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Patricia Crossman Obituary

Patricia Marie Carter (Amy) Crossman

Patricia Marie Carter Crossman died peacefully in her home in Berkeley,CA on August 29th, 2013. Social Worker,Therapist, Cocktail Waitress, and Mother, She is survived by her sons, Robert and Martin Crossman, and by her four grandchildren, Francis, Ruth, Chloe and Robin Crossman.


Born on June 22nd, 1931 to Hedley and Marie Amy, Pat was an independent only child.She received a full scholarship to Cambridge University,Where She attended Girton College.She received her degree in 1950 and subsequently attended the London School of Economics.While at University, She met Edward Crossman,Chief Psychology Lecturer at Oxford. They were married in 1958 and their first child was born soon after. The family relocated to California in 1964, when Edward was offered a teaching position at U.C. Berkeley. Pat became a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in 1969 and began working at Cowell Hospital at Cal.While there She pioneered the practice of group therapy. She began a private practice which she continued until 1985.She was a colleague of Eric Berne,MD and helped to develop what became known as'TransactionalAnalysis'. After witnessing the corruption of the 'Human Growth Movement', Pat became a vociferous and lifelong critic of what she referred to as "therapies based on false science".She encapsulated these thoughts in "The Etiology of a Social Epidemic" which was published online 2005.A lifelong advocate of children, Pat had a joy of life which she never lost.She charmed everyone She met and will be remembered and loved by many.


Her memorial will be held at 12 pm on Saturday September 21st at Grace North Church 2138 Cedar St. in Berkeley.
For information regarding her memorial, Please call her son, Martin at 510-472-6354 or her granddaughter Ruth at 510-815-8045


To plant trees in memory, please visit the Sympathy Store.

Published by San Francisco Chronicle from Sep. 14 to Sep. 15, 2013.

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Peter KLINGER

October 19, 2018

She was an amazing beatutiful courageous being. !

David Windstrom

October 12, 2013

Pat had a major impact on my life in my early twenties during a very difficult period, way back in 1970. We have stayed in touch over the years. She touched me deeply with her love, her grace, her vigorous passion for life, her humor, and her love. I am truly blessed to have known her and had my life enriched by her presence. My memories of her will be a light in dark places for me. Thank you Pat.

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