Katherine "Casey, Kay" Buonocore
9/16/1927 - 11/24/2021
BORN
9/16/1927
DIED
11/24/2021
FUNERAL HOME
BYLES Memorial Home
99 HUNTINGTON ST
New London, CT
w London - Katherine Buonocore, 94, of New London, beloved mother of Ann Marie and Toula Buonocore and loving wife of Henry, fell asleep peacefully in the LORD during the wee hours of the morning Nov. 24, 2021, surrounded by her daughters. "Casey," "Kay" was born Katherine Coin Sept. 16, 1927, in Rock Island, Ill. She was the daughter of Greek immigrants, Harry Stanley Coin and Toula (Papastephanou) Coin.

She had three younger brothers, and helped her mother raise them. Because of this duty plus house chores, she was held back from kindergarten by her mom. Casey was bright and skipped to the first grade; so that didn't matter. Her family was Greek Orthodox and had a strong faith in God. She could speak, read and write Greek, as well as English. She was an avid reader, and loved history, especially American history. She was patriotic and a proud American.

Casey loved to play golf and many times would rise early in the morning to play nine holes with a friend before going to school; and was very proud of her one time hole-in-one. She loved to dance to the music of the Glenn Miller Band and enjoyed the Blues; and recounted how she taught "all the boys" from her church and school how to dance at the family home. She was a true friend to many and called herself, as did many others, the quintessential "eternal optimist."

She grew up in a more gentile time - a traveling salesman came to the door selling potato peelers, and she begged her mom to spend the 25 cents to buy one, because it was so laborious with just a knife; "The Wizard of Oz" was at the theaters; and it was the first time she, and everyone else in the theater, saw a movie "in color." She told us she wanted to be an archeologist, but she was called off the golf course one day to temporarily fill-in for the bookkeeper at her father's bakery. With no idea about how, her dad instructed her to "just copy what Lois did;" and hence, her career as a bookkeeper was launched. She was a fast learner and good with numbers.

She graduated from Rock Island High School in 1945, and earned an associate's degree from Augustana College in Rock Island, Ill. Casey was quite progressive for her day, moving to Chicago, and taking a job as secretary to the editor-in-chief for the American People's Encyclopedia. She was proud for her editorial credit in the volume pertaining to whales. At that time, she was living at the YMCA, when she met the love of her life, aspiring actor Henry Buonocore. They were married in 1957, and moved to New York City, where Casey worked as a Glamour Girl giving out chocolates at B. Altman's, and later at American Airlines in area control where they were afraid her voice might be too sexy for the job!

They eventually settled in New London, and had two daughters, Ann Marie and Toula. She loved being a wife and a mother and was "the Best Mom Ever!" She was always gracious, loving, caring and nurturing. For us as young girls, she prepared beautiful birthdays, holidays and every days making our house a home. We had a "candy drawer" at our house filled with mini-candy bars and Yoo Hoos which made us the most popular house in the neighborhood. As a self-taught gourmet chef, she taught us about traditions through her cooking and baking lessons and the importance of acts of love, happily sewing Halloween and dance costumes. She loved Doris Day music, movies, live theater and evenings with friends. She was the biggest fan of her husband Henry and his entertaining personality. She worked side by side with him, running the A & W Root Beer Stand on Coleman Street in New London. Then she worked as a bookkeeper at Hobby Crafts, Thames River Greenery and the Esposito Insurance Agency. She was an integral part of her daughter's business ventures: mall push carts, jewelry sales, real estate (She took and passed the board test.) and silk flower arranging company. Kay served as the church secretary for over 14 years at the St. Sophia Hellenic Greek Orthodox Church in New London, where she was an active member for over 60 years.

She loved her church. She was a Sunday school teacher, a member of the Enosis Philoptochos Society, (In 1991, she was the Woman of the Year.) and always a volunteer at the annual Greek Festival. Kay was kind, loving, and compassionate - a natural psychologist. Many friends and relatives sought her advice and help on different occasions. She was a great listener, a true friend and the calm through the storm staying pretty much on an even keel. People knew they could rely on her and trust her. Kay gave of herself to others especially to her husband and children. Kay never swore; she rarely got angry; she never spoke a bad word about anyone. Many friends would say, "Kay is a saint." She was so sweet and kind. She would never complain or whine. A member of the greatest generation ever. Kay was very happy and content with her life. In her own words, after a self review of her life, and almost in surprise, she announced, "I've lived a fairy tale life!"

She was an amazing woman with incredible patience, and endured life's ups and downs with a smile on her face. She was truly blessed by God with His peace. We could all learn something from Kay, and we certainly did. As willing caregivers to our mother, we learned the true meaning of unconditional love, "true agape love," Kay is truly loved by all her friends and relatives and will be greatly missed. She was predeceased by her husband of 60 years, Henry; and is survived by her daughters, Ann Marie of New London and Mystic, and Toula of Groton; three brothers, Stanley (Kay) of Rock Island, Ill., George (Nancy) of Davenport, Iowa, and Tasso (Liz) of Naples, Fla.; brother and sister-in-law Jim and Candy Buonocore, Mystic; lifelong, good friend Connie Runge, Davenport, Iowa; and numerous nieces, nephews and cousins from Connecticut and Illinois. A sincere thank you to all those who assisted with her care.

Visiting hours will be held from 4 to 6:30 p.m. Thursday, Dec. 2, at the Byles Memorial Home, 99 Huntington Street, New London. Masks required. The funeral service will be held at 10:30 a.m. Friday, Dec, 3, at St. Sophia Hellenic Greek Orthodox Church, 200 Hempstead Street, New London. Kay expressed her interest in helping children; and donations for that purpose can made to St. Sophia, re: Katherine Buonocore Fund. Please visit www.byles.com to sign the guest book or share a memory.
Published by The Day on Nov. 28, 2021.
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Kay was a shining light of beauty and kindness. She will be remembered, as will her dear husband, Henry, as kind souls who enriched the lives of all they touched. .
Dabney Hopkins
Friend
December 13, 2021
Toula, Your mom was a remarkable, kind individual. Sending prayers, peace and comfort.
Maureen
Other
December 7, 2021
What a remarkable lady! May she Rest In Peace. With loving thoughts & deepest sympathy, Mary & Kim Winters
Mary Winters
Friend
December 5, 2021
Thinking of you Ann & Toula! The obiturgy was beautiful-she was quite a woman!
Maureen Penman
Friend
December 3, 2021
Carolyn Brooks
December 3, 2021
Dear Toula and Ann Marie,
No words can express the sorrow you must be feeling as I know your mom meant everything to you. My prayers are with you both and may you remember all the good times (and I know there were many!) to comfort you. She was one on a kind!
Tina & Paul Reutenauer
Friend
December 2, 2021
Ann Marie & Toula
I am so sorry for your loss and as hard as it is I pray that you take comfort in knowing that you were blessed to have such a kind , gentle & loving woman as your mom. My thoughts are with you
Zoe Synodi
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Friend
December 2, 2021
Eric Pelletier and staff
December 2, 2021
Ann and family. I am very sorry to read about the loss of your mother. Please accept my sincerest condolences.
Quintus Wrighten
December 2, 2021
Sorry to hear about your Mom Ann. Condolences. Keep close your memories and hope it brings peace.
Machelle
December 1, 2021
What a beautiful tribute to your mom! I was blessed to have known her for my whole life and I was one of the lucky ones that got to partake in "the candy drawer" on a regular basis! May she now be in peace with your dad.
Karen Florio
December 1, 2021
Dear Anne Marie and Toula,

I'm sure you don't remember me taking this photo of you and your Mom back in 2018, but I did ask the two of you along with your beloved Mom to pose for a photo for me on the Ocean Beach boardwalk, and you happily obliged. My reason for asking for the photo op at the time was to demonstrate to my own Mom the benefits of having and using a "walker". We ended up purchasing and utilizing the same exact walker that your Mom was using that day, and by the Grace of God, our Mom is still with us at the age of 99. It wasn't until I shared this photo with my siblings that my sister Mary Lou pointed out to me that you were "the Buonocore girls", from New London. In addition, my sister Betty reminded us that she worked for your Dad, Henry, at A&W Root Beer on Coleman Street when she was attending SBHS in the late 1960's. What a small world!

What a wonderful family. Your Mom (and Dad) could never have asked for children more loving and devoted than the two of you have been for each of them, over the years.

God Bless.

Sincerely,
Bob Mish
Bob Mish
Friend
December 1, 2021
Our sympathy on the passing of your wonderful mother. She was definitely special. She was a dear friend of my mom´s (Stephanie) and all of her sisters (Helen and Grace) - aka the Damos girls. It was always nice to see her when she came to Rock Island to see her family. We are keeping you in our prayers. May her memory be eternal.
Adrienne (Yokas) and Scot Johnson
Friend
November 30, 2021
Kay was such a lovely and kind lady. She is an angel in heaven and will watch over her girls. God Bless you, Ann and Toula.
Janet Greenspan
November 30, 2021
Dino and I are very sorry for your loss. May her memory br eternal.
Ellen Tsagaris
Friend
November 29, 2021
So very sorry for the loss of your MOM, she was the loveliest, loving person from the first day I met her. She loved you girls so much and you both have the love and kindness she had. Love you.
Doris Drouin Young
November 29, 2021
Dear Toula - my condolences to you at the loss of your Mom. Wow! She certainly did have an incredible life. I wish you comfort in the loving memories and peace in the days ahead.
Karen J. Harrington
November 29, 2021
She was such a wonderful person and a great Aunt. We will all miss her very much. In our Prayers Tasso Jr. Marnie Maelin Liam and Stavros
Tasso Coin
Family
November 29, 2021
For a short time I assisted in Kay´s care and loved every minute we had together. Kay taught me so much about life in the time we spent together. We talked extensively about so much of her life. She truly loved people and was all about fun! Her friends were her friends forever! We laughed most all the times about our lives and even cried a little. We took rides around town, went to lunch, shopping, Doctors, to church and always to the beach to visit her favorite place where her and Henry would go. We would even take a little nap while we were their in the car there as the warmth from the nice hot sun would put us to sleep. I remember getting kicked out a couple of times from ocean beach because we were sleeping and it was 5:00 and they were closing. We always had a good laugh about that. We became great friends. I really loved her, she was very special to me and has a big part of my heart! Her real love was her two girls, Anne and Toula. She once told me she was afraid to leave them worrying about them being ok. They were what kept her going for sure! I felt like I knew so much of her life and all her struggles to make something of herself. Not only was she sophisticated, beautiful inside and out, she was very smart, talented, loved music especially the blues (as I do) and a great wife and mother. She was kind, yet quiet but a great listener. Kay was a true friend! She loved her husband, Henry and it showed with his memories being all around her home. Her heart was so big, she definitely shared it with so many people! I will always keep her close to me in my heart. Kay definitely was the best! If I could ask myself each day, what would Kay do in any situation, I would be so thrilled to have that piece of her to help me to make good decisions and be a better person. Kay is Angel for sure and Henry must of been calling for her now! May they both Rest In Peace together and know that their girls will be ok! There are many of us who will make sure of that! God bless you all! Shell
Shelley Collin
November 29, 2021
Kay was a sincere person to meet. She and her husband would sit on Ann's porch in Mystic. We were Ann's neighbors in Mystic and her love of her family shined thru her. She was shy and modest with us, but now w know more about her life and loves. She loved her family dearly and her neighborhood. The love of her family beamed out light to motherhood! Thank you, Ann and Toula for sharing your mother's life with us. She lived an adventurous life. You both took the very best care of her with love.
Bob and Helen Ahearn
Friend
November 28, 2021
A life well lived. A woman loved by all. She will be missed by her daughters and a whole community. Rest in peace
Suzanne David Cole
November 28, 2021
Our deepest sympathies to you Toula and Ann. Thinking of you. Nora and Chris Taylor
Nora and Chris Taylor
Friend
November 28, 2021
Toula I am so sorry for your loss. Healing wishes for you and your family. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Melissa Olsen
November 28, 2021
What a beautiful tribute to your mom. My sincere condolences on you loss.
Maureen Shea Holt
November 28, 2021
My sincere condolences to the Buonocore Family. Kay will be missed.
Steven Miller
Acquaintance
November 28, 2021
She was good woman. She never said a bad word about anyone
Sylvia Kirsch
November 28, 2021
Beautiful obitury! What a greet life she had! My thoughts are with you Ann and Toula!
Maureen Penman
November 28, 2021
Kay was truly a beautiful lady inside and out. We have fond memories growing up with the Buonocore family. May her memory be eternal. May she Rest In Peace.
Amy and Jason Apostoleris
November 28, 2021
Such a beautiful tribute to your Mom! My sincere condolences.
Emily Houser
November 28, 2021
There are kind people, good people, and caring people. Kay was all of those wrapped into one marvelous person. Her legacy will serve as a model for many. We extend our deepest sympathies to her family, and their loss of Casso, whom I grew up with. May her memory be eternal.
Rit & Eve Manthous
November 28, 2021
A wonderful friend to my daughter Shelley Collin. Shelley loved her so much.
Helen McGuire
Friend
November 28, 2021
We have known Kay our entire lives, and we knew her as an inclusive( everyone was family), resourceful and self aware woman of perpetual class and dignity. Kay was accepting of everyone and treated others as if they were the most important person in the world (because if you were lucky enough to be in her presence), you truly were!
Kay never let life’s trivialities get in the way of her appreciation of people. She loved people for their individuality and her kindness and respect for others was apparent. It caused others to gravitate to her for her sage, no nonsense advice and practical humor.
Kay, you will be missed! Your soul was bright and you leave your imprint on many hearts and lives.
Scarlett and Becky Driscoll
Friend
November 27, 2021
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