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for Benjamin Dahmer
Erin Farber
May 7, 2007
Ben. I miss you so much. You were a really funny guy. I may not have known you all that long but i hung out wiht you everyday for about a month and you were becoming one of my good friends. I wish you would have stayed around a little longer so I could have told you that. I miss you Ben...alot.
Rachel Rendine
April 29, 2007
Ohhh God...Lets See You Always gave me the craziest smiles ever across the room in mr. daileys class. & Of course always making fun of me and what i wore. but i loved your shoes and most of all you. you could always make me laugh and feel awkward (AKA bread co.) Love You Very much and miss you bunches <3
A Friend
April 28, 2007
I KNOW
I know you all worry, dream and pray
that I'm alright and happy.
God is making sure I am, He fusses over me.
I know you all miss and love me.
I feel the same for all of you.
God tells me that's alright, it's what loving people do.
I know you all hope I knew them all,
the ones who met me here,
grandmas, grandpas, aunts and uncles,
and friends who took my fear.
God joined them at the gate,
He cried and said He missed me,
because you taught me of His love,
I hugged Him back - He kissed me.
I know you all know I love you,
please don't be afraid.
I laugh, I giggle, and run and hide
with all the friends I've made.
So...when you all worry if I'm safe,
please remember this,
God is taking care of me,
I laugh, I love, I live.
I love you Mom,
I love you Dad,
I love you Brett and Chey.
I worry, and watch and pray.
Please don't forget how much I need
for all of you to be ok.
Know this,
I'm always watching over you,
I know how hard you all try,
and when we meet again...
you'll all know - with love we never die.
I love you Mom, Dad, Brett, Chey.
Brett Dahmer
April 26, 2007
To my little brother whos life was full of joy. I'll never understand why you left us so but know this Ben you will always be thought about and loved for an eternity of life. I'll see you in the future but for now you and I must wait until we meet again little bro love ya little guy.
Cheyenne Dahmer
April 25, 2007
I love you Ben .... I'm gonna miss you playing toys with me....
an I' gonna m iss you going swiming with me......
and i'm gonna miss you playing in the snow with me ......
and i'm gonna miss you takeing me up too 7 11 store for freezies....
and i'm gonna miss you Ben very much !
Cause you are my brother and a very good brother....
that I had lots of happy times with you Ben.....I'm going to miss you trick or treating with us Ben
On Halloween night .....and gonna miss eating our Halloween candy together Ben I love you so much
I pray for you every night Ben Cause I love you.... and I named my stuffed easter bunny after you Ben
He is now benjamin bunny I'll never forget you Ben even when you teased me I still loved you then
With Love Forever your little Sister Cheyenne Dahmer for you with lots and lots of love
Ida Staley
April 25, 2007
Since I have learned of this book I keep track of all entries.....for Ben you are not only in my heart but always on my mind as well. We tend as human beings to take our life and love for granted at times. And when death of a loved one happens we are devastated to say the least. So to all my friends and family take time out of your busy lives and a quick hug, smile, a simple I LOVE YOU means so very much.The simple little things in life count although we tend to put them aside at times or even forget them. But always remember to let that anger and sadness go for it is past now. Go on with love in your heart and happiness. We need more joy in this world of ours not so much sorrow. One of my all time favorite songs is Lean On Me........and at times such as these is what God wishes. But not only to lean on him but each other as well. For you see dear people there is Strength In Numbers. So let us all pull together and rejoice at this time in our sorrow for Ben is now an official Angel of God. Way to go my dearest Ben!!! For you've got your wings. I'll love you forever and hold you deep within my heart,soul, and inner being.
To My Precious Ben:
I let you go today,
Up into heaven you flew away.
An angel on a mission to heaven above,
You have filled so many hearts with love.
Onto this day and each day after,
I'll always remember your jokes and laughter.
You were set free to fly above,
To spread the Word....The Gift of Love.
So let go of the sadness and the tears,
For our love for you will still all fears.
Just always remember when we think of you,
A smile, a hug, a simple "I LOVE YOU".
So let the sadness fly away,
When up to heaven you went to stay.
I Love you Benny.......Aunt Ida
christy senay
April 24, 2007
Dear Ben,
you know i am not good with words but im going to try..every day you kept me smiling durring photo class & even if it was hard to take you seriously sometimes you really helped me through a lot lot lot. i really admired the way you wern't afraid to be yourself & you didnt care what anyone thought...you even wore the "makeup" i put on you the whole school day. i always looked for you @ the bus from south to fern & still do. i am really sorry for not being there as much as you were here for me. today i was talking about memories of you standing on the photo table and doign that "my milkshake" dance in the lunchroom inbetween the upper and lower commons and i could not stop laughing..you still make me crack up! thanks for making me feel welcome @ my new school.
i love you & my heart goes out to your family & friends.
-christy
Brett Sr = " Dad " Dahmer Sr
April 24, 2007
"Son" I just wish this were a bad dream..... and I could wake up and you'd be here
with us again ....If I could have one wish for anything it would be that you were here
with us again and that time could stand still and change for my love for you will never ever end
And waiting too see you again is the hardest thing I've ever had too do in my whole life but I will wait for my lil buddy....as long as I do get to see & be with you again... my loving son with a heart thats bigger than life it's self.....I love you Son Forever and ever and always Dad
Brett Sr = " Dad " Dahmer Sr
April 24, 2007
"Son" I just wish this were a bad dream..... and I could wake up and you'd be here
with us again ....If I could have one wish for anything it would be that you were here
with us again and that time could stand still and change for my love for you will never ever end
And waiting too see you again is the hardest thing I've ever had too do in my whole life but I will wait for my lil buddy....as long as I do get to see & be with you again... my loving son with a heart thats bigger than life it's self.....I love you Son Forever and ever and always Dad
Ida Staley
April 23, 2007
My precious little one,in my heart I carry not sadness but rejoice for you are with Him.I won't miss you for you aren't gone from us . You are still on the horizon and always in our hearts and soul. I reflect my precious Ben so full of humor,quiet at times but then out of the blue how you'd make us laugh.I didn't realize what a handsome young man you had come to be. I have always loved you my precious child. For in my eyes you have always been my gentle little Benny. I feel blessed to have had you in my life .I LOVE YOU BENNY! Aunt Ida & Cousin Sam
Aunt Pat and Uncle Don Fabish
April 22, 2007
Hi Ben, we never had the opportunity to become aquainted because of the distance between us but we did get to see you once when you were a little tiny guy. One day we'll meet again then we will always be close together. May God keep you in his loving care.
Patti and family, our thoughs and prayers are with you always. God bless you and may he ease your burden.
Love and kisses, Aunt Pat and Uncle Don.
BILL BERNIER
April 20, 2007
HAVE A GREAT DAY. A UNKNOWN FRIEND
molly mccoy
April 20, 2007
ben... where do i start wiht u? u and i got really close the last couple of weeks before nu passed... i really ahd sooo much love for u and i am sorr for not showing enough of it... i will always have a place for u in my heart.. i love u ben!!!
<3molly
Patricia Denby
April 18, 2007
I Love and miss you Son forever and always
To me your an Angel now,.... A " Warrior Angel " to help Jesus
for The Greator Good of the World
your Loving Mother
lauren trebing
April 18, 2007
ben..i will always miss you..and you will never be forgotten. i love you buddy!
Charles Elder
April 18, 2007
you aree in our prayers. I've known your grandmother Jene since we were very small children.
Jene Humphries
April 17, 2007
Ben, we are all going to miss you so much. Even though the miles seperate us, you are still in our hearts and prayers and always will be. I love you Ben, you are in God and Grandpa's hands now. Love, Grandma Dahmer (Humphries)
Amanda Caggiano
April 17, 2007
I would like to say How much I am going to miss my Little cousin, I wish I could have been there for him in his time of nees. Brett Jr, Ben and I were all ;like brothers and sisters rather than cousins. I love him so much and he was amazing in so many ways. He had many friends that will miss his dearly, and his family will too. I am far from STL right now, but my heart is there isn STL. I could tell so many stories about Ben when we was growing up, so many fun times and sad also. I know he is safe there with Grandpa Dahmer, and my brother Eric, Bens other cousin. I will forever love you Ben
Brenda Hulet
April 17, 2007
Ben, I just stumbled across this book by accident,and I'm so happy I did. I didn't even know it existed until I looked for you in the newspaper. I want you to know that you were always a joy to be around and always brought many smiles to my face. I enjoyed every moment that we spent time together especially when you came to spend weekends at my house. You were full of spirit and had a good heart. I miss you and I always will. You will always be in my heart and in the hearts of all who love you. I pray that GOD will keep you in his loving arms and also continue to comfort all your family and friends.You will be greatly missed. I love you. I wrote this poem in your memory so you and your family will know how I feel.
In Memory of My Nephew
Benjamin Thomas Dahmer
March 13, 1990 - April 8, 2007
"Gone from our sight,
but never our memories.
Gone from our touch,
but never our hearts."
Ben
My,sweet,precious,nephew, always so funny and full of life.
When we got that shocking call,
It pierced our hearts,just like a knife.
We'll miss you forever
Even though you no longer are here.
You must have been needed,
far greater up there.
Your sweet precious spirit,
will never die.
I still feel you here with me,
Bringing tears to my eyes.
Although there's a hole in my heart that will take time to heal,
I know that the Good Lord,
Will help me to deal!
Sweet precious nephew,
I'll miss you so much.
But you're now in God's arms,
Protected from any harm
I picture you up there,
on clouds like white cotton.
You may no longer be here,
but you will never be forgotten!
I Love You, Always & Forever,
"Your Aunt Brenda"
Maggie McKee
April 17, 2007
Ben,
i cnt even tell you how much people are goin to miss everything about you. Your smile, your laugh, your personality,you. It kills me inside to know that your gone. I really got to know you ben, the ben that could light up anyone's day no matter what had been troubling them. The ben who was loved and adored by so many people. You changed a lot of people, you showed them how to light up even the darkest days. So fair well my friend, forever you will be missed, and foever you will remain in our hearts.
Hope Townsend-Cruz
April 16, 2007
God Please tell Ben-
I am sorry to see him go so soon, He was a very sweet boy and his family was the best neighbors that we ever had!(When my family lived in Pevely) I hope if his family needs anyone to talk with, they can always talk to me. Now, my mother will look after him like she did when he was little,until we all join him again -
God bless you Ben and all of your family I love you all- Amen
Susan Skinner
April 13, 2007
Ben-
I have been sitting here for an hour trying to come up with the perfect words to tell you how I feel, but they won't come. So this is the best I can do. I just really wanted to thank you for being a great friend to me always bringing a smile to my face. It meant more than you will ever know. I also wanted to say thanks for being yourself all these years. Highschool is without a doubt on of the hardest times we go through in our lives, but you never fell into the materialistic parts of it. You were always just yourself and that was awesome. I always admired your strength, wisdom, and your crazy sense of humor. I'll miss you forever and ever until I see you again. <3
Jimmy Doyle
April 13, 2007
Ben you were one of the funniest kids i knew.
Kelly Justin's mom
April 12, 2007
Ben,
Not only were you a friend of my son Justin, you were a friend of mine. When Justin would ask to have a friend spend the night I told him it was fine "as long as it was that Ben kid". The one thing that I remember most about you is your great silly laugh...no one could hear your laugh and not laugh along with you...it was contagious. You had so many people in your life that loved you...Justin, RJ, and Scott and many others have lost a great friend. Thanks for being such a great friend to Justin!!
Your Aunt Coco/Viola, Rich, Richie, Melissa, Andrea Albert
April 12, 2007
April 12, 2007
Dear Ben,
I came here in your honor, as my family and I "love and miss you Ben." We're having a hard time having to deal with the reality that you are gone from us here on earth. Being one of many people who knew you well Ben...(to me,your cousins, and uncle) you were always a joy and blessing here on earth from God above...,always had kind words... a gentle soul...and very thoughtful of others is how we will always remember you Ben. Many people say that about those they knew..., but with you it was true. We witnessed your actions many times and could see the very true essence of joy and love you brought and gave to your immediate family/us in your life here. Having you around made life a whole lot sweeter with your presense,kind actions and wonderful sense of humour. You will always be in our hearts and our memories.Ben may God keep you ever near and bless you abundantly for that golden heart of yours that you shared with all who knew the true you kiddo. When we look at the stars in heaven above we will always think of you Benjamin Thomas Dahmer. Your memory here lives on in our hearts. May the love we have for you touch and reach you there in heaven.
The Albert Family
Beth Scott, Principal, Sorrento Springs
April 11, 2007
Teachers and administrators at Sorrento Springs would like to express our sincere sympathy. Although Ben never attended this school, his sister Cheyenne does. Please know that we will keep loving arms and a watchful eye over Cheyenne as your family mourns this tragic loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Mr. Peter McCreary
April 10, 2007
I will remember Ben as my Geometry student at Parkway South H.S. 2005/06. My prayers are with the family and his friends especially the students at South who knew Ben.
just a neighbor
April 10, 2007
i was just your neighbor,
i wish i could of known you better than i did.
ben dahmer,
you are missed.
Megan Dooling
April 10, 2007
The walk home won't be the same without you Ben. Miss You
Shanon Sellers
April 10, 2007
My thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort.
Melonie Austermann
April 10, 2007
Be Still
Be still like the grass on a melancholy summer day
Be still like desert shrub.
Be calm and you will hear your loved one speak, in the stillness, in the calm, their love resounds.
If you are still this promise I make, you will hear the voice of your loved one helping you along your way.
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