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1943
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2022
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James McCarthy Obituary
Moving to New London at an early age, he attended local schools, graduating from New London High School, class of 1961. He started McCarthy Heating Oil with his parents in 1961, was joined by his brother Joseph "Joe" in 1968, by his son Michael in 1986, and then by his daughter Kelly in 2004 and more recently grandson, Brendan. Due to the hard work and dedication of the McCarthys and their employees, the company just celebrated its 60th anniversary.
He served in the Connecticut National Guard for six years. He was united in marriage to the former Joan Tanajewski, Sept. 5, 1964, in St. Mary Star of the Sea Church, Mrs. McCarthy survives him. He was active in the Quaker Hill community; coached in Waterford North Little League, sponsoring McCarthy Oilers, and the Charms. He was a volunteer with the Quaker Hill Fire Department and was acting Fire Commissioner for over 10 years. He served on the Board for Liberty Bank and the Our Lady of Perpetual Help Church's Council.
Shay loved going to Florida twice a year with Joan where he spent all of his time fishing and enjoying the company of their close friends who were considered his second family.
Beside his beloved wife Joan of nearly 58 years of devotion, he is survived by his children, Michael McCarthy of Oakdale, Kelly McCarthy of Quaker Hill, Shannon Goldstein and her husband Ken Goldstein of East Windsor. He adored his grandchildren, Lindsay, Brendan, Brentt, Logan, Chase, Kaden and great-grandson Reid. Seven siblings survive him, Patrick McCarthy of California, Joe McCarthy of Quaker Hill, Terry McCarthy of Niantic, Mary Ellen Deurr of Florida, Noreen Kepple of Stonington, Eileen Boyce of Waterford and Cathy McCarthy of Pawcatuck; and one sister-in-law Marianne Vlaun and her husband Fred of Waterford.
His family will receive relatives and friends from 2 to 4 p.m. and 6 to 8 p.m. Friday, June 3, at the Impellitteri-Malia Funeral Home, 84 Montauk Avenue, New London. Family and friends may gather for a Mass of Christian Burial at 11 a.m. Saturday, June 4, in Our Lady of Perpetual Help Church, 63 Old Norwich Road, Quaker Hill. Interment in St. Mary Cemetery, New London.
The family would like to extend their appreciation for the wonderful care he received at Crescent Point, Niantic and with Hospice. In lieu of flowers, donations can be made to the Alzheimer's Association, 19 Ohio Avenue, Norwich, CT 06360 or The Center for Hospice Care, 227 Dunham Street, Norwich, CT 06360.
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Tim Dulin
June 15, 2022
Meet Shay in 1982 when I started in the HVAC business. A true stand-up guy. Going to be greatly missed. God Bless.
Christy Habony (Hamler)
June 15, 2022
To the Entire McCarthy family,
Condolences to you and the rest of your family on the loss of your dad. He left a great legacy, and I was lucky to have known him growing up.
My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Christy Habony (Hamler)
Joanne (Dipollina) Eisenhard
June 7, 2022
To The Entire McCarthy Family,
My deepest sympathies to all of you.
Shay´s smile would light up the office when I worked there "way back when".
Joanne
The Monroe Family
June 6, 2022
Honored to know the McCarthy family and became very close friends with Alexander Monroe. my father had find memories to talk about and loved all of the McCarthys may he Rest In Peace.
Our condolences to the McCarthy family.
Joanne Olsen
June 6, 2022
Kelly & Eileen,
Thinking of you at this time. My condolences to both of you in the loss of your Dad/brother. With Sympathy, Joanne
Pete & Tina Baker
June 4, 2022
We are saddened by the loss of Shay. He was such a sweet man and Pete and I always loved running into him around town. Joan and family you are in my prayers.
Jay Charles
June 4, 2022
My deepest condolences to the McCarthy family on the loss of Shay. Shay gave me an opportunity in the HVAC trade when I was young and inexperienced. I learned so much from Shay and Mike while I was there. I have fond memories of representing the McCarthy Oil family because that´s how Shay wanted you to feel, like part of the family. He will be missed.
Colleen Pinckney
June 3, 2022
My deepest & sincerest sympathy to all of the McCarthy family, I have known many of you for years. Shay was just a great guy, he always had time for a friendly conversation whenever I ran into him at the QHPO. Shay was a man of great integrity and doing business with McCarthy Oil has always been a pleasure. I will miss him but I also know that he left things in very capable hands.
Rest in Peace, Shay!
Sincerely, Colleen Pinckney
Maureen & Patrick Greatorex
June 3, 2022
Joan, We are both heart broken at your loss. Shay and you gave Maureen & myself alot of love,companionship and laughs in Naples.
RIP Shay, our prayers go with you
Fred Froscello
June 3, 2022
My condolences to the McCarthy family.
Jim Shake
June 3, 2022
I had the great fortune of coming to know Shay many years ago through the New London County Fire Service. Always an upbeat attitude, always a gentleman. My condolences go out to the family and friends.
Tom & Karen Kokoska
June 3, 2022
Mike and McCarthy family
Karen and I are very sorry to hear of Dads passing.
Our thoughts and prayers are with you at this time.
The Christensen Family
June 3, 2022
May the love of friends and family carry you through your grief.
Dave Lamoureux
June 2, 2022
May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.
Lori JC Muscarella
June 2, 2022
Shannon and family....so sorry for your loss. Your dad sounded like a wonderful man.....sending hugs and prayers.
Janet and Harvey Holland
June 2, 2022
Joan and family we are so sorry to hear of Shay´s passing. I will remember the good times visiting at Fountain´s 1 in Naples and getting to know you all! Hopefully I will see you soon. Sympathies to all.
Leroy and Jeanne Darrow
June 2, 2022
Sending our sincere condolences to the McCarthy family.
Paul Currie
June 2, 2022
You were my mentor, I always tried to be just like you!
Judy Hunter
June 2, 2022
Thinking of you all at this time.
Dawn Penman
June 2, 2022
So sorry for your loss
Kris Savage
June 2, 2022
I remember Shay from my years working for Solomon´s in New London. Always has a smile on his face. Sending comfort and sympathy on your loss.
Pam Bartolotta (Constantine)
June 2, 2022
So very sorry to her of your Dad's passing.
Joyce Douthitt
June 2, 2022
Joanie, so sorry to hear about Shay. My thought and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time.
Irene Ramus Muehlberger
June 2, 2022
Joan and family,
So very sorry to hear of Shays passing.
Vicki Muscarella
June 2, 2022
Mrs. McCarthy, Mike, Kelly, Shannon & families,
I am so sorry to hear about Mr. McCarthy's passing. Always there for our family when needed as we have been doing business with McCarthy oil since my dad built our home in 1967!!! May all your memories be kept close to your hearts!! Peace and Love sent to all
Rusty Martin
June 2, 2022
Gene and I were so sorry to hear about Shea , what a great guy he was and such a beautiful family he had, God Bless you all , RIP Shea
Jim Doyle
June 2, 2022
Joan, so sorry to hear of the passing of Shay.myself,and Gerrie, send you and your Family our condolences. We both had some good times when we were in the Guard, I have always remembered them. We live in Florida now,and won't be able to attend.
The Devine Family
June 2, 2022
Mrs Mccarthy, Michael, Kelly, and Shannon,
Sending you all love and will keep all of you in our prayers.
Thomas Holmes
June 2, 2022
May your hearts soon be filled with wonderful memories of joyful times together as you celebrate a life well lived. To Shay"s family,may peace be with you.
Bob and Sue Janovic
June 2, 2022
My sincere sympathies to the McCarthy family
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