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I love you Lorretta
November 21, 2023
Well Mama... another year has passed, Calypso just turned 1yr, Captain and Lorelai are growing fast. It saddens me to not have the pleasure to receive your love and the most wonderful hugs you've always given but I know you are watching over them... keeping them safe. I miss you so very much !!
Lorretta Slaney Gonzalez
November 21, 2022
I miss you so much ... your legacy continues to grow, my grandbabies Captain and Lorelai getting so big and another was just born, Calypso Rose. All 3 of them have your eyes, when they look at me it's as if you're looking , watching over me.. I couldn't ask for anything more that would give me such pleasure and joy. Life's struggles has been a bit bumpy recently but you have instilled the strength, courage and love to overcome and taught me to stay focused , thank you for that. I love and miss your physical touch,voice so very much but I know you are with me. I feel your love, I see you in my children, my grandchildren and I see you in me. REST IN HEAVENLY PEACE
Lorretta
Michelle Slaney-Mills
November 7, 2020
Missing you so much today!! Wish we had more time
Lorretta Gonzalez
November 21, 2019
Gone but never forgotten... I miss you Mama.. I have 2 very beautiful grandchildren now, I know that you're watching over them as you have always done with us throughout our lives. I just wish it was in person for them but I will continue to keep you, your visions, morals and your love in their lives. I love you Mom
Lorretta Slaney Gonzalez
November 20, 2017
This next message was written by Michelle Slaney . I thought it was so beautifully written that I need to share.
Lorretta Slaney Gonzalez
November 19, 2017
Eight years ago today I lost my beautiful mother. God blessed me so much by lending me her. In my mother's eyes I was perfect and she let me know it my whole life. Now don't get me wrong she did teach me right from wrong but when I thought my life was over at 3 years old when I stole that blue robins egg malt ball from the little store in Delmont and she marched me right back in and embarrassed me so bad....lesson learned thou shall not steal.....or when at 5 years old I acted up in church and,she took me out into the little room in back and whooped my but..one of the three but whoopins I received my whole life...lesson learned respect the Lord/respect His house...from that point on I loved church, one of my favorite places to be.....at 15 years old and I had gotten pregnant and I seen the hurt in my mother's eyes, I just knew my life was over..oh no she believed in me...she labeled my son a Gift from God, and he was...she taught me, molded me and taught me....no wrong was to wrong for the Lord...lessons learned.......Faith...Hope...Love. My mother taught all of us how to pray...how to reach for that bible...how to drop to our knees...where to go when we were at our wit's end... All ten of us knew the way. All her grandchildren felt her undying love. She didn't have a lot but she had love...it was the best gift of all. In my eyes I can never compare to my mother, My Mama, but she left here leaving an excellent example of how I should be. She was and still continues to be my heartbeat...my teacher...my first hand held...my first kiss...my first love...at a young age I recall telling my Mommy and meaning it, When I grow up, I wanna marry you! lol kids say the silliest things, but thats how much love I had for her and I equated the highest love being marriage. She was my encourager...my mentor...my wisdom...my deepest hugger you could ever imagine, a hug from her would make everything right, bad melt away, it at times was a new beginning......No one ever compared, or ever will compare. There is not a day that goes by that my Mama doesn't cross my mind...in my dreams she still teaches me lessons. Rest Easy Ole Lady I live for the day we meet again...that alone keeps me pressing on taking the right path verses the wrong one. I love you and miss you with ALL my heart ....The day you left me, my world changed drastically... RIP my beautiful mother...Helen Ruth Polhamus, Slaney..my angel on Earth and now in the Heavens!!!! I believe you to be with my Zebbie, finally with the only one who truly ever got him! I love u both so dearly! Until we are reunited!❤❤
Lorretta
June 14, 2017
Hi Mama... as always I am missing you. My birthday just passed, can you believe I am now 52 yrs old? It seems like yesterday when we would take walks to the bridge singing .. a song for every bird we saw and each flower that was in bloom. I miss hearing you sing to us and playing tag on the beaches. Oh if only I had half the energy you did when you were my age... those were the days I will forever cherish. My boys are men now.. have grown into wonderful men, am so proud of them as I know you would be too. As for myself... I struggle without Sam, I miss him so much, it has been 2 1/2 yrs since he has passed and I still haven't been able to grasp he is gone. I haven't been the same without you and Sam in my daily life although I know you both are watching over me because I feel your presents within me but it isn't the Same as your touch, your voices, your comfort.. I miss you so much
Lorretta Slaney Gonzalez
January 3, 2017
Mama. .. I'm missing you so much, you wisdom and comfort, your hugs and kisses, your voice, your smile, your touch. But it gives me comfort in a strange kind of way knowing you are at Gods door to welcome us as we passover through heavens gate.i picture Sammy sitting with you on the front porch holding good conversation, laughing an enjoying yourselves. My heart aches without you and my Sammy here with me giving me your guidance, your love and comfort. And now Zebedee has come to be with you and my heart breaks even more, he was so young and an incredible young man that was taken far to soon. In a lot of ways he reminded me so much of Michael. How is Michael by the way? He just had another grandson which when I see his picture I can see Michael in his eyes and it warms my heart. It was such an amazing feeling of love and comfort when you and Michael came to comfort me after my surgery and when Zeb passed over..Thank you for laying with me till I fell asleep. . It was the most amazing experience I think I have ever had. A week prior to that Sam had visited me while I slept, I wasnt breathing and was scared, really scared and it was at that moment Sam appeared and gave me a hard smack on the back which brought air into my lungs, woke me up as I grasp for air !! I was never so scared..it was that moment that I realized he was watching over me, protecting me as he has always done. Please don't worry about me, im going to be ok.. Michelle and Dorothy need you now .. pls watch over them and protect them as you have done for me.. I love you Mama... Give Sam, Michael and Zebby and huge hug for me.. let God know that I am working on me to be the best I can be so that I may be with you all again.
Michelle
November 18, 2013
Mama, I miss u so, so much today and everyday. Love you
Lorretta Slaney-Gonzalez
June 19, 2012
I miss you, Mama. I was just talking to my friend from work the other day,, and we were sharing how we remember and miss some of the strangest (funny) things about those we've lost.. I was telling her of how when you were calling us by name to come home, how you always would break our name down in syllabols and shout to top of your lungs ending with a high pitch on end... God that warms my heart, when I think of that.. And how you were always singing to us as we took walks to the bridge. Blue bird, blue bird in and out the window.. In fact no matter what was going on in your life... You were always humming or singing a song. I really am missing you. Your Birthday is coming up real soon and am filled with sorrow for I will not be to talk,see or hold you. I know your watching over me cuz I feel your presence in my daily routine and that makes me happy . Im sorry I havent made all the right choices in life recently and your guidance is so needed right now, life is hard.. Im so lonely..guide me to true happiness. I miss you, give Michael a big hug &kiss tell him I love him and wihisper in his ear... Scratch my big toe... Lol
Michelle Slaney - Mills
June 14, 2012
Mama,
Well another one of your own walked the field to gain his High School Diploma. I wish you were there, like u were for Elijah & Joshua. I know u wouldn't have missed it for the world. Elijah - 2008; Jericho - 2010; Zebedee - 2012; All of them wouldn't have made it thru w/o their Mom Mom's support. Love you and miss you sooooo much. Wish you were still here, I need u sooo much!!!!
Michelle Slaney - Mills
November 14, 2011
I just thought I'd say
I will always love you and goodbye,
I know we will miss you dearly
I can't promise you I won't cry.
I will never forget our talks
Conversations on the phone,
How happy you were to see me
When stubbornly I finally came home.
You worried so much about me
Even though I couldn't admit it, I worried about you too,
I know this is the hardest thing
I'll ever have to do.
I know you'll always be with me
Wherever I may go,
No one needs to show me
This I will always know.
I don't know what to do Mama
I never thought I'd loose you,
Where I'll go from here
I still haven't got a clue.
I hope you'll watch over me
Be my guiding light,
Giving me the strength I need
To win this endless fight.
You're my guardian angel, Mom
Sitting on my shoulder,
Whispering your words of wisdom
To use as I continue to get older.
I don't want to say goodbye
But we'll meet again someday,
We'll pick up where we left off
Before you went away.
Mama, I miss you so, so much!!!!!
Your Babygirl,
Michelle Marie Slaney - Mills 11/10/11
Michelle Slaney - Mills
November 10, 2011
You worried so much about me
Even though I couldn't admit it, I worried about you too,
I know this is the hardest thing
I'll ever have to do.
I know you'll always be with me
Wherever I may go,
No one needs to show me
This I will always know.
I don't know what to do Mama
I never thought I'd loose you,
Where I'll go from here
I still haven't got a clue.
I hope you'll watch over me
Be my guiding light,
Giving me the strength I need
To win this endless fight.
You're my guardian angel, Mom
Sitting on my shoulder,
Whispering your words of wisdom
To use as I continue to get older.
I don't want to say goodbye
But we'll meet again someday,
We'll pick up where we left off
Before you went away.
Mama, I miss u so, so much!!!
Your baby girl
Michelle Slaney – Mills 11/10/11
Michelle Slaney - Mills
December 8, 2010
"Mama Bear" you will always be
My mother so loving and so loved by me
For God has taken you to be by his side
Now in Heaven is where you will reside
You have blessed my life in so many ways
I will cherish our memories until the end of my days
You left me too soon and this was not part of our plan
But God’s wishes always come before those of man
Without you I must travel the path alone
No longer my guide, the way you had shown
Your body may have been weak, but you were always so strong
For your loving embrace I will always long
God sent you to me as a special gift from above
To teach me life’s lessons and shower me with your love
I will always remember your beautiful and smiling face
In my heart you will always have a very special place
A special bond we shared like no other
For this is possible for only Daughter and Mother
I thanked God for each day we were able to share
But without you in my life it is too difficult to bear
Being with God, I hope you will find joy and peace
In this I can find comfort and some happiness at least
For "Mama Bear" you will always be
My Mother so loving and so loved by me!!
Lorretta Slaney
June 29, 2010
Mama, I miss you so much! Your Birthday has just passed and I had such a hard time getting through this week. My life is in such turmoil,Sam and I ( my household ) is under construction a work in progress.. and I'm so use to turning to you for your wisdom and advise... Hear I am not knowing which way to turn or if I'm making the right choices. I know you would'nt be giving me the answers but your guidance and support is truely needed and missed! At work it is so hard for me. To make my deliveries and have to pass the room in which you spent your last days brings back those hard memories of the week before your passing, the pain and hardship of having to let you go makes it hard for continueing my daily shift, god I wish you were still here with me, the family guiding us through lifes mysteries, supporting us with the choices that need to be made, You've inspired us all in many ways but mostly in the way you've loved. The strength, love and faith that you've taught us will be carried in our lives forever. I love ou Mama, very much!!!
Lorretta
June 29, 2010
Mama, I so miss you! Your Birthday just passed and let me tell you, I had the hardest time getting through it. This whole week I've been at my lowest just thinking of you and wishing you were here to help me through life. The support you've always given me without even realizing it... I didn't even realize of how much I depended on you until now. Your smile your words and gentle ways to guide me are souly missed. My life has been in turmoil since you've passed, Sam and I (my household) is under construction, a work in progress, it has been 8 months of separation and I still have no answers as to where my life is going. I know you've experienced the love we hold for each other but you've also experienced the hard end of it. Wishing you could speak to me and guide me through this. Your in my thoughts daily, It's really hard for me at work as well. Sometimes as I do my deliveries I have to pass the room you've passed in and the memories of that week just overwelm me so that I have a hard time to continue my daily shift. I am grateful that our staff had taken care of you on your last days, they had taken such great care of you,,, it just so incredibly hard for me. I wished we had more time together, I fell I was in someways just starting to know the woman in you... your strength, your faith and your love for your family is carried on through me, I promise Mama, that I will give and do my best in life for my children as you have done for yours.
Thanx for the years that u gave me <3 Sadly missed && loved <3 Apryl Beth Robinson <3 & family
Apryl Robinson
May 2, 2010
***MOMMY AWARD***it's always nice to know that someone thinks you're GREAT... AND I DO ? ? ? ? ? ?nobody wants to say good bye to a loved one, but when their day comes,you have no choice. just remember all those great times you shared. I <3 you && miss you <3 <3 <3 <3 <3
Linda Slaney Green
April 22, 2010
I miss Ya, Mamma!
Michelle Slaney - Mills
April 5, 2010
Yesterday was the first Easter I spent without my mama. I miss her so very much. I pray this becomes easier from day to day. My mama was such a sweet woman and she always put her family first, even before her own personal needs. Barbara, Dorothy and I with our families went to mom's grave for the 1st time and prayed for her and our family. It was so hard.
I have struggled to find the right words to utilize on this website and still haven't quite found them, but I just wanted to share and let others know how much she meant to me. Any good in me has come from and been inspired by her, my one true love - My mama. Happy Easter! I love and miss you so much words can't explain!!!! Can't wait until we meet again. Awaiting that day!! Your Baby Girl, Michelle
Barbara Slaney/Cornell
December 30, 2009
I can't begin to express my sorrow at losing the one true example of love, peace, compassion and living faith I had in my mother. My one consolation is in knowing that her spirit lives on not, only in the heavenly place Our Lord Jesus prepared for her but,also in the hearts and joyful memories of those who knew and loved her. As I contemplate the happy times I travel back in time to some of my earliest memories that to this day bring a smile touched by sadness to my face. Yes, I remember mama. So beautiful as she lifted the freshly washed clothing from the basket to the line. Her soft brown hair flowing gently in the breeze. With a voice like an angel she sang old gosple hymns as she went about her never ending chores. Mama always had time for us no matter how tired or busy she was. I wonder looking back how she accomplished so much given the ongoing interruptions, kissing boo boos, softly wiping away our tears and giving encouragement.One memory in particular which has left a lasting impression and significance to my life was the gift of faith and endurance. Whenever we were especially frightened mama would gather us all into a circle, hands joined together we would pray until we were comforted and no longer fearful. This memory to this day brings not only a smile but, an inner peace.God bless you mother and may you enjoy the happiness you deserve. I will be looking forward to that time when once again I can hold you and find comfort in your arms. Your loving daughter Barbara.
Sanibel Lighthouse , Florida - summer 2009 -
Lorretta Slaney-Gonzalez
December 13, 2009
My Mother was an incredible woman whom devoted her life to the Lord and her Children. When she looked at you, the love, the pride that embraced you with those smiling eyes was the warmest feeling that hugged you without ever being physically touched. She was the strongest woman I have ever known she endored so much hardship in her lifetime but you would never know it for she would greet with such a warm smile and an open heart so not to burden others with her own downfalls but to help them with theirs. Anyone that has had the pleasure of knowing my mother knows that their lives have been blessed by her smiles and warm heart, that God has brought his Blessed Angel home.
I miss my Mama Bear
Maria walker
December 1, 2009
Trutly a 1 in a million and anyone who was lucky enough to know this woman was trutly blessed..to the all the family love you all like my own.keep strong and think of all the good times.RIP mamma slaney u are and always will be LOVED
chrissy davis
December 1, 2009
Ms. Slaney was one of the kindest, sweetest women I've ever met. She was loved by everyone who knew her. My thoughts and prayers are with her family.
Teresa Cossaboon
November 30, 2009
I wished i could of meant you and you ould of meant my daughter's before the good lord had taken you home,But family memebers will keep your memories alive and you will never be forgotten .Grandma may you RIP now with no more pain or worries .Love your grandaughter you have never meant Teresa
November 28, 2009
Thoughts and prayers are with your family at this sad loss.
Helen was my neighbor in Port Norris and a very sweet lady to know. She will be very much missed.
Cris Cannon
Samuel Gonzalez
November 27, 2009
My love and memories will always be with about you and your lovely family that has tought me to love.
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