Kathleen Marie Shoener
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Kathleen "Katie" Marie Shoener, 29, fought bipolar disorder since 2005, but she finally lost the battle on Wednesday to suicide in Lewis Center, Ohio. Katie was born in Scranton and is the daughter of Deacon Edward R. and Ruth Shoener of Scranton. She was a graduate of Scranton High School, received her Bachelor of Science in business from Penn State University and recently her MBA from Ohio State University. She also leaves behind three brothers, Robert, San Diego; William and wife, Sarah, Scranton; Edward M., Old Forge; three nieces, Harper and Brylee, of San Diego; Grace, Scranton; and two nephews, Ben and Jacob, of Scranton.

So often people who have a mental illness are known as their illness. People say that "she is bipolar" or "he is schizophrenic." Over the coming days as you talk to people about this, please do not use that phrase. People who have cancer are not cancer, those with diabetes are not diabetes. Katie was not bipolar - she had an illness called bipolar disorder - Katie herself was a beautiful child of God. The way we talk about people and their illnesses affects the people themselves and how we treat the illness. In the case of mental illness there is so much fear, ignorance and hurtful attitudes that the people who suffer from mental illness needlessly suffer further. Our society does not provide the resources that are needed to adequately understand and treat mental illness. In Katie's case, she had the best medical care available, she always took the cocktail of medicines that she was prescribed and she did her best to be healthy and manage this illness - and yet - that was not enough. Someday a cure will be found, but until then, we need to support and be compassionate to those with mental illness, every bit as much as we support those who suffer from cancer, heart disease or any other illness. Please know that Katie was a sweet, wonderful person that loved life, the people around her - and Jesus Christ.

A Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated on Monday in St. Peter's Cathedral at 10 a.m. Interment will follow in Cathedral Cemetery. Katie's family will receive friends at the Cathedral from 8:30 a.m. until time of Mass. Arrangements by the Edward J. Chomko Funeral Home & Cremation Services, West Scranton.
Published by Scranton Times from Aug. 6 to Aug. 7, 2016.
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My heart ached then and still does for the family. Thank you for continuing to educate the unpredictable mental illness.
Amigo
Other
August 1, 2021
Thinking of you and Kathleen. Anniversary never seems like the appropriate word for this unforgettable time in one´s life. My sister died by suicide on March 28, 2005 and many days it feels like it was yesterday. Like Kathleen, she was much too young to leave this world. I know they will never leave our hearts but it sure would be nice to hold their hand. Wishing you continued strength.
Danielle Steinberg
July 31, 2021
I can relate to Katie's pain; I suffer with bipolar disease and perhaps lived with it longed before being diagnosed in 2008. My prayers for Katie and her family and thank you for sharing and shining a light on this misunderstood and sometimes mistakenly diagnosed disease.
Theresa Clark
Friend
November 13, 2020
To Katie's family: I just found out about Katie online now. I work with persons contemplating suicide and persons with mental illness. I love what I do and am devoted. I am in recovery myself. How I wished I could have spoken with Katie and shared my hope with her! I will remember your family in my prayers tonight. NEVER, give up on HOPE.
Victoria Kelly
September 19, 2020
What an impact this young lady left in such a short time. Blessings to all her family and friends.
Michael Cranford
August 1, 2019
Blessings for all the family and friends!
August 1, 2019
Prayers for all of you!
Ann Atanasoff
August 1, 2019
Thinking of your family & praying for each of you!
Terri Ferrell
Friend
July 31, 2019
What a beautiful tribute to your daughter. You and your family are in my prayers. Katie is with the Lord now and will suffer no more.
May she Rest In Peace.
July 24, 2018
~Jane, a stranger who cares....
July 23, 2018
Ed and Ruthie Rob, Billy and Eddie. We just found out. Katie will always be in our hearts and prayers. Your beautifully written tribute will help others. Our hearts are so sad but we know she is at peace. Our memories of her will never fade. Our prayers for you will never stop. Love Nanci and Bob
December 8, 2017
You and your family are still in my thoughts and prayers....rest with Jesus Our Loving Savior Kathleen. Rejoice and think of how beautifully healed is she.....
Jane, a stranger and someone who cares....
August 11, 2017
Still in my thoughts and prayers....
Jane~ someone who cares
June 2, 2017
She will never truly be gone. Have you felt her spirit today in a gentle breeze, a ray of sun, a persistent butterfly, a soft rain, or the sparkle of the first star you see in the night? I wish you and your family the forever blessed peace of the soothing love of Jesus and His Blessed Mother.
Bonnie
May 8, 2017
Peace and hope to her loved ones.
January 8, 2017
I read with reverence the honest and respectful message about your beautiful daughter. It's easy. To see the love and light in her eyes. I'm sitting here tonight contemplating a similar fate. Your expression of honor to her is a wonderful tribute. Thank you. God bless your family.
Aeryn Minnis
January 8, 2017
I know your family misses and mourns the loss of your dear Kathleen. Please know others care and empathize with your loss through this painful time.
December 30, 2016
Thinking of you and your family...Prayers to the family for strength and comfort during this holiday season. God Bless and Keep You...
A Stranger who cares
December 1, 2016
Dawna Tully
October 28, 2016
I just finished reading Katie's story. It touched me deeply. As parents, we protect our children in every way we can, but mental illness is a daily struggle for those suffering from it as well as their loved ones. I have been in the medical field for 35 years and I
see how sad and hurtful it is that so many fail to understand the struggle of those with mental illness.....until perhaps it becomes a part of their world. God bless her soul. What a lovely young woman. She went to college and was obviously fighting to achieve her goals in life. This hits close to home. May God bless you and comfort you in the loss of your precious daughter Katie. Thank you for sharing this personal story and helping so many families. What a tribute to her and her life.
Donna Perez
October 28, 2016
Rita Collins
October 24, 2016
I have just learned of the death of your beautiful daughter. I am so sorry for this devastating loss. I will pray for you.
Andrea Goldstein
September 26, 2016
Today, on my drive to work, I listened to you speak on Seize the Day. I am so very sorry for your loss. I appreciated your and Gus's candor in speaking about the realities of mental illness. Thank you for sharing Katie's story. May she always rest in peace with the Lord.
Jane
September 7, 2016
God bless you in your time of sortow
rosemary callahan
September 7, 2016
I listened to your story on Seize the Day this morning. I am so very sorry for your loss. You wrote an amazing obituary for your beautiful daughter. May God surround you with love in the days to come.
Kelli M
September 7, 2016
I heard you speak this morning on Gus Lloyd's program. I was so touched by your testimony as our family has also suffered tragedy. I will keep your angel daughter and your family in my prayers. Please know that she rests in a place of refreshment, light, and peace in Heaven!
Joanna W.
September 7, 2016
I heard you on Sirius Radio with Gus this morning. Thank you for sharing the truth in regard to mental illness. Our daughter at 39 continues to struggle with severe anorexia. We hurt and pray that she will overcome. I am using some of your obituary to share. If you don't approve please let me know. Thankfully our strong Catholic Faith helps us on this journey. We trust our Loving Lord to carry us. Our prayers and love are with you. [email protected]
Harold Carlson
September 7, 2016
So sorry for your loss. May Kathleen rest in the loving arm's of our merciful lord. God bless.
Pat C
September 7, 2016
So sorry to hear of your loss. Please try to remember her wonderful accomplishments!
She had a very special family supporting her and one bad moment she couldn't see past, doesn't erase the all the good things that you helped her achieve in her short time with us. Prayers and blessings for your family
September 6, 2016
I just got the news about Katie and am in complete shock and sadness. Her smile and enthusiasm was contagious and her spirit for life was refreshing. I remember her sharing her visit with Bath & Body works corporate offices and her energy and attitude were completely captivating. Rest in peace , let your mind be free, and your soul be full of life. You filled the lives of many with light and that is exactly how you will be remembered.
jessica motto
September 6, 2016
I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful,well educated, loving daughter.I applaud your honouring her memory by such a truthful obituary. My husband has suffered severe depression for the last 3 years and know that the stigma of mental illness weighs heavily on him.Everyday is a struggle. I too lost a daughter at age 40.Her death was of natural causes but none the less a parent should not outlive their child. There is no pain such as this.I wish you strength and faith.The missing part of your heart will always be there.
Lois Oye
September 5, 2016
I am so very sorry for the loss of your precious daughter. The obituary you wrote for her was beautiful, and I learned from it. May you and your family find peace and strength in the days to come.
mary
September 5, 2016
My mother suffered from mental illness. She committed suicide in 2012. I wish I wrote her obituary with such honesty.

My heartfelt condolences and prayers to the family and friends of Kathleen.
Stephanie B
September 5, 2016
Dear Schoener family - your daughter was beautiful. Thank you for sharing her with those who did now know her.
Carol
September 5, 2016
I am so very sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you and your family. Thank you for you moving message.
Stephanie P
September 5, 2016
A special thank you to Katie's family for having the courage to tell such a truth.

My condolences.

Love,
A mom who has battled depression, anxiety, and an eating disorder since childhood.
September 4, 2016
My heart and prayers go out to you and your loved ones during this difficult and tragic time. I have never met you or Katie, but I learned about this beautiful obituary through Facebook. As someone who has struggled with depression since 2006, I have often found it difficult to speak to people about my illness due to the stigma and ignorance that surrounds it. Thank you for what you have written, thank you for helping to dispel the negativity surrounding mental illness, thank you for helping us. May the Lord bless you and keep you.
Rebecca Leigh
September 4, 2016
My deepest condolences to your family. I appreciate and applaud your understanding of mental illness. It is a battle every day. Not everyone is able to win that battle. Thank you for pointing this out even as you face an unfathomable loss.
Lydia Kaap
September 3, 2016
Such a beautiful message. Thank you so much for writing this. Katie was incredibly fortunate to have such a loving family as you all.
September 2, 2016
I'm so sorry for your loss. A friend shared this on Facebook and I was touched by what you wrote about who Katie was as a person, and how that is separate from the illness she lived with. I'm 28 and a graduate of OSU, and am in grad school now. It makes my heart heavy to think of a young woman around my age who went to OSU also, and her life ending early. I pass so many students by on campus everyday and you never know what your classmates' lives are really like. But, I'm sure she was not alone in her struggles. I have definitely struggled with depression and anxiety over the years and it's so important for people to know mental illness is way more common than you would think. Thank you for sharing Katie's story so that others can learn and also know they aren't alone if they are experiencing something similar.
Hannah
September 2, 2016
praying for all your friends and family members praying for peace faith and happiness and joy healing is a process that God will help you through amen
Mrs laura rogers 425 east 102nd st apt 5D
September 2, 2016
From the child of a mother who lost her fight with bipolar disorder in 1996, thank you. As an adult living with this illness, thank you.

I did not know Katie, but I believe the world has lost a little of its light now that she is gone.
Melissa Small
September 2, 2016
We wish you peace and love as you mourn the loss of your beautiful daughter Katie. Thank you for the special message to everyone about the heroic people who live with a brain illness. Your words will help to end the stigma. Pat & Kathy Roche
September 1, 2016
I am so sorry for your family's loss, Katie is is at peace now and forever in your hearts, watching over you. The words you wrote about her are so beautiful and brave, and so very true. Thank you for taking the time to share her story, you have touched many hearts.
Beth
September 1, 2016
I did not know your daughter but I know her story. Suffering from clinical depression and severe anxiety, I can feel her pain and yours. Thank you for putting this out there. It cannot help her now, but it might help others. God Bless Katie and your family. I hope she has found peace now.
Debra Geiger
September 1, 2016
Good morning,

I don't know you, nor did I know Katie, but I felt the need to reach out to you after seeing an article posted to Facebook by a local news station.

Nine months ago today I lost a friend to his battle with bipolar type 2. He was very much like your Katie: intelligent, successful, accomplished, well-loved by all who knew him, compliant with his treatment and medications, yet still unable to beat his illness.

I just want to extend my condolences to all of you, to everyone that Katie left behind, and I also want to thank you for the amazingly profound words you wrote regarding mental illness. There is still far too much that we don't know and may never understand, but your eloquent words are an excellent start.

Again, I'm so very sorry for your loss, and hope you all find peace following such a tragedy.

Love,
Erin
Erin
September 1, 2016
So sorry for your loss. Words cannot explain how this mental illness has affected so many others. She is a beautiful girl and had her whole life a head of her. May the Lord comfort your and family members.
Darlene
August 28, 2016
My heart feels everything you are feeling. My son was diagnosed with bipolar disorder and had his 1st psychotic break after serving 6 years in the navy on a submarine. His 4th suicide attempt was successful on May 29,2015. I wish I could tell you it does get easier but there will always be a hole in your hearts. He was 31 when he ended his life.My husband and I are also Catholics and we will pray for your family.Faith is the only way we made it through this. If you every want to reach out to me please feel free at 512-905-9944. Dale
No parent should have to bury a child. Worse pain ever, but until you have been through it, you really can't understand how others feel. I felt like you nailed my feeling about this disorder perfectly.
Dale
August 25, 2016
Beautifully stated. I'm so sorry for your loss. No parent should have to lose their child. The words that you shared about her life are truly compassionate and offer healing to pain that often remains silent. Thank you, and thank God for giving you insight that can help being peace to others.
Sarah B
August 24, 2016
So sorry for your loss. When our youngest daughter was in grade 12 she attempted suicide. Fortunately she wasn't successful. We got her the help she needed. She has now been diagnosed with Border line personality disorder. So much needs to be done getting rid of the stigma of mental illness. Every day our family works to get rid of the stigma by talking about mental illness
I admire your courage by talking so openly about your daughter. Maybe one day mental illness will be as accepted as cancer.
Talk care
Pat Boden
Peachland BC Canada
Pat Boden
August 24, 2016
I am so sorry for your loss of such a beautiful woman. Her beautifully written obituary is something that should be published widely. Many members of my family have and do suffer bi-polar disorder and other types of depression. My heart goes out to her and to all of her family. God Bless you all.
MaryEllen Gibbons-Mize
August 23, 2016
I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending prayers, peace, and love.
Esmeralda Cotton
August 23, 2016
Katie is a beautiful, beautiful girl....I am so sorry for your tragic loss. Your honesty is a breath of fresh air. Our children are wonderful and brilliant and sensitive and amazing and kind.....they also happen to be dealing with mental health elements. Those who do not have these elements in their world, have no idea of the daily struggle...we have learned to separate our children from their disease. God bless your family and I believe your Guardian Angel, Katie, will be at your side daily to ease your pain.
Donna McTear
August 23, 2016
I am so very sorry we have lost another to this illness. It is a brain illness, just as physical as Alzheimer's or Epilepsy. There is a lot of science on it, just not enough it seems to break the stigma as well as getting us more effective treatments.

I pray you will be comforted in the knowledge that you will see her smiling face again, yet free of this illness. I pray your temporary separation from her becomes tolerable through the comfort of the Holy Spirit and those who care for you.
Julie C
August 22, 2016
Thank you so much for sharing this. We need more people discussing the realities of struggling with a mental illness and, just as you say, empathy that it can be as difficult, painful, and sometimes terminal as any other serious illness.

I am bipolar and it's a constant battle. People have a difficult time understanding how I struggle, and the horrible pain of depressive episodes or cycling so much that my thinking is only realistic when I have some stability, on meds and the challenge to even getting stable enough to mimic a decent life at least, for a while.

We need to break through the stigma. Most People are afraid of the term. They usually conjure images of people being psychotic, running through the streets, naked. They don't realize the many, different facets of BP.

I hope the discussion continues.
Miss K
August 21, 2016
My heart was aching when I read the beautiful obituary that you wrote for your daughter. After 2 suicide attempts my daughter was diagnosed with bipolar illness 4 1/2 yrs ago. She is a beautiful young lady inside and out but I have seen her struggle. I worry about her everyday. She has a great therapist and medication that gets adjusted. I pray that the stigma changes and they can find better treatment or cure for mental illnesses. I will pray for your family
August 20, 2016
I feel you pain..I'm so sorry! My daughter diagnosed out of the blue...we will fight harder for our children mental illness is not something you know until it hits you square in the face...
August 20, 2016
Dear Shoener Family, My heart aches for each of you. I read the Washington Post article, and by reading Katie's obituary, it is obvious that she was a very bright, beautiful, loving young woman. I am 55 years old, and for the past 30 years I have suffered from anxiety and depression, so I have some idea of Katie's pain & suffering. Thank you, Ed, for your honest, forthright obituary. You, your wife, and sons will be in my thoughts & prayers. Take comfort in knowing that is Katie now at peace. God Bless-you have my sympathy.
Ann Garmager
August 20, 2016
Thank you for sharing this. I too suffer from mental illness. Bipolar to be exact. I had a plan today to take my life as I feel hopeless in fighting.
Meds everyday for the past 15 years trying to manage and they can't seem to get it right.
I also have a great therapist, but it gets old having to ask for help and support so often.
The suicidal thoughts linger because you feel as if you become a burden.
I'm sorry for your loss. She seemed like a very special person.
Laura Miller
August 20, 2016
I am so sorry for your loss. There are tears in my eyes as I send you this message. I too battle bipolar disorder every day. But I also strive to live each day to its fullest. May she have the peace now that she could not find in this life.
Kathy
August 20, 2016
I have bipolar disorder and am 22 years old. I was diagnosed last year but have struggled since 14. I wish I had known Katie, because our stories are incredibly similar. I love God with all my heart, as Katie did. I struggle every day and the stigma behind bipolar holds me back from getting all the support I need. Katie's life brought so much joy and learning to others and her passing has brought healing and hope to many. I think that's the best kind of life well lived, even though her pain was greater than she could bear.
August 20, 2016
I am so sorry for your loss. Your touching story about Katie's life and her struggle with bipolar disease has led me to reach out for help for the first time (I am 53). Katie's story has greatly impacted my life and the lives of many others that suffer from bipolar disease. May God bless and comfort your family.
Kathy Hansz
August 20, 2016
Alice Herrin
August 19, 2016
In 2000, my son Jason, took his life. He was 31. He too was bi-polar. It seemed that "The pain it took to hang on became great than the pain it took to let go". I feel you pain. God bless you
Lois Swartz
August 19, 2016
I read Kathleen's story & it brought me back to when I was a teen. I, too, suffered in silence my whole life. So much in common we had. I did same thing in high school with the pills and slashing, being on meds for yrs, therapists, nothing has helped with my disorder. I've been suicidal many times & I'm afraid that day will happen. I hope there's a cure before I give up the fight. I'm only 48. So sorry for your loss.I know exactly how she felt.
Andrea Morrow
August 19, 2016
my prayers to you and your family, may God comfort you. You have lived thru my greatest fear. My 21 year old daughter has been fighting bi-polar since she was 12. We have seen her thru suicide attempts, crippling depression, self harm, and hospitalizations, interspersed with periods of stability, joy and shining talent. My daughter is stable for now, but there is always the fear...I have shared your post with my friends and family, as you have so eloquently expressed what this is like. Thank you for sharing, and my deepest sympathies to you all.
susan
August 19, 2016
Your daughter sounds like an incredible human being. I applaud her strength and the strength your family has shown in supporting her in her battle against bipolar disorder. I am so grateful for the words you have written about the reality of mental illness. Thank you for your strength in writing those words and sharing them with the world.
August 19, 2016
I am so sorry for your loss. You have expressed what so many of us feel and know to be true. It is so important that it be heard. We are connected by a similar story, and I extend my deepest sympathy to you and your family. I will remember you and your beautiful daughter in my prayers.
Ann Marie
August 19, 2016
What a beautiful and well written tribute to your daughter. I lost my husband on 6/17/16 to suicide. He also suffered from bipolar disorder. I shared this on my FB page because I think so many people need to read this, and perhaps if they do and truly understand what you've laid out, in some small way it might begin to chip away at the stigma of mental illness. I have never understood why people treat those with mental illness differently than people with physical illness. Thank you for your insight. My prayers and thoughts go out to you and your family.
Jennifer Ginzinger
August 18, 2016
My sympathy goes out to you and your family. I lost my 34 yr. old son, Michael to suicide Sep. 30, 2004. The hole left in my heart will never heal. here are days I feel the pain of that day. My faith in Jesus Christ helps me every day. I became involved with the "Out of the Darkness Walks" to prevent suicide. Being a part of that organization has helped me a lot. You can find it online, American Foundation for Suicide Prevention. I am also on the Coalition to Prevent Suicide in Vermont. Twenty years I lived in PA, my son lived at Lake Wallenpaupack. I wish you well and prayers and thought.
Betty Barrett
August 18, 2016
So Sorry for the loss of your beautiful Daughter Katie. Thank you for sharing your Thoughts , I too lost my son to suicide, miss him so much. God Bless you and Katie and the family.
Caroline Cooper
August 18, 2016
My deepest condolences upon the loss of your beautiful daughter. Thank you for your honesty in her obituary, she would be proud of your fight against the stigma of mental illness and suicide. I lost my 24 year old son two years ago to an undiagnosed bout of depression. We will see them again. Prayers to your family and for peace for your daughter.
T Dixon
August 18, 2016
I am so sorry for your loss and thank you for the service you performed by writing in the way that you did. It inspired hundreds of people to write comments, and reading the messages has helped me to feel not so alone. Our granddaughter is struggling with mental health problems and we are trying to learn how to help her and her family. God bless.
Jean
August 18, 2016
Thank you for allowing your daughter's precious life to shine a light on the tragedy of mental illness in all our families.
I appreciate your honesty and courage in the face of sorrow. I know she has been gathered in His endless tenderness and mercy.

Andi's Mom
Liz Balise
August 18, 2016
Our prayers to you and your family. We always feel so helpless when our child goes before we do.. I hope we can find a way to help everyone with this illness, no one should ever suffer in silence.. Our children are in heaven together.
DyAnn Hoppes
August 18, 2016
Please know that my heart goes out to Katie's family but especially it goes out to Katie herself. I too have a daughter who struggles with mental illness and thoughts of harm and feeling that we'd all be better of if she weren't around. It terrifies us but we keep a brave and loving face. I believe that nothing happens in God's world by mistake and that there is a reason for everything. I can only pray for the knowledge of His will here... I'm heartbroken and at a loss as to why.
Jim O'Brien
August 18, 2016
I am so sorry for your loss. I cried as I read your daughter's obituary. Your words were so close to my heart. I, too, have a life long mental illness of depression. Your words meant so much to me. Many people don't want to understand what we go through and don't really want to know. I hear from your words just how special Kathleen was/is. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Victoria
August 18, 2016
So very sorry for your loss. Words cannot express the depth of our sorrow for you. Losing a child has to such a devastating disease is beyond heartbreaking. Sending prayers for Katy, you and your family. God Bless you with peace and serenity.
Jessie Cermak
August 18, 2016
With respect and dignity may your beautiful and beloved Kathleen rest in peace. I too recently lost my son Mark to bipolar disease. Thank you, on behalf of all grieving parents whose beloved children struggle with mental illness, for writing so eloquently about the amazing gifts your daughter gave to her family and friends. And thank you, in your time of grief, to continue Kathleen's work on earth by touching lives of total strangers who understand.
Donna Goldstein
August 18, 2016
Suffering in Silence...Kathleens obituary is very powerful and it displays not only her battle with this disease but the whole families painful struggle in coping with this disease. I have loss many family and friends to suicide caused by a mental illness and frankly, no one wants to talk about it. Its shameful, your frowned upon,you are labeled as "being crazy". Well this is a very common illness that needs to be addressed and this obituary will hopefully sway people to open up and talk about this very serious illness before we lose more lives to this battle. I commend the Shoener family for disclosing to the public about Kathleens illness. Shes beautiful and has accomplished so much here.I pray that as unfortunate as this is that even now God is using this for a good divine purpose, to educate others to be compassionate...do not be quick to judge because it can happen to you or anyone. Thank you for sharing Kathleens memory and being so open. This is helping me heal and gives me hope to be there more for my daughter and to know that I am not alone in this battle. Im asking God to give me and everyone who needs it the grace to endure and one day overcome this common "silent killer" of a disease. May God shower you all with his comfort and strength knowing Kathleens not suffering anymore and that the way she left this earth is not in vain. There is a divine purpose and it started with Kathleens obituary.
August 18, 2016
God Bless you and your family. Thank you for making people aware. Your daughter is going to help so many people due to this and leave footprints on the hearts of others.
Maria Foster
August 18, 2016
My wife and I have a beautiful young son who has RAD and bipolar disorder and your thoughts as to how we need to view and treat people who suffer with mental illness are right on the mark. My sense is that Kathleen gave you and your wife moments of joy, true beauty and whimsy over the years that you will always carry with you. I pray that The Lord Jesus Christ keeps you and sustains you in the months and years to come and that He blesses you with beautiful memories of your daughter as you confront all the grief and suffering of her loss.
Steve
August 18, 2016
You don't know me, but I am affected I am also indirectly affected, and only can imagine what you went through. I can only pray you find peace knowing she no longer needs those cocktails, and stigmas. just hope for a cure I the future. And at the same time an inspiration to many, to try to win this horrible battle! May God heal you guys in all aspects of this!
August 18, 2016
May your faith help to ease the pain and may your beautiful memories comfort you during these difficult times. While we've never met, we are all one family and if one family hurts, so do we all. Sending you prayers always.
Phoebe Pearce
August 18, 2016
Expressed beautifully. I am sorry for your loss.
Kathryn Higgins
August 18, 2016
I am so deeply sorry for the loss of your daughter Katie. Your words honoring Katie really touched me. There are so few who try to understand how mental illness ravages a human being. My mom suffered for years, she lost her battle 8 years ago. Take with you the rest of your days the wonderful parents that you and your wife Ruth were to Katie, your compassion, your understanding, your support was your greatest gift to her. My sincerest condolences, God Bless you both.
Janien Perry
August 18, 2016
So sorry for your loss of your beautiful daughter. As a parent of a child with mental illness, I share your grief. How many times I have said, it would be easier if it were a different disease. There would be no stigma, better funding and more understanding. Thanks for speaking out- I will remember Katie and her family in my prayers.
Cathy K
August 18, 2016
I'm so sorry for your loss. I read the article that shared your obituary for your daughter, Kathleen. Thank you for sharing that. May your daughter rest in peace.
Jody Cordi
August 18, 2016
My deepest sympathies to you and your family, I sincerely hope she is at peace.
Karen B
August 18, 2016
God has a plan, and we must trust in His purpose for us on this earth. Your beautiful daughter will help so many people because your tribute to her will educate that our illness does not define us, instead our hearts and actions do. May God continue to wrap his loving arms around you and give you comfort and peace during this time.
Sarah Powell
August 18, 2016
Thank you for writing so openly about Katie's struggles with Bipolar disorder. My hope and prayer is that with words like yours, stigma will be broken down and the shame of fighting a mental illness will disappear.
Chris McCullough
August 18, 2016
I am so sorry for the loss of your daughter. Seeing what you have written, she will be remembered for much more than her illness.

"Having issues," or being anything less than perfect is a vulnerable topic. It scares people to think their thoughts, behaviors, or personalities have elements that they cannot control, so they mark it as scary or inappropriate to discuss. I pray that this one day changes and that those who suffer for mental illness can receive the additional support they so desperately need. Bless you.
Mitchell
August 18, 2016
I cried when I read this. I cried for your beautiful little girl. I cried for you and your family. And I learned something.My deepest condolences to all of you. God bless.
DJB
August 18, 2016
I am so very sorry for your loss. God bless .
Cindy
August 17, 2016
Mr Shoener, My heart aches for you and your family. My sister died after a valiant fight with bi polar also. Thank you so much for trying to educated people. Your courage at this time of profound pain is very brave. You are my hero.

Kelly, Arcadia, CA
Kelly H
August 17, 2016
My heart hurts for you, may you find peace in knowing she was a child of God
August 17, 2016
I just read about Katherine's story and the obituary her father wrote for her.
What a beautiful tribute to your daughter and her life. In your eloquent words may people see the need for change and may they help make that change. My thoughts are with your family
and with Katherine.
Laurie Mowat
August 17, 2016
I am so sorry to hear of Katie's death; just as I was so sad to hear of my brother Jonathan's death due to his schizoaffective disorder, last October. Mental illnesses are brutal diseases, affecting not only the person, but also everyone who loves that person. I hope for Katie and Jon that their diseases have now left them, and that they can rest easy.
Kitty Burns
August 17, 2016
In memory of a beautiful soul lost too soon.
Ev. M
August 17, 2016
You have my deepest respect for talking so openly about mental illness. You honor Kathleen's memory with your words. Being a parent of these beautiful children is so very hard. I offer my deepest condolences.
M P
August 17, 2016
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