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Stephen Oles Obituary

Stephen B. Oles, 70
MILLBURY / WORCESTER - Stephen B. Oles recently of Worcester, 70 passed away peacefully Thursday, June 20, 2013 at the Rose Monahan Hospice Home lovingly attended by family and staff after a valiant battle with leukemia.
He leaves his wife Janis R. (Hernberg) Oles; his son David F. Oles; his daughter-in-law, Monique (Atallah) Oles and his beloved year old granddaughter, the light of his life, Amelia Camille, of Princeton. He also leaves his brother Carl C. Oles of Orange and his former wife Cathryn F. Oles of Holden. He was predeceased by his mother, Ann (Broda) Oles and father Stephen C. Oles.
Stephen was born on August 22, 1942 and spent his formative years in Hartford, CT graduating from Buckley High School and attending the University of Connecticut. At an early age he showed an avid interest in science taking first prize in his school's science fair and traveling to Washington, D.C. to represent his state. In 1962 he entered the Navy's Submarine Service and served with distinction aboard the U.S.S. Blenny, one of the few conventional submarines to carry nuclear weapons. His most vivid memory of his service years is the military's high alert caused by the 1965 East Coast blackout and the crew's many hours of tension as the Blenny cruised off the New England coast awaiting orders. His duties as an electronics specialist gave him valuable experience that he would later put to good use in his chosen career. Following active service, he served as a naval recruiter in the greater Worcester area raising enlistment to a record high.
Following his honorable discharge from the Navy, he followed his interest in electronics and technology by working for Nortec and RCA. While working for RCA and studying at the Lowell Tech (now Lowell University) a favor for a friend open what would be a forty year career. After helping a friend recover his stolen car, Steve fashioned a car alarm for his friend. One by one, friends and others heard of his work and asked that he protect their vehicles as well. When RCA closed their computer division he used this opportunity to strike out on his own. From a humble beginning with a single alarm system in 1968, Steve founded Alphatronics Security which became Worcester County's leading independent security systems company with 20 employees and over 1,500 monitored customers. Steve's firm belief in delivering a quality product, at a fair price and in a respectful manner won him many faithful customers. He also believed that his employees were the heart of Alphatronics and strove to treat each one with respect and dignity. Though a cliché, he wanted his employees to view Alphatronics as their work family.
Always an innovator, Steve became a franchisee of Mr. Build in 1985. This organization sought to bring together independent contractors to provide total property management. At the time this integrated approach was novel but now is taken for granted. Under Mr. Build, Steve promoted a precursor to today's personal safety systems for elders who live alone or have health problems.
While bringing technological innovation to the local alarm industry, Steve also felt strongly about creating a truly professional and distinct image for the alarm industry. Toward this end, he with a few other colleagues formed the Massachusetts Security Contractors Association now known as the Massachusetts Systems Contractor's Association. Steve served in many offices with these organizations both helping to set industry standards and increase visibility though conventions, workshops and appearances at local home and trade shows. In 2003 Alphatronics was merged with American Alarm. As Steve's career drew to a close he carefully chose what company would succeed him. He chose American Alarm for their outstanding reputation, emphasis on customer service and their generous treatment of his employees.
Steve often considered Alphatronics one of his "babies" but he was also a devoted family man. He loved to travel with his family to such exotic places as Aruba long before it became a popular tourist destination and he had fond memories of his family tour of England. Always a fan of New England, Steve took countless trips to New England destinations often to indulge in another one of his passions, fine food. Steve, while humble about his culinary skills was viewed as "the chef" by family and friends often introducing them to new taste sensations. His special joy was to create new dishes for the wine tasting group he was a part of for over 30 years. The Order of Itinerant Wine Tasters was a source of over thirty years of culinary and wine exploration and an extraordinary opportunity to seen the group's members and their children mature and grow. Steve counted its member as his finest friends.
It was not possible to think of Steve without thinking of his cats. Steve was an animal lover but had a special spot in his heart for cats. He worked for several local cat rescue organizations as well as opening up his home to dozens of cats over the years. Some of those cats were destined for "forever" home but most just stayed where they were. As Steve used to say, these cats know a good thing.
Not all of Steve's pursuits were earthly. Steve had an interest in flying and took flying lessons at a local airport. While on vacation in the Turks and Caicos, another undiscovered gem at the time, Steve watched a class in Scuba diving and decided to join. After a grueling week of classes he was certified as an open water diver and when he returned home he continued to dive in New England waters.
His most recent interest was beekeeping. Steve joined the Worcester County Beekeepers Association in 2011 and became an avid spokesperson for the plight of the honeybee as well as for the group. He tended his own hives and spent many happy hours discussing beekeeping at the Spencer Fair and the Worcester Flower Show.
Steve felt that in his long life he had been blessed with many treasures; exciting experiences, quiet moments, faithful customers, devoted employees and steadfast friends. However, the greatest treasure of all came just last year when his beloved granddaughter Amelia Camille was born. Although his time with her was short, the depth of his love for her was boundless. At first so tiny, he was afraid to hold her, he soon came under her spell of coos and gurgles and later the delights of her squeals and laughter. Though a poor singer, Steve never sounded so good as when singing "Old MacDonald" to his Amelia.
Calling hours will be held, Wednesday, June 26th from 4:00 to 6:00 p.m. with a ceremony of remembrance to begin at 6:00 at MULHANE HOME FOR FUNERALS, 45 Main Street, Millbury, MA. Private interment will take place at a later date. In lieu of flowers the family wishes contributions be made to honor the compassion and service of the Millbury EMS without which Steve would not been able to remain at home as long as he did. Contributions may be sent to the Millbury Town Hall, 127 Elm Street, Millbury, MA 01527; attention Town Manager.
To leave a special message or memory for the family in Stephen's online condolence book please visit:
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Published by Worcester Telegram & Gazette from Jun. 22 to Jun. 24, 2013.

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JRO

June 20, 2024

June 20, 2013 - June 20, 2024
Much has changed but you are still remembered.

JRO

June 1, 2024

She kept me going during your illness. Through the long nights she was there for me with a gentle touch and comforting purrs. You didn't want to keep her, remember. You told me to give her away. How wrong you were. Because of her I was there through to your end. Now, if such exists, find her and tell her thank you for she so richly deserves your thanks.

JRO

June 1, 2024

Hello Steve,
There will be no more messages from Betty. She joined you last December. She was always your champion through even the darkest of deeds. Her love for her brother-in-law never wavered. You were lucky to have her in your life.

Elizabeth Went

June 16, 2023

Still miss you, my dear brother.
Betty

Janis Oles

November 27, 2022

Dear Karen,
Thank you so much for your kind words. Alphatronics Security was Steve's life and as dear to him as any family member. He truly felt close to his employees and it is heartwarming to know that many employees felt the same way about him.
Janis Oles

Karen Malinowski

November 27, 2022

I worked at Alphatronic Security. Steve was a wonderful boss. Very kind and caring. Not many like him. There were just the 5 of us; Steve, myself, Jerry, Ken and Nancy. We were all very close. Great atmosphere to work in. He is missed.

Elizabeth A Went

November 26, 2022

Miss you Steve,
me

JRO

November 20, 2022

11/20/2012 - 11/20/2022 x 10 years
The beginning of the end. We hope your new beginning continues to bring you joy.
JRO, GMO, CLO

JRO, GMO & CLO

June 18, 2022

JRO, GMO & CLO

June 18, 2022

JRO, GMO & CLO

June 18, 2022

06/20/2013 - 06/20/2022 Remembered
We hope you have our cats with you.

Betty

June 17, 2022

Miss you. Love you.

JRO

November 20, 2021

11/20/2012 - 11/20/2021 Remembered

JRO

August 27, 2021

08/22/2021 Remembered

JRO

June 19, 2021

06/20/2013 11:43AM..the end of your story here; may it have been the beginning of a happy story where you are now.
Your room is built. It has all the things you wanted. I hope you like it.

Elizabeth Went

June 16, 2021

Thinking of you and missing you. You are my brother from another Mother..... forever.

August 23, 2020

Happy Birthday to us!
GM, CL & JO

June 22, 2020

Would have been 24th
Really thought there would have been a 20th
Not to be
Us

Elizabeth Went

June 21, 2020

Missing you and have such wonderful memories of your time with our family. B.

June 20, 2020

11:43
7
Remembered by us
JRO, GMO, CLO

Elizabeth Went

June 16, 2020

Remembering, with love, Mr. Duck.

JRO

February 17, 2020

Brenna pass on Valentine's Day. Please find her and help her on her way.

JRO

February 14, 2020

Remembering you and the cat pins. When I wear one I think of you.

January 2, 2020

If new years count in your realm, I hope yours is a good one.

JRO

November 19, 2019

Tomorrow seven years ago was the beginning of the end. I hope the end finds you with those who loved you many years ago, especially your maternal grandparents. From your stories of them, they truly loved and understood you.
The bench is in place and your name is on it.

Me

November 18, 2019

Please help Pop cross. You both prized your military service and loved your stories. November 20th is remembered.

Me

August 31, 2019

If it is to be, please watch out for Pop and help him across.

Elizabeth Went

August 25, 2019

Love you, Mr. Duck

JRO

August 24, 2019

77 come and gone

Us

June 18, 2019

06/20/2013 x 7 years = we remember.
JRO, GMO & CLO

Elizabeth Went

June 16, 2019

Remembering you, Mr. Duck.

November 19, 2018

Seven years ago today the roller coaster started. Ironic how you always hated roller coasters.
Remembering.

ELIZABETH Went

August 22, 2018

Thinking of you on your Birthday.

August 21, 2018

Happy Birthday, Steve
To have to remember is sometimes good and sometimes bad.

Me

June 21, 2018

We always thought we would make it to at least our twentieth but that was not to be.
However, through good times and bad we did honor our vow..."until death do us part".
June 22, 1996 - June 22, 2018

ELIZABETH WENT WENT

June 20, 2018

Remembering you, with love Steve.

The Three of Us

June 20, 2018

Remembered x 5

Elizabeth Went

November 30, 2017

Still my brother from another mother.

November 29, 2017

You were remembered at Thanksgiving.

August 24, 2017

I missed you on Saturday. I think of you often, dearest duck.

Janis

August 23, 2017

Happy Birthday to us!

Elizabeth Went

June 20, 2017

With love

June 19, 2017

Four years passed
You are remembered

Cindy Lou loves her bed

Janis Oles

February 18, 2017

Gracie Mae & Friend

Janis Oles

February 18, 2017

February 18, 2017

No more cat pins on Valentine's Day

December 28, 2016

Love you, Mr. Duck.

December 27, 2016

Some memories of you are fading but the good ones now stand in relief and that is what is important.
Dave W. says thanks for you gift.

November 16, 2016

Miss you and love you too, our Donald Duck!

November 14, 2016

Four years ago there was such a rush to finish the packing and make sure the closing would take place. Your routine blood tests were three months overdue so a quick visit to the lab and off we went. What shocking news the next day that you had leukemia. The day after that came the biopsy and the closing; that night the mad dash with the rented U-Haul van and then to the hospital; it was Thanksgiving eve. How I wish we could have had the Thanksgiving we planned in CT with the kids. They always loved your "Donald Duck" and made a fuss over you. We remember you at each Thanksgiving dinner. Where you are I hope you have something to be grateful for.

June 22, 2016

Miss you and love you, Steve.

June 21, 2016

The third year has now passed. You were remembered throughout the day; ups and downs, highs and lows, good times and bad times. You were not forgotten.

December 26, 2015

Hello Steve,
Four Christmases have come and gone. As we always do, you remembered as we sat down to Christmas dinner. We all toasted you and Paul. The kids reminisced about your "Donald Duck". Maybe send a sign in 2016.

August 22, 2015

Happy Birthday, dear Steve. Miss you. Love You,
B.

August 22, 2015

Happy Birthday Steve. We remembered you at LobsterFest.

July 15, 2015

June 19, 2015

The perspective of time buys you the greatest truth.

You are remembered

JRO

May 1, 2015

Three months have passed since Paul died. You two seemed to hit it off at family events. You both possessed so many of the same traits. Hope you are together again.

JRO

December 24, 2014

Hello Steve,
It's Christmas time again. Christmas has often been a sad time for us but now you are free and I hope without sadness. How ironic just as I started typing this it started to pour down rain. Well maybe there is still sadness for things done and undone but you are now in a place of peace and all wisdom. You now know the whys and wherefores which gives you a great advantage over me. May you have now what was so elusive in life.
Well, Merry Christmas; I am wearing the Christmas sweatshirts you got me at Spag's and many of the Christmas cat pins you bought me. Watch over all of us and as ever we will drink to your life at our Christmas dinner.

November 25, 2014

Steve,
It was two years ago that all our plans were so drastically changed. How ironic that on the same day our "new life" was supposed to start that it ended. I'm so sorry we never made it to the Grand Canyon. That trip was supposed to be our second beginning. Maybe you have gotten to the GC; I hope so.
Now Thanksgiving will always be a sorrowful time. Each year before we start dinner my family raises their glasses and toasts you. The kids remember your "Donald Duck" and they try to imitate you. I hope you have peace.

Janis Oles

November 21, 2014

Steve fondly remembered his days at Berkeley High School. He often said his days in the AV club began his interest in electronics which eventually lead to his career and owning his own business. Thank you for your kind thoughts.

Carol Dean

November 19, 2014

I am saddened to just learn of the passing of my Bulkeley High School classmate. On behalf of the class of 1960 I extend our sympathy to his family.

Cindy Lou keeps Steve warm

August 20, 2014

JRO

August 20, 2014

Happy Birthday Steve!
It's our birthday in a couple of days. I remember when we were first dating you asked me my birthday and you didn't believe me when I said Aug. 22! I had to show you my driver's license to prove to you it was. Then you pulled out your license and there it was, Aug. 22. I thought to myself what are that chances? We will toast you at Lobster Fest.

June 15, 2014

Dear Steve,
It's been almost a year now and I have found it so true that you don't know what you've got till it's gone. The first few years were full of fun and love. We let too much of the outside world in as we aged. We had created such a considerate world full of little gifts and gestures given "just because" and small surprises. I mourn not only the Steve I married but the world we created and only managed to hang on to for a short time. Like always, I'll wait for a sign.
JRO

J

February 15, 2014

First Valentine's Day without you in twenty years has come and gone. Thank you for your perenial gift! The cat pins of course! Going through your many papers bags I found cat pins you bought but forgot where you put; just like old times!
Take care...see you sooner than you think!

Kate Parker

July 29, 2013

To Steve's family,
So sorry for your loss. I worked for Steve many years ago in the beginning of the alarm company. Always thought he was just an all around good guy. May the happy memories keep you. Fondly, Kate

Kevin Hall

July 10, 2013

Dave,
So sorry for your loss. Your dad was a great guy and will be missed.

Jana Grady

July 3, 2013

Janice, my prayers are with you, and your family.

Jan Oles

June 28, 2013

Dear Steve,
I firmly believe that you are now whole, happy and healthy. Your body is rejuvenated and you now have the spirit of that kid who started his company out of the trunk of his car.
Please visit our friends and cats who have gone before you; introduce yourself to my Mom and Dad. Keep an eye over me, David, Monique and Amelia. One of these days I'll look you up myself and we can again swap stories.
Love ya Sweetie,
JRO

Karen (Clouthier) Malinowski

June 25, 2013

So sorry to hear about Steve's passing. I worked at Alphatronics when there were only 5 of us. Steve will always be remembered as a kind and gentle soul. He will be missed. My deepest condolences to his family.

Dj Bryden

June 25, 2013

So sorry about Stephens passing . Dj and carol

June 25, 2013

Dave and family,
I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Mike L

Nick Nichols

June 24, 2013

To Janis and Family,

On behalf of the Charleston Base SUBVETS and Swamp Fox Chapter SUBVETS WWII, I offer you our sincere condolences on Stephen's passing. We grieve with you on the loss of your loved one. All SUBVETS and their families have your family in our thoughts and prayers. There is no expiration date on the back of our dolphins and Steve will always be remembered as a “Brother of the Phin” and a great Patriot.

ET2(SS) Stephen B. Oles
US Navy
Now on Eternal Patrol
Sailor Rest Your Oar
Your Shipmates Have The Watch

Fair Winds and Following Seas Shipmate

Charleston Base Submarine Veterans
Nick Nichols, Base Chaplain

Richard Murray

June 24, 2013

you will be missed Steve

Mark Baker

June 24, 2013

We are all compelled to look back and acknowledge that there are certain individuals who influenced our growth, both as leaders and as productive members of society. Steve was without a doubt one of those people. He encouraged and supported self expansion while understanding mistakes were a natural learning tool. He gave of himself and honestly cared about those he touched. I feel I am a better person for having known him.

June 23, 2013

David and family,
Everyone here at Chadwick Medical Associates offers their deepest condolences at the loss of your father. It was a pleasure to have known him and do business with him. He was true gentleman.
Dr. Bob Maloney, Peg and our entire staff.

Richard Hall

June 23, 2013

Dave,

I'm so sorry for your loss. I have some great childhood memories of your Dad and all of us hanging out in the neighborhood. He was a great guy.

Rich Hall

June 22, 2013

Dave,
Our deepest condolences. Your Dad was such a nice man and dear neighbor.

Gary & Sandra Hall

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