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Dwight Bachman
April 21, 2025
Shyaam, I pray you can feel my spirit, which longs for your peace in Heaven. I miss how much you loved to help others, how you taught Salim how to ride a bike with no training wheels. Salim was so freaking proud of you. I love how kind you were to my mother, and how much you loved to laugh! I always enjoyed coming near you because you always brought so much joy to my heart. I'll never forget the night you ran EIGHT TOUCHDOWNS and had 3 of them called back! I love how your friends from Farmington High School think so fondly of you. I love you, Man, and will love your for as long as I live.
Taryn
July 7, 2023
Thinking of you, Dwight, and the Bachman family.
Karen Sanchez
April 20, 2018
❤
Dr. David G. Carter
April 19, 2018
Shyaam,
How I miss you today. I know you remember Dr. Carter and Dr. Holley. Well, my dear son, Dr. Carter passed away on March 17 of this year. As you know, Dr. Carter was my hero in life. I shall treasure his lessons to me for as long as I live.
Even more now, because Dr. Holley, his wife, encouraged his friends and supporters to contribute to your scholarship fund as a way to remember him. Other than making it to Heaven, I don't believe I will have a higher honor in my life. Dr. Carter named YOU, Shyaam, as someone he wants people to remember and support!
I am overwhelmed by it all. The gesture from this man of God, this man of integrity, this brilliant, generous. gracious and kind man, humbles me greatly.
Your cheerful, loving spirit will never die. It will remain alive! It will last for the rest of my life, until I see you again. Your spirit, your gift to me, Shyaam, and everyone will last for generations! I love you, Man! Dad
Shyaam Being Congratulated Upon His Graduation from Hampton University
dwight bachman
September 14, 2014
Shyaam,
This Sunday morning, Sept. 14, 2014, I am praying God keep his loving arms around you. I thank him for giving you to me, to all of us. My earthly pilgrimage is so much better because of you.
Though you are not with us physically, it is through fond memories of you, your handsome smile, your wonderful mind, body and soul, that I see my own mortality, my own eternal life, reunited with you, through our Lord and Savior.
I have no fear. In the face of life's everyday challenges, your life — through the life of God's precious son, Jesus — gives everyone who knew you the confidence to continue this journey. Nothing ¬— no racism, no midget minds — will ever separate us from the love of God.
We had to mourn your departure from us because you were such an awesome young man, always putting yourself last, and others first. You were such a pure heart of gold. Such a peacemaker. No pretense. You were truly a star on this earth, and now a bright and shining star in Heaven.
I shall never forget our night on South Beach. How wonderful it was, talking with you as we watched cruise ships dot their way across the moonlit, midnight ocean.
And man, all throughout your career as student and teacher, did you shine in the classroom!
And how about that night in 1994 in New Britain! Tears of joys streamed down my face to see you have so much fun, feigning and moving and running one touchdown after another.
And nothing topped your last race of the season in 1995 when you came from behind and anchored your team to victory in the 4 x 100 meter relay. You blessed a lot of people that night.
Of course, you belonged to God all along. Your life of sharing and giving has helped me tremendously. God, through you, is helping me live victoriously. God, through you, has given me hope again.
I look up and forward now, smiling at your smile. You lift my heart. I thank and praise God for you, for giving you to me, and to all of us, for 30 years.
Please know that you continue to live through us, as we all want to join you in Heaven. God, through his son Jesus, who died, rose and will come again, has reconciled us of any and all of my trespasses, so I know I will join you again in Heaven.
Up there, there is no sorrow; only peace, joy and happiness, and everlasting good laughs with you!
I have been in touch with your Jamaican and Latino students — Terell, Vanessa Bravo, Suhairy and Joally. They are on course to become all you wanted them to become — the very best people they can be.
I love you, Man. I MISS you. Gonna hang with your little brother, Salim, today.
Dad
Shyaam's Favorite Car
Dwight Bachman
August 20, 2014
Salim and I talked this past weekend, Shyaam, about how much we miss you. Every thought I think, I want it to honor you. Every word I speak, I want it to honor you. And every action or deed in which I engage, I want you to be proud of me, up there in the sky.
We saw your favorite car today, that Porsche 911, just before we visited you in West Hartford.
Dwight bachman
April 19, 2012
Shyaam,
This day has been one of deep reflection for me. Four of your students - Vanessa, Joally, Suhairy and Terrel - chatted with me. They all miss you, love you and vow to succeed in life just to honor you. Vamini, who took over your class, thinks the world of you too.
What a glorious thing for a father to hear and know. I hope I come close to positively impacting the lives of people the way you did. I miss you, Man. I love you. I miss you.
You know I love a good laugh, and I miss your call to tell me something funny, and hear you laugh, saying "Aw man, this is too funny, Dad."
You make me smile today, my beloved son. And I try hard to conduct my life in a way that I believe makes you smile down on me. May God keep his ever-loving arms around you.
One Love. One Heart.
Dad
Karen Reynoso
March 6, 2012
Missing you so much Shyaam. I still dial your number hoping to hear your voice. I love you and miss you Shyaam. R.I.P.
Samuel Alvarado
September 4, 2011
I was just thinking about him, and how I dedicated an essay to him. I was one of his last students in Coconut Creek's biology class of '08. I miss the intriguing conversatioons we had of energy and artificial life.
He had such big plans for his future, and it stings to see that taken from him. I can only pray the rest of his family, and whoever reads this, get themselves checked for diseases such as what took him. It's no way to go, and the impact it has on everyone who surrounds you is devastating.
You are missed.
Toni Cofield
July 11, 2011
Missing my friend...
Shyaam Photo by Dwight Bachman
dwight bachman
July 6, 2011
Shyaam,
At the 2011 World Scholar Athlete Games, Games Founder Dan Doyle called you "a very special person." I concur. You were/are some kind of special. The joy you provided me will be in my heart for as long as I live. You are so precious to me.
Dad
Karen Reynoso
July 5, 2011
As I am on my way to work I have Shyaam on my mind and I'm thinking of all our great memories together. I happened to look through my rear view mirror and behind me was the same exact car Shyaam drove. Shyaam you are truly missed and loved!
Ladricca Price
June 4, 2011
Dwight,
although I've known you only a little while, after reading through all of these tributes written to you and your family about Shyaam, I feel as though I now know the wonderful and full-of-life person that Shyaam was.....is....his legacy lives on! What a wonderful son. Being the mother of 3 sons in their 30's, I cannot even begin to imagine what you have had to go through the past 4 years. May you be comforted in the wonderful memories of all the people who signed this Guest Book and "remembered his spirit". May your loving memories and the joy he was as a son, live on in your hearts. There will come a day when you your heart will be "lighter" when you remember him and your thoughts and recollections will have you "smiling".
God Bless You All.
Paul Kamuzora
February 25, 2011
Shyaam was my inspiration. We are the same age and yet I looked up to him tremendously and he inspired me. He has a wonderful and infectious personality. I dearly miss you my friend
SPARKLES STRONG
November 3, 2010
MY PRAYERS GO OUT TO YOUR FAMILY FOR I KNOW THEY HAVE LOST SOMEONE PRECIOUS AN ENLIGHTFUL. WILL ALWAYS REMEMBER YOUR SMILING FACE, MAY YOUR SOUL REST IN PEACE MR. BACHMANN.
Denise Browne
March 24, 2010
My thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort.
Olethia Fauntleroy
November 12, 2009
Hey...Just thinking of you...Going thru a little bit of a struggle, but I continue to carry ur words of encouragement with me everyday and everytime I want to give up...I remember our last conversation...I love you and miss you so much....
Toni
June 25, 2009
Today is June 25, 2009, I took a walk around my favorite lake. Memories of you warmed my soul. Thoughts of you flow through my spirit. Shine on Shyaam.
I miss you.
May 18, 2009
Shyaam,
I did not have the honor of knowing you doing your brief life on this earth but I know your Dad; and through the father the son.
Your orientation was one of inquisitiveness and nonconformity. You were not satisfied with the status quo; as so many of us are (as long as we get our piece of the pie). You wanted the world to be a better place because you were here; and it is, but a sadder place since your leaving. God lent us your gentle spirit for a short time, and we are blessed for His gift. Be cheerful in knowing that your father will carry on the work you began in Africa. From all I know, this poem is befitting - Shayaam Bachman
THE MEASURE OF A MAN
Not - How did he die? But - How did he live?
Not - What did he gain? But - What did he give?
These are the things that measure the worth
Of a man as a man, regardless of birth.
Not - What was his station? But - had he a heart?
And - How did he play his God-given part?
Was he ever ready with a word of good cheer?
To bring back a smile, to banish a tear?
Not - What was his church? Not - What was his creed?
But - Had he befriended those really in need?
Not - What did the sketch in the newspaper say?
But - How many were sorry when he passed away?
These are the things that measure the worth
Of a man as a man, regardless of birth
Shyaam, your family, friends and students live in a manner that will bring honor to your life as you did to theirs. You are loved and missed.
Cree Montague, Old Bridge, NJ
Shyaam at my 60th Birthday Party Outside of Washington D.C.
Dwight Bachman, shyaam
January 9, 2009
Shyaam,
Man, how I miss you! I miss you so much. I love you so much.
Over the Christmas holidays, Salim and I went horseback riding in the hills of Massachusetts. It was so beautiful; so quiet; so peaceful. All we could hear was the horses snorting as they plodded through the wet snow.
Salim and I laughed and talked and enjoyed the scenery. When we stopped, we looked at each other. Our eyes told each of what we were knew each of us was thinking -- how we wished you were here with us physically. We know that you loved the outdoors.
I remembered the smile on your face as you took us on that swift airboat ride through the Florida Everglades. I will remember that smile for as long as I live. You were so happy that you could provide us such with pure joy -- the breeze that blew through us as swerved through the water, and ended up with an alligator at our boat side. That was awesome.
I wished I could tell you what joy and laughter you brought to my life. I'll never forget you telling me at my 60th birthday party in Washington D.C. that you had never seen me happier, and me telling you that I love being around family, especially you.
Today, every thought I think; every step I take;every decision I make; and every action in which I engage, I do so hoping that it will honor you, my son, and make you as proud of me as I am of you.
I pray God keep his loving arms around you, my beloved son. And since you have taught me just how short life on this earth really is, I will see you soon.
Something else -- remembering all the conversations we've had about fairness, equality, and justice in America, I wished you were here to see Barack Obama's swearing in. Remember, we both never thought we see an African American elected? Well, it happened. it gives me hope. I know it would have given you hope as well. His election certainly lets us know that God is in control of it all.
Eternal Peace to you, Shyaam. I love you, Man.
Dad
Karen Reynoso
November 7, 2008
I Love you and Miss you so much Shyaam!! There is not a day that goes by that I don't think of you.
VANESSA Bravo
November 5, 2008
WOW... IT'S BEEN OVER A YEAR.. I CANT BELIEVE IT.. I STILL WAKE UP EVERY MORNIN WAITING TO TALK TO YOU...
A COUPLE OF MONTHS AGO I HAD 2 DIFFERENT DREAMS... AND YOU WERE IN THEM ='[...
IT TOOK ME A COUPLE OF MINUTES TO ACTUALLY REALIZE, AFTER I WOKE UP, I DREMPT WITH YOU.
IT WAS SOME WHAT SCARY BUT THEN I TOOK IT AS A BLESSING N YOU LOOKING OVER ME...
I CRIED & THEN SMILED...
I HAVE SO MUCH I WISH I COULD TELL U! I MISS YOU SOOO MUCH...
I STILL CANT BELIEVE THIS I WISH I COULD WAKE U TO YOUR PHONE CALL...
N UR DAD IS OK I TALK TO HIM EVERY HERE AND THERE... N YOUR MOM NEVER GOT THE PLEASURE TO MEET HER... HOPEFULLY ONE DAY I WILL...
ILY MY OLDER BROTHER FROM ANOTHER MOTHER =]
Sahyaam, right, with Brother Salim, and Dad, Dwight, South Beach, Miami, 2005
September 9, 2008
Shyaam, his Dad, Dwight, and brother, Salim on airboat in the Florida Everglades
September 9, 2008
Shyaam with brother, Salim, center, and cousins from Iowa: Michelle, Kevin, Stephanie, Aleah, and Aleric
September 9, 2008
Shyaam and his Dad, Dwight, at 2 a.m. on South Beach in Miami, 2005
September 9, 2008
Shyaam and his Dad, Dwight, on South Beach in Miami, 2005
September 9, 2008
Vamini Ramkissoon
July 16, 2008
I am Vamini Ramkissoon. I am the teacher who replaced Shyaam at Coconut Creek High. These are my experiences in Room 903.
It's strange how I was hired you see. I had no expectation of being a teacher but yet, I ended up in the job fair last year. It was July 20th and my fiancee (now my husband) filled out my resume and told me to go to the job fair. There were so many people there that I thought I did not stand a chance. I interviewed with three schools and then on my way out, I saw the sign for Coconut Creek High. I had worked in the area and I lived really close to the school at the time so I decided to wait in line and get interviewed. The first teacher told me that she had no more openings and I was about to leave when another teacher called me over and set up an interview for me with the principal. She overheard me talking about my days as a Chemistry tutor. After 45 minutes, I was hired on the spot. Now here's the strange part. When the Creek administrators were filling out my hire packet, they wrote that the reason for hire was "Death of Shyaam Bachman."
I thought a little about this. I was just hired to replace someone who had died. It seemed strange. I immediately asked about it and the I was told that Shyaam was a young teacher who had just "suddenly died a little over a week ago." It was all I heard about him until I got to school on August 14. We were being assigned rooms that week and at first, I was shown a Chemistry lab. It seemed only right that a Chemistry teacher will get a Chemistry lab, right? We were told that room 903 was Shyaam's room and no one could go in there until his mother came and took his belongings. Due to some rearrangements, I was told that my assigned room was 903.
When I got there, I knew immediately that whoever this Shyaam was, he was a very good person. From childhood, I was taught to "feel" for people's vibrations. My father always taught me that the energies that people gave off could affect me and it was better to surround myself with positive energies. There was nothing "heavy" about the room. Whoever this person was, he kept a clean conscience. When I was looking through the desk drawers and cabinets in the room, I saw a lot of his belongings. Many of his classroom supplies were still new and the desks still contained files of his students. I kept everything. I found a lot of great ideas for teaching while looking through the cabinets and I did not have to buy any supplies for my classroom thanks to Shyaam.
I learned many things about Shyaam by just being in his room. I do not know how I figured out all these things by just being in the room but one evening I was talking with a teacher who knew him really well and at one point, she asked me how come I knew so much about him without ever meeting him.... It will sound very eerie but nothing worked as it should have during my first two weeks of being at Creek. Not one electrical appliance worked around the desk where Shyaam sat. I know that over the summer the a/c was being serviced and it could cause a problem. I tried resetting the outlets but it didn't work. I even asked other teachers in the building and they had no problem of the sort. I could not get any internet connection either. I remember one day saying to myself that, "Shyaam must have been a playful kind of guy." Then one day, things started to work as they should. No one fixed anything. I never called in a technician. I know that much.
During my first month at the school, teachers and students visited the room just to "connect" with Shyaam once more. Some of them cried, some of them laughed when they remembered him, and some of them just walked around the room. I realized that we had to keep his memory alive. Two days earlier, someone had placed his picture out on the table in the teacher's lounge area and everything fell into place. The face suited the personality. I got the idea of making a remembrance board for him. I used the picture from his memorial hand-out flyer and I placed it against a yellow board. Yellow, I thought was the perfect color. It is a color that I used a lot in my school days to remember things. I learned that when you put anything on a yellow background, your memory was stimulated, and you remembered the bit of information better. Perhaps, that is why the original post-it notes were yellow!! So, in my new classroom, Shyaam's old classroom, he is smiling (a beautiful, handsome smiling young man) against a yellow board and below, there is a list of things in which he believed. A student had given that list to me.
Many times, I stayed back after school and the classroom always felt as if there was someone else in it. Nothing bad, but just another presence. I found out that other teachers liked coming to room 903 as well. Just like Shyaam did, I made friends quickly in this school. I came to know from teachers that they liked being in my room. For most of us, they liked coming there during my planning hour or during lunch to just talk. Everyone always spoke about how "bright" the room was. Even teachers who did not really know Shyaam well agreed that there was something about room 903. His energy remained in the room. At the end of the school year, teacher and students alike were saying to me that they never saw me around the school because I never left my room. Likewise, I came to know, Shyaam rarely left room 903.
You know, students told me all the time that Shyaam never believed in ghosts....things he could not see. One of his former students told me of a time when she had submitted a science article to him about ghosts and paranormal activity and how he had laughed and told her they did not exist and it was not science. I laughed when she told me. However, in order to be a person of science, I realized that you have to believe, more than any other academic discipline, in things that you cannot see. You see, science strengthens faith in something greater than ourselves. You cannot see an atom, but you know it is there. You cannot see energy or what electricity looks like, but you can see it's effects. Likewise, I believe that people have energy and it stays long after they are gone. Their energy, good or bad, can influence you and this is why I feel so many people are drawn to this particular room 903. A year after Shyaam left, his positive energy still draws people to that room and even if you did not get to know him, you feel as if you do when you are in room 903.
Cookie Colbert
July 10, 2008
I miss you Shy. U would have been 31 a few months ago. Everytime I listen to Jay-Z or watch a Porsche drive by, my thoughts of you are even more joyful. You are truly missed but you are now really God's angel. Love u much and to the family, Many blessings- Cookie (Teacher from Walbrook H.S. in Baltimore, Maryland)
Steph Simpson
July 9, 2008
Thinking of you Shyaam, this past weekend was heavy for me, but I know you are sooo good right now! Just missing you cuz!
Aunt Ann Burke
July 6, 2008
Hey Shyaam!
Thinking of you this week-end, feeling your love and your spirit. You are missed daily, and loved even more.
Keep watching over us.....
Brothers for life!
March 19, 2008
Shyaam's family at Salims graduation
March 19, 2008
Best Buds!
March 19, 2008
Shyaam ready to fix his plate now!
March 19, 2008
Shyaam helping his Gran-Gran cook
March 19, 2008
Shirt made by his students
March 19, 2008
Shyaam coming out of the attic at 612
March 19, 2008
Aunt Ann
March 18, 2008
Shyaam, I know you are reading this book, smiling saying "Come on now'. Well this is just to let you know, there is not a day that goes by without my heart reaching out to you. I love you , I love you, I love you..I miss you so, but I feel your smile, and see it everywhere. Be nice to the Angels around you..I know they are enjoying your company....be good now....Love ya!
Lionel Brown
December 26, 2007
He was once a great teacher, coach, and friend. He will truly be missed. May he be blessed with the lords riches. R.I.P.
Andre Molinari
December 23, 2007
I don´t even know what to tell you......I could not believe, I just got knowlegdment of it.....goshhhh.....My heart with all of you, always....
XOXOX
Andre Molinari
São Paulo / Brasil
Brendan Wilson
October 14, 2007
Dwight, Portia, Salim and family
I am deeply sorry to hear the news that Shyaam has passed. Please accept my deepest condolences. Your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.
gregory Shimer
October 8, 2007
Dwight and Family - I am sincerely sorry for your loss. I know he was a great man and wonderful son to you. My heart and prayers will continue. Sincerely,
Antoine Craigwell
August 23, 2007
Dwight, you have recently become not only a source but a friend. My thoughts are with you in this time of deep loss and pain with the passing of your son Shyaam. Know that as his memory lingers and lives with you, his energy has become one with the energy surrounding us.
Katty Reynoso
August 18, 2007
Your memories will always stay with me. Your are an individual full of love and energy, your just one of a kind and you'll be greatly missed.
Karen Reynoso
August 17, 2007
In My Pocket
I have memories in my pocket.
They rattle among the change.
My memories of you are treasures I carry wherever I go.
They are stored in bits and pieces, parts of a beautiful whole
They give me comfort when I think I am alone.
Yes, I have memories in my pocket, like so much other stuff I keep there.
But of all the treasures I have, it’s the memories of you that are the most precious.
Alona Thompson
August 9, 2007
Hello Cousins-
Although I had not seen or spoken to Shyaam in years he is still my family. I am sorry for your loss and as I read about him I see that he was a great person that I am sorry that I missed out on knowing. But you have got to remember although he is not physically here he is in spirit.
August 2, 2007
August 2, 2007
our family
Stephanie Simpson
August 2, 2007
Stephanie Burke-Simpson
August 2, 2007
I'm not sure what to say. Todays's date is August 2nd and I'm crying as i type. I know and believe that this is Gods will,but I still say...I wish it were me instead of my cousin. Aunt Portia, Uncle Dwight...you may never read this...but your son was fabulous, brillant, my first cousin and I loved him dearly. Shyaam was younger than me...but an inspiration...a Blessing. I miss his smile and his voice...but I believe and know...that GOD has him and Shyaam i love you...I spoke with him last in the E.R. and sent my last text messasge to my cousin saying I love you and prayin cuz....shyaam was responding at one point....but then later...nothing...i got the call from my brother that Shyaam was gone.and I today still cannot accept it. So please forgive me uncle Dwight and aunt Portia....Shyaam is with me daily, my son's life daily..whom they remember. God Bless... your niece, Steph
Taryn Trent
July 25, 2007
Dwight and the Bachman Family,
My deepest sympathy to you and your family in your earthly loss of Shyaam, a brilliant and adored son. His star shines brightly in heaven.
The excitement in your voice and the light in your eyes when you spoke of Shyaam was a beautiful paternal tribute to your son and your relationship with him. Now, that paternal view is revealed to be the universal opinion of everyone he encountered. The vast outpouring of written tributes from his friends and associates describe a man who was he "perfect storm" of keen intellect, generosity of spirit, and extraordinary parental nurturing.
And your written tribute to Shyaam was a beautiful portrayal of a life lived to the utmost, from childhood to manhood; a moving caption to the lovely family pictures posted in your video tribute.
Please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. May God bless you. And may your cherished memories of Shyaam, and the unending gratitude of those whose lives he enriched, always comfort you.
Pat & Sharon Hunt
July 24, 2007
Ann, we are so sorry for your families lost. Walking and talking with you today, confirms that God is alive and He lives in you. Shyaam has Blessed me through you today. Continue to stay in prayer, and watch God work wonderous miracles through your family and for your family. We love you so much neighbor!
Rasheda Brown
July 24, 2007
To the Bachman family,
I just found out today of his passing. We were close before he left to go to Florida. We had a lot in common since we both had science backgrounds. We use to talk all the time about politics, education, movies, and especially cars. He use to tell me one day he was going to get a Boxster. I knew with his determination, he could get anything he set his mind to do. He was fun, out going and very intelligent. I am in total awe of his passing and we just spoke to each other not too long ago of his future plans. I am deeply saddened that I will not have my friend with me. My heart, prayers and love goes out to the Bachman family. I will miss him always. I know he's with me.
Douglas & Sheila Humphrey
July 24, 2007
To the Bachman Family,
We are so sorry for your loss, you are in our thoughts and prayers. We love you Ann and we are here for you.
Paulette Wiley
July 23, 2007
Dwight, Porsha, Salim - I have searched for words since July 5th, but none come to me.
I believe there are times when silence speaks volumes, now is one of those times. Shayaam was and remains a tremendous reflection of both his Mother and Father. The raising of this young, gifted, black male was by design of two beautiful people. You gave Shyaam the ability to fly, believe, and soar, and he exceeded all expectations....There are times when the un-natural occurs and we are left in awe.
I remember when I was a little girl and storms would come. I would crawl up in Daddy's lap because I knew nothing would harm me then. Daddy's in heaven with Shyaam, but I still crawl in to my heavenly father's lap when this world or its circumstances are too much. I feel the arms of Jesus wrap around me just as Daddy's did, and I know it's going to be alright after while. The day we buried Mother, her thought for the day read;
"All that I know of God teaches me to trust in all I do not know."
May the Lord God Almighty keep you in his care, and when you need a physical touch, I'm only a call away. Shyaam flies with the angels, his peace has come.
One Love Family,
Paulette Magee-Wiley
Dee & Glynn Nesbitt
July 22, 2007
To Portia and Family,
You have our deepest sympathy. We were so very sorry to hear of your loss. We remember Shyaam as a youngster when we first moved to Farmington. Our prayers are with you and your family during this most difficult time.
Stella Thomas
July 20, 2007
I am so sorry for your lost. I did not know Shyaam personally but I know and love his grandmama (Mrs. Bachman) and since he is apart of her seed, I know that he must have been a terrific person.
May God keep you all in perfect peace and I know that Shyaam memories will live in your hears forever.
Kelly McNamara-Diorio
July 19, 2007
To the Bachman Family,
I am so sorry to hear about Shyaam. I am a student who took that amazing trip to Bermuda with him and often think and understand the passion he felt about it. That opportunity was an experience of a lifetime!!! Your son was an extraordinary man, a knowledgeable and kind hearted soul, with a charm that not too many individuals possess. I remember talking to him several times after our return and in retrospect, truly wish we kept in contact. Although it was just a week, we all experienced something together that none of us will ever forget, those memories and the memories that I experienced with your son are etched in my mind forever. Know that I am praying for you.
Dwight Bachman
July 18, 2007
Shyaam Bachman: A Tribute by His Father, Dwight
When Shyaam came into my life, I remembered a scripture saying something about God breathing the breath of life into a man’s body. It was the defining moment in my life.
Shyaam was God’s gift to me. A precious and chosen cornerstone who brought joy into my life. A crown of splendor in which I delighted. Through his life, he illuminated my own.
In almost every encounter, Shyaam gave special value to living. I adored/adore him.
When the nurse told me and Portia that his heart had stopped, I almost died myself. For five days, I died a little more inside.
But a friend encouraged me to read a scripture that says, “The Lord is close to the broken-hearted. And that God heals the broken hearted.
Today, I know that we serve a mighty and awesome God. Which is why I am able to stand here today.
Who was this fine young man, Shyaam? Shyaam was filled with Kindness. Everything he said was expressed in kindness. Even his disappointment.
He was a GOOD man! Some kind of wonderful. In Dr. David G. Carter’s words, he was “special.” Shyaam gave new meaning to that word.
Shyaam LOVED knowledge. I recall waking up at 3 a.m. one morning when he was about 5 or six years old. I saw a light in the hallway. I got up to turn it off, walked quietly down the hall, and found Shyaam sitting in bed, engrossed in a book. I smiled, returned to bed, and said to myself, ‘that young man is gonna shine!’
For 30 years, this young man shared his life with so many people in a positive way. He loved his students and was honest with them about what would happen to them if they didn’t learn. He was direct with them about the value of an education.
He loved many things -- skiing, the beach, helping others, but teaching was a source of joy every day for him. Students in Shyaam’s class didn’t have to be sent to the principal’s office for discipline problems, because they loved being in his classroom.
He believed in God, telling me just three weeks ago, that he did. AND, that he believed God gave him a mind to figure out some things for himself.
He loved his Mom and was very protective of her. I recall when he was about 4 or 5 that I was discussing something with her, and told her -- " You’re just jealous." Shyaam weighed in on the conversation, and said -- “Her name is not ‘Jealous.’ It’s Portia.”
He loved his brother. The Bible tells us that ‘he who loves his brother, lives.’ So Shyaam is really not dead at all.
He loved his Dad. And told me so. A couple hours before he died, He told everyone in his hospital room, “ My Dad is a BAAAD DAD!” For those of you who don’t understand, that’s BAD, as in the superlative.
Shyaam was SO happy in Florida. I told him he could get a job anywhere, and asked him, why not move closer to home so we could see more of each other. He said, “Come on, Dad. I’m grading papers on Miami Beach!”
Hey, I understand. Can’t argue with that!
Shyaam loved to compete. After he ran for 8 touchdowns one night in a football game, of which 3 were called back, and later in the spring, came from behind running the anchor leg on a relay to help his team win the Northwest Conference Championship, he told me, “I can do anything I make up my mind to do.”
Shyaam cared about others. He went to Ghana, West Africa to help break ground on a health clinic.
While his friends went to Daytona Beach during spring break, he went to Iowa to spend a week with my mother, his grandmother.
Shyaam was a young scientist at heart. Scientists, especially biologists, examine living and dead things.
In Bermuda, he examined the creatures of the coral reefs. And I can hear him now say, after cutting up a frog and examining it -- “That dead frog taught us something. The research of over. Now, let’s get on with LIFE!”
I know that Shyaam is in God’s hands, because God said so. God said, “I choose you, Shyaam, to live for 30 years. You have fulfilled your purpose in my plan. You have lived a life of joy, gladness, and happiness. But there is a better future for you with me.”
We all know that God is able to make grace abound to Shyaam, and to us all. He has said, “I am God. Walk Before me.”
Shyaam’s spirit will be with us always. If you are in sorrow that he is gone, turn your sorrow into joy. Let Shyaam go out in joy. Let the little light that shined at 3 o’clock in the morning in his bedroom while he read books, shine for you today. Let him be the joy of your heart, like he was mine.
The love and compassion for others that God crowned in Shyaam, this pillar in my life, is still overflowing. My soul clings to his. To his strength, and to his dignity.
I praise God today for bringing Shyaam, this high-quality young man, into my life.
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Heather Fletcher
July 18, 2007
To the entire Bachman family I am still in awe, I just heard from Shyaam so recently. I couldn't beleive it was true until I checked the paper myself. I am not even sure what words to express the pain that I am feeling so I can only imagine yours. He was a great friend to me and I will miss him dearly. I will reflect on our first days during the summer of 95 at Hampton University thru all the advice he gave me like a big brother would. He shared some of my most challenging days with me and I will never forget him. It is a huge loss, but I understand that God has the master plan. I ask that if you all, mother,brother, father ever need anything please let me know, and I will do my best to provide because I believe Shyaam would have done the same for me. God keep us all and lighten our hearts and souls that our great friend will always be remembered. Continue to help me Shyaam. This M.D. is for you too. Peace and Love
Mrs. Heather L. Feagins Fletcher
Patti Guignino
July 14, 2007
Dear Bachman family,
I was shocked to read about Shyaam's untimely death in the Farmington Post today. I had Shyaam as a student in my English class at Farmington High School and he was one of those rare students that lights up a class with his smile, with his intellect, and with his endearing spirit. I am sure that Shyaam was a fantastic teacher and how lucky his students were to have had him as their science teacher. May peace be with you all at this very, very sad time.
With sincere condolences,
Mrs. Patti Guignino
Timothy Anderson
July 14, 2007
Dear Bachmans,
It saddens me greatly to have received this news. Shyaam was a very accomplished person and his loss is great. I grew up with him and was a better person just for knowing him. Though we grew apart after highschool, his successes and accomplishments have and will always be noticed and praised. I am terribly sorry for your loss and he will be missed.
Edna Henry Parker
July 14, 2007
To the Bachman Family - Please accept my heart felt condolence for your loss. I did not know Shyaam but the loss of a son, friend and family member is shared by your friends. I pray that God's peace will fill your hearts as you hold on to beautiful memories.
Toni Cofield
July 13, 2007
Bachman Family,
My heart goes out to you. I met Shyaam in Baltimore a few years ago. We shared great times! His laugh was infectious, his smile was as bright as the sun, the love for his family and friends...unconditional.
Thank you for sharing such a dynamic, complex, intelligent and beautiful man with the world.
Thank you for allowing me the opportunity to celebrate his life with you all today.
His memory will linger in my heart forever.
"SHINE ON SHYAAM SHINE ON"
May God continue to brighten your days and keep you close.
Ken Lipshez
July 13, 2007
My heart goes out to Shyaam's family, paticularly his father who showed his deep love for his son in my presence on night long ago. It was in the press box at Muzzy Field in Bristol when Shyaam scored about 5 TDs for Farmington. Dwight was so proud. I am honored that I had the opportunity to write about that game.
July 13, 2007
So very sorry to hear of your loss.
We pray that God will grant you the
peace that surpasses all understanding.
Daisy DeLawrence & Family
Burnitta Johnson
July 13, 2007
To the Bachman Family, I am still in shock that Shyaam is no longer with us, but I know he is Heaven with God & with us in spirit. I just wish I had one more opportunity to speak with him & laugh, he left us so suddenly. My prayers go out to you. You had a lovely service for him today at Liberty. Thanks for letting me see him one last time to say goodbye. If you ever need anything don't hestitate to contact me. I would love to hear & remember more fabulous details of how great a person he was before I knew him. I will miss him dearly. Love u Shyaam!
HU c/o 99
Barbara Barnwell
July 13, 2007
To the Bachman Family,
May God bless and wrap the holy spirit around you during this trying time. It was a priviledge to attend Shyaam's service today. The Lord works in mysterious ways, his wonders to perform. We don't have the answers as to why he was called home, but find some comfort in knowing that his life was full and blessed. One of my favorite spirituals is "Let the Life I Live Speak for Me". The life that Shyaam lived most eloquently spoke for him today. I didn't know him but felt like I did.
May God Be With You.
Barbara Barnwell
Danielle DeCelles
July 13, 2007
Bachman Family- I was saddened to hear of Shyaams death. I now live in AZ but I was talking to my mom today and she asked me "what was the name of that boy that ran over your foot?"......
I was a year older at Farmington. When I was a senior, Shyaam a junior, he ran over my foot with my mothers car. It was after a soccer game and we were all down at the McDonalds parking lot. He felt so bad about the incident that he made me a card that I still have to this day :) He would apologize profusely every time I saw him the hallways. All the while, I was trying to tell him I was fine - In lieu of the accident I was glad that I got out of gym my senior year :) I hope that the wonderful memories of your son are able to pull you through what can only be imagined as a tragic time. I wish you all the best and peace in knowing what a terrific son you have.
The Nowakowski Family
July 13, 2007
We are extremely sorry for your loss. Shyaam was a remarkable person, and contributed much to this world. His spirit will live on with the lives he forever touched. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Diana Diaz
July 13, 2007
Mr.Bachman, you were amazing person. When I heard that one of my favorite teachers might have died, all I could think of was, "No way dude." "Liar." "Not Shyaam."
But when it was confirmed.. I cried. You were my marine biology teacher junior year. We'd talk about body modification in first hour [your Egyptian tattoos, the "garbage in my face"], life, your expeditions, what I wanted to do in life. You went to Louisiana after Katrina hit for 2 weeks to gave food & supplies to the victims & I told you how noble it was that you did that.
You were strong, smart & had one hell of a sense of humor. Homecoming, football games, prom, stealing our phones & using all our texts... You were right next to me when I graduated, comforting me when we were in the back waiting to walk, gave me my first huge hug after I walked across the stage & smiled when I turn my tassel from left to right. "Be sure to visit me during college, Diaz- That's an order!"
It hurts to write this. I hoped you liked the candle lighting the students & some of us alumni did this past Wednesday. I'm so sorry to your family... they lost someone so extraordinary that I can't even begin to explain. Just remember, you're in my thoughts.
Michael Sullivan
July 13, 2007
Mr. and Mrs. Bachman and Salim our thoughts and prayers are with you at this difficult time. The FHS Class of 1995 has lost one of our brothers and we so much enjoyed playing sports and learning and growing up with Shyaam. His smile was contagious and his intellect, compassion for others and good nature an example to us all. God Bless you all in this difficut time. Michael Sullivan
Joanie Bartucca
July 13, 2007
Portia and Family,
While I never had the honor to meet Shyaam in person I did enjoy the proud stories and love you shared about him. Your eyes always sparkled when talking about your sons. Please know he made a huge impact on this earth in his short 30 years and he has gone on to continue his journey. From all I have heard and read, he accomplished more in his short 30 years than most do in a longer lifetime. This is a credit to his parents, family and extended family. Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you at this difficult time.
Tanessa Morency
July 13, 2007
Portia (& family) -
I am so deeply sorry for your loss. I'm sure there is nothing any of us can say that will relieve your sorrow. But, please find comfort in knowing that he is in good hands now... and as you put it the other day, Portia, "God knows best".
May God strengthen you during this tragic time, and may He give you the peace of knowing that your son is at rest. Be blessed.
Love in Him,
Demetria Jackson Rawls
July 13, 2007
My prayers go out to your family at this time of loss. I attended Hampton University with Shyaam and remember him smiling constantly. I also work in the Broward County Public School system and know that his presence will be missed as a teacher and mentor. May God be with you.
JoAnn Chiaravalle
July 13, 2007
Portia,
I am so sorry for your loss. I am glad I can be there for you today. My deepest sympathies.
love,
JoAnn
Stu Dube
July 13, 2007
Shyaam was a great spirit and will be fondly missed by all he met. I can only hope the best for the rest of the family, in this time of grief. Goodbye friend.
Lewis Maye
July 12, 2007
Dear Bachman family, I am so terribly sorry about your loss. Shyaam was one of the greatest, and most inspirational people I have ever met. He was so wonderful in that he always accepted people for who they were. I remember the first time I met him, I was skateboarding on campus at Hampton, and he was one of the only people who did not think I was strange, after that he became one of the most important people in my life. I remember how excited we were when we went to summer school together, and the great times we had. I remember all of the laughter during that period, and all of the other years while in school. I also remember the times when I, or someone else was down, and how he would re-kindle our fire by explaining, with great vigor, how much promise was in all of us. I will miss you Shyaam Bachman...Our prayers are with you all.
L. Lomasky
July 12, 2007
I knew Shyaam for only three years, while we were in high school together. However, during that time, I was amazed by several things he was able to do. As with so many schools, FHS was very clique-ish and different groups of people rarely intermingled. I remember watching Shyaam move throughout the cafeteria during lunch and study halls, interacting with and endearing himself to everybody.
Another thing that really impressed me was his perennially positive attitude and his ability to always have a kind word or witty comment for all whom he encountered.
Shyaam always had a very positive drive built into his character and I am glad to see that so many people in this world were able to benefit from it and carry his legacy forward into the future.
I deeply regret the loss of such a shining young man. Even time cannot heal the pain of such a tragedy. However, he and all his friends and family will be in my prayers and I, personally, will try to recommit myself to the values that I believe Shyaam embodied.
Mollie Ostroski
July 12, 2007
To the Bachman family. Ozzie, Beth, Emily and I were saddened to learn of Shyaam's death. He had accomplished a great deal in his short life and seemed destined for greatness. Mollie Ostroski, Farmington, Ct.
Linda Taylor
July 12, 2007
Dear Dwight, Portia and Salim,
I am saddened to hear about the loss of Shyaam. My deepest condolences are extended to you and all your family. I pray for your strength and that God keeps you all in His care during this difficult time. May all the wonderful memories you have of Shyaam bring peace into your lives and comfort you.
Sincerely
Jean & Andy Baron
July 12, 2007
Dear Bachman Family, We are so sorry to hear about the loss of Shyaam. We will always remember his smiling face and positive attitude as he played at our house as a young boy. In his short life, he obviously made a huge impact on many people...certainly the Baron Family. We were blessed to have known him. We wish you peace during this difficult time. With fond memories of a wonderful human being.
Leah Tanger - ECSU - Student Center
July 12, 2007
Dear Bachman Family & Friends,
May your hearts soon be filled with wonderful memories of joyful times together. You have my deepest sympathy.
Sincerely,
Elaine (Haughton) Miller
July 12, 2007
To the family; It is difficult to finds word to be of comfort, everyone shares your sadness. In salute to Shyaam's life "When through one man a little more love and gladness,a little more light and truth come into the world - then that man's life has had meaning." Please know you have our many thoughts and prayers.
Friends and family from Waterloo.
LaSheri & Rose Kerr
July 12, 2007
May your treasured thoughts and precious memories help to comfort you. Praying that God will grant you the strength and courage you need at this difficult time. Extending deep and heartfelt sympathy to you and your family.
Donna Yatkin
July 12, 2007
To my dearest family, some things I'd like to say...
but first of all, to let you know, that I arrived okay.
I'm writing this from heaven. Here I dwell with God above.
Here, there's no more tears of sadness; here is just eternal love.
Please do not be unhappy just because I'm out of sight.
Remember that I'm with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through,
God picked me up and hugged me and He said, "I welcome you."
It's good to have you back again; you were missed while you were gone.
As for your dearest family, they'll be here later on.
I need you here badly; you're part of my plan.
There's so much that we have to do, to help our mortal man."
God gave me a list of things, that he wished for me to do.
And foremost on the list, was to watch and care for you.
And when you lie in bed at night, the day's chores put to flight.
God and I are closest to you....in the middle of the night.
When you think of my life on earth, and all those loving years
because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears.
But do not be afraid to cry; it does relieve the pain.
Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.
I wish that I could tell you all that God has planned.
But if I were to tell you, you wouldn't understand.
But one thing is for certain, though my life on earth is o'er.
I'm closer to you now, than I ever was before.
There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb;
but together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
It was always my philosophy and I'd like it for you too...
that as you give unto the world, the world will give to you.
If you can help somebody who's in sorrow and pain,
then you can say to God at night......"My day was not in vain."
And now I am contented....that my life has been worthwhile,
knowing as I passed along the way, I made somebody smile.
So if you meet somebody who is sad and feeling low,
just lend a hand to pick him up, as on your way you go.
When you're walking down the street, and you've got me on your mind;
I'm walking in your footsteps only half a step behind.
And when it's time for you to go.... from that body to be free,
remember you're not going.....you're coming here to me.
Ruth Ann Mahaffey (author)
©Copyright 1998-2007
Dear Portia,
I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your Son. I never met him, but if he was anything like you, then he was a wonderful and beautiful person. May God give you the strength that you need to get through this difficult time. Please call me if there is anything I can do for you. Peace be with you. Love Donna ( member at your Fitness for Women)
Stacey Cheng
July 12, 2007
Dear Bachman Family:
I am deeply affected by the news of Shyaam's passing. As a child, I remember we collectively lorded over our territory: Brickyard Commons. We were an extended family of sorts--a bunch of children (roughly the same age) who played kick-the-can over at the Centola's, wandered through Winding Trails, or aimlessly rode our bikes about the neighborhood. The Shyaam I knew was a kind-hearted person with a remarkably quick wit. It seems the boy I remember became an exceptional man. On behalf of myself and my family, we are wishing you peace during this terrible time.
With Sympathy,
Lorna Sedor
July 12, 2007
Dearest Portia and family,
I am so saddened to hear of the loss of your son. Just know that there are many people sending you heartfelt love and comfort at this time; hold all the memories of your beautiful boy, Shyaam, in your heart and you will find comfort there. Stay strong my friend -I will keep you and your family in my prayers.
-Lorna
Martha Perez
July 12, 2007
I am in complete shock I read this in a bulletin on myspace, Shyaam and I met after he moved to Florida we didn't spend a great deal of time together but we talked a lot...Those of you that knew him can relate he was the best at conversation!!! I am deeply saddened by this news and most of all upset that I didn't get to say good bye, I will forever remember you Shaam and I want you to know you were a great friend and a wonderful man any Woman would have been blessed beside you....Til we meet again.
Brendan Baron
July 12, 2007
Dear Bachman Family,
We have all lost a great friend, son, brother...and an amazing human being. Shyaam and I have known each other since the family moved to Farmington. I remember all the times we took off on our bikes, losing ourselves in the wilderness of Winding Trails. And I remember his smile, and the always playful manner that he exuded everyday. We will miss Shyaam and our hearts and prayers go out to your family and to all those who feel this loss.
Sharon & Greg Lawrence
July 12, 2007
Portia,
We are so sorry to hear of your loss. May God bring you and your family peace with knowing and remembering how Shyaam touched so many lives.
Our prayers are with you.
Joe & Lorraine Chiaravalle
July 12, 2007
Portia,
You have our deepest sympathy on the loss of your son.. After reading all the wonderful things said about him you have to be so proud that he touched so many lives in his short time on earth..I know God will give you the strenghth to get through this even though it seems like it is impossible, you have to trust in him...
(Jo Ann's parents)
Tom Guerra
July 12, 2007
Dear Portia and family,
My deepest condolences on the loss of your son Shyaam. I met him a few times when we worked together at Benefits Access, and remembered him as a fine young gentleman with a great big smile. I know he was the light of your world.
My thoughts and prayers are with you during this time of heartbreak and please remember that he is in a better place now.
Cookie Colbert
July 12, 2007
Where do I begin? You had Shyaam for 30 beautiful years and I had the pleasure of having him in my life over 8 years. We worked together at Walbrook High School in Baltimore, MD and our friendship blossomed from that point on. He would say that I was the "sister" that he always wanted since he had a brother that he loved so much. I remember all the good times, ie; field trips, parties, staff meetings, car racing on highway, his dream car being a Porsche, life, the love for our family, marriage, and always a hop topic "THE FIVE GREATEST HIP HOP ARTISTS OF ALL TIME." We always agreed with Jay-Z being #1. This is just to name a few. My condolensces are with you.
We will meet Shyaam again one day. Know that he is with Jesus Christ our savior and Lord. Shyaam's mind and spirit were unbelievable. He had brillant thoughts and you could just sit there amazed. May God continue to bless you always. The hang out crew from Walbrook love Shyaam always (Mark "Hendog", Myself "Cookie" and Shy would call me Auntie, Riley "Cuz-o", John, Chris, Conya, his mentor Kelvin "Bridge", George Johnson "The Preacher", Brandie, and more staff and all the students lives that he touched. Love to your family, BE STRONG! He may be gone but his spirit lives on! We will all join once again!!
Michael Bourque
July 11, 2007
On behalf of the Bourque family I wanted to express our sincerest condolences for your loss. It seems like yesterday we were kids goofing off around the neighborhood. Although I lost touch with Shyaam since HS I am not surprised to hear about all of his successes in life. With someone as unique and gifted as he was you just knew he would make a positive impact somewhere. May his spirit carry you thru these difficult times.
Kimberly Hall-Moore
July 11, 2007
Portia,
I was so sorry to hear of your loss. Know that my prayers are with you and if there is anything I can do please do not hesitate to let me know.
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