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Richard J. Ruh MD
September 8, 2025
Love you looking down.
Miss the hugs, and the "time".
YOU are missed here....Quietly observant...
9/8/2014-9/8/2025...A quantum Gap....
Peter Ruh
September 8, 2024
10 years have passed Dad since you died. But you are probably happier this year than last since your beloved wife and partner, Patricia Murphy died a few weeks ago on August 20 2024. She now lays besides you and all is well with the world.
I remember the story when you bought the headstone from a patient of yours, I think. You were proud and glad it had been completed. Truly a blessing you could nearly see the cemetary and headstone through from your bathroom window where you shaved each day. I think its a blessing. Well it makes visiting much easier as visiting you the past 10 years with Mom was a daily ritual for her and the many offspring.
Back to the story. You had the headstone carved with the date of your birth and Mom's birth. Mom was horrified when she learned anyone driving by could see her age. Not that a few figures carved into stone could capture the energy captured into her physical body.
Your daughter Martha, along with Kathleen and granddaughter Gretchen gave wonderful eulogies. You were there so you know. Martha remembered story of your first meeting Patricia Murphy. It was Crystal Beach, probably summer of 1952. She was renting a cottage with some girl friends. You had a date with one of her housemates. When you arrived, your date was upstairs getting ready. While you waited, Pat was in the kitchen, a whirlwind of activity, cleaning cooking, who knows what else. But you were so impressed you named her PM, perpetual motion. And shortly thereafter you asked her for a date and the rest was history.
I don't need to tell you this, but she really never stopped moving for the next 72 years. Even 2 weeks before she died, she was up and around, sitting on the front porch and waving and watching the happenings going up and down Clark Street. After 60 years, finally put a chair on front porch and it was a blessing. Funny thing happened after she died. Your daughter Mary Pat was walking back home to her house down the street, the day before Mom died. As she walked past the front door, she saw a large Eagle and clouds right above the portico. She told her siblings this story a few days after the funeral. I asked her if she thought that was you, but she thought it was Mom. The spirit lives.
As mom breathed her final breaths on your bed of 62 years I was reading from a small biblical book called the The Imitations of Christ by Thomas Kempis. You were given the book in 1958, then gave it to me in 1979 and then I found it after you died in 2014. I brought it with me as I traveled back to OP to be with Mom the family.
As she breathed her last breaths, Dan and I were in the room. Anne knew Mom loved English and poetry so I believe; as her spirit rose to meet yours, after 10 long years apart, I read this Emily Dickinson poem
Because I could not stop for death
He kindly stopped for me.
The carriage held but just ourselves
and Immortality.
God Bless you Dad and rejoice in the presence of your wife. Your life and marriage to Patricia Murphy continues to animate this world. Love Peter and all your descendants.
Peter Ruh
September 5, 2023
Heh Dad. Thanks for staying in our lives each day. Special thanks to helping Mom get over her illness this past July. I know it was you. Always healing. Love you.
Peter
Dick Ruh
September 4, 2019
Hi Dad
As a father, as a physician, as a life role model for me, you have no peers...
Miss you
Love you
Always
Dick Ruh
December 26, 2014
Hey Dad.... You were everywhere and not everywhere yesterday.
Merry Christmas.......
Dick Ruh
October 5, 2014
Hello, Dad. It's been a month since you've passed. We miss your presence, your voice, your humor and your wisdom. Yet we see them every day, in the lives and loves of others whom you touched. "Requiescat in Pace"
Jim and Sharon Kelleran
September 14, 2014
Jim has many great memories of Dr Ruh and the Ruh family! Take comfort in knowing that now you have a special guardian angel to watch over you. Our thoughts and prayers are with all of you.
mary ruh
September 12, 2014
Prayers & thoughts from a cousin in Omaha,Nebraska ,Love,Mary Lou Ruh
Roy Meissner
September 12, 2014
Our Sympathy to the Ruh family. Dr. Ruh was our family doctor in the 1980's while living in the Colden area. Although we have left the area many years, and as those years have passed since then, only attests to how he influenced us by his professional and personable character as our family physician. God bless you all and give you His comfort at this time of loss and sadness.
September 12, 2014
My sincerest condolences to everyone in your much loved family. Our families have always been inseparable, and we share in your loss. Love to all - Doreen Dillon Marasi
Sharey Guagenti
September 12, 2014
Dr. Ruh was our Family Physician and beloved by all of
The Reeland Family which then extended to The Guagenti
Family....We loved Dr. Joe Ruh...his care, wit, professionalism and his "dapperness"...along with Dr. Richard and Dr. Jennifer...you and your family are beloved by all of us..
May peace and love help to comfort you at this time of such
a huge loss of a wonderful man...God Bless You All
September 12, 2014
My sympathy to the Ruh family. I appreciate the care of my father by Dr.Joseph, Dr. Richard, Dr. Jennifer and Jack.
Sincerely, Joyce Jividen
September 12, 2014
A man of character.
Dr. Ruh - I only met you briefly and through a few chance encounters. Character counts, that is why it is a lofty goal and such a remarkable achievement. Thank you for all you gave to your community.
John Beyer
Sic itur ad astra
Odisey & Nada Nasoky
September 12, 2014
Dear Jack ,Maritza,Dr.Richard,Holly,Dr.Jennifer and all Ruh Family,Our deepest sympathy may he rest in peace,sorry for your loss, he was very nice man.You are all in Our thoughts and prayers.
Odisey and Nada Nasoky(Orchard Park N.Y)
Lucian Parlato
September 12, 2014
Sorry to hear about the passing of Dr. Ruh.
Lucian Parlato, 64 Lynette Lane, Amherst, NY
Frances Murphy
September 12, 2014
My sincere sympathy for your loss. God bless you and your family.
Dru Hites
September 12, 2014
Jen & Chris & family~ so sorry for your loss. A family as nice as yours had to have come from great roots.
Jane Hickks
September 11, 2014
We need more " Dr. Ruhs". He was a GOOD listener! "Listeners" heal more than "talkers".
Dick Nagel
September 11, 2014
My sympathies to the Ruh family. May you all find comfort in fond memories, and the support of each other, friends and your faith.
Laura Faust
September 11, 2014
David and Martha and family, we here at the Derby Evans Bank are so very sorry to hear of Dr. Ruh's passing. His legacy lives on in your beautiful children.
September 11, 2014
Richard, Jack, Jennifer and family...
We are so sorry for your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
John and Libby Hawkins
gary/diane starr
September 11, 2014
May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.
September 11, 2014
Dr. Richard Ruh,
My sincere sympathy to you and the family upon the loss of your father.
Sr. Emily Bloom, FSSJ
Joe Wells
September 10, 2014
Jennifer I'm so sorry for your & your Families loss. My prays are with you at this difficult time.
Jim Kilcoyne
September 10, 2014
So sorry to hear of the Dr's passing. Say "hello" to Evelyn when you reach the pearly gates. Aunt Kay, our sincere condolences on the loss of your dear brother.
Mary Schimscheiner
September 10, 2014
Dear Family of Dr Ruh
I am so very sorry to hear of Doctor's death He was a great physician and a wonderful person with whom I had the privilege to work with at Mercy. Hospital.
May God grant you the graces you need during this time of sorrow.
Sincerely
Sister Mary Ann Schimscheiner, RSM
Sarah Leary
September 10, 2014
What an wonderful man who leaves behind an incredible legacy. My thoughts and prayers are with Anne, Mrs. Rub and the entire family.
September 10, 2014
To Jennifer, Dick and Family, May your fond memories carry you through this difficult time and bring you peace.
Sue Carney Malacaro
Mary Ann (Klass) McKennon
September 10, 2014
To All the remarkable Ruh clan: so many memories of 3 generations. You are Family. You are loved. I'm sure Dad had a drink waiting for Joe.
Dick Klass
September 10, 2014
A giant has fallen, and a gentle giant at that. I remember being an altar boy at Joe and Pat's wedding. Fishing in Canada, skiing south of O.P. Drinking champagne on the S.S. France. So many great discussions. So much fun. So much wisdom. Our hearts go out to Pat and the large, extended Ruh clan. A family like no other. Joe, say hello to "Tyrone" and Hazel.... Dick and Liz
September 10, 2014
To all the Ruhs-
What a unique time we had growing up in our neighborhood. I think I count 10 families, almost 100 kids. It was the norm for us. So many great memories with your family and our parents shenanigans!
My condolences to each of you as we celebrate your Dad's long life and the creativeness your Dad brought to parenting.
Sincerely,
Margie Greer Creamer
Brian and Kim Windschitl
September 10, 2014
To the entire Ruh family we send our condolences. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all.
Joe Greer
September 10, 2014
Speaking for all of the Greer's, where would we be without Dr. Joe? Fortunately, for all of us, Joe and Pat, Jim and Miriam became fast friends that fateful day in August 1960, and what a ride it's been. Friend, neighbor, Doctor, mentor, counsel, teacher...all of these and more. Hail to a life well lived. "Thou shalt find thy dream to be a noonday light and truth to thee."
September 10, 2014
To the entire Ruh family, we extend our deepest sympathy for your loss.
Leah Flanigan and Kevin Foley
Meg Latona
September 10, 2014
Dear Ruh Family, and especially Martha Ruh Mangan,
I never saw a man enjoy his wife and family as much as I saw Dr Ruh! My sympathy and joy of his fine example I send to you all! Whether he was on the dance floor, handing out Halloween Candy or just relaxing at home Dr Ruh was smiling about his life, his children and the love of his life Mrs Ruh, I always adored that about him and learned that his way of life was a happy one! You were a great inspiration to us all Dr Ruh and will be dearly missed! Martha my sweet friend, the apple of his eye, at this time however sad you may be I know deep in your heart your Dad lives and through your wonderful life you too carry on his joyful spirit! See you soon my friend and to the Ruh Family, celebrate his life as he so enjoyed his life loving and caring for you all... Much love Meg Ford Latona
Peter Ruh
September 10, 2014
My Dad loved his wife, Patricia Murphy, his work, family and friends. A curious man, always willing to listen and learn - with his patients, his medical colleagues, his family and his friends. A great storyteller. Another proud son of South Buffalo, PS72, South Park, Canisius and UB, a special place in a special time. Please share your thoughts, prayers and stories. Requiescat in Pace
Dick Ruh Sr.
September 10, 2014
We love you Dad. "3 As and a K", " You like it? Keep it" "Dickie Bird, Dickie Bird why do you sing?" Good night Dad. Requiescat in Pace.....
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