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Dr. Marilyn Kostka

1942 - 2019

Marilyn Kostka Obituary

KOSTKA, Dr. Marilyn Dr. Marilyn Kostka, 77, passed away on February 14, 2019, in Austin. She was born Marilyn Janice Copeland on February 12, 1942, in Holyrood, Kansas to Janice Osthoff and Harold Copeland. The youngest of four, she grew up in Boulder, Colorado in the shadow of the mountains she always loved. After graduating from Boulder High School as Head Girl in 1960, Marilyn attended the University of Colorado for two years before she met fellow music student Stefan Kostka. They were married in 1962 and moved to Austin, Texas, where she earned her bachelor's degree in music education from The University of Texas. After her graduation in 1964, they moved to Oak Hill, West Virginia where they both taught music for two years, and then later moved to Madison, Wisconsin, where she gave birth to her son Kent Matthew Kostka and daughter Julie Lynn Kostka. In 1969 the family moved to Rochester, NY, where again she and Stefan taught music. In 1974, they moved back to Austin with their two children and had a third child, Laurel Elise Kostka. Marilyn taught music and earned a Masters degree and a Doctorate in Music Education at The University of Texas. She and Stefan were divorced but remained close friends, and she spent several years teaching music at U.T. and in public schools in the Austin area. In 1993 Marilyn moved to Flagstaff, Arizona, as a professor of music education at Northern Arizona University until her retirement in 2008. She became deeply involved in research and writing in the field of music education. She was published frequently and recognized nationally for her contributions to the field of music education and pedagogy, particularly in the area of elementary music education, one of her deepest passions. She returned to the Austin area in 2014 to be with family. She is preceded in death by her daughter Laurel Shelton, and survived by her children Kent Kostka and Julie Kostka, both of Austin, her brothers Jim and Ron Copeland, sister JoAnne Sarbaugh, and her five beloved grandchildren Elizabeth Baca, Chris Baca, Jared Shelton, Savannah Shelton, and Dashiell Kostka. Marilyn had a deep passion for animals, music, family, and the mountains. She never stopped playing the piano nor listening to and appreciating beautiful music. In lieu of flowers, gifts may be made in Marilyn's memory to Austin Pets Alive or Christopher House of Austin.

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Published by Austin American-Statesman on Feb. 17, 2019.

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March 3, 2019

I will be forever grateful to Marilyn for the kindness and compassion she showed my daughter Kary during her battle with cancer in Flagstaff. She loved her dog Wilson and often told me of the joy that he brought into her life. I will miss our talks and her friendship. Rest in peace my dear cousin.
Lu Shafer

Arnold Carlson

February 26, 2019

I remember Marilyn when she was a neighbor across the alley in Boulder in the early 40's. She was a terrific musician and wonderful piano player.

Cheryl Kostka Wilks

February 23, 2019

I remember my Aunt Marilyn as so incredibly kind, and a gentle soul. My thoughts and prayers go out to my cousins and my Uncle.

February 18, 2019

Dale often talked with Marilyn as she walked Wilson and she always asked how I was doing. She will be greatly missed.

Dale and Cindy Jensen,
Sun City,Texas

February 18, 2019

Marilyn,
I miss you and thank you for the good times - laughter and wine, sharing stories and more. Your Mom's shrimp salad will live on and on! Love you and am happy for your peace.

Cheryl Shave

Pat Rheel

February 17, 2019

I so miss seeing Marilyn walking down Scurry with her wonderful dog, Wilson. I always loved to walk and talk with her.

Ann Sang

February 17, 2019

Marilyn added a wonderful sense of laughter and delight to Scurry Pass. Her lesson in how to make tamales will remain legend.
I am sure she is totally enjoying the heavenly choir!

Kay Anderson

February 17, 2019

Marilyn was a dear, kind, and compassionate friend. She is deeply missed.
May she now Rest In Peace.

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