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BORN
10/1/1958
DIED
1/31/2024
James Arpin Obituary
The youngest of four children, Jim was raised in Taftville and Lisbon, and he graduated from Norwich Technical High School in 1976. After graduation, Jim worked as an inside machinist at Electric Boat for over ten years and later at the U.S. Postal Service before becoming a successful business owner. Jim owned and managed Arpin's Discount Liquors in New London for many years before selling the business to spend more time with his family. For the past two decades, he owned and operated A&A Landscaping Services, serving Norwich and several surrounding towns. His work ethic and willingness to help anyone was admired by those who knew him, and these values were instilled in his children. In his free time, Jim found joy in exploring flea markets and house sales with his beloved wife, Toby, as well as attending modified races. Jim also had a passion for classic cars, particularly the '57 Chevy, which showcased his deep appreciation for automotive history. Jim's fascination with automobiles extended into the realm of slot cars, a hobby he began nurturing at the age of seven. Over the years, his collection burgeoned, each piece a testament to his lifelong enthusiasm for craftsmanship.
Above all, Jim was a devoted husband, father and grandfather, giving his entire heart to his family. The love he had for his family was unconditional, immeasurable, and not a day went by when his love could not be felt. He leaves behind the love of his life, his wife of 42 years, Toby; and his five children: Kelsey (Daniel), Cassandra (Jacob), Rebecca (Marquis), Christopher and Skyler; and one grandchild, Andrew. Jim is also survived by his brothers, Ernest (Beverly) and Robert; as well as his brother-in-law James. He was predeceased by his parents; and sister, Jacqueline.
Honoring Jim's wishes, services will be private and at the discretion of the family.
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Memories and Condolences
for James Arpin
Kelsey
December 28, 2024
Dad, it´s hard to believe that it´s almost been a year already since your passing. I remember getting the dreadful call like it was yesterday.
Within the year, your second grandson was born - Cameron James. Andrew adores him and as I tell Mom I can see you and Aunt Jackie in some of his facial features. Andrew has taken on your love of cars and tractors. Nothing fascinates this kid more than seeing a tractor and immediately needing to get up on it and turn the steering wheel. His favorite movie is the Disney movie Cars which I know you enjoyed watching too. I hope you are looking down smiling at us all and we miss you everyday.
Cheryl Viens
July 8, 2024
I am so sorry to hear of Jim's passing. He was a great help to my Father Normand and myself. Thank you forever Jim Cheryl Viens
Ruth Ellen Edwards
May 25, 2024
I'm so sorry to learn that Jim passed away. He did our lawn care and was a great help to me. Condolences to his family.
Becca
May 23, 2024
Dad,
I miss you more every day. The races at Stafford aren´t the same without you this year. Words can´t even describe how good of a father you were to all of us. You were always there to listen and offer words of wisdom. You truly were one of a kind. I love you always.
Ed Walczak
March 2, 2024
Jim was a good guy for sure, and I mean that it the highest sense of the word. I had the pleasure of getting to know Jim and Chris through his landscaping but business. He was honest, reliable and an all around good person. The would could use a lot more folks with Jim´s character. My sincere condolences to the entire family . (Stay in touch Chris). Ed Walczak
Sarah Arpin
February 22, 2024
My condolences to everyone in the family right now thru this difficult time I know how hard it is losing a parent especially being a parent myself I don't wish that pain on anyone sending lots of well wishes and positive thoughts to everyone impacted by the loss of my uncle. I'll never forget the fun family gatherings we had in my early childhood and that one trip to Disney at the timeshare I remember only flashes but the fact that it stuck in my mind as a core memory means something. May he r.i.p.
Samm Racich
February 21, 2024
To Toby and all...May God hold you in His heart and hands through these very tender times. Love and blessings.
Kathryn Hlavac
February 21, 2024
Such a dedicated hard worker. My lawn will never be the same. My sincere condolences.
Margaret Pothier
February 20, 2024
My sympathy and comfort to you and your family. May you treasure Jim's memory in your hearts.
Luke & Audrey Leone
February 19, 2024
Toby and family - we are keeping you all in our thoughts and prayers and are truely sorry for your unexpected loss.
Marsha and Rick Silvia
February 18, 2024
May your hearts soon be filled with wonderful memories of joyful times together as you celebrate a life well lived. So sorry for your loss
Toni Violette
February 18, 2024
Dear Toby and family, I was so sorry to hear this. Keeping you all in my prayers. Toni & Jim Violette
Scott and Cheryl Jonap
February 18, 2024
So sad that we have lost our brother-in-law Jim. Living away from Connecticut we didn´t get to visit as much as we should have. I will remember him as a Gentle Giant with the cutest twinkle in his eyes. He will live on in his wonderful family. Toby, you were both blessed.
Martha (Kustesky) Young
February 17, 2024
I was deeply saddened to hear of cousin Jimmy´s recent passing. My deepest sympathy & condolences to Toby & family, Ernest, Bobby, our extended family, & his friends.
Prayers up lifted for comfort & peace as Jimmy rests in the loving arms of our Lord. May the beautiful memories you shared keep him alive in your hearts forever. I´ll always remember his wonderful smile.
Love,
Cousin Martha (Kustesky) Young
Indialantic, FL
Carol Geluso
February 17, 2024
Toby and family. I am so sorry for your loss. Remembering our days in the Alumni Office at Connecticut College, your blossoming relationship with Jim, starting your own business and meeting 2 of your little ones (not knowing you had 3 more). I am thinking of you and your family.
Carol Geluso
Ernest Arpin
February 16, 2024
I'm deeply saddened by the loss of my youngest brother ,Jim.His passing came suddenly and unexpectedly.I had seen him shortly before the awful news came to me.At the time he shared a short video of his grandson,as he now became a grandfather,and was proud of it.Jim was proud of all of his children,and their accomplishments in life.Now the family has expanded,adding sons-in-law and that wonderful baby boy.Jim and Toby were both successful in business and life itself because they were a team with conviction and drive.More so than many of us.That very last time I saw Jim,he related he had just helped someone do a task that person couldn't handle (free of charge). He said it made him feel good to do such things.I know what it means because he had done the same for me (and wouldn't accept payment) over the course of many years,and I'm grateful for it.As the older brother,I remember when he came into our lives as a newborn baby.Now the decades have slipped by,and suddenly he's gone too soon.R.I.P. Jim.I miss you,and will remember you always.
ALAN GINGLARDI
February 16, 2024
I had the pleasure of meeting Jim and Toby through their 5 wonderful children. I had the rare opportunity of having each in my driver education class. i remember as i met each one of children i would say to myself wow what a wonderful kid this is, Kelsey, then Cassie, next Rebecca, Chris and finally Skylar each left a lasting impression on me. All through these years i came to find out why because of the parents Jim and Toby. Jim, you have left your mark here in these 5 young people as your legacy. RIP Jim they now have you and the memories and values you instilled in them to carry on.
Alan Ginglardi "MR. G"
Ellen Lewis
February 16, 2024
Such sad news to hear of Jim´s passing. My heart aches for all of you. I pray that his love and the countless memories lift you through this painful time. May he rest in peace.
Patricia Donnellan Etter
February 15, 2024
Toby and family, I´m so sorry
Cindy Tudisca
February 15, 2024
Your heart soon will be filled with wonderful memories of joyful times together as you celebrate a life well lived.
Karen Knight
February 15, 2024
Our deepest condolences to all of you. Jimmy was a wonderful dad, grandfather and husband . May all of the great memories made over the years bring you a smile. His spirit will love on in all of you. With love, Karen and Ken Knight
Robert Forbes
February 14, 2024
Our thoughts and prayers go out to your beautiful family.
May the memories of the good times and love you shared bring you comfort during this difficult time.
Much love...Rob, Nadja, Ky, Aidan and Dylan
Dave & Nancy Wawrzynowicz
February 14, 2024
Sending you all much Love, Peace, and Comfort. Jim will always hold a special place in our memories.
Toby Arpin
February 12, 2024
To my best friend and husband forever. You always brought out the best in me and made me feel special. It never got old you calling me when you were working or telling me how much you loved me. You were one in a million. I can't imagine my life without you in it. You made the sun shine every day.
Christopher Arpin
February 12, 2024
To the best dad I could have asked for: thank you for always being there for me and for all that you taught me. I miss you very much and cannot believe you are gone.
Love, Chris
william H Hayes
February 12, 2024
Jim was a great dad and husband he was hmfun to sit and talk with I just wish I had more time to spend getting to know him RIP my friend
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