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Joan McAbee Obituary

YORK, Maine - Joan Celine McAbee died peacefully surrounded by her family on Saturday, April 7, 2018 in York, Maine. Born on March 31, 1950 in Portsmouth to John and Jean Lorenz.

Joan attended Barrington High School where she graduated in 1968. She attended the University of New Hampshire, her father's alma mater, where she graduated in 1972. Upon graduation, Joan began teaching English in Roxbury, during the Boston busing crisis. In 1977, she moved to the Seacoast and started teaching at Portsmouth High School. That same year she also met her future husband, Edward McAbee whom she married in 1978.

Joan continued to teach for several years after the birth of her two children. In 1991, she began law school at Franklin Pierce, graduating in 1994. She subsequently practiced criminal law in Salem as a public defender until 2014. In this role she manifested her lifelong passion for helping those less fortunate.

Throughout her two careers, Joan remained a nurturing mother to her two beloved children. Later in life, Joan was a grandmother to three grandchildren of whom she adored. Between being a devoted wife, mother and grandmother, Joan enjoyed spending time at the beach in the shining sun and cool breeze.

In addition to her loving husband, Joan is survived by her two children, Sarah Cassani, wife of Michael and mother to Ella; and Ian McAbee, husband to Cherie and father to Avery and Dylan.

Joan was predeceased by her five brothers and is survived by her sister Julie Galkin.

SERVICES: Friends are invited to visit with Joan's family on Thursday April 12, 2018 from 2-5 p.m., in the JS Pelkey Funeral Home, 125 Old Post Rd., Kittery, Maine 03904, where a funeral will be celebrated at 5 p.m. Burial will be held privately in the First Parish Cemetery in York. Online condolences may be made by visiting www.jspelkeyfuneralhome.com.

In lieu of flowers, donations may be made in her memory to the York Hospital Nursing Department. Care for the McAbee family has been entrusted to the JS Pelkey Funeral Home.

To plant trees in memory, please visit the Sympathy Store.

Published by Seacoastonline.com from Apr. 9 to Apr. 12, 2018.

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Syl & Lindy Rowe

April 3, 2024

Always remember the good times. She was a sweet lady.

April 23, 2018

Dear Dr Mac, So sorry for your loss. Deb mitchell

Peter E. Sr. & Mary Gould

April 19, 2018

Dear Mac, So sorry to hear of your wives passing. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Pete and Mary Gould

April 18, 2018

Dear Mac and family,
We are very sorry to hear of Joans passing. Please know that you and your family are in our thoughts and prayers. GOD Bless you all.
Syl and Lindy Rowe

Patty Hymanson

April 14, 2018

Dear Mac and family,
Alan and I send our deepest condolences to you and your family. In our minds we are all still the young professionals we all were but life goes on. How very sad for you all to lose Joan.

Kathy Lorenz

April 14, 2018

Dear Mac,
I am so sorry. I just heard from Julie. There has been way too much loss in this family, but now, a great reunion. You are in my heart and prayers, Mac. Love, Kathy

Peter and Leslie Schwarz

April 12, 2018

Dear Mac and family,
Peter and I are so saddened by this news. We have fond memories of when our kids were young, and some beautiful Christmas ceremonies in our woods with candles and singing. Please know that we all send our condolences and loving support.

April 12, 2018

Sorry to hear about Joan. I hadn't seen her for a long time but I was friends with Jack, Bob, and Julie and even as the "older" sister she was a pleasure.

John Mahony

Jason MacKenzie

April 12, 2018

I was very sorry to see this obituary today when I opened up seacoastonline. Mrs McAbee was english teacher at PHS. Although I haven't seen her in 28 years, I'll never forget how good she was to me, and how pleasant of a teacher she was in English class. My deepest condolences go out to the family. I just wanted to let you all know, she made an everlasting impression on me as a student at PHS.. she was a beautiful woman...

thelma poole

April 11, 2018

dear ed, I was saddened to hear of your wife joan's passing. there are no words. we will keep you and your family in our prayers.

Perri Milligan

April 11, 2018

We were very saddened to hear of Joans passing. Our thoughts and prayers go out to each of you as you morn in this very sad time.

Peter and Leslie Schwarz

April 11, 2018

Dear Mac and family,
Peter and I are so saddened by this news. We have fond memories of when our kids were young, and some beautiful Christmas ceremonies in our woods with candles and singing. Please know that we all send our condolences and loving support.

Dave Lowell

April 11, 2018

Dear Dr. Mcabee: On behalf of myself and my mother, Betty Doody, who passed away on May 8, 2017, I would like to send our deepest condolences regarding the passing of your wife. My mother was not only your patient, but worked as a nurse at York Hospital for 36 years--and always regarded you in the highest manner. Thoughts & prayers to you and your family during this difficult time.

Meredith Patstone

April 10, 2018

Dr McAbee, so sorry for your loss,sending our Deepest Sympathy for you and your family.Our Thoughts are with you

The Patstone's York, Maine

RUSSELL PLANTE

April 10, 2018

Dr. McAbee,
Kathy and I were so sorry to hear about your loss. With our deepest and heartfelt sympathy in this difficult time.

Andrea Winslow

April 10, 2018

Dr. McAbee and Family,
We are so sorry to hear of your loss. Our thoughts are with you at this very sad time.
Ron & Andrea Winslow

Sally Sullivan

April 10, 2018

So sorry to hear of your loss. Keeping you and your family in my prayers as you are going through this difficult time.

Sandra Hooper

April 10, 2018

Dear Mac and children,
We are so sorry to hear of Joan's passing. What a life well lived! May you find hope and joy in remembering her loving ways. With heart felt sympathy. Sincerely Paul and Sandra Hooper

Sheila Philp

April 10, 2018

Joan was my client and friend for over thirty years. We shared our stories, trauma's, laughs, politics and everything in between. She was kind always, concerned for the world around her but mostly she was consumed with love for her family.
She made an impact, she mattered, she was an impressive human. I loved her dearly and will miss her profoundly.

Kathleen Delizier

April 9, 2018

Dr McAbee & Family ,
My thoughts and prayers are with you at this most differcult time.
What a beautiful woman she was inside
and out. It was a pleasure to have taken care of her.
With deepest sympathy,
Kathy Delozier

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