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Honorable Judge Milton Raphaelson, 83

HOLDEN - Honorable Judge Milton H. Raphaelson, 83, of Holden formerly of Sturbridge and Worcester, retired First Justice of Dudley District Court, passed away peacefully Sunday, February 9th 2014 at the Ichabod Washburn Hospice with his loving family gathered beside him after a lengthy and courageous battle with Lewy Bodies Disease, Parkinson's and Cancer.

Milton and his wife Elizabeth (Kochanowski) Raphaelson celebrated their 40th wedding anniversary in November with many family and friends in attendance at the Ichabod Hospice. In addition to his wife, Milton leaves four children, two step children and their families: Henry Raphaelson, his wife Karen and their children Justin and Spenser; Laurie Ballantine, her husband Mark, their children Scott, Katie and Rachel and their grandchild Connor; Candee Raphaelson and her husband Rick Goetting; Jeffrey Raphaelson, his wife Nicole and their children, Nicholas and Samuel; Edward Horniak, his wife Nancy and their son Brian; and Erick Horniak. Milton also leaves his brother Elliot and his wife Caroline of Orlando, Florida and his sister-in-law Phyllis Raphaelson of Brockton. He was predeceased by his brother Alvin. Milton leaves many nieces, nephews, cousins, a multitude of friends from all walks of life and his best buddy, Bo-Bo (his dog) who was a comfort to him over the past few years and will miss his company greatly.

Milton was born on September 16, 1930 in Worcester, to the late Harry and Sarah (Hozinsky) Raphaelson. He grew up in humble surroundings; a three-decker on the east side of Worcester. His father operated a grocery business, Raphaelson's Market on Pleasant Street. The market became a central part of Milton's life from when he first began working there as a stock boy until he closed the market more than 50 years later. He often cut meat at the market before his day started as a student, substitute teacher, college instructor and later, lawyer. Judge Raphaelson opened one of his first law offices in the market, his butcher's apron resting on a hook aside his suit coat. For Milton, his father's business was a life-long labor of love. As a well-established lawyer in his 50s, he enlisted his wife Bette, and daughter Candee, to make homemade soups and family recipes for a lunch menu, and he manned the butcher block every morning before he went off to court, to try to and save the market well after it became clear that a small downtown market was no longer viable.

Judge Raphaelson graduated from Classical High School, attended Northwestern University and Lake Forest College both in Chicago. He then proudly served his country in the U.S. Army as an E5 stationed in Korea. Upon his return from the service, Milton graduated cum laude from Clark University and later from Boston College Law School. Attorney Milton Raphaelson then practiced law in Worcester for more than thirty years, first on his own or with John Sousa and Joseph Cariglia, and then as a partner of Glickman, Fuller, Scannell and Raphaelson and later Raphaelson, Sousa, Fisher and Foley. In 1981, he formed Raphaelson and Raphaelson, where all of his four children worked at one time or another and still do today. As a lawyer, he placed honesty and integrity above all other considerations.

In 1990, Governor Michael Dukakis appointed Milton to a Judgeship in the District Court of the Commonwealth of Massachusetts, a position that he was honored to hold for ten years until mandatory retirement at age 70. Judge Raphaelson served as an Associate District Court Justice in Worcester and Springfield and as First Justice in Dudley. As a judge, Milton tried to make a difference. He believed that most of the crime that he saw in the District Court had its roots in substance abuse, and he believed in giving a person a second chance. He therefore used his position not so much to punish but to try to change the underlying behavior that he believed led to crime. As the First Justice in Dudley, he developed and operated a very successful substance abuse program with an average weekly attendance of about 100 people, a first of its kind program in which he required first-time offenders to attend AA meetings and report back to him directly their experience. He also required criminal defendants charged with hate crimes to read books and write essays on hate crimes as part of their sentencing. In 2000, Milton received the St. Thomas Moore Society Distinguished Ecumenical Award for his service to the bench, bar and community.

Milton will be remembered for his strong work ethic, sharp legal mind, quick wit, and his infectious sense of humor, which he never lost even through his difficult illnesses. He loved the law and lawyers. No family function was without talk of the law. Milton shared his passion for the law as a member of the Worcester County Bar Association and served as its President and on its Executive Committee. He was an active member of the Association, and greatly enjoyed the community of lawyers in Worcester. He read the Legal Lines every month, even after his physical participation declined. Milton also was a proud member of the University Club, a group of Worcester lawyers and judges who have met for years for dinner. Their last meeting was held recently at the Ichabod Washburn Hospice to allow Milton to participate, and for this his family is grateful.

Milton was devoted to his Jewish faith. He served as President of Temple Emanuel, Shaarai Torah West Synagogue, Worcester Ivriah Hebrew School, Worcester Community Hebrew High School, and Commonwealth Lodge B'Nai B'rith. He also served on the Board of Directors of the Jewish Federation.

Milton was active in his community as well. He served as a member and President of the Worcester National Council on Alcoholism and the Quaboag Quacumquasit Lake Association, the Board of Directors of Bancroft Human Services, Inc. and Adcare Hospital, Inc. Over the years, Judge Raphaelson was a featured speaker at many legal and civic functions on a wide variety of subjects, including capital punishment, alcohol and substance abuse and "non-observant Orthodox Judaism".

Milton loved his family, to whom he was dedicated throughout his life. He will be remembered as a compassionate, loving husband and father and grandfather. He encouraged and supported each of his children and step-children in all of their endeavors, never judgmental and always available as an advisor and confidante. He was a true role model, influencing through his actions three of his four children to make the law their life work. He acted as a mentor not only to his children, but also to many people in need of help. It mattered not to him where your life journey had led you or how many mistaken turns you may have taken. He was always ready to give you that second (or third or fourth…) chance to turn your life around.

Even after Milton fell ill, he remained positive, always trying to entertain or get a laugh from his guests. It was hard to be sad around him. He knew he lived a rich, full life, with the many relationships he developed over the years. We will keep his great smile in our hearts forever.

Milton's family will be forever grateful to the staff of Holy Trinity Hospice and the Ichabod Washburn Residence where Milton and his family were compassionately and attentively cared for over the past three months. They are truly a dedicated group of men and women.

Funeral Services will be held at 10:30 am at the Beth Israel Synagogue on Jamesbury Drive, Worcester on Friday February 14, 2014. Internment with Military Honors will follow at the B'Nai B'rith Cemetary.

The Memorial Observance for Friday will be announced at the time of the service. The Memorial Observance for Saturday, February 15th will be held at the Season's Club House, Seasons Drive, Holden, from 5:30 to 8:30 pm.

In lieu of flowers, Memorial Contributions may be made to Shaarai Torah West Synagogue, 835 Pleasant Street, Worcester, MA or Holy Trinity Hospice, Ichabod Washburn Residence, 1183 Main Street, Worcester, MA 01603. The MERCADANTE FUNERAL HOME & CHAPEL, 370 Plantation St. is honored to assist the family with arrangements.

www.mercadantefuneral.com

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Published by Worcester Telegram & Gazette from Feb. 11 to Feb. 12, 2014.

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Silvia King / Houzouris

March 7, 2014

May GOD be with Milton Raphaelson forever, Amen!
Rest in peace.

Carol Benesch-Ellis

February 18, 2014

Dear Betty, Laurie, Henry, Candi & Jeff,
I am so sad to hear of Milton's passing and can't imagine the sadness you must be feeling. Milton will live in your hearts forever. My sincere condolences.

Carol & Bill Brown

February 15, 2014

Hank,Laurie,Candi and Geoff
Carol and I are so saddened to hear of the loss of our Sorrento St neighbor ---your dad. The "Honorable"title in his legal identity was more a true reflection of who the person actually was and is reflected in each one of you .

Charles Raphaelson

February 14, 2014

So sorry for your loss, our loss.
Chuck Raphaelson

Kathleen Allard Madaus

February 14, 2014

Dear Betty, children and families,
My sincere condolences to all of you. I am so sorry. He loved all of you and was so proud of you Betty and the children's accomplishments. Milt was a lovely man and he told the most wonderful stories. He had a story for every occasion and he was comical. My late husband Jerry Madaus thought he was a brilliant lawyer and a caring and honorable Judge. He will be missed. God rest his nurturing and noble soul.
Love and prayers,
Kathleen Madaus

PS I am in FL and was not able to attend services.

gwen pratt

February 14, 2014

My condolences to the Raphaelson family, Milton was a knowledgeable,helpful,funny, wonderful person

Mary J. McGrail

February 14, 2014

Dear Betty and family,

We were so fortunate to know both of you. What a wonderful advocate for those who suffered from addiction. Together, both of you reached out your hands to help. In ways that the judiciary never experienced before. There is a saying, "where shall we find his like again? He paved the way and so did you Betty, for more people to understand that addiction is treatable. With memory and fondness..Mary McGrail and Nancy Nobert.

Richard Gobi

February 13, 2014

I first met Mr.Raphael when I took a course in public health law that he taught. Later with his involvement with the lake association. I can truly say that he was one of the most interesting person that I have ever met. Very sorry for your loss.

February 13, 2014

Laurie, Our deepest sympathy to you & your Family , Jim & Kathy McMahon

Kevin Cashman

February 13, 2014

My sincere condolences to the Raphaelson family. While he served on the bench, he was respected by many who had never even been in his courtroom. He was unique, innovative, principled and caring. I had the privilege of attending one of his lectures years ago. He was gracious during the break, and again at the conclusion, with further discussion for those of us who desired more of his perspective. Although I did not know him personally, I know he had many admirers. He was indeed honorable and will truly be missed.

Dana George Reed

February 12, 2014

To my former Tatnuck neighbors, the Raphaelson family, deepest condolences on the loss of your Dad from the entire Reed family (Cheryl, Richard J., Amy and myself) scattered around the country now ;-) At 51.5 years, I am old enough to remember your Dad, but not enough so as to actually remember him well, or to have gotten to know him through one-on-one conversation. After reading his wonderful writeup here, I can certainly see that was a great loss for me. Shalom, and may the peace of the Lord be with you all, and many joyous memories fill your hearts with gratitude, now and always. Both my parents are gone now. It is hard to say so long to this truly Greatest Generation.

Hermis Yanis, Jr.

February 12, 2014

My deepest condolences to The Honorable Judge Milton Raphaelson's family.

With the passing of Judge Raphaelson the world has lost a true lover of humanity, a doer of right.

Judge Raphaelson touched thousands of lives through his commitment to fairness.

Perhaps more importantly, he brought hope, compassion, strength and love to countless people stricken with addiction and who seemed to have lost all hope.

A truly great human being!

With Love, Respect & Honor,
Hermis

Dr. Timothy Hoffman

February 12, 2014

Thank you for serving our country. May your family find comfort in their faith and may you rest in Peace! He was a Mensch!

Linda Lavergne

February 12, 2014

May the love of friends and family carry you through your grief.

Arthur LOSAPIO

February 12, 2014

great man

February 12, 2014

Dear Laurie and family, Please know that Paul and I are thinking of you, and praying for you.

With sympathy,
Paul and Tracy Cooney

Dick&Nancy Gingrass

February 12, 2014

Laurie,please accept our condolences for your great loss.

Linda

February 12, 2014

Dear Betty and family, I'm so sorry for your loss. I will always remember him fondly. The Judge was a wonderful man.

Philippe Gut

February 12, 2014

Just wanted to let the Raphaelson family know that when Milton came to our house, there was an excitement that was not there with other guests. He will be sorely missed. Such an awesome man! Much empathy to you all.

February 12, 2014

Dear Candee and family:
so sorry for your loss. Your dad was a great man... may he rest in peace.
Elaine Tibbetts (former co worker CH)

Sean Comerford

February 12, 2014

To a man who served our community with pride, dignity and honesty....To a man who spent endless hours working with those less fortunate....To a man who spoke to every person he met with respect.....You shall be missed by all.

Dan Gately

February 12, 2014

Henry,Laurie,Jeff and Family,
Please accept my deepest sympathies..

J.C. Stevens

February 12, 2014

Judge Raphaelson was a rarity in the best way. He lived and served humanity in the most respectful manner, with a humane instinct , an intelligent compassion, a positive and respectful force for all, no matter what the label of that person suggested. His legacy is in the hundreds if not thousands of people his philosophy, personality, and empathy has complimented and rescued so many of the otherwise lost within our society. His life and service was truly our collective honor to be part of and present for. Sincerest condolences for your family's loss....

Francis J. Trapasso & Assoc;

February 12, 2014

May your hearts soon be filled with wonderful memories of joyful times together as you celebrate a life well lived.

george giokas

February 12, 2014

to his wife and family may his memory be ever lasting .

Dr. Timothy Hoffman

February 12, 2014

Thank you for serving our country. May your family find comfort in their faith and may you rest in Peace!

dick rooney

February 12, 2014

very sorry for your loss laurie.........my prayers are with you and your family

February 11, 2014

My sincere condolences to the Raphaelson family. When we moved to this area in the seventies I was looking for legal assistance. Attorney Raphaelson was recommended to us as he was known as the street persons attorney. I feel honored to know Judge Raphaelson a truly good person.

Dan Mitrano

Judy Shapiro Flynn

February 11, 2014

Laurie &Family,
I am so sorry about your loss.

Peter Sielis

February 11, 2014

A great inspirer of the ways of life. Milton you will surely be missed.

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