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Kay Spiegel Ullman, beloved mother, wife, and friend, passed away on Tuesday, June 3, 2025. She was 75 years old.
Kay was born in Akron, Ohio, on April 30, 1950, to John and Rosalie Spiegel. A true child of the 60s, she was deeply influenced by the social movements, art, and culture of that time. Kay studied theater, first at the University of Akron and later at the Neighborhood Playhouse in New York City. She was a gifted actress and performer.
In the early 1970s, Kay moved to New York City, where she lived for nearly 20 years. She had a colorful life there working in television and advertising. It was in New York that she met her husband, Carl, whom she married in 1987. New York City was a perfect home for a person like Kay, who reveled in its rich diversity and endless opportunities for learning. Kay and Carl later moved to Ridgefield, CT, where they became enthusiastic members of the community, particularly at Jesse Lee Memorial UMC.
Kay lived out loud. She was an explosion of fun, laughter, kindness, and love. With a heart as tender as it was big, Kay had a keen awareness of the person in the room who needed extra care. She was an irreplaceable gift to all who knew her, a fact that brings joy even as we mourn her now.
Kay is survived by her daughter Chelsea (Morgan Cross); two stepdaughters, Lara (Chas Servotke) and Erika; three grandchildren, Zack, Serenity, and Orson; many loving brothers and sisters-in-law, nieces, and nephews; and her loyal dog, Bosco. Kay is preceded in death by her parents, Rosie and John, and her beloved husband, Carl.
A Memorial Service in Celebration of Kay's Life will take place on Thursday, June 12, 2025, at 10:30 AM at Jesse Lee Memorial United Methodist Church, 207 Main Street, Ridgefield. Interment will be held privately; there will be no calling hours.
In lieu of flowers, the family asks that any donations be made online to Jesse Lee Memorial United Methodist Church, a community Kay loved and that loved her back, https://jesseleechurch.com/give/.
Kane Funeral Home, Ridgefield, is in care of arrangements.
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Holly McPheeters
June 17, 2025
I worked with Kay at Ridgefield Pediatrics in the 90's, where she made everyone she came in contact with smile. Ever the Francophile, she planned an amazing itinerary for our family ,when we visited France, resulting in so many incredible memories. She dressed and acted the role of Scarlett O'Hara at a going away dinner when we moved to Atlanta. We'll never forget watching her in a one woman show at the Ridgefield Playhouse. Her Christmas cards with Chelsea in creative poses were treasures. Always the entertainer, no doubt she is regaling audiences in heaven.
Christine (Crumrine) Wright
June 10, 2025
Kay & I met at U of Akron Kolbe Theater. Kay acted; I worked backstage. We stayed in touch after she moved to Manhattan. She was there for me during a trying time after my graduation. She hated the yellow "smiley face" symbol; so, of course, all her birthday cards from me had that obnoxious symbol. Rest in peace my forever friend.
Cheryl J. Kagan
June 8, 2025
Kay and I became fast friends working in the Guest Relations dept. at NBC in NY where we started our careers in communications. We had the most fun and laughed about the "colorful" characters on our tours. Kay was funny, charismatic, compassionate and solved any of our "career" problems as tour guides, then pages. It was a memorable time I shall never forget.
Sending my deepest condolences to Kay´s family. She will be missed by all of us.
Cheryl J. Kagan
Los Angeles
Cathy Katin-Grazzini
June 8, 2025
I met Kay years back, when our kids were young and engaged in elementary school musicals. I remember her ready laugh, her warmth, her generosity as she helped guide their theatrics. She had a big spirit. My heart goes out to Chelsea and the family. She and Karl were special people and beloved in our community.
Peggy Smith
June 7, 2025
Kay and I were fellow theater students at the University of Akron a long time ago. No surprise, she acted, I was all tech. We became fast friends immediately. Even later, when lives separate by distance and time, our friendship and her impact on my life will be forever.
"Kay lived out loud. She was an explosion of fun, laughter, kindness, and love. With a heart as tender as it was big..."
Deeply sad
Love you Kay.
Peggy Darmstadt Smith
Dearest Chelsea,
I'm thinking of you and the family.
I am so so sorry. Peggy
Peggy Smith
June 7, 2025
Kay and I were fellow theater students at the University of Akron a long time ago. No surprise, she acted, I was all tech. We became fast friends immediately. Even later, when lives separate by distance and time, our friendship and her impact on my life will be forever.
"Kay lived out loud. She was an explosion of fun, laughter, kindness, and love. With a heart as tender as it was big..."
Deeply sad
Love you Kay.
Peggy Darmstadt Smith
Dearest Chelsea,
I'm thinking of you and the family.
I am so so sorry. Peggy
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