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Melissa Shafner Obituary
Melissa leaves a loving son Noah Zane; a brother Jonathan Clott (Rachel); stepmother Emily Danson; ex-husband Daniel Shafner; and many aunts, uncles, cousins, nieces, and nephews.
Melissa graduated from Connecticut College, Phi Beta Kapa, Summa Cum Laude. She also graduated with a top scholastic award from Hofstra University School of Law and then was admitted to the New Jersey State Bar. She received a master's degree in special education from the University of New Haven. She was a ten-year board member of the Solomon Schechter Academy in New London. Melissa was the Director of Student Accessibility Services at Connecticut College.
Melissa was a Warrior Princess enduring the complexities of Pancreatic Cancer. She had a wonderful sense of humor and quick wit. She was always a loyal friend to family and friends.
Funeral services will be at 12:30 p.m. Thursday July 1, at the Thomas L. Neilan & Sons Funeral Home, 12 Ocean Ave., New London. Interment will be at the Ahavath Chesed Cemetery, 273 Boston Post Rd., Waterford. Join Zoom Meeting
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In lieu of flowers, donations can be made to Connecticut College in memory of Melissa Shafner, attention: Director of Gift Planning, 270 Mohegan Ave. Parkway, New London, CT 0632
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Memories and Condolences
for Melissa Shafner
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Amy and Adam Goldstein and Family
July 11, 2021
We are so sorry to hear the news about Missy. She was such a bright light in the world. May the Shafners find strength in their memories.
Joanne Miceli
July 9, 2021
Noah,
If you need anything at all or just want to talk, Isabella and I are here for you. Just reach out.
Joanne Miceli
Isabella Casteel
Mark Rothstein
July 4, 2021
May G-d comfort you with the other mourners of Zion and Jerusalem --
Cheryl & Bruce Greenberg
July 1, 2021
There are no words for such an unimaginable loss. You are all in our thoughts.
We remember Missy as a fun loving little girl.
May your wonderful memories carry you through this very difficult time.
Connie Hummel
July 1, 2021
Condolences to the family, especially Noah, Daniel, other family and friends. Keeping you in my prayers.
Carol roth
July 1, 2021
Thoughts of love and sadness to family and friends
Marsha & Lee Wallace
July 1, 2021
Our hearts are breaking. We have such loving memories of family functions with all the kids being together. It was wonderful seeing Missy´s warm smile & wit especially when she was with her cousins. Please know that our thoughts & love are with all of you.
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Thomas L. Neilan & Sons Funeral Home - New London12 Ocean Avenue, New London, CT 06320
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