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Sheila Pakula Obituary

Sheila Pakula, 78, passed away comfortably in her Rancho Mirage Home on June 14 after a long battle with Alzheimer's disease. Born in Flushing, Queens, Sheila was a life-long spiritual seeker, full of kindness and love for all individuals. After a first marriage, she wed Gerson Pakula in 1979, and the two split their time between Mission Hills and Westport, Conn. In addition to Gerson, Sheila is survived by brother Stanley Rubenfeld, of Westport, and sons David Rubien, of San Francisco, and Andrew Rubien, of New York City. She is also mourned by step-children Karen and Eric Pakula, and grandchildren Elena, Aaron, Rowen, Tamar, Dexter and Isabelle.

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Published by The Desert Sun on Jun. 19, 2013.

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Laurie Schwartz

November 16, 2014

Shiela was a very precious person. She was one of the most interesting, open, caring women that I have known.
I think of her each time I walk by the street where she had her office. I miss her and have many happy memories.

August 8, 2013

Dear Gerson, I was saddened to hear about the death of your beloved wife Sheila but heartened to know that you gave her the most loving care in her final years.
Nora Gluck

Sophia Willner/Zimmer

July 3, 2013

Dear Gerson,I am so sorry to have heard about Sheila. My sincere sympathy. With warmest regards, Sophia Willner/Zimmer

Andrea Schreiber

June 25, 2013

Dear Gerson,my heart is with you as you mourn the loss of Sheila. I wish you peace and comfort, knowing how devotedly you served and helped Sheila. A truly exemplary life, and your love for and forebearance with one another is something we can all model. Much love and sympathies, Andrea

June 24, 2013

Dear Gerson,
I am so sorry to have heard about Sheila. She is at peace now.
My sincere sympathy.
Terri and Joan Pakula

AMBIE AND RAY HENDERSON

June 20, 2013

GERSON, WE SEND OUR DEEPEST SORROWS FOR YOUR LOSS OF A VERY SPECIAL LADY, SHEILA. yOU HAVE DONE A BEAUTIFUL, LOVING JOB--NOW TAKE CARE OF YOU---CALL ANYTIME--LOVE, AMBIE AND RAY

June 20, 2013

Gerson
This is devastating. I can't tell you how bad we feel for you. I'd write but I don't have a postal address for you.
Joe and Roberta

June 19, 2013

Gerson,
My sincerest condolences........we'll all miss her, but she is now in a better place.
Monroe Katz

June 19, 2013

BARBARA AND I ARE THINKING ABOUT YOU ON YOUR LOSS........DAVE EGOL

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