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1947
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2021
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Thomas Stocker Obituary
Tom is survived by his wife of 48 years, Mary Ellen (Payne); sons, Andrew and Spencer; daughter-in-law, Wendy; granddaughters, Jocelyn, Brynlee, and Charlotte; siblings, Ned, Cathy, Bill, Mary and their spouses; many nieces, nephews, and close friends. He was preceded in death by his son, William Thomas.
Tom was born in St. Louis, Missouri on June 28, 1947 and grew up attending Our Lady of Sorrows Catholic School. He was a proud member of Boy Scout Troop 68 and Explorer Post 62. He graduated from McAllen High School, proudly served in the U.S. Navy, and upon his return from tours in Vietnam, he graduated from Pan American University. He spent most of his professional career in commercial office supplies and made time to be an active member in numerous community organizations, including the Rotary Club, Boys and Girls Club, McAllen Chamber of Commerce, McAllen Greeters, Leadership McAllen, Boy Scouts of America, and many others.
As a dedicated parishioner of St. John's Episcopal Church, Tom grew closer to the Lord through his service and involvement in youth group activities, community outreach groups, and management of construction projects. He loved fishing in the Laguna Madre and hunting in the South Texas brush country with his dear friends.
An outdoor service will be held on Saturday, January 16th at 10:00 AM at St. John's Episcopal Church in McAllen. He will then be interred at Valley Memorial Gardens. The service will also be streamed on St. John's Facebook page. Please wear a fishing shirt to the service in honor of his love for fishing.
In lieu of flowers, the family asks you to support the Tom Stocker Memorial Fund at St. John's.
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Memories and Condolences
for Thomas Stocker
Ann Furman Hohmann
January 19, 2021
Our Condolences to Mary Ellen and All Stocker Family. Great friends to my Family and have fond memories of Tom. God Bless
And many Prayers.
Ed Sheldon
January 17, 2021
Our condolences to the entire Stocker family. Tom was a fine gentleman and will be missed in the community he dearly loved.
Patricia L Power
January 16, 2021
Tom was a good man and a fine neighbor. He made this world a happier place for all of us who knew him. My deepest condolences to the family, especially Mary who was my classmate at McHi. God bless all of you.
Doug and Mary Helen Mussey
January 16, 2021
Mary Ellen,
We were sadden to hear of Tom's passing and may you
find peace in these trying time
Raul and Debbie Lopez
January 15, 2021
My husband and I will never forget the memories we made during high school with Tom. He made a difference in our lives. Mary Ellen, I remember your sweet, quiet spirit back in our college days. We will keep your family in our prayers. We love you.
Tina de la Garza
January 15, 2021
Mrs. Stocker,
My condolences on the loss of Mr. Stocker to you and the family. I was a 5th grade teacher at Crockett Elementary and remember the family very well especially Spencer. Keeping the family in my prayers.
Tina de la Garza
Herb & Jill Valencia
January 15, 2021
Mary Ellen, we are so sorry to read about Tom and yet we rejoice at his homegoing and reuniting with Will. We have such fond memories with each of you and enjoyed our days spent in the McHi Booster Club together.
May God wrap His arms around each of you bringing the comfort only He can provide. Our prayers are with you today and for many tomorrow’s to come.
Brian Hainline
January 15, 2021
He was an amazing influence in my younger days - he would track to the ends of the world to help me, never judging me, just loving me in his own way - it was a love from his heart. I cry that I will never see him on this side of heaven but hope to fish with him in glory telling him how much I loved him and praise God that he put me in his life.
Reba Showers and family
January 15, 2021
You are all in our thoughts and prayers!
Sending much love,
Reba Showers and family
January 15, 2021
We will remember Tom’s jovial attitude and talks of fishing ! Mary Ellen, you and your family are in our thoughts.
David and Bonnie
Eva-Jean Dalton
January 14, 2021
Tom will be missed. I hadn’t seen him in a while. He always had a smile and something funny to say. My condolences go to his family.
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