Thomas Patrick Kilduff

"Coach has called his final play"

DALLAS — Thomas Patrick Kilduff, 68, a resident of Dallas, passed away peacefully, just before sunrise, Sunday, May 17, 2015, at home surrounded by his family.

Born in Kingston on Nov. 10, 1946, he was a son of the late Jane Lambert Delaney and Thomas E. Kilduff.

He was preceded in death by his son, Raymond Lawrence Kilduff, and his uncle, Lawrence "Buddy" Lambert.

Thomas was a graduate of Kingston High School, Kingston, class of 1964. He received his bachelor's degree from East Stroudsburg State College, in 1968, followed by his master's degree, from the same institution.

He began his professional career in the Dallas School District where he taught health and physical education for over 30 years. Tom was especially passionate about coaching and throughout his time at Dallas was the head coach of multiple sports. All of his student athletes were important to him, and he held them near and dear to his heart. He always wished the best for his players and for them to achieve success in life.

The ability to impact our youth in a positive manner, and pass on principles that they could apply to lessons later in life, is what led him to teaching and coaching. Tom was a firm believer in structured education, a value passed down from his mother. He considered "knowledge to be a priceless power." So strong were these beliefs that he enrolled in a study at the University of Pennsylvania to help researchers come up with a cure for the disease that ended his life.

Tom was an avid storyteller and his tales became legendary around the Back Mountain community. He loved to socialize with his friends while holding court at Three Guys. It was important to Tom to help people laugh and see the lighter side to life. People often commented that his smile was infectious. Some of his familiar quotes were "Smile, it's Free," and "Don't sweat the small stuff, and everything's the small stuff."

Tom also competed in local and state level golf tournaments and enjoyed teaming up with friends and family to play. For several decades, he coveted a win at Irem Temple Country Club's Potentate Golf Tournament. The crowning moment occurred in 2001 when he joined forces with his son, Lynn, to win the championship. It was a victory that carried a lasting memory, which he shared with his son and family.

Our father gave to everyone, yet his true passion was the Love of family and most of all, his children and grandchildren. He offered soft hands, strong shoulders, caring eyes and high expectations. He taught us that loyalty is not an option, it is required. He believed actions speak louder than words, and it is our actions that create true impact.

Finally, friendship, we are who we associate with, this is what made our dad so great. He associated with everyone and taught us to never burn a bridge; you never know when you may need it to cross. He believed family and friends are what makes life worth living and most of all, never, I mean never, judge another, for it is impossible to walk in another's shoes.

He was a selfless caring man and his impact will be with us for generations to come. He is a legend. The symbol that represents our father is the Claddagh; his tenants are love, loyalty and friendship. Whenever you see one, know that it is his Irish eyes smiling down on you.

He is survived by his children, Dr. Patrick Kilduff and his wife, Erin Burns Kilduff, Dallas, Jane Kilduff Molino and her husband, Michael Molino, Shavertown, Lynn Kilduff and his wife, Lynea Kilduff, Dallas; and five grandchildren, Rory Mullin, Brayden Kilduff, Andrew Kilduff, Eva Kilduff and Alyssa Molino; his partner, Earlene Fernandes; her children, Danita, Dion and Darren; and her grandchildren, Skyla, Dacien, Failyn and Keenan.

The family wishes to thank Dr. John Carey who exceeded all expectations of a doctor and friend, you truly are a part of this family; you gave us light during our darkest days. Dr. Saidman, you helped him navigate through difficult waters. We appreciated your research, time and efforts in devising his treatment plan. He thought you were a real mensch. Also, thanks to Marianne Yannik and Hospice of the Sacred Heart for comforting us during this difficult time.

Private funeral services will be held at the convenience of the family. Friends may call 4 to 7 p.m. Thursday at the Harold C. Snowdon Funeral Home Inc., 140 N. Main St., Shavertown.

In lieu of flowers, contributions can be made to the Prescription Assistance Fund at Medical Oncology Associates, Kingston; or take the time to teach a child a sport, preferably golf.