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Krystal Gilmer Obituary
February 22, 1963- April 26 2014
Krystal passed away suddenly from complications of diabetes and heart disease on April 26, 2014. She is survived by husband Paul Groarke, four legged daughter Ms. Olive (aka Scooch), mama and boy kitties, sister Kathy Castaneda, brothers Jim Humphries and Jeff Gilmer, nieces Suzette, Stacy, Brooke and Estefanine, nephews Andrew, Nathan and Clayton along with countless friends and loved ones.Born in Pontiac, Michigan Krystal lived in both Wyoming and Detroit but ended up settling in San Francisco where she left her heart. A Jane of all trades, she started at 15 working at a Denny's cruising around South City in her hard earned powder blue 1965 mustang. She schmoozed the VIPS working at the Admirals club, taught young mothers on welfare nutrition and CPR, and wrangled thoroughbred horses. Prior to being a Richmond District bartender, she was a mortician and because of this, always told her customers she would eventually see them naked. The last 8 years she was the proud owner of the Tee Off Bar and Grill with husband Paul where she created a community of friends with her generosity, wit and acceptance of all people (except assholes.)
Krystal was an Oakland A's fan for life, courageous, strong, smart, real and true. She was classy and sassy, a diva and a soul sista with endless humor and a sharp tongue. She was an extraordinary woman and will be sorely missed.
Cheers.
A tribute and celebration of her life will be held on June 14, 2014 at 12:00 noon at Baker Beach (picnic area). All are welcome.
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Memories and Condolences
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Michele Davis
June 13, 2014
Krystal...a name never matched a soul as perfectly as yours: SHINING, RADIANT, CLEAR, MESMERIZING & MYSTERIOUS. Above all, a beacon of light, love & laughter. You will be missed, love, Miyuki
Scarlett Barnes
June 4, 2014
The news of Krystal's sudden passing is deeply saddening. Unfortunately I haven't seen Krystal years, we were classmates in high school and someone I would call a friend. She had the ability to make everyone laugh and did so with a kind heart. My condolences to the Gilmer family.
Maggie Bartlett
June 2, 2014
Krystal was whip smart without being cruel or offensive. We would love having a pint and a laugh at Ireland's 32 (Dirty Shoe). Krystal we will miss your wit and your kindness, without a doubt.
The picture chosen for this is a perfect representation of your infectious personality.
-Maggie
Erica Youngblood
June 1, 2014
I miss seeing your face everytime I walk into the Tee Off. I'd play music on the jukebox and you and I would dance and dance and have shots and dance. You are my favorite Dancing Queen.
Love Erica
Bob Glynn
June 1, 2014
Krystal, I will never forget you ... Hearing the news was just heartbreaking. Never saw you without a smile, or your great laugh. Was honored to play at your wedding and be one of your groupies at all the bars you worked. Thanks for all the trays of shots you sent to the stage at the 32, way back in the day! From all the guys in Undercover S.K.A. ... CHEERS! You will be missed. Bob Glynn
June 1, 2014
Krystal was whip smart without being cruel or offensive. We would love having a pint and a laugh at Ireland's 32 (Dirty Shoe). Krystal we will miss your wit and your kindness ,without a doubt.
Santina Campi - aka (Linale )
June 1, 2014
Little over a month & I am still having a hard time believing you are gone - on the other hand am sure you have already made twice as many new fans , followers, & admirers @ your new home in the sky. I went to school with Crystal & highly admired her. Always smiling' laughing, & happy. The one cheerleader that was nice to
everybody . After missing school dances, & Friday night activities to work @ Denny's we would always make our last stop @ her booth & there she was working her tail-off waiting tables & still happy to see us & asking all about our evening without ever complaining about missing out. When passing her in the halls I was always greeted by a very enthusiastic " Hey SANTINA -baby , Honey, Sweetie, etc. ". Wondered if she ever really knew my real last-name ! My heart goes out to Paul & the extended family of the Tee-Off Bar. Will join you all on the 14th for one final round for a truly wonderful, loving gal. RIP
Phil Murray and Diane Serna
June 1, 2014
Krystal was truly one of the warmest, funniest, and sweetest people in the whole world. She was a wonderful part of San Francisco. She was an old friend of ours, and we will miss her dearly.
Niamh Brosnan
June 1, 2014
Krystal, You were the first friend I made when I came to San Francisco, and now you are gone. I can't believe it, I miss you so much. But I have wonderful memories of all our escapades. Love you always and will keep you in my prayers until we meet again. Love you always,
Barbara Samuel
June 1, 2014
I signed this yesterday but Krystal is worth another shot (no pun intended). A complicated, formidable woman who came from very little, Krystal used her brain and drive to successfully accomplish many things. She left her mark on all who knew her, and her spirit lives on--in the Tee Off and all over San Francisco, the city she loved. I hope Krystal finds peace and tranquility now. She will surely be missed!
June 1, 2014
I can't believe you are not here anymore. I will always treasure the friendship and great times we shared and you are always in my prayers until we meet again. Miss you and love you always, Niamh Brosnan
Ray Baron
May 31, 2014
My friend Heaven just gained another angel.So long for now.you will always be in my heart.Love you.
May 31, 2014
Great memories of the good times. You will be missed. RIP Krystal! Cathy Mack
Marianne McCarty
May 31, 2014
I miss you a lot, the neighborhood is less entertaining without you. R.I.P and I hope to see you June 14th, we all do XXOO
Kevin Llorente
May 31, 2014
Always in our hearts and minds. You left us too soon.
Give 'em hell in heaven, Krystal!
george bird
May 30, 2014
God chooses the pretiest angels for heaven. u r missed very much my friend, I will never forget ur smile and kind heart. see u one day
May 30, 2014
RIP Krystal - Although it has been years - your smile is still the same. To her family my name is Anita - we went to school together and I'm proud to have been her friend. So sorry she's gone too soon - but you can't say she didn't live - she loved living. To her husband I'm so sorry - I hope you find laughter amongst the tears. So sorry - RIP - Love, Anita Ruiz - South San Francisco and proud of it!
Kevin Llorente
May 30, 2014
Forever in our hearts and minds. Your memory will live on.
Give 'em hell in heaven, Krystal!
John Childers
May 30, 2014
The first time I meet Krystal was when Mario brought me to Last Day Saloon. After hearing Krystal and Josie talk to each other customers I was scared to ever get on her bad side. Thank God I never did. In fact I grew love her as we all did. Too soon to be writing this about her. Krystal you will never be replaced...
Ryan 30DOD/ACP
May 30, 2014
I am very sad to hear about this. Krystal was always delightful when I would visit the Tee Off or see her in passing in the neighborhood. Good people. On behalf of the “30DaysOfDebaucheryCrew” we send Paul and her family our condolences. - Ryan
stacy Humphries
May 30, 2014
I love u aunt Krystal. RIP:{
May 30, 2014
Missing your laughter and you calling me Leticia
Linda Moon
May 30, 2014
Rest in peace, sweet Krystal. Your spirit remains as an inspiration.
LeeAnn Leepee
May 30, 2014
My sweetheart when ever you were present eveyone smiled I sadly moved away from the Hood and didn't see you and what wonderful things you did to your TeeOff often enough Where ever you are it is a better place for having you WE are all very sad to have to let you move on but forget you is impossible and thinking of you will always be a joy touched with sadness Enjoy the next part of your Trip>> You will NEVER BE FORGOTTEN HERE !!!
peter farrelly
May 30, 2014
always in my heart
Erin Freer
May 30, 2014
You are always going to be remembered and missed terribly. Especially for me, your laugh. Xo
Jason Hogeboom
May 30, 2014
Krystal, we miss you!
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