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for Thomas Duffy
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Natasha
May 6, 2020
La Piñata Burlingame was one of the most cherished memories of my life. My parents loved you and you spoiled me rotten, and gave me a love for Macaw parrots! Tell Pokey and Mystic I said hello. Bless
Richard Boe
October 13, 2019
Its hard to believe its been 10 years. Tom is the finest human being I have ever known, a class act, a gentleman and a great friend. I am forever grateful for having known you. I think about you all the time, I miss you my friend.
Richard Boe
July 19, 2013
Tom was the gracious host who greeted me a hundred times
as I entertained customers in the 1970's at Duffy's and
Grazianos. He always visited my table to assure things were
going well. A smile and a kind word were just part of Tom.
Nice man. I lived in Burlingame and patronized La Pinanta
when he opened there and he always made us feel at home.
Tom Walsh
Robin Duffy
February 14, 2013
Tom at Peace
Grace Cathedral
1100 California St. San Francisco, CA 94108
The Chapel of St. Francis Columbarium
Second Floor of the Cathedral's Bell Tower
The Chapel is open for visitation, meditation & prayer:
Sundays 9:30 am - 10:30 am & 12:30 pm - 1:30 pm
Appointments may be made to schedule a private visitation at another time: 415.749.6300
Miss you every day. Love you, ME
February 14, 2013
April 18, 2012
I Miss you Tom everyday of my life. I thank you for giving my the start I needed. You were the father I wished that I had but never got. Thank you for including me in your restaurant family and believing in me when I had no faith in myself. I will cherish our last phone conversation and the pictures of us on Halloween. The Holy water and the support you gave me as a fellow cancer survivor is a constant reminder to never give up. Love Suzanne
Mrs. Duffy
October 9, 2010
October 7, 2010
In honor of Tom's 1 year transition Anniversary!
Miss and love you!
November 1, 2009
Dear Robin,
Our heart goes out to you. Tom was such an extraordinary man. He was stylish, intelligent, and so talented. He made this world a better place. He will be greatly missed. Love,
Rhonda and Bob Tatemichi (Burlingame, CA)
Liz Wright
October 22, 2009
My late husband Gene Wright and I were very good friends of Tom Duffy back in his Graziano days and before. We frequently took dinner together and enjoyed a wonderful friendship for many years. Tom and Gene shared many interests and Gene photographed Tom's son when he was about 4 or 5 years old. Tom said he would present the photographs to his son on his 20th birthday. I am devastated by the loss of this wonderful human being. Tom was kind and generous with everyone. He will be missed sorely. Liz Wright, Walnut Creek
October 20, 2009
I'm so sorry to hear of Tom's passing. He and Michael were truly friends. They both will be missed.
Joan Nielsen (Castro Valley, CA)
don kennedy
October 19, 2009
Tom - I will miss you! You so loved the restaurant business. Graziano's was just the best. Every day - interesting and first class foods. First time I ever even heard about pumpkin ravioli and then you added a bit of sage to the sauce, You were amazing because it was such a joy to you. I remember the fire & you loosing all the AR's & so few people paid but you just shrugged & moved forward. t was always a joy to watch your successes and even in passing - the Friendly Place in lieu of flowers - you just have so much class. Thank you for all of it.
Gail Sacco
October 19, 2009
I was sorry to learn of the passing of Tom. He and I went through grammar school together and lived in Eureka Valley growing up.
In fact, Tom was my first date after we graduated from grammar school.
He was a gentle soul, very smart, and had aspired to be in the restaurant business since a young boy.
He lived his dream.
My sympathy to his wife and family.
May he rest in peace.
Sincerely,
Gail (Powers) Sacco
Dan Swanson
October 18, 2009
We are so sorry to hear about your loss. The style and penache that Tom Duffy brought to a room was a standard to which all aspired and few ever achieved. The image of Tom greeting friends in the entry was of Grazianos is forever burned in my memory. He was a true friend to my father Carl and the rest of my family and we will always honor his memory.
With love and deepest sympathy from the Swanson Family
Peter & Bonnie Ferrai
October 18, 2009
Thomas was the last of the true gentlemen. Everything he did was with style, class and sophistication which personified his personality. He created an atmosphere that everyone wanted to be part of including Bonnie and I. He will always be remembered in our prayers.
Good bye my friend.
Bianca Buresh
October 16, 2009
Tom was my mentor, great friend and one of the kindest, loving most honorable men I have ever met. His passion for people and his drive for life was contagious to all. He will be greatly missed but never forgotten. I have some amazing memories of times spent together which live on forever!
Much love and deepest sympathy goes to you Robin and all his family.
Joanna Calleja Condon
October 15, 2009
Tom Duffy was a legend in my household growing up. My dad, Joe Calleja, would tell us stories of their escapades as kids and teens together; the cars, the parties, the comaraderie. Along with their buddies, they kicked up a bit of dust in their time! Our whole family loved Tom for bringing such joy, laughter and memories forth through my dad's stories. Of course, whenever we saw him, he would light up the whole kitchen! Love to you, Robin, from the whole Calleja family.
Stephen Sanguinetti
October 14, 2009
My family and I are deeply saddened by your loss Robin. I considered Tom a friend and a great business mentor. I had the privelege to work with Tom during the days of Myth in SF. I will dearly miss our breakfast meetings together to catch up on things. We have all lost a great friend and a class gentleman.
Rochelle Franson
October 13, 2009
My husband and I met Tom at Myth. He had the geat gift of makeing one feel as though they were the only important matter in the swirl of activity. His eyes always were a twinkle and there was some magic about him gliding around the room. I could tell the staff adored him -a great testament for anyone in the resterurant industry!
How lucky to have had him be in your lives and how very sad that such a wonderful spirit could not be tethered to this earthy realm a bit longer.
We are so deeply sorry for your great loss.
Frank Sprouls & Rochelle Franson
October 13, 2009
Tom was one of the finest gentlemen that I had the pleasure of meeting. I was happy to work for him briefly at Myth.
Jon Safier
October 13, 2009
It's with a heavy heart and a slow tear I convey my deepest sympathy to you, Robin and Tom's family. I considered Tom first and foremost a friend, mentor and it goes with out saying, the best dressed gentleman in town. I will miss this richly spirited and soulful man.
Joe Flood
October 13, 2009
Dear Robin & Tom Jr.,
I left San Francisco over 20 years ago, but Tom is one of the great characters in my memories that made that City so great for me. Tom was always kind and was great for a laugh. I'll never forget the guy. You and Tom Jr. have all my prayers.
Joe Flood
Domingo Garcia
October 13, 2009
My deepest thoughts are with Tom's family.
What a truly kind and generous man.
I'll never forget the many talks we had about the "business"
He was a great teacher and will be missed and remembered always.
Karen Hodskins
October 13, 2009
Hi Robin -- I wish you and your family all the love, prayers and kindness as you integrate Tom's passing into your life. I did not know Tom, but reading all the wonderful condolences shows me he was a wonderful human being and his warmth and love will live on in you and others. All the best to you. Take care.
Tina Rinella (Nancy's friend)
October 13, 2009
Dearest Robin.....
My heart and thoughts are with you during this difficult time. May your delicate and spiritual sole heal quickly yet never loose your favorite memories together...
Johnny Gonsoulin
October 13, 2009
Robin - My deepest thoughts, meditations & prayers are with you and your family. I didn't know Tom well but I know he was graced to have a most wonderful, thoughtful, beautiful wife in you. I think people will always feel Tom's spirit shining bright when they think about Tom and you. Love, Johnny
laura boozer
October 12, 2009
Robin-
My sympathy to you at this time. Your light and Tom's positive spirit continue to shine. There are so many that are so grateful for those blessings.
Laura Boozer
shawna scarpitti
October 12, 2009
Much love and many blessings to you, Robin...my deepest condolences. I loved when last seeing Tom in his hipster jeans, getting his opinion about the scant "grassy bamboo" wall mural for the new studio. Infinite love and gratitude,
Carrie Musto
October 12, 2009
My deepest condolences. Tom was an incredibly generous and intelligent man and will be sorely missed. Anyone lucky enough to work for and with him at some of the best restaurants in the Bay Area is better for having known him.
Amanda
October 12, 2009
Robin, I am so sorry for your loss. The four years I worked for Tom at La Pinata made an impression on the way I work with my colleagues and how to be gracious with people. In a way it feels like losing a part of family. You are in my prayers and thoughts, and I pray that Tom is at peace.
Judi Basolo
October 11, 2009
He was the quintessential gentleman and always welcoming to me, my family and my friends. Please let us know where the memorial service is on Sunday.
October 11, 2009
An incredible man. Great boss. Fair, fun & a class act. Generous & genuinly interested in others. So in love with his wife. An inspiration to many.
He will be missed!
Judy
October 11, 2009
I will never forget my days at La piniata, Tom was fair and supportive of my 11 years there. I am sorry for your loss.
The Guthrie Family
October 11, 2009
Dear Robin,
Tom will be greatly missed. He was not only a friend, but a mentor.Our children would watch him work and be amazed at his grace in dealing with everyone. He was an inspiration to us all. He was such a caring and giving man. Words cannot express our sorrow for you and Zermatt
October 11, 2009
Dear Robin,
We are very saddened by your loss. You are in our thoughts in this very difficult time. Please accept our deepest sympathies and let us know if we can help in any way.
de Louraille family - Los Gatos
The Trapani Family
October 11, 2009
Dear Robin & Tom Jr.,
We're deeply saddened by your loss. Tom was very special to our family. Especially our Mom. May God bless you all during this time. Take care friends.
The Trapani Family
October 11, 2009
ROBIN
I am so sorry to read about Thom
I remember u both from many years ago
love
and heartfelt sympathies
mimi city clothing aka
city fitness sf
Darling Fischer Chapel of the Hills
October 10, 2009
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