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Ruben Cardenas Obituary

McAllen - "No me des nada...ponme en donde hay" This was the motto of Ruben R. Cardenas who passed away peacefully on June 2, 2019 at the age of 88. He was a Husband, a Father, a Brother, an Uncle, an Attorney, a Mentor, and role model. He was a master of "dichos" that conveyed a wisdom to any who would listen. He grew up in the ranchland of Northern Hidalgo County where he took a 64 mile roundtrip by bus daily to go to school. His education paid off as he mastered both English and Spanish and at age 11 enrolled at St. Edwards Military Academy ultimately achieving his Bachelor's degree in Accounting and culminating in receiving the St. Edward's Distinguished Alumnus Award in 1976.

After finishing at St. Edwards, he joined the US Air Force and became a radar observer navigator and became a Captain in the Reserves. Following his stint in the military, He attended the Law school at the University of Texas where he earned the nickname "flash Cardenas" for his rapid study methods. In his second year of law school, he met the love of his life, Dardanella, and 2 years later they were married and moved to McAllen where he began the practice of law later specializing in real estate law. Children followed and a parallel career in community service developed with numerous awards and accolades from his community and peers. If there was a board he served on it. If he wasn't just serving on it, he was chair. As a staunch Democrat, and advocate for education and social justice, he involved himself in anything that would move our community forward. This led to appointments and serving on multiple corporate boards both public, and private not to mention service in pursuit of improving educational opportunities at all levels of the South Texas community. He was fond of saying that "The greatest inheritance a parent can leave a child is a good education."

His leisure time was spent traveling, wining and dining, and focusing on family. He loved taking his children and later his grandchildren on road trips. He loved the Texas Longhorns and was honored as a distinguished Alumnus of the University of Texas in 1991. He enjoyed maintaining his automobiles which, on the used market, always brought more than the blue book price. His driving abilities were legendary and there was no doubt that he could find the closest and fastest distance between two points. That he wound up chairing the Texas Department of Public Safety was poetic justice and there wasn't a DPS officer down here who didn't know him. He was famous for flashing his badge, or picking up their tab if he saw them in a restaurant. He was a perfectionist who commanded excellence from all those around him or those he interacted with. As a boy, he was taught that if he borrowed something he should return it in a better condition than he received it. On the whole, he came into our community and left it better than how he found it. The Mold is broken..... The Chairman has rested.

Ruben is survived by his wife, Dardanella; his children, Carlos J Cardenas MD (Chris), Diana L Albrecht (Cecil) and his grandchildren, Hilary Albrecht, Adam Cardenas, Miles Albrecht (Clarissa), Simon Cardenas, Daniel Cardenas, and Emily Albrecht. He is also survived by his sister, Sylvia Cardenas. His son, Oscar, predeceased him in 2011. The Family wishes to thank all of the Physicians and Nursing staff at Doctors Hospital at Renaissance and at DHR Hospice for their compassionate care. In addition, the family wants to thank the staff at Healthcare Unlimited. A special thank you to Dr. Joel Solis and Dr. Alberto Gutierrez.

In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions can be made to Our Lady of Sorrows Capital Campaign Fund 1108 Hackberry Avenue McAllen TX 78501-4370, The University of Texas at Austin School of Law Foundation 727 East Dean Keeton Street Austin, TX 78705, University of Texas Rio Grande Valley Foundation, Office of Institutional Advancement, EITTB 1.210, 1201 West University Drive, Edinburg, TX 78539, Saint Edwards University 3001 South Congress Box 14 Austin, TX 78704 "In Memory of Ruben R Cardenas", or a charity of your choice.

Visitation will be at Our Lady of Sorrows Main Church, 1108 Hackberry on Thursday, June 6, 2019 from 6-8pm with a Holy Rosary to be recited at 7pm. Funeral service will be Friday, June 7, 2019 at 10 am at Our Lady of Sorrows Main Church, 1108 Hackberry.

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Published by The Monitor from Jun. 5 to Jun. 6, 2019.

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August 5, 2019

I was so sad to hear about Mr. Cardenas's passing. He was one of those people that you just thought would live forever. I loved him as my boss at the old train station and I cherished our daily conversations and "funnies." To Darla and the rest of the family, my condolences. Rest in peace, Mr. Cardenas. You will forever rest in my memories.
-Judy Loza-Garcia

Torchie Champion

June 10, 2019

The Cardenas Family: We are truly sorry to hear of Ruben's passing. Please accept our condolences, and may our prayers help comfort you, and your family, in your time of sorrow.Sincerely, Viola S. Champion and Family

Marcy M. Alamia Family

June 9, 2019

Our deepest condolences to the Cardenas family on the loss of a great man. My husband, Luis always enjoyed their talks whenever we saw him, never a dull moment with Mr. Cardenas and he, like my husband enjoyed that joke he always had ready to share. Now they can continue their talks in heaven, enjoying each others company. Gone but never forgotten. RIP Sir Cardenas.

Neil Davis

June 8, 2019

McAllen just lost one if their top citizens. He will be very fondly remembered by myself and the entire Davis family. Rest in Peace Mr. Cardenas.

Yolanda Ramirez

June 7, 2019

Our condolences to the Cardenas family.
Our prayers and thoughts are with you during this difficult time. He was definitely a great man and his legacy will live forever in our hearts.
Blessings always,
Yolanda Saenz Ramirez (Jupiter)
Montgomery, Texas

Anna Vela Espinoza

June 7, 2019

Dear Madrina,

Please accept my deepest sympathies on the loss of my Padrino Ruben, a great man.
There were times when Padrino made a difference in my life, notably when you and he many years ago hosted an engagement party for me and my now husband. Padrino was larger than life that night, entertaining us with stories and lots of laughter.
Years later, at my own mother's Rosary, Padrino came to offer support and a hug, trying to help ease my grief. He was able to put a smile on my face when I didn't think it was possible.

Padrino and my dad, Ed Vela, were lifelong friends and Dad still likes to recount stories of their youth, especially their days together at St. Edward's. Dad's stories are fond remembrances of his friend Ruben, and are very often funny. I love hearing them over and over again, even to this day.
I will miss most Padrino's voice and his humor.

May he rest in peace.

Sincerely,

Ricardo Godinez

June 6, 2019

RIP Counselor! Thankful to have known you and for your wise counsel over the years. Thank you Mrs. C, Oscar, Diana and Carlos for sharing him with us!

Jose Oscar and Christina Barrios

June 6, 2019

June 6, 2019
To the entire Ruben Cardenas family,
We send you our deepest condolences on the passing of your beloved Ruben. Our thoughts and prayers are with you during this trying time. May God bless you.

June 6, 2019

Our condolences and thoughts are with you all.Sheri and TJ Johnson

Jeannette Aniceto-Weil

June 6, 2019

Rest in paradise Mr. Cardenas. My father admired your friendship and I am grateful we crossed paths when I worked for the city. Your encouraging words, laughter and wonderful attitude always remained with me. Prayers of peace and strength to your family and friends.

June 5, 2019

We have lost a true democrat and a fierce advocate for social justice.
He was a role model and a mentor to so many of us.
Our prayers are with you and your wonderful family.
Petra Reyna

norah roberts

June 5, 2019

we have lost a true gentleman.

our prayers are with you

very much love
norah (davis), steve & veronica roberts

Marlou Levine and Family

June 5, 2019

My condolences to Dardanella and family. May Mr. Cardenas memory always be for a blessing to you all.

Dr. Shirley A. Reed

June 5, 2019

Cardenas Family,

I extend to you my deepest condolences on the passing of Ruben. He was a true servant to his community and country and gave generously of his time. He lived an incredible life, full of many professional accomplishments, but the one he was the proudest of was his family and it was evident.

My thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time. I hope you find peace and comfort in the memories of the love you shared for the days ahead.

June 5, 2019

We are deeply saddened by the loss of Mr. Ruben Cardenas, many fond memories are left by "Tocayo" as he used to call my dad (Ruben). He also had a special dicho with my mom everytime she asked him about his health - Vete poniendo el vestido negro Maria - He was dad's friend, attorney and advisor for over 40 yrs. but mostly their special friendship went further to their childhood family history and he never forgot to mention his profund love and admiration to his mom. Mr. Cardenas only you gave that special touch to your "Dichos" that made everybody laugh. His kind face remains forever in our image, you retired quietly. May God watch your sleep forever. Buen Viaje Tocayo Un Dia Nos Veremos.

Ruben & Maria Gutierrez
Janie Gutierrez

Larry, Leigh, Jacob, and Kate Guerra

June 5, 2019

There are those who are eloquent in their words and those who are eloquent in their actions, he was both. Our good friend will be missed, but we will carry him in our hearts and minds cherishing his family, his greatest legacy. Our thoughts and prayers remain with you all.

June 5, 2019

My deepest condolences to the Cardenas family on the passing of Mr. Ruben Cardenas. In addition to being our father's attorney for over 40 years, Mr. Cardenas was a dear friend to my dad, providing him great advice and friendship. My dad, whose name is also Ruben was always greeted by Mr. Cardenas as tocayo. I remember the countless times I sat in office of Mr. Cardenas with my dad and just listened to both of them discuss business and family. He was such a caring person.

Mr. Cardenas was a true gem and one of a kind. It has been hard for my dad to learn of his passing, his tocayo will dearly miss him as well. Rest in peace.

My thoughts are prayers are with the Cardenas family during this difficult time.

Gardenia Gutierrez Perez

Yvonne Walters (Garza)

June 5, 2019

Condolences to the Cardenas family. Prayers being lifted for strength and faith that he now rests in the Hands of our Heavenly Father.

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Memorial Events
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Jun

6

Visitation

6:00 p.m. - 8:00 p.m.

Our Lady of Sorrow Catholic Church

1108 W Hackberry Ave, McAllen, TX

Jun

6

Rosary

7:00 p.m.

Our Lady of Sorrows Main Church

1108 Hackberry, TX

Jun

7

Service

10:00 a.m.

Our Lady of Sorrow Catholic Church

1108 W Hackberry Ave, McAllen, TX

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