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Joel Graves Obituary

Joel Graves

Burkburnett - Joel T. Graves, beloved husband and father, musician, minister, and servant of our Lord Jesus Christ, passed away peacefully on Tuesday, February 2, 2021 at the age of 82, surrounded by loved ones.

Joel was born in Mexia, Texas on November 18, 1938 to the loving parents of HB and Roxie Lucille Carroll Graves, who preceded him in death. He was also preceded in death by his brothers, Carroll and Hillary Graves.

Joel graduated in 1956 from Denver City High School, Denver City, Texas and continued on to Oklahoma Baptist University. In his first semester at OBU, he met Martha Bell Dyke. She became the love of his life, and they married at First Baptist Church, Walters, Oklahoma in 1958. He graduated from OBU in 1963 with a BA in Music Education. Joel and Martha faithfully loved each other for sixty-two years.

Joel is survived by Martha, his devoted wife; his brother, Jerel Graves and wife Carolyn; and by their children, Kathy Snyman and Gene; David Graves and Kelly; and Duane Graves and Alysa. Together, their children blessed them with twelve grandchildren, Michael Snyman, Angela Snyman Schmidgall and Sean, Daniel Snyman and Sarah, Marissa Graves Lee and Jesse, Benton Graves, Timothy Snyman, Esther Graves, Kristen Graves, Teresa Snyman, Brianna Graves Morton and Spencer, Ava Graves and John Snyman; and four great-grandchildren, Gabriel, Raphael, and Nathaniel Schmidgall, and Claire Lee.

Joel had a strong call to serve within the church, and his love and joy for Jesus was expressed through worship by sharing the song in his heart. He was a gifted baritone and musician, and an industrious teacher and leader; yet Christ-like compassion was his specialty. Joel's full-time ministry lasted forty-five years. He faithfully served in thirteen churches within the Southern Baptist Convention, in seven states, primarily as a minister of music, youth, and education. His places of full-time service included First Baptist Churches of Walters and of Guthrie, Oklahoma; of Burkburnett and of Monahans, Texas; and Calvary Baptist Church of McAllen, Texas.

In every place he served, Joel invested in the lives of the area youth and fought against racial and economic barriers by encouraging all area teenagers into the fellowship of the youth group. He felt a special calling to pour Christ's love into the lives of troubled teens, by which he became father to the fatherless and influenced many lives. In the later years of his ministry he served senior adults, bringing lightsome Christian joy to countless lives.

When he sang, he sang to the Lord, and brought others to the foot of the throne of God with his always joyous music. His life was painted on too large a canvas for us to understand, but God is there, and now he is with his God.

The family will receive friends between 6:30 p.m. to 8:00 p.m. Thursday, February 11, 2021 at Owens & Brumley Funeral Home in Burkburnett. Celebration services will be at 1:00 p.m. on Friday, February 12, 2021 at First Baptist Church of Burkburnett. Joel will be laid to rest with the family in Walters Cemetery, Walters, Oklahoma. Arrangements are under the direction of Owens & Brumley Funeral Home in Burkburnett.

In Lieu of flowers, please send donations to Baptist Home for Girls, 13976 Anthony Lane, Madill, Oklahoma 73446.

Condolences may be sent to the family at www.owensandbrumley.com

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Published by Times Record News from Feb. 4 to Feb. 9, 2021.

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Phil and Laverne Webb

May 17, 2022

We were blessed to sing in Joel’s choir in McAllen Calvary Baptist Church! God bless Martha and the family!!! Love, Phil and Laverne Webb

Charles Stout

May 30, 2021

Loved singing in the "Singing Saints" with Joel! Joel was a great singer and leader. Loved Joel's selection of songs and music that we sang! Sorry to hear of Joel's passing. Now he can sing for all eternity! Praise the Lord for Joel!

Peggy S and Gerald Wetle

May 30, 2021

Sadly, we just learned of the Joel's passing. Our sincere sympathy and thoughts are of Martha and family. We are members of Lakeside Baptist Church in Granbury, TX., where we had the pleasurer of knowing Joel and Martha. I was in the senior choir ministry Joel started, which was such wonderful ministry. We will always have wonderful memories of this very special man. Love and God Bless,
Peggy and Jerry Wetle

Fred McPhail

February 13, 2021

Some of the best days of my life were working and serving with Joel I have so many good memories working with Joel and our young people and driving Big Red and singing in the choir. Joel and I were so close I will never forget those days. May God bless you Martha. Fred and Carolyn McPhail

Herschel Alan Weisfeld

February 12, 2021

My thoughts and prayers are with the entire Graves family. May his memory be for a blessing to all!!

Deborah (Roth) Hillner

February 10, 2021

Mr. Graves was a wonderful inspiration to me as a teenager at First Baptist Church in Burkburnett Because of him , I went in in life to become a Soeech Pathilogist and have devoted my life to helping others in need Also,my oldest son is now a preacher helping others
Mr Graves will always be in my memory.
May God send his angels to comfort you in this time.

Andrea (Orman) Salter

February 8, 2021

Joel Graves was my first Youth and Music Minister in ~1972 at First Baptist Church in Burkburnett, Texas. I was in 6th grade. He was humble, genuine, loving, gentle, passionate, and always active in introducing our youth to our first choir tours, evangelism conferences, backyard Bible schools, and other local Christian opportunities for ministry.

His daughter, Kathy, was a best friend and still is 50 years later. I am so grateful to their family for letting me know I was loved and valuable. Their home was always opened graciously.

For over 45 years, I have been in constant Christian service as a church pianist, worship minister, singer, children’s choir pianist, choir member, and worker on interim mission trips. Currently, I am a piano teacher and 8:30 AM piano accompanist at First Baptist Church (downtown San Antonio) every Sunday morning, with my family providing special music and stringed-accompaniment.

I have never been tired or bored with service to God. It is as thrilling, welcomed, and inspiring, as the first time to which it was introduced to me and visibly and authentically lived by Joel and Martha. I will eternally be grateful to God for interweaving the paths of our lives.

Many years ago, a faithful light of love for God was shined, and it has continued to burn brightly in my heart! Now, it continues to be ablaze in the hearts and lives of my five children and their spouses! To God be the glory! Bless the Lord, oh my soul, and all that is within me, bless His Holy Name!

Lakeside Baptist

February 4, 2021

Joel was a relentless servant here at Lakeside Baptist Church serving in whatever capacity needed. He was our Senior Adult Minister from 2002 – 2011. His absence has been greatly felt since he and Martha moved to be closer to their family. Prayers go out to Joel's family and loved ones.

Bill and Nancy Brimberry

February 4, 2021

Praying for you, Martha and all your family in the passing of your beloved Joel. He was well loved and a wonderful blessing to us through his ministry at Calvary Baptist Church. Bill and Nancy Brimberry

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Kathy Callaway

February 4, 2021

What would I like to say about Joel? There’s not enough room in any book to put into words about him. He was and always will be the most special Music Minister, friend, second father, mentor and encourager I’ve ever known. He was just so special to Mike and me, and our kids, during his time at Calvary Baptist. I’ll never forget him. He was a rare jewel, and now he’s singing with the angels. God needed a good baritone in His heavenly choir, and He’s got one now. Goodbye our dear friend, but we will see you again some day. I’ll be anxiously waiting to play the piano for you again. Love to Martha. He was truly one of a kind.

Patricia Thompson Cates

February 4, 2021

My heart is broken hearing about Joel's passing. He and Martha meant the world to me. I am so grateful for all the wonderful memories I have of him at CBC McAllen. He loved the Lord and used his voice to sing of God's goodness. I especially remember our trips to Waco for training workshops with children's choir. They welcomed me into their loving home and made me feel like family. I thank God for bringing Joel and Martha into my life. Prayers for Martha and his children and grandchildren. God bless.

Gwen and Wayne Hodges

February 3, 2021

Condolences to all who loved him. We are so sorry for your loss but know
Joel is singing with the angels in Heaven now. Love to all.

Pam & Richard Thompson

February 3, 2021

We are so very sorry to hear of Joel’s passing. I have such wonderful memories of Joel’s time at Calvary as our Minister of Music. He was such a great guy and served the Lord with all his heart. Much love and prayers to you and the family.

Clinton Seal

February 3, 2021

Great memories of Joel at Cavalry Baptist in McAllen.

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