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Thomas King Townsend
St. Louis, MO
Creative icon, community leader and philanthropist Thomas Kingman Townsend, 60, passed away in St. Louis, Missouri, on October 4, 2019, following a brief battle with angio sarcoma, a rare and aggressive form of cancer. Tom was a beloved husband, father, uncle, cousin, friend, teacher, mentor, partner, and connector of people from all walks of life. He was a passionate writer, musician, artist, photographer, philosopher, and advertising professional. He was a true inspiration to people all over the world, and had a profound impact on anyone with whom he came into contact.
Tom was born in Charleston, SC, and spent an idyllic boyhood on the St. John's River in Jacksonville, Florida. He graduated from St. John's Country Day School in Jacksonville in 1976, and with honors from Duke University in 1980. While at Duke, he met the love of his life, Jeanne Knowles Townsend.
After college, he returned briefly to Jacksonville to begin his career in advertising. He moved to St. Louis in 1982 to be with Jeanne, who was in law school at Washington University. He was hired as a copywriter at Stolz Advertising Company. He and Jeanne were married in her hometown of Wilmington, Delaware in 1984. They began to put down roots in St. Louis, and focused on their respective careers in advertising and law. With boundless energy, drive, and creative ability, Tom rapidly rose through the ranks of the city's most prominent advertising agencies. He became a creative director at Gardner Advertising, then a Senior Vice President and Group Creative Director at DMB&B, at the time one of the world's largest ad agencies.
Tom and Jeanne started their family in 1988, and moved with their three small children to their present home in Clayton, Missouri, in 1996. That same year, together with Tim Rodgers, Tom founded the advertising agency, Rodgers Townsend, creating a culture of creativity and character that was recognized not only as the most awarded creative agency in St. Louis, but annually as one of its Best Places to Work. During Tom's years at Rodgers Townsend, countless friendships were forged, careers were fostered, marriages were entered into, and children were born and raised. The R/T family is immense and beautiful. Today, even after the retirement of both Tom and Tim, R/T continues the legacy born and bonded over 23 years ago.
Tom's many achievements in advertising and business included the Ernst & Young Entrepreneur of the Year award, the "Spirit of St. Louis" award from the Mayor of St. Louis for his unparalleled pro bono efforts, Volunteer of the Year award from the St. Louis Effort for AIDS, a "Keeper of the Park" designation from Forest Park Forever, induction into the St. Louis Media and Advertising Hall of Fame, and a Lifetime Achievement Award from the St. Louis Ad Club.
In 2010, Tom and Jeanne lost their oldest child, Alex, in a car accident, while he was a graphic design and advertising student at Savannah College of Art and Design. Tom continued to lead Rodgers Townsend for several years, but was simultaneously called by Alex in several different directions. He wrote a book, In This I Will Find Beauty, chronicling the family's first year without Alex. He wrote a book of poetry relating to the loss, and he wrote and recorded numerous songs. He travelled to India. He took up oil painting. He continued to play piano alone and in various bands, something he had done seriously since high school. He and Jeanne started the Alex Townsend Memorial Foundation and the A-Town Get Down, an art and music festival in Savannah, Georgia, intended to inspire community and creativity and to celebrate the life of Alex Townsend ("A-Town") (www.a-towngetdown.org). In 2012, he founded Pianos For People, a non-profit organization that provides free pianos and piano lessons to children and families with limited resources, giving these families equal access to the transformative power of music. In 2013, he took a sabbatical from R/T to teach advertising at SCAD for a semester in an effort to become part of the world and city that Alex had so loved. In sum, Tom powered his way through his enormous grief by bringing Alex's artistic and musical gifts to the masses. Finally, in 2014, he retired from R/T to devote himself full time to his philanthropic causes.
The Townsend's philanthropic causes grew and thrived, with Tom serving as Board President, and Jeanne as Vice President, for each. The A-Town Get Down has been recognized as one of Savannah's top festivals, and has provided thousands with the gift of art and music in its nearly ten year history. The Alex Townsend Memorial foundation has been used to fund initiatives at Oliverian School, the wonderful alternative boarding school Alex attended in New Hampshire, as well as an inspiring memorial courtyard and a scholarship fund at SCAD.
Pianos For People, which he dubbed "the happiest place on Earth," has sourced, serviced and delivered over 260 free pianos and served over 10,000 people through its South St. Louis and Ferguson, Missouri, piano schools. PFP was the recipient of the prestigious 2017 Arts and Education Arts Innovator of the Year award, the Monsanto "Grow St. Louis" award, and various local, national, and international awards for its marketing outreach.
Tom and Jeanne were awarded Honorary Doctor of Humane Letters degrees from SCAD during its 2016 commencement ceremony for their work at SCAD and in Savannah. Tom also served for many years, did extensive pro bono work, and travelled the globe for Outreach International, a non-profit organization that provides sustainable solutions to help end extreme poverty around the world; served for many years on the Washington University Public Relations Advisory Board; did extensive pro bono work, and was a major donor and award recipient of The St. Louis Black Repertory Company; and received awards from the mayor of Savannah for his work in that city. He was excited recently to receive an invitation to serve on the Board of Jazz St. Louis, and partnered with Grammy award-winning pianist Peter Martin in Mr. Martin's Open Studio, an online forum in which top jazz players teach their craft (openstudionetwork.com).
In September 2018, Tom was inexplicably shot in the face in an attempted carjacking near his home in Clayton, Missouri. He spent months in BJC Hospital in St. Louis, having numerous life-saving and reconstructive surgeries. At the time of his passing, he was facing still more surgeries. In only the way he could, Tom used this experience to learn and grow, rather than to become angry and bitter. He became more determined than ever to make St. Louis better, and to fight the forces of evil there. In his typical fashion, he used his downtime, the time his surgeon instructed him to rest and remain close to home, to create. He spent hours upon hours in his nearby art studio, painting through his pain. Hooked up to his numerous IV infusions and even a feeding tube, he conceived and created The Healing Sessions, a project in which he collaborated with various local and national musicians, and gave a young filmmaker a rare opportunity, to demonstrate the healing power of music. (Thehealingsessions.org).
You led a magnificent life, Tom. You made the world an infinitely better place. You were blessed with immense talent, immense heart, and an immense capacity for giving and forgiving. Although you were taken from us far too early, you accomplished more in a given day than most people accomplish in a year, and more in one lifetime than most people could accomplish in ten.
You taught us everything we need to honor your tremendous life and legacy—seeing potential in everyone, using our God-given gifts to better the world, offering help and encouragement to anyone in need, genuinely believing in the inherent worth of every human being, taking every possible opportunity to learn from and show interest in absolutely anyone, living every day like it's our last, celebrating art and music because they are all that's left when words fail, laughing at ourselves because humility is honorable, finding joy in the midst of sorrow and beauty in heartbreak, having a truly generous heart with no expectation for anything in return, being a faithful servant of God, never giving up hope, and believing fervently that love always wins.
Tom is survived by his wife and partner in life of 35 years, Jeanne Knowles Townsend; son Nathaniel (Nate) Townsend and daughter Laura Townsend Kerkhoven, each of whom he was so very proud; son-in-law Joseph Kerkhoven; siblings, Jim Townsend (Joan), Kit McRae (David), and Amanda Bristol (Mike); numerous nieces and nephews; and countless surrogate children, cousins, siblings-in-law, and friends. He is predeceased by his beloved son, Alexander Boone Townsend, and his loving parents, Dr. James Townsend and Catherine Brittain Townsend of Jacksonville.
You touched and changed the very trajectory of more lives than you can possibly imagine. And through all of it, every bit of it, you placed your family above all else, and the good of others before your own good. We were nowhere near ready to lose you, so full of love and life you were, but we know you are at peace heading into your next adventure, and reuniting with your beautiful Alex.
A memorial celebration will be held in St. Louis next spring. Memorial contributions can be made to Pianos For People, www.pianosforpeople.org or the Alex Townsend Memorial Foundation (atownfoundation.org).
Savannah Morning News
October 13, 2019
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Bruce Beard

March 6, 2020

Lots of wonderful memories of our band in middle school. I am glad he followed his love for music. Love from Jacksonville.

Tim Jr

March 4, 2020

I love and am forever thankful to Tom for being my Dads best friend and business partner. For everything he gave to me and my family. For the talents he spread and the stories he shared. And especially for the amazing family he left behind. Ill always feel lucky that he was my friend. I love you, Tom, and love to the family.

Demi

January 14, 2020

Months have passed and I'm still so torn up. I hate that we lost him so soon. I don't know where I'd be without his encouragement and wise leadership.. he was so real, so authentic, and had such a kind and giving soul. He left us far too soon.
I'll never forget performing with him on stage for my first ever 100 Fingers, singing Amazing Grace. After we performed, I prepared to walk offstage, but he tapped my shoulder, brought me in and said "I love you". My heart filled to the brim with happiness and pride. I knew that I was one of the youngest people he had actually traveled and worked with, and I was so blessed to have that. I can't wrap my head around him being gone sometimes. He was a good friend, a great leader, and my partner in crime. He'll always be missed dearly.

Cynthia Jordan

October 24, 2019

My deepest condolences to you and your family Jeanne. Keeping you in my prayers.

Conway Family

October 22, 2019

Mr. Tom,
It was such a pleasure for my family to have met you through Pianos for People. My family went through some hard times and Pianos really helped us heal. I felt enormous gratitude for this program and towards you. You treated all of us like human beings and listened to our stories as we unfolded them on you. Your light and kindness will be missed. The care and love you have for people exudes through everything you touch. May God comfort your family and RIP.

Mark Logan

October 20, 2019

Growing up was tough. Tom's friendship and influence made it easier, and kept me off the wrong path. He was working his magic even as a teenager. God Bless You, Tom and Family.

October 18, 2019

What a beautiful loving tribute to a man who made such a difference. My condolences on your immense loss.
Diane Riley

Terri French

October 17, 2019

There are no words...only the feelings in my heart. And that is where you will always stay my dear friend Tom, in my heart.

Thomas Hudder

October 16, 2019

Everyone in Tom's world was Tom's best friend. He made you feel it each and every moment you spent with him. That is a legacy, and a challenge, he leaves for each of us.

Robert (Bob) Wallace

October 16, 2019

I met Tom about 22 years ago when he, Tim Rodgers and Tom Hudder came to make a pitch to do Rams advertising. From the outset we all got along, and as much as I liked their work, I liked their company.
For years, before presenting their ideas, they would set it up with a long preamble. That became a running joke (please guys, skip the preamble). Also what became a joke is that we would tease Tim about being the business guy, not the creative one. Tim took it well and Tom just loved that I did that. Tim got him back when we out to play golf, and despite the large amount of abuse Tim got for wearing pink shorts, it couldn't outdo Tom's attire and golf game. Tom was wearing cargo shorts and work boots. Not only that in 18 holes, he lost 48 balls, and spent more time in the woods than anywhere else. That afternoon became fodder for hours of laughter. Tom was a man of passion and compassion and his kindness will not only be missed by his family and friends, but by all those he touched. RIP, Tom!

The Hernandez family

October 15, 2019

We were most blessed to know Tom and to enjoy the kindness and generosity of the Townsend family through Pianos for People. Tom had the magic ingredient our society desperately needs these days: he made others feel important, appreciated, like they matter. What a wonderful example of a life with purpose and meaning, a life well-lived.

Lua Wells

October 14, 2019

When I think of Tom, I have always smiled at the memories of his love of music, and his great love of Jeanne, and of his children. I loved seeing him play piano, whether in person or on video, and I'm so happy that he shared his love of music with so many. The A-Town fest was a great tribute to son Alex, and Tom changed people's lives for the better with Pianos for People, and showed great resilience with his musical Healing Sessions. He lives on through his community work and his music, and in the hearts of his friends and beloved family. His was truly a life well lived!

Glen Duncan

October 14, 2019

And to think, I knew him well. What an honor. What a boost. What an inspiration.

Kim Swanson

October 14, 2019

My heart aches for the entire Townsend family. Sending you all prayers of love, light and healing.

October 14, 2019

From the time I moved to St. Louis and had the opportunity to work with Tom (and Tim and Jim Fortune) my life took a straight vertical trajectory. Tom always made me feel smarter than I was and made me reach for the moon. I can't imagine how Jeanne, the kids and other friends and family are dealing. Some people are too good for this world, but boy we sure need them. My hope is that he's looking out for us from wherever he wanted to be and shaking things up. I love you, Tom.

Dean Christopher

October 14, 2019

I am so sorry to have heard the news of his passing. Godspeed Tom.

Sue Markham

October 14, 2019

We are so sorry for your loss of Tom. I am remembering your family in my prayers.

Diana Niemeyer

October 14, 2019

I worked with Tom years ago at Stolz Advertising. What an incredibly talented man, and an unbelievably kind human being. I was very saddened to read of his passing and hope his family finds peace and comfort in the memories of this great man. What a tremendous loss for them and the entire St. Louis community.

October 14, 2019

A man like Tom come along once in a lifetime. I will think of him often.

Connie Lengyel
Versailles

Leslye Killian

October 13, 2019

God rest his soul, through Jesus of Divine Mercy; and St Thomas and Cecilia, patron Saint of music. And mostly, Mother Teresa, of Mercy, like him.

Matt Andrew

October 13, 2019

I was blessed to know and work with Tom, and to make music and laughter with him. Peace to Jean and all of Tom's family

Kathryn Andel and Family

October 13, 2019

Tom Townsend was human magic. Pure and simple, and we are honored to have known him. We will miss him and look for him always.

Mike Feher

October 13, 2019

Tom made everyone he touched want to be a better person. He will always be here....

Ayla Thorp

October 13, 2019

Though I didnt know Tom well, he was always kind and enthusiastic at every meeting we did have.

Jane Webster

October 13, 2019

What an amazing human who did so much good while here on earth and I am sure his legacy will continue and he will not be forgotten and will live on through his family and all his projects and endeavors. Our deepest sympathy for your loss of this beautiful man. Jack and Jane webster

Randy Vines

October 13, 2019

Toms contributions to this city are immeasurable, and his legacy will continue to inspire and improve lives. Deepest condolences from STL-Style and Cherokee Street.

Suzanne Voss

October 13, 2019

One of the most creative men i had the opportunity to work with ~

Nancy Crocker

October 13, 2019

He made everyone he knew feel they were important to him. If the measure of a man is the size of the absence he leaves, Tom was a giant.

Ana Rose

October 13, 2019

I will celebrate your legacy Tom by paying it forward , being kind and helping my community . Music is never far and always heard . Thank you for everything you taught us and helping the young people become better , be better and help other to teach people to be better . Sending love always !

Kathy Hansen

October 13, 2019

Our son Jon works at RT. This is how we know of the greatness that was Tom. I have been so sad, so moved by the pouring out of emotions and stories, so in awe of the man. Many prayers to family and friends.

Rae Abney

October 13, 2019

Still can't believe this. If there was ever anyone who earned their angel wings it was Tom.
He was a magical pied piper. Thank you for the magic Tom.
What a remarkable life lived.

Andrew Chao

October 12, 2019

Jeanne, et al.

It goes without saying that Tom was an incredibly special and important friend to the Chao family. We will miss him so much, however, we know that his legacy will live on. Ive been thinking about him every time anyone from our family touches the keys of our piano.

If there's anything that we can do for the Townsend family, please don't hesitate to reach out, and know that you'll be in our thoughts and prayers.

Andrew Chao

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