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for Alan Crosskill
Tonito Brenes
December 15, 2019
sAlan, I am sorry I didn't make it to your funeral as I was to say a few words that my Cousin Merci had for me. That night there was a storm and I live in Sacramento, CA. Here are a few words I want to tell you, you married Merci, a wonderful Lady, I know you made her happy all the years you were married. I met Merci in 1951 when she was only a young 19 or 20 years old. quite a dancer she was. You rest in peace my friend, God is taking care of Merci.
Merci Crosskill
January 4, 2009
My dearest love
It has been a year and days that you left us. The holidays are sad but the memories comfort me when I get misty. June 14, Sept. 7, Thanksgiving and December are full of wonderful memories.
Dan called and we reminisce over thanksgivings , all the years when the five us got together in Pismo. June and September that we spent such happy times in Carmel and December , after our party we would go to Carmel. Remember Jeannette ? She said to me " Don't cry because it is over, smile that it happened". When I get weepy over you, I say that , and it does bring me some comfort. You gave me so much my sweet love. I do feel that you visit me. I do smell your tabbaco when you used to fill your pipe. I haven't emptied the ashtray you used. I also have not removed your three caps by the door. I love giving them a pat when i come home or leave the apartment. Sometimes I smell your medicine and I can't help but feel that you are visiting me. We are only apart for a little while and we will be together again and continue our happiness. There has not been one morning or one night that I haven't spoken to you and I know you hear me.
Cap and Dylan were over today. Cap fixed my computer and Dylan and I played master mind. The game your aunt Lou gave us. Our friends have been very supportive. God bless them all. They have been super. your mush head continues t o be my rock. I don't know if I could cope without her.
Wait for me darling. I will see you when I see you.
your Merci
Merci Crosskill
November 27, 2008
My dearest love
In a few days it will be a year since you left us. Hard to believe.
It seems like only yesterday. Every day I miss you more and more. I
am grateful for the amazing strength that God has given me, for the
wonderful memories you left me, for Rita, your mush head, who has
been my rock, for faithful friends that are here for me. When I
feel sad and misty, I remind myself that you are in a better place.
No more hospitals, no more rehabs, no more pain, no more health
issues, no more sadness. You are peaceful and one day we will be
together again forever as we were meant to be Here's looking at you
kid. Always looking at you kid. all my love forever , your Merc
Jennifer Casados
November 6, 2008
Dear Alan:
You are missed so much! Every time I watch, listen or even hear about hockey I think of you and our conversions about the game. Of course, with only the fondest memories of your Canadian team.....not. LOL. It's hard to believe it has almost been a year since your journey to heaven. I hope you are not giving anybody a bad time up there. :-) And, hopefully, you get to eat whatever you want. As everyone knows, chicken will probably not be on the list. I cannot blame you though. You can only eat so much chicken and have it served so many different ways before it becomes very boring to eat. I miss you Alan. Know that you are loved, and I look forward to the day I get to see you again. Until then, take care of yourself and keep an eye on our Merc.
Love, Jennifer
Merci Crosskill
June 6, 2008
My dearest love
You left us half a year ago, today and it only seems like yesterday i
held your sweet face to give you a kiss.
Your memorial gathering was wonderful. There were tears and
laughter. Your wish was granted. You said you did not want a funeral
with sad bells ringing, you wanted a party so your friends would
have drinks on you and that is what was done . You were so loved
darling. I invited 75 friends. It was a terrible night of wind and
rain and the parking was awful as you well know. 66 showed up. Gene
and David came from Lancaster , B.J. came from San Diego, Cindy and
Burt from Aptos, they took us to the memorial.
Ray and Alberta came and poor Ray , he was so sick, he could not
stay for the reception. He came in a cab. The minister was wonderful.
Three of your friends spoke and read poems. Klaus Binz, Carl
Higashionna and B.J. Oliphant. Your daughter Cathy read a wonderful
letter that many told me how touching it was. Our sweet Barry sat
with me and held my hand. They said lovely things about you. Your
mush head said she wishes she had tape the service. The reception was
lovely. I had a collage of you and the lovely picture that Susanne Uy
made. It was a picture of you that she took in September and with the
computer she put clouds behind you, it reminds many us of your pipe
smoking. Riti (your mush head)made bookmarks out of the picture for
our guest. Riti has been my rock. I don't know what i would have done
without her. I know that you were there with us. I feel your presence
so many times. I smell your tabbaco when you would light up. Cindy
and Burt were reading a letter that I had sent them at our cocktail
time and at that time they heard their music playing "I will be
seeing you". So the four of us were together again at cocktail time.
My sweet darling, thank you for the wonderful memories that you left
me. I just wish I could see you just one more time. But I know we
will be together again. I will see you, when I see you. My love
forever your Merci
Dawne Farenga
February 10, 2008
Merci:
I am thinking of you and have each day. My heart just aches for you and Rita. May the sweetest memories be with you especially today, for it belongs to you and your darling sweetheart and angel, Al. I know he is there with you lovingly catching each tear, reassuring you that you have each other's love forever. The angels are holding your hand and his, and they are crying too..
All my love Dawne
PS Thank you for letting us be part of your life and love.
Here's looking at you,kid.
February 4, 2008
Rose Spiliotis
February 1, 2008
My fondest memory of Alan was in October. He was cheerful and kept Johnny and me laughing. We had such a good time, we over stayed our visit, Sorry about that!
Alan was a good man and gentleman in the true sense of the word. He showed class in every way. Alan you are free of pain now. Rest in peace and enjoy your pipe and a cocktail
Rose
Judy Cefalu
January 30, 2008
Dear Merci,
I'm going way back to the days before you and Alan were married. I remember so vividly how we unmercifully teased him about living in the "fun, happening city of San Lorenzo"! The 1st time I ever went to Carmel was with you, Alan and Rita. Whenever I was around the three of you, I felt guaranteed of lots of warmth & fun. Alan was a genuine fine man who is missed by so many. We are all lucky to have known him. Take heart Merci, Alan is looking over you and forever in your heart. Be brave, you know you will be wih him again... My love, Judy
Bev Marx
January 20, 2008
Dear Merci,
Alan was a very special person. May the memories you shared with your Alan comfort you through this time of grief.
Happiness
January 19, 2008
Carl, Kelly, Dylan and Anya Higashionna
January 17, 2008
Auntie Merci,
Blessed am I to have met Al doing laundry. . .(us early birds) while the night owls slept. It was the beginning of 10+ years of good food, good drinks and darn good fun. You and Al have fed my Carl while I was away, travelled across an ocean to see us married, shared in the joy of the births of our children and continued to be a source of inspiration with your devotion to each other and generosity to others. Al was a great, great man and we all miss him dearly.
Linda and Kathy
January 17, 2008
Al would always listen to music as he took his morning walk. My day would brighten with his friendly wave. I made him some CD's to listen to. Now, he's kicked back in some heavenly lounge with his cocktail and pipe watching and listening to his old favorites perform for him. He's content.
Your Loving Son, Barry
January 17, 2008
Mom
After telling a friend of mine about Dad’s passing the other day, my friend responded with the usual platitudes of “I so sorry to hear that”, “give my best to your Mom” and “I’m sure he is in a better place now”. These are all very common responses and normally I would not give them a second thought. However, I did have to think twice about the “in a better place” comment.
It’s not that I have any doubt that Dad went straight to Heaven, unless of course he stopped along the way to smoke a pipe with St. Peter, but rather, I doubt that life in San Francisco with you was anything less than heavenly for Dad. If Heaven is a peaceful place with eternal happiness and joy, I’m sure San Francisco was the next best thing for him. He loved living in the City.
As a child, I remember Dad telling me stories about San Francisco, and when we lived in Santa Cruz, I recall an oil painting of the Bay Bridge with San Francisco in the background that decorated our living room. I always thought that it was odd to have a painting of San Francisco in your home when you lived so close. It just proves further to me how much he loved living there.
However, Dad knew that what really made a city great was not the location, the cable cars, the ocean breeze, or the 49ers in a winning season, but rather, all of the great friends that loved him, and more importantly, how happy he was to have you for his wife and soul mate.
Dad was a wonderful father, husband, friend, and overall human being, and we will all miss him greatly. I love you Mom and hope that you won’t hesitate to lean on me for whatever support I can provide you in Dad’s absence.
Love,
Char Wise
January 15, 2008
Dear Grandma Merci,
You and Papa have been so wonderful to my family and I thank you from the deepest of my heart for the love you have poured upon us. I will always cherish the precious memories we've shared together and will forever keep you both in my heart.
Love always,
Char
Barbra Westfall
January 13, 2008
Abuelita,
As winter continues to chill my body, I wrap my neck in your handmade love each day. While wearing the scarf, I send out a prayer to you and our generous Al. My life has been blessed by the giving the two of showered our family with. I ache knowing you too ache. May your memories wrap you in love as your scarf does me.
I love you Abuelita.
Namaste,
Mija
Christy Wise
January 13, 2008
Grandma Merci Babe,
How we all miss Papa from our lives and the joy he brought into each new day. But in our grief and loss, we must rejoice over his life and the lives he touched around him for the past 80 years.
"But I am like an olive tree flourishing in the house of God; I trust in God's unfailing love forever and ever. I will praise you forever for what you have done; in your name I will hope, for your name is good. I will praise you in the presence of your saints." Psalms 52:8-9
To my Papa Stud,
I will love you and miss you forever!
Love, Your Christy Babe
Diane Kelly
January 13, 2008
Dear Alan, first of all, you have some nerve, leaving us before my wrist healed, and I could come and have at least one more time spent with you and the love of your life, Merci. I know, however, that you haven't really gone anywhere; you cast a long shadow, and filled up a room with your presence, Alan. I hadnt met with you many times in my life, but, I will never forget you. It was absolutely impossible to feel low in spirit around you; your sharp wit and soft compassion lifted the spirit; plus, you were simply loads of fun to be around; I will miss you. By the way, Merci, you are in my thoughts and prayers; where Alan is, he doesn't need them,-like bringing coals to Newcastle; but I know, for sure, he'll be watching out for you, Love, Diane Kelly, Hollister
Klaus and Perri Binz
January 12, 2008
Dear Merci:
We will miss our get togethers with Alan, but we will have the memories of our good times. He was so brave through all of his health problems and wanted to please and be with you as long as he could. You were a wonderful wife and caretaker. We love you and will remember Alan and will miss him.
Always, Klaus and Perri
Chuck and Wanda White
January 11, 2008
Dear Merci,
Chuck and I wanted to send our love and condolences for you at the loss of your Alan. We had many happy and fun times throughout the years spending holidays together and attempting to play many games to entertain the kids of our life. So many Thanksgiving celebrations, birthdays, graduations and many more. Thank you for all the love you have shared with us throughout the years and know we share the loss of Alan. Please know we will continue to pray for strength and courage for you. If there is anything we can do, please let us know. Love, Chuck and Wanda
Cathy Wise
January 11, 2008
Dear Mom,
I know words cannot express the loss you feel above all, but we will all suffer with the loss of Dad. He was such a wonderful man, such a foundation for the family. Please know my thoughts and prayers are with you as you attempt to go on without the love of your life. Just knowing Dad is in heaven, now out of pain and suffering is comfort for us as we live without him. He will be missed by all, but we have many happy memories to sustain us until we meet again. Please take care of yourself and know your family will be there for you at all times. I love you and pray for continued strength for you. Love always, Your Pal
Deb Wise
January 9, 2008
My Dear Merci,
I will forever have a picture in my heart of you and Alan sitting on your sofa in San Francisco, holding hands and laughing, with Barry and me. I treasure every memory of Alan and will miss his wonderful smile, his corny sense of humor, and his genuine compassionate nature. What a treasure he was and how greatly he will be missed by everyone, especially you, his Sweetheart.
My love and thoughts are with you at this time and for always,
Cathy Doyle
January 9, 2008
Dear Merci
Words can not express our sadness of losing our father. I will miss Dad so very much. My heart aches thinking about Dad being gone from our lives and especially for you. I can not tell you how much I've appreciated you all these years in taking such incredible care of Dad. I wish I would have told you that more when Dad was alive. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for making Dad so happy all these years. Your loving step-daughter, Cathy Crosskill Doyle
Charles Keaster
January 6, 2008
Thank you dear Merci for directing me to this Web site so I could express my deepest grief with you. Alan was alwas such a quiet, soft spoken kindly friend and very supportive of you every time we met over these many years. He had a quiet sense of humor and I remember at the Christmas party that you had each year we would all be talking loud nd when he said something everyone stopped to hear what he had to say...his power of quiet manner was so warm and cordial. And when his health began to go down, he was so appreciative of your adapting to his needs to keep him going.
It is hard to think of Alan not being with us but we can be assured he is not in any more pain and has left you and all of us with the memories of great times we had with him, especially you, after 38 years together. My love and friendship for both you and Rita goes on forever.
Bob and Mary Clay
January 5, 2008
Dear Merci,
I am so very sorry for your great loss. I know you and Al were such good friends to Angie and John.
Even though we never met i will be eternally grateful to you and al for the holy water from lourdes. Our sincere prayers and thoughts are with you.
D FARENGA
January 4, 2008
TO A DEAR FRIEND & EVEN BETTER PERSON: YOU WILL ALWAYS BE IN OUR HEARTS AND THOUGHTS..YOU WILL BE MISSED BY ALL WHO LOVED YOU.
DAN, DAWNE & DANTE'
Tony Brenes, Sr.
December 31, 2007
Querida Merci, Nuestro sincero pesame por la perdida de tu amoroso y querido esposo, Alan. Lo vamos a estranar. El esta con Dios y algun dia tu estaras con tu Alan. Dios los bendiga y a Rita tambien. las queremos muchisimo
Tus primos: Anita, Sonia Y Tonito.
Antonio (Tonito) Brenes, Sr.
December 30, 2007
Dear Merci (Baby):
Cousin, I am so sorry we lost contact for so many years. I would have loved to spend more time with you and your Alan. I thought he was a great man and fun to talk to. Merci hang in there. I know 38 years is a long time. Alan is with God and some day you will be with him again. I love you Merci & Rita too. I believe we are the only ones left of the family Zapata-Berrios. Hope to see you soon. Tonito.
Jan Roberts
December 30, 2007
Dear Merc..Let's always remember the wonderful times we had together - you and your dear sweet Alan and me and my Hans. Alan and Hans are no longer with us...so let's picture the 2 of them right now sitting on the floor of your kitchen determined to pick up that carpet.
Greg Welliver & Daniel Fortuno
December 29, 2007
I will always remember Alan as a kind and gentle, gentleman who loved his Merci and who picked on Rita to no end. He had a wonderful sense of humor and showed a positive attitude in the face of many adverse medical situations.
Alan, we love and miss you.
Donald & Stephen
December 27, 2007
Dear Merci,
Thank you and your beloved Alan for inviting us into your wonderful home and being such gracious hosts. You are both shining examples of goodness and friendship. We wish you lots of strength and comfort.
December 27, 2007
12/25/07
My sweet love - You were in so much pain and you never complained.
You went through so much and now you are at peace.
Thank you, my sweet darling for 38 years of the best married life
ever -for the wonderful memories that I will have forever. You are
one in a million and will always be in my heart. Wait for me ,
darling, we will be together again. We had it all. Here's looking at
you kid. My love forever.
Arnold Mammarella and Susanne Uy
December 27, 2007
Querida Merc,
We will watch the clouds to see your angel's wings gently fly through the morning and night skies. We miss Al and always will carry him in our hearts.
John and Angie gardenal
December 27, 2007
Merc
You are in our thoughts and prayers and we know that you have years and years of wonderful memories. Thank God for the Memories. We loved Al so much and feel that right now, he is in a better place. We, and all his friends, will truly miss him. He will be in our hearts forever.
All our love and friendship always,
John and Angie
Wendy and Tony Young
December 26, 2007
We only met you for such a short time but will never forget your kindness and wonderful sense of fun.
Robin and Sylvia Roman
December 24, 2007
Dear Merci our thoughts are with you at this difficult time. We remember the good time we spent with you and Alan when we met in Edmonton. We will both always keep fond memories of Alan.
Alan Crosskill
December 23, 2007
To my namesake and American pal
"We never met but were great friends"
Alan and Liz
December 21, 2007
Goodbye my friend.
Your favorite Mushhead
Noli and Patti Auad
December 21, 2007
We may no longer have the pleasure of Alan's company, but he will always be in our hearts. With our deepest sympathy to Merci and family.
BJ
December 20, 2007
To Merc and Ritz who were always there for Alan: God Bless you both. Alan's at peace. And no, Alan, there is no chicken in heaven!Thank God!
Burt & Cindy Oliver
December 20, 2007
You are in our thoughts and prayers.
MARY JANE GALO
December 19, 2007
Take comfort in knowing
Alan will always be with us in our memories & hearts.
Love,
Sylvia, Don & Doug Massig
December 19, 2007
May God continue to bless & enrich your's and your family's lives with the precious memories you have of Alan, tucked in your hearts. Love from the Massig cousins on the Robertson side of Alan's family.
DANTE & ANITA ANDAYA
December 19, 2007
Our thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort.
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