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Gary Mellema Obituary

Gary L. Mellema

Sept. 22, 1939 - Feb. 22, 2023

RIDGEFIELD - Gary L. Mellema was born September 22, 1939 in Portland, OR. He passed away the morning of February 22, 2023, at the age of 83 from an unexpected heart attack, in his home, in Ridgefield, WA. He was a proud graduate of Jefferson High School, class of 1957 in Portland, OR and attended Clark College. In 1959 he chose to go into the US Army and in only two years achieved the rank of E5, a rare occurrence. After the Army, Gary went to work for Shell Oil in 1962 at the Willbridge Terminal in Portland. During this time, he also put himself through schooling at Portland State College. Soon after, he went to dealer manager training school for Shell Oil and held jobs as fuel, tires, batteries and accessories representative, dealer recruiter in Oregon and later real estate in Oregon and the San Francisco Bay area.

Gary began dating Penny (Paulene Pickhard) and they were married May 29, 1965 in Portland, OR. They were married for 57 years and lived in Longview, WA for 48 years. While living in San Jose, CA and still working for Shell Oil, Gary took the opportunity to go into business for himself and returned to the northwest and bought the Kelso, WA based Hall Oil Company, a Shell jobber, in 1974. The company had two people in the office and three drivers back then. In 1984 he merged Hall Oil with the Longview based Chevron Jobber Wilson Oil, Inc./ Wilcox & Flegel and later added the BP, 76 and Texaco fuel brands and created the Flying K name.

Gary helped out many family members over the years and loved them so very much. Additionally, he was so proud of the employees he hired that are still working today or retired from Wilcox & Flegel. He also enjoyed providing for all the sports teams in the 1980's, 1990's and early 2000's that Wilcox & Flegel sponsored under his direction. Gary retired in 2008 after marketing Shell fuels for 46 continuous years. He was a long-time member of Longview Country Club, Desert Falls Country Club and Bermuda Dunes Country Club in the Palm Springs area.

Gary was preceded in death by his father Louis and mother Marjorie (Silva) Mellema and is survived by his wife, son Jason (Gaylene) of Longview, WA, daughter Judith Walling (David) of Vancouver, WA and son John (Karen) of Bend, OR; grandchildren Brooke Walling, Reece Walling and honorary grandchildren Kiela Salberg (Derrick), Karli Moore and Dylan Bladow. Also surviving, his brother Jim (Marilyn) of Oregon City, OR, sister Connie (Lenny) Krombein of Portland, OR and sister Dena (Chuck) Wiesman of Vancouver, WA and in-laws Barbara (Norwyn) Newby of Bend, OR and Frederick (Claudia) Pickhard of Portland, OR. Also, many cousins, nieces, and nephews. Inurnment at Longview Memorial Park.

The family invites all that ever knew Gary to a Celebration of Life at the Longview Country Club 41 Country Club Drive Longview, WA on Saturday, May 6 from 1:00 - 4:00 p.m. Bring a story about Gary to share with the celebration.

A scholarship program in Gary's name has been set up with Lower Columbia College in Longview, WA. In lieu of flowers please consider donating in his name at Lower Columbia College Foundation PO Box 3010 Longview, WA 98632 or visiting the link at lowercolumbia.edu/foundation

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Published by The Daily News on Apr. 7, 2023.

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Donna Markp

April 29, 2023

I had the pleasure of working for Gary for a number of years at the gas station on Westside Hwy. it was my first real job and Gary was a great boss, I enjoyed working for him!
My father, Don Marko also worked for him for many of years. He was a great guy that will be missed.
Sorry for the Mellema´s family loss

Bill Waag

April 10, 2023

Gary was such an awesome sponsor for sports teams in the area. Honest, caring, giving, kind....I could go on and on. I feel truly blessed to have known him and his family. Condolences to the Mellema family and RIP Gary. You left a great legacy here on earth.

Larry Marko

April 7, 2023

I´d like to comment that my father Don Marko worked for Gary for a number of years. He had nothing but good things to say about Gary. He thoroughly enjoyed working for him. We were touched to see Gary and Mrs Mellema at dads funeral service . That act spoke volumes about their relationship and we were very touched. He will truly be missed.

Frank Handy

April 7, 2023

Rest in peace Gary... I was honored to work for you. You were a good man and I am glad our life paths gave me the chance to know you.

Linda Keller

April 7, 2023

Penny and family, what a life he lived. You have a lot to be proud of. I'm sorry we can't enjoy our loved ones forever on earth. I know you're surrounded by a loving family. Linda Keller

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