Sept.22,1958–Jan.29,2014
Brilliant mind, compassionate heart, and generous soul - Robert Charles Hamer III left this life after a determined eight-month battle with pancreatic cancer. The disease eventually overwhelmed his body, but never Bob's spirit. His characteristic graciousness and concern for others prevailed through his last days; and - as with everything Bob did in life - he left it on his own terms with grace and dignity. After a family evening with his beloved wife and partner of 24 years, Jill Reber Hamer, son Dillon and daughter Kyle, Bob died in the early hours of January 29th.
Bob was born on September 22, 1958 in Queens Cambria Heights, NY to parents Robert C. Hamer, Jr. and Barbara Tully Hamer - the second of six siblings. He grew up in Freeport and Baldwin, NY, and later Mendham, NJ. He worked for Beneficial Data Processing Corp. and RCA [Solid State Division] during his early employment years. His job took him from New York to San Francisco in 1978 when he was 20 years old, and he fell in love with the Bay Area. There his technological savvy continued to expand while working in various positions for Bank of America and Wells Fargo Bank, as did his intuitive foresight as to what was needed in the ever evolving field of technology. In answer to that need, Bob founded Primitive Logic, Inc. in 1984, serving as Chairman and CEO until 2009, and remained an integral Board Member until the time of his death. Bob also served on the Board of Directors of Restoration Hardware as a member of the Audit Committee from 2005 to 2008.
Bob became friendly with people everywhere he traveled, including his beloved Los Cabos, Mexico where the family maintained a home. To Bob a stranger was just another friend who he had not yet met. His amazing intellect and engaging personality made it easy for all who met him to love him. Bob's mind was always creating. He was passionate about architecture, curious about other cultures, thoughtful about global issues, and always caring about people.
Following a whirlwind courtship, Bob and Jill married in 1990, continuing their romance and creating a solid partnership. First and foremost, they've been attentive partners in parenting their three children, with family always taking priority. Together they built Primitive Logic into a successful, growing company that reflected their values of respect, integrity and balance. Always supportive of San Francisco Arts, they were founding members of San Francisco Opera's Bravo Club, whose mission is to expand multi-generational interest. They were actively involved in environmental issues and in supporting and mentoring at-risk youth.
Bob will be dearly missed and is survived by his wife and partner, Jill, son Dillon, and daughter Kyle. He was a loving son to his mother, Barbara, and a loving brother to his siblings Regina Epperly (Kenny), Brendan (Nettie), Andrew (Maureen), Gregory (JinSun), and Sean (Kirsten). He also was especially close to his brother-in-law, Greg Reber. Bob was pre-deceased by his father, Robert Charles Hamer, Jr. and his son, Robert Charles Hamer IV. Bob leaves behind a network of dear friends and extended family.
A Celebration of Bob's Life will be held on Sunday, March 23rd at 2:00 p.m. at the Palace of Fine Arts in San Francisco. The family has requested that, in lieu of flowers, please consider making a donation to Hunters Point Family, in Memory of Bob Hamer, 1800 Oakdale Avenue, San Francisco, CA 94124.
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March 7, 2014
Bob inspired me to live life fuller..every minute of every day. He had such an impact on me. I will miss him and pray for you all.
Warmly,
Caroline (Marin Cancer Care)
March 6, 2014
My heart goes out to Jill and the children. A terrible loss. My sincere condolences, lauren klein.
Regan
February 25, 2014
Enjoyed every moment with Bob.
Such a love, with a great presence.
To Jill and family--my thoughts are with you.
Sending love & good wishes your way.
Tina & Reed Carter
February 21, 2014
Jill my thoughts are with you. I remember Bob holding his newborns with a look of sheer joy on his face. I know you will perservere through this time. Too soon. Love you.
Susan Lokker
February 12, 2014
I had the opportunity to work for Bob's company Primitive Logic. Bob was an inspiration and a true entrepreneur in spirit. Working with Bob was a great experience and I learned the importance of networking from him. God Bless to Jill and his family. Bob will be missed.
Don Fehmel
February 10, 2014
Our family's always spent time at the Hamer compound in Long Island New York. I remember the summer holiday's swimming watching the adults play hoarseshoes and eating great food! All of us kids would play until it was time to go. No video games back then.Thanks for the good times Hamer's!
Howard S. Abels
February 9, 2014
Bob was a dear friend and I will sorely miss him.
PJ McMenamin
February 9, 2014
I was blessed to be introduced to Bob by my older brother, Charlie. He always embraced me and made me feel special and part of the gang even though I was 3 years younger. His kindness extended through more than my high school and college years. He would always call and check in on me from time to time even though we were 3000 miles apart. He treated my wife Patty and me and my close friend Lou to a very special day in Napa Valley 2.5 years ago. It was a wonderful day and one we will always remember! God Bless Bob.
Annelies Atchley
February 9, 2014
Bob was the best person, great father to his children and a very caring friend. Bob will always be for me a very special person and friend. I am also grateful to his family for their kindness.
Rosemarie & Charles McMenamin Sr
February 9, 2014
So appropriate ...that the CELEBRATION OF BOB's LIFE will be held in San Francisco.A city that he loved & enthusiastically shared with a long list of friends .Our family will continue to remember his contagious zest for life.We believe that our God is rewarding Bob for positively 'touching' the lives of so many as he traveled life's journey .
David Kavrell
February 8, 2014
Bob was truly a joy to be around. I count the times we were together to be some of the best. It was great to have him part of my life.
Charlie - Danette McMenamin
February 8, 2014
Our family was blessed and privlidged to have had a friendship with Bob for 41 yrs., starting in Mendham NJ HS. His intellect and ability to embrace each and every day at "warp speed", was special to watch. Bob had an incredible sense of humor, and during his many life accomplishments, he cast a wide net and influenced all in his journey. His energy and positive personality would be hard to duplicate. Just like his beloved Opera , Bob's performance on earth , will "always" receive a standing ovation. To the entire Hamer family we send our thoughts and prayers & thanks for having Bob as part of our extended family. God's speed Bob !
Jeff Stanley
February 8, 2014
I am saddened to lose such a wonderful guy, like said, even though I met him only a few times at social functions at his home, he was friendly, gracious and generous to all. Truly a sad loss to the world. I will miss him.
Jeff Stanley, Cabo San Lucas
Wes
February 8, 2014
Jill, you have my heart. I wish you peace and comfort.
Cathee Brady
February 8, 2014
sending prayers, love and condolences to the robert hamer family......and wishing you healing and gods graces on you and your families as you continue this most difficult time.
love
Cathee "McMenamin" Brady
February 8, 2014
Our families created many specialy memories together. Many ski days and special holidays. Our children will continue that legacy of friendship. We also know the value of family.From our family to yours we love you. Gillian, Joe , Gabby and Max Rainoldi
Janet Flader
February 7, 2014
I will always remember feeling overwelmed when Bob walked in the room. His stature & presence was a strength & his personality was powerful Rest in Peace Robbie
Robert Gregory
February 7, 2014
Dear Jill and Family
Our prayers are with you today and will be every time Bobs name is mentioned in connection with the many joyful stories his life has generated for those of us who only knew him too briefly.
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