peanut at
5lbs. 7oz. Breech of course. Such a blessing you and your brothers are to me.

I finally was able to talk with your two wonderful sons last Sunday. it has been 6 months. Thomas was getting ready to play flag football and Harrison was reading, his love.

I finished their Memory T-shirt quilts and sandwiched in the middle is your South Park T-shirt (1/2 each)and a pair of your socks.

its my way of having them have your arms around them and walking beside your treasures. Yes, silly Mother but fills my heart.

I hope to deliver in person before Christmas.

you are always in my heart and I miss and love you very much. Your family and friends do too.

Pray for us sweet Tim
xxx Mom ooo Flying green balloons for you today !!!

Kiki May

March 3, 2016

Missing with all my love
Miss you forever
Mom xxxooo

March 2, 2016

I just learned about the passing of Tim. I was a friend at OU and he was someone who left an impression. I remember long talks and many laughs with Tim. He had a great wit and an honest heart. I am shocked and really sad to know he left this world way to early. Peace and prayers. - Carol "King" Suder OU class of 1991

Kiki May

November 8, 2015

Always a candle burning brightly for you

so much love
mom

Kiki May

November 8, 2015

My Dearest Timmy,
Happy #48 Birthday !! Though in Heaven you are ageless.

I miss and love you so much.

What a wonderful time had with your little boys last week that wanted to hear stories about their "Dad" when he was little as I tucked them into bed each night.
Their Mom organized such a fun Halloween and many of us carved pumpkins, I, remembering the time in Los Gatos, so funny.

I know I write this more for my heart and when those darlings of yours and Jules get older, they too can read the notes many have written about their great Dad.

Love you so mityam, xxx Mom ooo

July 16, 2015

Another year has come and gone without you...we miss you and you are always with us...

July 15, 2015

Dearest Timmy, eight years have passed and yet time seems to have stood still. You gave us all such great joy and are missed so very much.
Your boys are growing and I love them more and more.
Your 30th MHS school reunion is this weekend at which you will be remembered so fondly. Many of your classmates have communicated with me and asked me to come and chaperone. So Nice. You will be there in spirit I know.
It will never be easy for me Timmy, say a prayer for me and all your family as we for you today, and every day. I love and miss you more than ever, xxxooo, Mom

Kiki May

November 8, 2014

Happy Birthday my dearest Tim. Love and miss you very much. I had the best time with you two boys Sept labor day weekend. They are growing up so fast it seems. It had been a year but they still Love their Nana. I hope to see them soon if only for a weekend. Two green balloons will go "flying in the sky" this morning for you to catch. All my love forever and ever, Mom, xxxooo

Hard Day Fishing in the San Juans

November 9, 2013

We miss you brother, everyday!
Will, Susan, Willy, Timmy and Katie

Kiki May

November 8, 2013

Dearest Tim,
I think of you with joy, tenderness and so much love always. Today is our special day, the day of your birth 46 years ago. I have all wonderful memories and they are with me daily.
I had great fun with Harrison and Thomas for 2 days the end of Sept. They are growing like weeds those dear sons of yours. I love them so.
Your brother al is here this weekend and in a snow storm. He has palm trees all year long snow is a treat.
I miss and love you forever, Mom xxxooo

Kiki May

July 15, 2013

I don't know where my message went and just in case I cancelled it I will let you know you are so very much loved and missed by me and all your family and friends.
For special memories Laura and I went to the Calgary Stampede yesterday and did fun things. One you loved and that was the floating ducks. You had found one on the ground early in the am before the WestJet breakfast and said you would use it later but you gave it to nephew Bryson and he still has it. I got a small and Laura a large so the prizes we decided to give to a little girl on the midway. Great fun.
I love you the moon, sky and stars forever on this sixth anniversary Mom xxxooo

Kiki May

November 8, 2012

Dearest Timmy, another milestone which I celebrated with green balloons "flying in the sky" and in a snow storm. they looked so cool. I sang Happy Birthday too. How I miss you and all the joy you gave to me and all thsoe who knew you. Wont be able to see your dear sons Harry and Thomas for my Christmas visit as their mom told me it doesn't worwk for them until the end of April 2013. Not sure why but I passed on my tradition of balloons to them. i love you the sky and miss you the moon, always with love,
Mom

Kiki May

July 22, 2012

Dearest Timmy, last Sunday July 15th marked 5 years since your flew into the arms of our Dear Lord and it seems as though just a moment has passed. I had Masses for you in Cochrane AB, and Holy Cross, Santa Cruz,CA. I was going to attend that one but was asked if I could do my memories another time. Later I was told they had Harry's 7th b-day party that day. I have made 2 calls to him today, his 7th b-day. Papa Mike said he'd have him call me when he got there for the pool party. I miss you the moon and love you the sky with every ounce of my being. xxxooo Mom

Kiki May

November 8, 2011

Dearest Timmy, a big Happy Birthday to you high in the sky. I have your special b-day green balloons to send off when it warms up today. Your earthly resting place will have a fresh flowering plant today too. You are so missed and loved. You don't have to blow out the candle either. It glows with love for you always.
I love you the sky and miss you the moon always with love, Mom

July 15, 2011

My Dearest Timmy mouse,
Today marks the 4th Anniversary that you were wrapped in the arms of Our Lord for peace eternally. My heart misses and weeps for you. You were a huge light in all our lives and you will always remain there. My visit in June with your two wonderful boys, Harry, Tommy and their mom Julianne was wonderful.
I love you the sky and miss you the moon always with love, Mom

Will Scott

June 17, 2011

Tim, my family and I think about you all the time. We miss you. Everyday life brings to mind another "Tim-ism".

Thomas Riordan

June 16, 2011

I went to your bench in the Arboretum today, Tim, it's nice there with all the hummingbirds. You are missed. I'm back in our old world again, I think you'd be happy with the changes. I miss you, buddy.

Kiki May

January 13, 2011

Dearest Timmy
I think of you daily and as your 3yr6mo anniversary nears my heart weeps in scilence as did Rose's for her husband and son. Now she is "flying in the sky" with you and all her family and all of God's family now in their eternal lives. For a mere mortal like me it is a challenge to grasp all of this but I truly believe in God's promise and without it I would be lost. I do have faith and I do have doubts but most of all I have faith. It must be so to survive for eternity. I pray for you and all of you family. I miss Harry and Thomas so much and when I am with them we have great fun and play great games. I will do my best to be the Nana you wanted me to be. I miss you and love you the sky, Mom

July 15, 2010

Dearest Timmy,
As we remember this 3rd anniversary of the day God took you to His glory, we still miss you, your love, smiles, full of life attitude you had for family, friends and all God's creatures. I saw your Becky Bobcat the last time I was at UCSC by Norrie's shop. It was as if she was saying a hi to you. I miss you forever and love you each day holding and tucking sweet memories in my heart. I love you the sky, Mom

May 8, 2010

Dearest Timmy,
Tomorrow, Mother's Day, brings a great memory of that day 2007 when we all went to the train park, Felton, CA with your family. Thomas was born the next month, now soon to be three with Harrison soon five. Thomas will get his big boy bed quilt from his Nana this birthday. Many memories flood daily about you growing-up Tim with your brothers. You Uncle Chris wrote a great short story with you in mind. I miss you forever and love you each day and know you will be wishing us all a happy Mother's day. I will light candles for all our families tomorrow with lots of love, Mom

Eric Martin

May 7, 2010

I just learned of Tim's passing. My thoughts and prayers go out to his family. Tim and I were friends throughout junior high and high school, and he was truly and unforgettable, warm and funny guy who was well liked by all. What a great loss, and I am so sorry to hear this news.

Julianne May

January 19, 2009

Ahh...Tim. The (our) world is NOT the same without you...missing you so very much.

November 8, 2008

Dear Timmy,
We always had our birthdays on the same week! I think that's why we had such a strong "cousin" bond! I will miss you tomorrow!!! I miss you very much!!!
Love,
Laurie

Kiki May

November 7, 2008

I have been remembering 41 years ago about the blustery weather in Grove OK and what I was going to do when #three baby arrived. Then it happened on the 8th of November, another boy and joy. I could still do hand-me-downs. We named him Timothy Doherty May, thinking he would get into Notre Dame free with a good Irish name like that. I cannot remember all of the things that happened as 3 babies made for lots of activity and exhaustion. I wouldn't change a minute and selfishly wish I had a few more minutes. You are deeply in my heart and those of all your family and friends. Harry and Thomas are indeed growing tumbleweeds and my recent 3 day visist with them and their Mom, your Julianne, was really great. Masses will be celebrated for you tomorrow for the big happy birthday. I miss and love you the sky. God has blessed you and we all pray for his blessings too. xxxooo, Mom

Kiki May

September 8, 2008

A note for Harry in the future as his Mom, Julianne, called me today just so Harry could tell me all about the things he was doing. He was on the phone and had wonderful stories of how he had accidents breaking 'pegasorus' that I gave him and it was in the garbage. Harry dear, those are from the dollar store and I will hunt another down for you. You kept wanting to talk to Nana(me) as your Mom and I had a visit. You are such a chatty guy and I love you very much.
Tomorrow you start a playschool for 2 hrs on Tue. and Thur. I hope you have lots of fun and your Dada will be close by being very proud of you from heavan on earth. He loves you "the sky" too. Always be that happy boy and don't be afraid of ducks. xxxooo, Nana loves you all.

Janine Davies

September 6, 2008

While I never met Tim, I knew Tony almost 20 years ago. I remember so well how close you were to your brothers and mom and family. I hope that with time, fond memories of Tim will help you and your family.

Kiki May

July 15, 2008

My dearest Timmy, I am trying to be strong, but it is so difficult and for all. We love you miss you with all our being. You gave so much love to us all and made our lives shine. Now you are making me pray more and today I will attend 2 Masses especially for you. There have been 7 for you in heaven. I still sleep every night with your crazy t-shirt as it is like holding you in my arms. Silly Mother.
Next week dear Harry will be 3. He talks so nicely to me on the phone and Thomas even says 'hi'.
I love you Timmy.xxxooo, Mom

Karen Howells

July 14, 2008

As we remember the anniversary of Tim's passing our thoughts are flooded with happy memories of how he touched our lives and the continuing disbelief that he is gone from this world. To honor Tim's memory Uncle Chris and I cleaned out the fire pit Tim made for us and enjoyed an all day fire while we shared our favorite Tim stories. We also offer our prayers for Tim, for Julianne, Harry and Thomas, for Kiki, Tony and Hal and for all of Tim's family and friends who miss him so much. We love you Tim.
Auntie Karen

Dianne Howells

July 13, 2008

It is almost a year since you knocked on heaven's door and the angels let you in with love. We miss you and remember your kind and loving manner and the joy you brought to so many. You live on in the hearts of your extended family. We love you Tim, you really are "so gweat". Lovingly remembered by your Auntie Dianne and all your cousins.

Kiki May

February 22, 2008

Harry is 2yrs,7mo today and Thomas was 8mo. yesterday. They are growing and time continues as is has forever. And as it seems today, I will have a forever missing you dear Timmy.
I remember taking you to the store, TG&Y (toys games and yoyo's), which has probably gone by the way of the Do-do bird when you were in grade 12. You had decided to take home economics because of the great breakfast every Friday am. Little did you know you would have to sew. We went to find, as per your request, the ugliest fabric possible for an apron. You also chose some of your classmates to add an oddity about it. I loved it when you gave it to me, I kept it until last May when I brought it back to you. Maybe when Julianne has time she'll loan it back to me to wear just a while longer.
You ended up making 2 prs of 'jams' too. A type of long short. You didn't tackle the zipper part and instead, velcro for the fly. When your car was broken into at the Beta house at OU, someone stole all your clothes and most of all, you missed the jams with a yellow background and monkeys swinging all over. I love you Tim and my heart has a big void. xxxooo, Mom

Dustin Baker

February 21, 2008

My thoughts are with all of the may family, god bless

Kristina Chandler (Klaus)

February 4, 2008

I apologize for the late entry, but I just learned of Tim's passing the other day. I went to junior high & high school with Tim. Although we didn't run in the same circles, he was always loved by everyone... a really charming fellow. To the family, please take comfort in knowing that he will never be forgotten by anyone who ever knew him. Peace be with you all.

Susan Holbrook

November 23, 2007

Kiki,
I never had a chance to meet Tim, but I know how much you love your boys and their families. You were always relating stories to us. I know you will miss him terribly. My thoughts and prayers are with you and Tim's family.

Kiki May

November 4, 2007

Dear family, our Timmy's 40th birthday comes on Nov. 8th and I will celebrate with love in my heart for him, his wife Julianne, sons Harry and Thomas and his loving brothers Tony and Hal and their families. I am having a special Mass said on that day at St. Stephan's in Glenwood, CO. His beautiful life will be remembered at that celebration. Please remember him in your daily prayers this month especially. Thanks to all, Kiki (Mom)

Ava Shears

November 2, 2007

I think about you every day Tim.
We miss you!

Shana Nodine

October 8, 2007

To All the Mays,
I just learned of Tim's passing today and wanted to send my deepest regrets to your family. Tim was so special, even if you weren't part of his crowd he made you feel like a best friend. I remember many days spent in Library at MHS doing research or studying with him and Brenda. Many people come and go in one's life but the special ones you never forget, Tim was one, his kind, caring, and loving spirit towards everyone he came in contact with, will always be remembered.We are praying for all of you. May God grant you the strength you need at each moment in the future. Sincerely Shana (Lemmons)Nodine

Kiki May

September 19, 2007

Another story of Tim and his brothers as they grew-up in Grove OK....a new mother looks at things very intensely with the 1st new born. She then has another son the next year and the year after that. Now 3 sons within 26 months. True. When #1Tony caught the baby measles I rushed him to the emergency hospital. Then #2 Hal caught them I called the Dr. and he confirmed and gave instructions. My #3 Tim came down with them and by this time I gave my diagnosis: This poor baby has heat rash! My life was a whirling dirvish and I would do it all over again for all the love in the world. I love and miss you Timmy, Mom xxxooo

Melissa Trail-Grimes

September 18, 2007

Although his biggest asset was his humor, what I loved most about Tim was his gift of relating to people in the same way they relate to the world. I first met Tim working at UCSC (we were in the same group). We played disc golf together a few times. He shared with me his love for Julianne. It was always Tim that made our work meetings fun and convivial. The photos of the 49er games were great too! Everybody liked Tim. He was a good person. He was a hard worker, committed and dedicated to honesty and integrity of his work. Tim was also a good man. Tim was so fully devoted to Julianne. He was such an incredibly proud dad. When we would have work gatherings, Tim would get us all around the computer and look at photos of Harrison. He fully embraced fatherhood. I especially remember how supremely proud of Julianne and her new role of being a mom and how naturally she embraced her new role. Tim was a proud dad and his love for his family radiated from his essence. He touched the lives of so many people around him. His wife and two sons were his joy. If you stop to listen, you may hear his song in the breeze.

Uncle Jim Howells

September 18, 2007

When Tim and I worked at a gardening job for my brother David, I always looked forward to it as he was always able to at humour and fun to the job.I also remember how he would snitch seeds from some of the customers gardens and plant them in my mothers garden without telling anyone. He was someone who was genuinely interested in what other were up to in their lives and was ready to listen about it at all times.Even though I hadn't seen him as much in recent years, I can still hear his voice and sense his being. I look forward to the day when we get to meet face to face again.May God bless him and his family always.

Ava Shears

September 13, 2007

Tim showed love to people in a different way, unlike any other. I think about it so often, that Tim treated every single person he knew specially. He was so interested in how my life was going, how I could be the best oldest sister I could be and how I could go as far as I wanted to in life. He spread love to everyone simply through his personality and his sense of humor. He wasn't afraid to live on the edge or to branch out to the quiet person.

Tim's the only person that I know to this day that would call just to see how we were doing. I even recall prank calling him couple of times then winding up talking about the funniest things. One time i forwarded him something on e-mail so that he could put his name on the bottom of some kind of list. He wrote back this long, detailed letter telling me how those forwarded messages come about in the first place, why people get so attatched to sending them, and how it spreads viruses to millions of computers. I don't forward anymore.

Tim is a perfect example of how we should live our lives every day. Ignore each other's faults and look more to our strengths and character traits.

Kiki May

September 5, 2007

Julianne, Harry & Thomas
As Tim(Dada)got a little bigger, his brothers thought he should learn some tricks. We had to fence the backyard the most cost effective way we could so, pounding steel posts and using 'pig' fencing was the best. How silly. Tony and Hal soon learned to climb part way up an rock on it so one section fell down and Tim could crawl out with them. I herded my little piglets daily. I didn't think about it then but what days of joy. I miss you Timmy and will reveal more of your sweet-funny growing-up another day for Julianne and the boys. xxxooo

Laurie Revard

September 5, 2007

Dear Julianne, Tony, Hal and the whole family,
I still think about "Timmy Mouse" everyday. Since we were only a week apart, we shared such a special bond. I feel blessed that Tim was my cousin and friend. I miss him like crazy! I have so many memories of Tony, Hal, Tim, Mary Kay and me at Grandmary's house in Grove. Things seemed so simple back then...I miss those times! I still have not gone through Grandmary's pictures yet but I will do that real soon. I will send copies of the pictures to Harry and baby Thomas! Tim was so happy with his precious boys and his beautiful wife...he was very blessed! I'm thinking and praying for the whole family. Tony, I hope all is going well with the baby. It will be here before we know it! Hal, I am so glad that we are keeping in touch! Julianne, I'm glad we have become friends...I'm always here for you! I love you guys very much!

Barbara Welch

September 4, 2007

To Tim's family: I am so saddened to hear about Tim. He and I were friends since grade school and met every summer at the District Attorney's conventions that our Dads attended. It was always one of the highlights of my family's summer to see Tim, Tony and Hal at the convention. One of my fondest memories is of Tim and his brothers going to Peaches Record Store in Tulsa in 1980 and purchasing the records "Funkytown" and "It's Still Rock and Roll to Me" which I had never heard! I was so impressed with their taste in music (I thought they must know something since they were from the Big-Town and worldly) that I had to go buy the same records after that. Tim and I went to a few OU parties together when we were older and had a fun time. He was one of the sweetest people I ever knew. It is such a tribute to see what others have written and getting to know Tim in a different light from his friends, family and co-workers. My deepest sympathies go to his wife, children, and family and I wish you much strength in dealing with his death.

Andrew Lee

August 20, 2007

I learned of this from a long lost friend. Tim I got years ago I got you a job working with children who had lost their way. All we could do was be ourselves and hope to survive that. Yet yourself was amazing with children, optimistic and playful yet caring and fatherly. I was 26 or so you 29... and we had teenage kids on our hands and it was an adventure.

I was remembering your voice when one of the entries spoke of how you made the simplest words sweet... come to life. And how you could negotiate with those youths and make theirs and our waters more calm as we navigated that storm. I was always was amazed at how effortless you made that seem.

I will miss you and always thought our paths would cross again.

For all the people that you lived with at Fremlin and West 15th... I'll try and pass the word...
and maybe in this way we'll get together again and sit in a backyard somewhere and talk.

thanks tim

Guy Lamb

August 15, 2007

Julianne & Boys, Kiki, Tony, and Hal -
Just keeping Tim in my thoughts and you in my prayers. Peace be with you.

Laura Jayroe Bell

August 15, 2007

I can't believe that it is now a month since we all lost our friend Tim and it still hurts. I went to high school with Tim and he was part of our close group that hung out together. I also went to the junior prom with him as friends. I will always remember of Tim, his great smile, his comical ways, his charming personality. He was just a great guy and friend. As much as he used to tease me and Sara about going to college at OSU, he was always ready to come to visit and go to our sorority parties. One memory of Tim that I will always remember was one summer Tim worked in Welch, OK at one of the coal mines. He would have to drive by my house to get to work. Every day in that black Trans-am he drove, he would honk as he drove by. In typical Tim fashion, one day he threw a piece of coal in the front yard. And of course, Tim totally denied it with that smirkish grin he always had when up to no good. For some reason, my mom kept that piece of coal. About a month before Tim's passing, I was visiting my mom and she got out her rock collection to show my girls and there was that piece of coal. I couldn't believe she still had it. Needless to say, that piece of coal sits on my desk today. Julianne, though we have never met, please know that your husband was a great guy and will be missed by a lot of people. You and your precious boys are in my thoughts and prayers daily as well as Hal, Tony and Kiki.

Kiki May

August 14, 2007

Julianne, Harrison and Thomas,
My first little story of Tim, Dada, is coming home from the Grove, OK hospital. He was 5lbs. 7oz. His brothers (Uncle Tony & Uncle Russell/Hal) were one and two years old and very active. It was a cold Nov. in Oklahoma and I was BP (before pampers). I had so many diapers to bring in the house from the dryer. I piled them on the kitchen table. They were so warm I just put my head down in them and had a wee nap. I love you, Nana Kiki

Janny Tang

August 13, 2007

I thought of Tim in two ways: that he was a Southern gentleman with his soft voice, and gracious manners; and that he was a Knight in Shining Armor who rescued computer users in distress (many were the proverbial damsels).

I miss Tim. He was wonderful to know and brought happiness to our hearts and laughter to our lives.

Thomas Riordan

August 7, 2007

I feel very fortunate to have had Tim in my life for the past four years.
His sense of humor and trickery are legendary in our world.
He will always remain my closest colleague and confidante. We worked side-by-side as a team for most of those years, and again, I feel lucky. We learned and taught each other, as we cared for others and developed our computer “bedside manner.”

Tim was one of the hardest-working, dedicated, humble guys I know. He had a fifteen- year plan for working at UCSC. He wanted to bring quality customer-service to all of our clients. When I met Tim, he was a PC guy, but quickly turned into a Mac aficionado. He recently aced the Apple Help-Desk Specialist Administration exam with a 97%, just from studying the printed materials. He also worked weekends as a photographer for the San Francisco 49ers football tem with his buddy Terrell. He took beautiful photographs.

I could read Tim’s face, which often expressed his internal spirit. I would often notice his smile or frown, and could usually tell whether he was happy or if he was “up to something.” I could see in his eyes if he had something to say, or when he was sad or concerned, or bothered, or tired. He embarrassed easily, (and for some reason, I was especially good at embarrassing him ; -) .

With his expressiveness, Tim enhanced the significance of words such as:

SWEET!

PERFECT...
or

NO WORRIES

Tim loved his wife Julianne and their sons Harrison & Thomas. He loved Kiki, his mom, and his two brothers, Hal and Tony. He delighted in surfing with Shivano, fishing with JRock, hanging out at Danielle’s, or Linda & Janice’s office. And like most, he had a great appreciation for those wonderful folks we work with like Liz and Janny.

Tim had a passion for growing pumpkins and artichokes. He took time to write or email, or send especially cool things to his friends and family around North America.
He liked his bananas green, and would pass them to me as soon as they got any dots.
He much preferred doing things than writing about them.
He had an easy way with people that made them feel that they were important. He was a good listener and had a HUGE heart. If someone hurt, he hurt.

Tim’s passing helped me to realize how much I love him, and miss him, and what a great man he is. He will always live on in my heart and memory.

No worries.

Kiki May

August 4, 2007

This quick note is to correct my my unintentional error late last night, and it is for you Thomas Michael May. Nana knows your name and loves you, brother Harrison and your Mom very much. Thanks for understanding. More later, Nana Kiki

Kiki May

August 3, 2007

Julianne, Harrison Timothy and Michael Thomas May, this note is to let you know I will be writing little stories of dearest Tim, (Dada)from time to time as I am able. We all miss him as big as the sky and as wide as the ocean. He is there and all around us. I will let you know how he was growing up with his brothers and how with each step along the way with family and friends he grew to be such a loving special person. I want you to have these wonderful memories so you too can keep him tucked in the corners of your hearts. That is all for tonight, God bless Tim and our family, love (Nana) Kiki

Bess & Stewart Penney

August 3, 2007

Kiki, Stewart and I were deeply saddened when we read of Tim,s passing.I recall many wonderful conversations we had comparing notes on raising three sons. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this very sad time.

Ava Shears

August 2, 2007

Nobody knows what to do with out Tim. He was our always-there-support. The thought that he is no longer with us hits me over and over again. Our prayers are with you guys. We loved him.

Laurie Revard

July 31, 2007

I miss you, Timmy!!!!!

Shivano

July 30, 2007

I was on Tim's hiring committee at UCSC and was he clearly the winner! Tim and I shared the support for the University Relation's servers in the Carriage House Loft. Often we spent time up there sharing stories of work, family, funny happenings, the 49ers. We even went surfing once out at Indicators. I adored Tim. He was my buddy of the Loft. I could be his mother and yet I am still alive and he is dead. Go figure. Tim was a great guy, a superb loving father and husband, a responsive helpful co-worker. His boys can know through others how special their father was. I got to know this in real time. Thanks Tim for touching my life.

Karen Howells

July 30, 2007

To Tim's Friends and Family:
Thanks for the inquiries regarding a memorial fund. Here is a message from Tim’s brother Tony:

Tim's wife Julianne would like to thank everyone for the heartfelt prayers, thoughts, and kindness.
She appreciates everyone's generosity and helping hands which are getting her and the boys through this most difficult time.

We have set up a memorial fund for Tim and an Education fund for Harrison and Thomas. We would appreciate any contributions.

Tim had just started this blog: http://themaybrothers.blogspot.com Harrison is now 2 years old. Thomas is now 4 weeks old.

Tim's Obituary can be accessed by "return to obituary' link on the top right of this Guest Book

HARRISON AND THOMAS MAY EDUCATION FUND:
Please make checks payable to "College America"
In the memo section write "Harrison and Thomas May Education Fund"
c/o Dan Madsen
Northwestern Mutual
60 S. Market St. #600
San Jose, CA 95113
(a form and fund details can be obtained by clicking on the contact button for this guest book entry and asking Tony to send this to you via email)

TIM MAY MEMORIAL FUND
Please make checks payable to Julianne May
In the memo section write "Tim May Memorial Fund" Account: 2323486551
Wells Fargo
235 K Street
Livermore, CA 94550

Personal correspondence may be sent to:
Julianne May
121 Trescony Street
Santa Cruz, CA, 95060

If you have any questions you can CONTACT Tony May via the contact button for this guest book entry.

Will Scott

July 29, 2007

Can't stop thinkin' about ya brother. We had a lot of fun. Love you.

Linda Watson (nee Gray)

July 29, 2007

Dear Kiki,

My heart aches for your loss. You are in my prayers.
I remember you fondly from our highschool days in Calgary.

Anne Schneider

July 24, 2007

Kiki,

I was truly shocked when I read the obituary yesterday. I think of you often. I know that your faith will keep you strong. I hope that the knowledge that Mimi and Tim are together in Heaven will give you some peace.

Brad and the kids send their love as well.

Jason LeBlanc

July 24, 2007

Tim was one of the most unique, charismatic, and friendliest people I have ever met. Always willing to tell a good story and make people laugh. My condolences to Kiki and Tony, his sons and wife, and the rest of his family and friends. It was an honor to have been friends with him.

Bill Howells

July 24, 2007

Tim, you and dearest Mimi have left us. This mystery of the best being chosen is as unfathomable to us as life itself. The mystery of your cousin and friend, our eldest son, being married at the same time your passing was mourned by our families and your many friends, put a deeper meaning into the bond that was made on that day. As I try to make myself a better person, I see in you how very far I have to go.

Michael Garner

July 23, 2007

I was so sorry to hear of Tim's passing. My most vivid memory of Tim were the summers spent with all of the May boys at Camp Cherokee each year. My prayers are with all of the May family members

Duncan and Lis Goodwin

July 23, 2007

Dear Kiki,
I was shocked and saddened to read the obituary today in the Calgary Herald. Lis and I send our deepest condolences for the untimely loss of Tim. Although we only met him in Cremona when he was a young boy, I still have clear memories of all the brothers gathered in Dianne's kitchen. You and your family are in our thoughts.

Ava Shears

July 23, 2007

Tim was a very close friend of me and my family and was, in short, a joyful person. Tim truly loved his life and you cannot honestly say that about many people. He treasured every moment of it and took nothing for granted. I feel like now that he's gone, a part of me is also gone. Tim was that one constant in everyone's lives. You could always depend on him to be at every reunion, to give you a tour of a city nonfamiliar to you, and to make you laugh. Tim told great stories. In the best situation he would start telling one and you'd be on the edge of your chair. He was someone in my life that I looked up to enough to follow him around and just be with him. He was really fun to be around. One of the most important things about Tim was that he absolutely loved kids. He spent as much time with us as he could. Teaching us, emailing us, talking to us. He was always thinking about somebody else. I remember on the morning of his wedding day he was restringing a necklace of pearls for his mother. We can learn from Tim's behavior and hopefully inherit some of his wonderful character traits. Tim definitly was a rare and remarkable person and he will be loved and remembered by many forever.

Terri Honey West

July 23, 2007

Dear Kiki, Hal and Tony,
I was so saddened to hear of Tim's passing. I will always smile when I think of Tim. I enjoyed listening to what the May Boys had been up to during our time together at MHS and then at OU. My prayers are with your family during this difficult time.

Laurie Revard

July 23, 2007

Where do I begin? I loved "Timmy Mouse" so much!!! He was such a wonderful and loving cousin. I will miss him everyday! I am so glad that I went to the funeral and spent time with Harry and Baby Thomas. They are beautiful!!! Julianne, thank you so much for welcoming me into your home and family this last week. Tim was so lucky to have you and the boys. It was his dream and he was so happy! The email that I gave you sums it all up, he loved and ADORED you Julianne!!! Can you believe that I kept that email for 6 years? I know that he really wanted me to give it to you. I will miss his precious smile the most. He was so funny...what a personality! I will always think of Tim when I see a pumpkin...he really was crazy for his pumpkin patch! I am so blessed that I had Timmy for my cousin and that he touched my life. I LOVE YOU SO MUCH TIMMY!!! Hal and Tony, I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers! I am so glad that we spent some time together this last week. I know that it was so sad but I think it brought everyone so much closer! God bless the whole family!

Cam Williams

July 23, 2007

Tim and I were pledge brothers and roommates at OU and I am deeply saddened by his sudden passing. I will always fondly remember Tim for his boundless enthusiasm, fierce loyalty and mischievous sense of humor. My wife and I were blessed to know Tim and our thoughts and prayers are with his wife, sons, parents and Tony and Hal.

Rick, Marsha & Joey Gelowitz

July 23, 2007

Dear Kiki,
We are praying for you, for Tim and for his young family every day and know that God is with you all. Mass will be said for Tim at St. Mary's at your request and all your friends from Water Valley are thinking of you. Your job as a Mother and Grandmother is more important now than ever, so we will all patiently wait for your return home. Hugs and much love, from all your friends and neighbours.

Mel Luciani

July 23, 2007

Dear Kiki,
I was shocked to hear Tim prayed for at mass in Cochrane yesterday. My thoughts and prayers are with you and all your family. Please phone when you return home so we can get together. You'll need a few hugs for sure. With deepest sympathy.

TJ Jordan

July 23, 2007

Tony, Hal, Kiki,Tom and family. My heart goes out to all of you. I was in shock when Tony called. I can only imagine the loss that you are feeling. Having lost my father 4 months ago I can understand some of what you may be going through. Tim was a great man, as most May men are!! I love you all and am thinking and praying for you all. Tony, buddy I am here 24-7 if you need me! Please keep in CLOSE touch! I am planning a trip and will be out in August.

TJ

Mike Phillips

July 23, 2007

My prayers to Tim's family and friends. The Lord's grace is sufficient.

Chris and Karen Howells

July 23, 2007

To Tim's Family and Friends
A remembrance appeared in the Calgary Sun newspaper Sunday July 22, 2007 (www.calgarysun.com/obits.shtml), the same day that Harrison celebrated his 2nd birthday and Thomas reached one month of age. A remembrance also appeared July 22 and July 23 in the Calgary Herald (http://www.legacy.com/can-calgary/Obituaries.asp). The Guest Book link from the online version in the Calgary Herald connects to this same Legacy.com Guest Book

Janine (Winton) Stovall

July 23, 2007

I met Tim May at the Skating Rink during the summer between 6th and 7th grade. He thought I looked like Marsha Brady!! (He introduced me to Derek Converse) Tim was so funny and of course his smile was unforgettable. I have only the fondest memories of him. He was truly missed at our 20 year reunion. My thoughts and prayers are with you. God Bless You.

Johanna McCool

July 22, 2007

Dear Kiki
My deepest sympathy to you and your family. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

John Goldneberg

July 22, 2007

Tim and I were best friends in high school and I have so many great memories of all the trouble we used to get into. He was an amazing person and a dear friend and I will miss him. My thoughts and prayers are with all of his family during this sad time.

Angela Hankins (Driver)

July 22, 2007

Tim and I attended school at Miami. I had several classes with Tim through high school and what I remember the most about Tim was his smile and laid back personality. I was very sad to hear about Tim's death. My thoughts are with his family.

Nancy Goldenberg

July 21, 2007

Tim will be greatly missed. I met Tim through my brother. They went to high school together. Tim left me with some wonderful memories of a funloving, positive individual. My prayers go out to the family.

Karen Gajek

July 21, 2007

Hi Kiki
Sending our love and sincere sympathy to you and your family.
Your heart has been broken for the second time this year, and we pray that you will be given the strength
to endure it all. Keep in contact
Love Karen and Dick Gajek

Lois Knaggs

July 20, 2007

Dear Kiki: My thoughts and prayers are with both you and the members of your family.

carolyn lagattuta

July 20, 2007

I only worked with Tim for 5 months, but he was one of my favorites here at UCSC. He was one of those special people that absolutely everyone adored. I will miss his smile, stories of the kids and sweet personality. Tim was a gem for sure. My love to his family and kids who will no doubt grow up hearing what a wonderful man their father was.

Sandra and David Brosteaux

July 20, 2007

Dear KiKi
We are saying a prayer for you and the family. You have had some kind of an awful year. So sorry.
Sandra and David Brosteaux

Chris Howells

July 20, 2007

Tim, I believe you're in haeven, so I know you can hear me. I love you and your family so much; You won't mind if I tell another story.
The Calgary Stampede:An annual event since 1912. The Parade featuring Tim's float from OKla. Of course when 300,000 people gather for a parade, and there are closed roads and parking restrictions, well... this is music to Tim's ears. They go early and he and his brothers wound their way through, and found themselves alone on the parade route in their car with Okla. plates, waving tho the throng. beeping their horn. What a coup.
Rodeo: We had no tickets..no bother for Tim. Inside 1/2 hr. Tim has charmed his way into the INFIELD, and watched the event from the shutes ! He looked and played the cowboy perfectly.
I miss and love you Tim.
Uncle Chris (Karen)

Ahnne Colins

July 20, 2007

Dear Kiki
Sending you love, stength and prayers.
Ahnne Colins (Knaggs)

Kandi Puryear Hale

July 20, 2007

My memories of Tim are from MHS. He will always be remembered for that incredible smile and his generous ways. When you hear his name it comes with a smile. May God give you and your family much strength in this time of sorrow.

Debbie and Doug Pfeifer

July 20, 2007

Julianne,our hearts are aching for you. You,Harrison and Thomas have not left our thoughts. We want you to know that you are loved and we hold you close. Take one day at a time, and Thank God everyday for your beautiful boys. They will be your inspiration each time you look at them. They never have to wonder about angels, because they will always know that their Dad is watching over them, and will guide them thru life. Julianne, you can't ask for a better family to help you thru this unbearable time. Hold your memories close. We both love you very much. Please take care of yourself, and have strength. Tim will help you get thru ,because of the love you shared. He will protect you from above.

Love Aunt Debbie and Uncle Doug.

Maureen Frere

July 19, 2007

Dear Kiki
I would like to express my sincere sympathy to you and your family. Your heart must be broken.I pray that family and friends will be
there to help you through such a tragedy. I read the obituary and you must be so proud of the wonderful respect everyone had for your son. It is so obvious that he will be truly missed. You were a great mom and he gave you lots of love and respect. This is special.
I pray that your other 2 sons and 3 grandsons will help sustain you.
I continue to keep you in my prayers.God Bless and keep you. Keep in touch.
Sincerely
Maureen (Hoppins) Frere

Barbara Perreault

July 19, 2007

Dear Julie,
Words are so inadequate in helping fill a void at a sad time like this. Please know that it is our hopeful prayer that God will give you comfort and strength through your family and friends.
We always looked forward to seeing you and Tim when we visited our California family. We especially enjoyed Tim and Harrison last Christmas eve with your wonderful parents! Memories that can not be taken away!
Our thoughts and prayers are with you and the boys. We will share our memories with the boys in the future.
Love, Barb and Cliff Perreault

Jack Burns

July 19, 2007

Reading the entries from Tim's friends leaves me thrilled and saddened. Thrilled that my fraternity brother whom I haven't seen in 20 years made such an amazing impact on all those fortunate enough to have him in their lives; saddened that we have lost him Tim so young...especially for his wife and children.

Tony, Hal and the entire May family, my prayers are with you.

Susan Pyne Acord

July 19, 2007

Tim was truly one of a kind. I grew up with Tim in Miami and ran around in the same group of friends. He was always so funny, happy, charming and of course a great prankster! I would fall for his jokes every time. He brought such a refreshing, happy, energetic outlook to life - I am a better person for having known him.
There are so many memories - and at the heart of every one is Tim’s smiling face and laugh. I will treasure my memories of Tim and he will always be in my heart. Today my heart aches with you. Please know my thoughts and prayers are with the entire May family.

Love,
Susan Pyne Acord

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