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David Mattingly Obituary

David James Mattingly

February 3, 1952-November 18, 2016

David James Mattingly, 64, following a life of courage, pluck and conviction, died of melanoma in Palm Springs, California on November 18, 2016.

Born in Louisville, Kentucky in 1952, David was preceded in death by his loving parents Mary Laura "Sis" and George Mattingly, a World War II vet, and younger brother Mark. During childhood, David's parents imposed a mandatory dinner hour —— his Dad's unmistakable whistle commanding the start of the meal, phones and t.v. unplugged — — a nightly theatre of excited talk, intense opinions, raucous fun, and always imbued with love. This family setting had a searing impact on David's worldview, forming tastes that were decidedly catholic throughout his life.

He is survived by his sister Susan Mattingly of Louisville, sister Marilyn Mattingly of Virginia Beach, Virginia and brother Mike of Louisville. Marilyn was a tower of strength during his last days and -- gratefully -- her caregiving did little to interfere with her much loved 17 daily shopping trips. Her familial love in a time of need was exemplary. David had a life-long soft spot in his heart for Susan, while Mike filled the role of big brother with aplomb.

At the time of his death, David had eight nephews, the terrific wives and a husband of three of those nephews, 11 great nieces and nephews, goddaughter Lily, two godsons and his beloved shih tzu, Ollie. David had two long term partners, one an exuberant cowboy raised on the central coast of California, the other a cerebral Cornell educated architect.

With a gift for friendship — and of gab — David is also survived by treasured friends Ted, Kendrick, Carol, Steve, Joe, Cindy, Scott/Rich, Greg, Robin, Rachel, Oliver and so many others. He also leaves behind many loving cousins, especially Tommy and Jan Burnett, whose strong and steady presence brought David great comfort during his illness.

David attended St. Pius X Grade School and St. Xavier High School, both in Louisville. In 1974, he received his B.A. in Political Science from the University of Kentucky in Lexington.

Fresh out of college, David's first job was as a legislative analyst on Capitol Hill in Washington, D.C. to Congressman Ron Mazzoli. There, he was a witness to history, including Watergate, Nixon's resignation from the Presidency and the end of the Vietnam War.

David settled in San Francisco in the late '70s, doing paralegal work for the international firms of McCutchen and MoFo, the San Francisco City Attorney and clerked for Judge Orrick of the U.S. District Court. In those early days, David stood with Harvey Milk and his merry band of men who gave voice to gay liberation. David was a more than three decade resident of foggy, magical San Francisco before he retired to the warm desert air of Palm Springs.

In 1984, David was awarded his law degree from the University of San Francisco School of Law. Following several years doing corporate health care law, David found in San Francisco his true calling as a civil litigator. He won substantial jury awards and settlements, and as a trial lawyer was able to obtain relief for clients without the means to access the courts. (He had some hair-raising losses, too!) He tried cases against large corporate interests for discrimination, harassment, clergy abuse, concealment of toxic hazards, and business and contract fraud. At times he received kudos for work on oral argument and cross-examination, and for mastery of artfully crafted and persuasive briefs.

David had an abundance of passions: the world of politics, avid reading with an especial penchant for American and English novels, history, and biographies of the famous and infamous. David was a decades long collector of art, particularly paintings and sculpture by emerging young artists. A colorist by nature, his provocative yet savvy collection never failed to evoke strong opinions. He was an enthusiastic swimmer over countless years, and a keen-eyed stock market maven.

Finally, David was an intrepid traveler who stepped foot on six of the seven continents (hey Rich!), 56 countries, 48 of the 50 states (sorry North Dakota and Vermont). Always eager for new things, David traveled through the vast stretches of the Patagonia (hey Joe ! ), out of the way spots in Africa including the ever transcendent Serengeti plains, and was one of the first Westerners permitted into Beijing's Tiananmen Square after the 1989 Massacre. He climbed into the Giza Pyramids and on the Parthenon before such access was eventually denied the public. David walked miles — his favorite mode of transport — through Tokyo, Sydney, Buenos Aires, Delhi, Moscow, Cairo, Nairobi, Capetown, Paris, Jerusalem, Istanbul, and the other great metropolises spanning the globe. Yearning for more, David lived for several years near Kensington Palace in London.

A celebration of David's zest for life will be held in San Francisco on Saturday, February 4th 2017 from 5:30 p.m. until 7:30 p.m. at the Greg Lind Gallery, 49 Geary Street, Fifth Floor [Directions only: GregoryLindGallery.com]. Space and attendance are limited; confirmation is required by January 25. Call Joseph J. Bell [530-272-7477 or 800-576-7477] or email to: [email protected]. Suggested parking at Union Square or Sutter-Stockton garages.

To plant trees in memory, please visit the Sympathy Store.

Published by San Francisco Chronicle from Jan. 6 to Jan. 13, 2017.

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Eva

February 13, 2017

I had the great honor and privilege of moving right across the courtyard from David in 2015. He was not here when I moved in. A neighbor was collecting his mail as David was out of town. Upon his return, he took the neighbor and me to dinner. It was one of the most enjoyable meals of my life, because of David. I told him I detected a southern drawl; he explained he was from Kentucky, as is another dear friend. From that moment forward, I was completely charmed by David. He was exquisite physically, he had the most wonderful sense of humor, his tastes in dining and fine wines was exemplary, and he was an incredible listener. I felt as if I were the only woman in the world because of the attention he paid to me as I spoke. The evening was divine and so is David. Marilyn and David's cousin, Tom, cared for David with angelic patience and loving care. It was magnificent to behold. I deeply regret not having more time with this stunning man who was a treasure to each person blessed enough to have known David Mattingly. I will see you and my beloved father again someday David, and we'll have a fine time being together again. Salud amor y pecetas, y el tiempo

Bob Sheppard

February 3, 2017

David was a Class Act who possessed a unique Inner Strength and Positive Spirit that was so admirable and inspiring. David was my professional colleague, my friend, and even on one occasion a legal adversary in litigation during which David never lost his zeal, his passion, his warmth and his terrific sense of humor. For over 25 years, David made me smile....and he'll continue to do so for the rest of my life.

January 13, 2017

David was our legal advisor and much more. We will always be grateful for his expertise and council. He was one in a million. So long my friend until our paths cross again.

Rob SF

Pamela Bouey

January 12, 2017

Such happy memories of the joy and humor David brought to the office scene in our early lawyering days. Condolences from the Boueys to your family, very sad to hear of his passing.

KELLEY

January 12, 2017

MAY THE THOUGHT OF KNOWING THAT FRIENDS AND FAMILY SHARE IN YOUR GRIEF BE OF COMFORT TO YOUR FAMILY.PLEASE READ PROV 17:17

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