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Kenneth P. Wilcox

Kenneth Wilcox Obituary

COLONIE Det. Kenneth P. (K-Will) Wilcox, 39, died suddenly on April 26, 2006. Survivors include his daughter, Phiana Wilcox of Colonie; parents, Raymond Wilcox Sr. and Sarah Wilcox, both of Albany; wife, Phillippa Garland-Wilcox of Colonie; in-laws, Benjamin and Jeanette Garland; brothers, Raymond Wilcox Jr. (Amani Browne) of Troy, N.Y., Ricky Wilcox of Saratoga, N.Y.; sisters, Carolyn Paschal of Albany, N.Y., Amy Wilcox of Opelika, Ala.; niece, Raynika Wilcox of Troy; nephews, Denzel Paschal of Albany, Jalen Wilcox of Troy; grandparents, David Horne and the late Susie Horne and the late Simpson and Lacy Paschal. Also survived by a host of aunts, uncles, nieces, nephews, sisters and brothers-in-law; and other relatives and friends. Funeral service 12 noon Monday at the Palace Theatre, 19 Clinton Ave. Relatives and friends are invited and may call at the Palace Theatre on Monday 9:00 a.m. - 12 noon. Following the services, the Wilcox family and Police Officers Union cordially invites you to celebrate Ken's life with a Repast at the New Scotland Ave. Armory, 130 New Scotland Ave. Interment in Graceland Cemetery. In lieu of flowers, the family request contributions to the trust fund of Phiana Wilcox at the Key Bank.

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Published by Albany Times Union from Apr. 28 to Apr. 29, 2006.

Memories and Condolences
for Kenneth Wilcox

Sponsored by Christine Shannon, Massachusetts, a friend.

559 Entries

Bridgette Davis

June 5, 2020

With the state the world is in right now. I'm Missing You and the way you were able to calm a storm my friend

Princess Danni

October 30, 2017

When someone you love becomes a memory, that memory becomes a treasure. May that wonderful treasure fill your heart with love and bring you a measure of peace. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

1 Thessalonians 4:13,14 ❤

Denzel Paschal

August 5, 2014

I love you uncle... If only rip means return if possible...

Linda carr

October 13, 2012

Missing you as always

Linda Carr

October 13, 2012

it's been six years K-wil since you left us and not still now could I write on here. I cant explain how much I miss you and your calls every day to say hello. Thanks for the birthday party you give me with my daughter months before you pass. I haven't been able to celebrate my birthday since, without you it is not the same. See you on the other side one day my friend. Always in my heart forever....

Tia Wilson-Carrington

June 19, 2012

I miss you too K. At times I find myself looking out from my alcove and imagine you coming out your front door. You were not only a friend, but also family.

Martica Howard

June 18, 2012

I miss you SO MUCH cuz. They say times heals but I don't believe it we just learn to tolerate what happens. You were the best big cousin ever!

princess

December 14, 2010

Thinking of you Kenny, still see your smile and hear your laughter. Long before you had a career you were just Kenny I remember those days. Life was fun and simple. I will see you again one day, until then I know my son Shawn is in good company.

Princess

Martica Howard

February 27, 2010

Good Morning Cousin,
As usual your on my mind. I know your just sliding around Heaven with a smile on your face. Oh how I miss you so! Oh how I miss you so! I just wanted to tell you, but for some reason I think you already know!

Roy Gows

September 2, 2009

3 Years have past and still can't believe your gone.... Miss you Det. Kenneth Wilcox Albany Police Dept 4/28/06 !!!!!
The last time we talk we spoke about retirement just letting you know I will be turning in the badge it's time... The only problem is at my retirement party my friend won't be there.

Kewanda Reid

July 2, 2009

Miss you, Miss you, Miss you.... What else to say!

Stepfanie Collins

December 17, 2008

To: Phi

Happy Sweet 16, I know your dad is looking down on you and knowing that you are represeting him. Keep doing what you do, and make the family proud!

joey nick

December 16, 2008

merry xmass k miss the times we used to have this time of year rip...

August 23, 2008

i met when i was very very young cuz but know i am older i i met u again going home and i will meet u again on the other side, see you when i get there.

Martica Howard

August 16, 2008

Hey Cous...

Whats up..I miss you so darn much...Words cannot express what I feel at times. We grew up together and shared something that no-one could quite understand. They say time heals all, but my heart is still heavy particularly at this moment. Just wanted to drop by and say I love you......

BRIDGETTE DAVIS

July 24, 2008

hope all is well up there K. miss you BRIDGETTE

Raymond wilcox

April 25, 2008

K-Will, continue to rest in peace, we still loving you, still missing you and someday we will see you again....love you bro and still missing your jokes!!! your brother, ray

anonymous --

January 21, 2008

i didn't know kenneth but i know his daughter and she is such a lovely girl, she always has a smile on her face! :)

Latisha McGhee

December 25, 2007

Morning Big 'K"

Merry Christmas

I so wanted to pick up the phone a few minutes ago to call you and say Merry Christmas to ya. It took me a second to realize why I could not call you. Wow, still makes me numb to think about all this. I had to give you a shout out today and say you know that today we will miss your big head cracking on everyone......love ya cousin!!

Merry Christmas
Trish

September 26, 2007

Each life is a miracle that changes the world....and leaves it a better place than it was before. Honoring the life of someone very special who will always be remembered. Happy Birthday

Martica & U'Syi

September 21, 2007

Hey Couz,

I miss you all so much! Sometimes I think about how you use to DJ in the backyard on Livingston Ave and I use to look out the back porch window at you and your friends. Then I think about the time when daddy had you and Ronnie in the car and you guys were both in the back seat with black hoodies on and the cops pulled him over stating that he looked suspicious.LOL
Whow, life is crazy. Life is different without you. I love you couz, but I keep reminding myself that God loved you best. I know you and grandma are having a good ole time. It's funny because U'Syi will say mommy I saw Uncle Kenny and it will be at a time when I least expect. I know your still around. May you Rest in Peace. Until we meet again!

Love,
Martica & U'Syi

Dion Ferguson

August 10, 2007

It has been some time since I have been here and I guess I'm still thinking about the good times we had. YOU ARE MISSED MY BROTHER!
God Bless You and Yours.
You still bring a smile to my face. Always my Friend K-will.

Colyn

June 27, 2007

Better late than never as they say. With that said Kenny(K-Will)I will be home to see you,say my formal farwell & offer as many prayers as possible,I will celebrate your LIFE at your side when I arrive,do'nt mind me. K Will your passing still comes as TOTAL SHOCK w/ as much disbelief as one can imagine. I pray & am 100% sure that your family is doing better. To that end I say to the FAMILY, thank you each for sharing Kenneth P. Wilcox (aka (K - WIll). "K Will" will be missed EVERMORE. Though we all have tried there is not enough words to express a loss of this magnitude. Man, May GOD BLESS your spirit more as you watch over your FAMILY and FRIEND'S.

PS: In Life we run across people that you cannot say a cross word about. To All, K Will fits the bill. Nary a cross word, that is true; can be said about & some live a life time trying to achieve that. K Will did it for 39 years. Respectfully and always your friend, Colyn

Roy Gows

June 24, 2007

Whats up Ken,
Well still keeping it moving here in Boston I just wanted you to know that I met your family your mom and brother a few months ago. I was in D.C. last month to pay my respects to you , Ken I got to say seeing your name on the wall was hard for me writing to you in this book is hard also because this is not the way I picture what life had in store for you. To Soon way TO SOON! I miss you until we meet again you take care.

Donnell (Larry) Middleton

June 16, 2007

Happy Father's Day Little brother
things are not the same without you here

Claudia DeCastro

June 14, 2007

Happy Father's Day. I know you'll be missed.

Christine Shannon

June 13, 2007

It has taken me til now to write you. I have never been one to keep it together during difficult times. You know I am crazy...but you always said I am the good kind of crazy. I love you for that and so many other reasons. I am guilty of trying not to think of you too much because it hurts. But you are always on my mind. Remember that time we were talking on the Hotline :) lol...I love you Kenneth.

Kelly P

June 13, 2007

Sometimes the office could use your sense of humor! You always had a way of making it funny and that is what I miss the most!

CHRISTINA SAMMONS-BIRT

June 12, 2007

To the wilcox family,
I got to know K-WILL through my husband Tweet he always said he was a great man. I am sure he was. He knew how to give respect and get respect to all of the people of the city. I send my blessings to K-Will and all the other loved ones that have left us. May God Bless you all.

raymond wilcox

May 23, 2007

whatsup k, seems like we made our finale public tribute to you in albany and it was nice, so was D.C, and for me it still dont seem real at times but i know we got to keep it moving but the love will always be there for you, love you bro, ALWAYS...R.I.P.

Kewanda reid

April 27, 2007

Hey Kenneth,
Its been a year and I still think of you every day. I miss you and I know that you are in a better place. God bless you

Crystal Coleman

April 26, 2007

Missing you always.

Tia Carrington

April 26, 2007

Hey Kenny--You are still loved and missed by everyone.

The Carrington and Wilson Families

raymond wilcox

April 26, 2007

hey k, cant believe its been a year that you passed but its real and everyday your in my every thought....man, its still hard but R.I.P. Kenny, your still loved by all....love RAY JR.

Kelly Parker

April 26, 2007

Today, I cry! I cry for Phianna and for your family and friends! I cry for you! I cry because so many people (including myself) never got to say goodbye! I cry because we miss you! I cry because life is so short and it goes by soo quick and you just never know when your time will come!

We all miss you today and always!

Claudia

April 25, 2007

Its a year and its still unbelievable. i know you're smiling down at your friends and family. you're very missed by everyone.

Kelly Parker

April 20, 2007

Hey K,
I cannot believe its coming up!!!! Its seems like just yesterday you were here and we were talking and laughing. I was out on maternity leave when you left us and I am sorry that I never got that one last laugh and smile. I miss you!

Samantha Adams

April 13, 2007

Hey you...

You know me, when the tears start flowing i have to come by and write to manage a smile :o)

You know there's almost an everyday event that makes me want to write you.

Well today it's Mariah Carey's "One Sweet Day" and "Without You". I'm listening and you came to mind.

Just wanted to share, God Bless You Kenny!

Always...

Kewanda Reid

March 31, 2007

Hey!
Almost a year, and still it seems like yesterday. I still think of you everyday and think to myself....why Kenneth. I know you are watching over all of your loved ones and awaiting the day to re-unite with them all. I miss you so mcuh. Again, you were and are truly a blessing...
Kewanda

Claudia

March 28, 2007

Hey K-Will - its so amazing how often people are still putting their thoughts to you in this manner. I think its fantastic. I've been bugging Kelly for weeks to get me the date of the NYS Police Memorial so that I can be a part of the ceremony that will honor you in the way you so rightfully deserve. So, on May 22 I'll be one of the many thousands there to honor you. Potta - if you read this my thoughts and prayers are with you and the family every day.

Samantha Adams

March 27, 2007

Hey you, it's me...

Almost a yr, it really amazes me.

Been thinking about next month and how all the memories will come flooding back...I remember the morning Cliff told me you were gone. I looked at him like what are you talking about...who? He had to say it a couple of times although i knew i heard him the first time.

Just thought i'd come by to write down my thoughts, chat soon!

Martica

March 7, 2007

Hey Couz as we would all say to one another. I can remember where we were as a family last year at this time. Yet about to embrace a lost of our dear aunt pinky. Thinking back I can remember the laughs at Trish's house with us all talking about your beatuiful home and its wonderful counter tops, yeah you thought I forgot about those. Anyway the heavy burden I once carried around on my heart has now been lifted. I am able to smile and laugh about all the times we've shared together as family. I am so gratful to have been bless with you in my life. I would not trade a day, conversation or disagreement that we shared for anything. I truly love you for all that you were to me and still are. U'Syi and I pray for you each night and speak of you often. He is becoming quite a wise little toddler, and I am so proud of him. I often think about what you are doing since you are in a worry free Kingdom. With all that said, I love you couz from the depths of my heart I love you. Keep shining down upon us.

Frank Graham

March 4, 2007

K-Will,

I've been out-of-touch w/ Albany but I recall my better yrs were spent w/ the likes of you and our teenage friends/teamates...thru sports we grew stronger...your spirit is w/ all of us. You are a true falcon above us all now forever man!

Samantha Adams

February 28, 2007

Hey Kenny...

It's so crazy that almost my everyday life reminds me of you.

Today I'm at work and gathering info on someone named Wilcox, I just had to write. If i wrote everytime you came across my mind the guest book would be filled with all of my entries :o)

I miss you so much, it's crazy and this is the only way to wipe the tears away, is to write to you.

I went over 90 as i do daily...thought about you as i do daily but i was thinking how i can't believe you've been gone so long and still trying to fathom why with so much left undone.

I know i can't question the Great One, so i will continue to think happy thoughts of you and write to deal with the loss of you.

Luv you always!

Samantha...

bridgette davis

February 23, 2007

Hey, K-wil
I have been thinking about you so much, I truly hope all is well and that you are shining down on us, being our conscience when we are about to make a mistake. Thank you for being apart of our lives. It only seems like yesterday we were all hanging out on 1st st. U-R TRULY MISSED MY FRIEND - LUV YA BRIDGE

Kewanda Reid

January 3, 2007

Happy New Year!

It has been a while, but I havent forgotten you. I think of you every day, and how my life has changed. I was just thinking how we get together during the holiday season to do something. Whether you come to Utica or I meet you in Albany, it has always been a pleasure for the last 6 years.

Thanks for all your help. (I finally got that position in the DC firm). I miss your presence so much and it is still hard to understand, but I know God has a reason for everything and I guess your job here was done, and well done it was. Kenneth, Kenneth, Kenneth... What more can I say. Besides the tears there is not much I can do. Miss you and I know GOD has you. Until we meet again.

Well done my brother, well done....

Samantha Adams

December 25, 2006

MERRY CHRISTMAS K-Will...

Hello Darlin'...When i woke up this morning, i thought of my grandson and how grateful i was to have all of my family around me...and you.

I thought of Phiana who will wake up this morning and not have her Dad to kiss her and say Merry Christmas to her...i thought of how your Mom and family will not see you walk thru the door with that great smile saying Merry Christmas.

Potta, you've been having such a hard time in your life going thru so much, i wish i could carry some of your burden for you...always know that i'm here.

Kenny it's been months since you left us and it still doesn't seem real to me. I'll luv you always and i'll never forget.

Roy Gows

December 3, 2006

Ken, this is Roy, Ive been calling trying to reach you, we were planning that trip that you and I had talked about. When I couldnt reach you I just said he's just busy doing his thing he'll get with us later, because for the past 10 yrs that what we did. When I kept calling and did not hear from you I called APD I felt something was not right it was not like you not to ever return a call.
Man you must know as strong as we try to be I could not hold it together. Im still sitting here not fully believing that my friend is gone. I feel I should have called more because with our profession we both knew tomorrow was not promised. I will not say goodbye I'll just say see you when I get there. REST MY FRIEND REST.

Martica Howard

November 6, 2006

Hey Cous,

The other day a few of us sat around and laughed about how funny you are. We were laughing as if you were in the room. Your great spirit was there with us. I would have never thought I could sit and actually laugh, but I can. I thank God for the time he allowed you to be part of my life. I thank God for you "K". You were not only my cousin but my brother, our memories on Livingston ave will never be forgotten. I often wonder what you are doing yet lone thinking. I know there are many times you say "whow" they are still crazy. I just wanted to say hi cous...and to remind you that, there is not a day that goes by I do not think of you. Sometimes when I think I got it bad, I think of you. You paved the way for me and my family Kenny and I Love You Cous!

bridgette davis

September 29, 2006

I'm sending a B-day shout to ya K - miss ya love ya - hope your'e keeping the peace up there. I know a few of our friends are glad to see a familiar face ready to provide a funny story or sound advice. The time is really passing but I want you to know that I think of you all the time and I'm truly glad to say you were(are) my friend and family. To Uncle David,Martica,Cousin Betty,Cousin Tenika and Ray - May God continue to provide comfort at your loneliest moments - trust in him always.
Potta and Phi - May God bless you both with nothing less than beautiful moments to reminence over.
R.I.P. K-WIL - Bridgette

Tia (Wilson) Carrington

September 26, 2006

Happy 40th Birthday Kenny! I made a note on every calendar I own reminding me to write today. I recently heard a saying that makes me think of you. It says something like; When you look at someone's grave site and see the born and departed dates, it makes you wonder why some are taken so soon. What we need to concentrate on is not the few years within those dates, but the dash in between. That dash indicates how much living there was within those years. You certainly lived a wonderful, fulfilling life. Now when I get sad thinking about how soon you left here, I think about that little saying that says so much. I'm trying to get to that point, like you, where I'm living more, doing more, smiling and laughing more. That's what makes a full life...

raymond wilcox

September 26, 2006

kenny, happy 40th birthday bro....each day and each hour i constantly have you on my mind, thinking of all the good times, thinking of what you would have been doing now, thinking of your jokes,thinking of you and phi hanging out, thinking of you playing with jay and raynika, jokes with denzel and carolyn, man i still can still hear you calling me saying, "yo, ray what you doin this weekend", i still can hear that, i see all the memories but these are the tough days we face, its hard but we'll get through this.... happy bithday kenny, today is dedicated to you....always, your brother Ray!

September 26, 2006

Happy 40th Birthday Kenny. There isn't a day that goes by that we don't hear a voice like yours, drive by a place that reminds us of you, catch a glimpse of someone that just for that spilt second we think, hey there's K-Will. We still check the plates of every black Escalade, hoping its you. But today we will think of you all day and thank God for bringing you to us 40 years ago. Happy Birthday!
Michele & John Teabout, Sr

Carolyn Paschal

September 26, 2006

To My Brother Kenny - On His 40th Birthday September 26, 2006
God made the determination that it was time for you to leave this earth, but you live on to be a guardian angel to all of us. When I see the sunset in the evening and as the moon begin emerging - Your present is felt. When I think of something funny you come to mind, because you were the one with all the jokes. I remember the good times and the bad, but mostly the good times. I remember the kind things you did to help others - always the helper - that your trademark. Detective Wilcox - what a great man.
I miss you , we miss you , you were a great man and loving father to your daughter, caring & understanding to your wife, great son to your parents, supportive brother to your siblings, great uncle to your nieces & nephews and wonderful to your family & friend.
I am please to have been a part of your life - to be your older sister was one of the best things in my life . Sleep on Kenny until we met again. All my love your sister Carolyn

Kelly Parker

September 26, 2006

K,
I just wanted to wish you a Happy 40th Birthday! Still in my thoughs, still in my prayers, until we meet again!

raymond wilcox jr

September 8, 2006

whatsup k, just had to write to let you know your steelers did it again....you would have loved it, thinking about you everyday, and last night watching the game it definetly wasnt the same, but i felt your presence last night....love you k, always!

Martica Howard

August 24, 2006

Hey Cous,

It truly amazes me how time flies. I feel like I just saw you yesterday smiling and always asking how are you "really doing" and I would always answer great and have to "Thank You" for being that person I needed in my life at the right time! You know how sometimes in life things fade away and you tend not to think about them for a day or so. There is not a day I do not think of you. Although I know you are in Heaven smiling and getting that much needed rest. We miss you. Please continue to look over us and take care of Grandma. When the day comes that our family reunites with you, there will be so many smiles and tears of joy. In the meanwhile K, we will continue to love and support one another as you would want.

Martica Howard

June 28, 2006

Dear: K

I am been attempting to write you for the past few days, but I somehow could not gather my thoughts. I miss you K!!!

Lately the days have been extremly long and I have been restless. There is no sense of peace in my life. I have so many questions, so many scenarios I play out in my mind. The constant thinking of "What If", "Only If". I know I cannot live my life that way. I ask that you help us stay together and love one another as we have been doing. Kenny I love you and I dream of the day we will meet again.

Bridgette Davis

June 28, 2006

K,

I just can't get you off my mind. I'm writing to say thank-you for looking down on us and allowing lost friends and relatives to connect again, I believe the majority of us(smurfs) have reconnected and it was all made possible because of you. And I hope we don't take this blessing you gave us for granted. I also pray that we will now realize how fragile and precious life is and begin to continue to reach out and pray for one another. I'm still praying for your elevation so when our time comes we can grab on to Yours and Reggie's hand. I miss you and Love You K.

bridge

Colyn

June 27, 2006

Rest in Loving Peace K-Will. As you cared for us down here in the physical, look after & enjoy your time with my son, C.D. Brace II (5/11/05);he is a joy. In due time we will meet again. God Bless. Your Friend Always.

Veronica Thomas

June 20, 2006

May GOD guide, bless, protect & strengthen you during your days of sorrow. Kenny was well-known & well-liked by MANY. I will keep the Wilcox family in my prayers. Potter, stay strong.

tony wilson

June 19, 2006

whats up k just sitting here thinking about you as i do everyday still trying to cope with not having you here but i just wanted to let you know that i love you k and i will never forget the good times we had thru the many years of our friendsip. its times when im home k you know i come and sit with you and talk about the good ol times, i will continue to do that because you are the best friend any man could ever have and i mean that.I was playing ball last week at the ymca and saw ray there it was really good to see him there i could still see the hurt in his eyes but he is hangin in there as im sure you already know.You know k its not a night that goes by that i dont miss you i just needed to write and let you know a few things and i will be talking to you soon.miss you and love you brother.

Samantha Adams

June 18, 2006

Hey Kenny...

Well everyone knew what a great, loving and supportive DAD you were...I want to say Happy Father's Day to you. I wish that you were here but everyone who knew you, knew how great you were. I can say that with a smile and mean it :o)

God Bless you K-Will, I love you!

Phiana...I know this Day is hard for you and I'm sure that you went out to visit your DAD today, my prayers are with you on this day...take care and God Bless!

Ms. Sarah...God Bless you honey, I know you know prayer, your in mine. Take care!

raymond wilcox

June 18, 2006

whatsup k, well u already know its still tough down here but i wanted to say happy fathers day, i know u and phi would have been doing something special....today was a long day thinking about you but i was able to laugh about some things i thought of(jokes), so i guess thats a start, right....its still hard but im still missing and loving you as a brother, ALWAYS KENNY!

Captian Kutz

June 12, 2006

May God bless you and your family.Thank you for your service in the protection of our safety.

Tracy

June 7, 2006

K - You are so missed! May you rest in peace.

Rev. Gertrude Harris

June 5, 2006

You are in my thoughts and prayers.

June 4, 2006

To K-Will,

I never will truly understand why you was taken from us so soon. You were truly an inspiration to me. No one can ever say you did not live life to the fullest! I always smile when I remember how you had everyone at my bday party in tears from all the jokes you kept cracking. You have touched and inspired so many lives along your way. I hope you are comforted and somewhere smiling knowing how big of an impact you had on so many people. You may not be here in person, but the memories you left behind will be cherished and remembered forever.

To Ray,

You are one lucky man to have had a brother that loved you so much. Everytime Kwill planned some special event, he always included you in his plans. I remember K-will always calling me every xmas to make sure we were never giving you the same gift. He was always so proud and happy talking about what special gadget he was going to get you. May you always be comforted by those countless special moments and memories that only you two shared as brothers. Continue to be proud and stay strong. We will both get through this together.

Love Always,

Amani B.

christine shannon

June 2, 2006

I spoke to your brother Ray today. It was very comforting. I love you Kenneth.

Latisha Mcghee

June 1, 2006

Hey K,

I am sorry that it took me so long to be able to do this. K, right now it still seems so unreal that you are really gone. I cannot pick up the phone to call you, stop around the corner to just kick it with you, or you come to my house to pick the girls up to go hang out with BIG K. It all still feels like a dream. I honestly feel like you are out of town and will be back around all of us really soon. Over the past 5 years, you and I have become so close and I want to say thank you for always being right there for the girls and I. I thank you for teaching me how to love family and still be able to keep your distance in certain situations. I thank you for teaching me that none of us are any better than the next, so live everyday as if it was our last...with respect and honesty. Thank you for always making sure that A'shada and A'rian always knew that you were right there for them no matter what.

It is weird to know that on March 13, 2006 you were a pallbearer at my mothers funeral and now you are up there in heaven right next to her and aunt Susie......K, please hold on tight to them and hugged mom and tell her that I am fine, but missing her like crazy each and every day. Let aunt Susie know that I am keeping the house clean just like she did....I love you K-Will and there is not a day that goes by that I do not miss you.

I will hold tight to Phiana, and help to give her the knowledge and strength that you passed onto me.

Love you and miss you

Your cousin

Trish, A'shada and A'rian

Ron Gilbert

June 1, 2006

Hey Bro.!!!!!!

It's still hurts.But I need to write to you.I Miss you!!!! I think about when I come home yu are the first person I call when I get there,You know to set up a time to hit the lanes. Same out bet the loser get the beer. I sit thinking about the days we played ball together,Party in catskill and Hudson, Just talking on the phone about this and that. Man, Dudley Heights if that place could talk we all did some wild thing there. You and Jr. asking my mother to stay out later,The b.b guns we got for x-mas,playong down by the railroad tracks Just having fun as kids and growing up as friends Not friends as BROTHERS. K you and Jr. are my brothers!!! You was always there for me,Looking out for me until I could do for myself.I will miss you my BROTHER,But I will not cry for you I will (SMILE) with you until we see each other again. My Grand child is there with you (AKIRA)take care of here for me until we all can be together again. It's hard too think that your gone and I will not talk to you (WHY)???? Got to go for now (BE AT REST MY BROTHER)

Your Brother Ron G.

Jeff Tolbert

May 31, 2006

To the Wilcox Family, sorry to hear of the stunning loss of K-Will. He was a good and fair person. God Bless.

Martica Howard

May 30, 2006

Hey K,

I must tell you I know you are enjoying us enjoying each other. You probably got alot of jokes, I wish I could hear just one! The past weekend I was in MD, hangin out with the family. What I found espically funny was when Nadia and I were walking through the mall, it was as if your presence was there. I felt all so at ease mind, body and spirit. I keep your picture with me at all times! A times U'Syi will say to me "mommie where is Kenny" and I will tell you that you are with his great-grandma and he will say oh okay. I know you are amazed at how much love has been shown. I must say that it is easier now to smile when someone mentions your name to me. One night me and Trish were laughing at how you always got on me, you remember those days. When you had to get up extremely late. How far we have come :)

Thank You K, Thank You!

I Love You,

Jeanene Thomas

May 30, 2006

Hi K-Wil,

We miss and love you very much. We were in shock when we found out what had happened. You are forever in our hearts and prayers, your family too.

Love you,

Jeanene Thomas & Family

Tia (Wilson) Carrington

May 30, 2006

Hi K,

It's taken me this long to write in your guest book...so many thoughts have been going through my mind each day about you, your life and how you touched so many people. There are a million things I could write, but the most important right now is that you were there for almost every major event in my life. You dj'd my 16th Birthday party, you went on my H.S. graduation trip to A.C, you were at my wedding, and at mom's 60th Bday party a few years ago. This weekend was rough...we could all imagine you coming across the street to say what's up or grab a bite to eat! Dee, Tony and I were in Charlotte recently and we told David how grand and wonderful your services were. You could see in his eyes how much he wished he was there, but everyone who couldn't make it was there in spirit. All of the family loves you and miss you so much. Wilcox family, you will always be family to all of us...

Tia, Darryl, Tony, Liz, David, Shawn,(and girls) Barb & John.

Claudia

May 29, 2006

K-Will I read the entries - and god there are a ton here - and see how many lives you've affected and i know you're looking down on them all, especially your family. I hope they all know that your friends are there for them too, including one's like me, that they don't know, we're here in spirit. We all miss you. As for me, whenever I see an Escalade, I look for that all famous plate -

"K-Will". There never be another like it, nor another like you. You're very missed.

raymond wilcox

May 27, 2006

whatsup k, just wanted to write something cause i know if anyone is reading this it would be u....man, im still hurting, still crying and still wondering why this has happen so soon. the more i think the more im so,so happy that i saw u that last night, it was brief but im glad i saw u. kenny, this past thursday was a very tough day as u may already know but as i was suffering on thursday, mom & carolyn helped me right through it, they stayed with me the whole day, as i just completly lost it and just when i was leaving the house, it was like icing on the cake, cause i ran right into your little phi-girl, that made my day....so k-will im still hurting but i will continue to talk to u every night and i know u got my back just as if u were here so i trust u that we both will get through this....i love k, always....talk with u soon bro!

tony wilson

May 25, 2006

k-will you know we have been boys for over 30 yrs i am going to miss you, we have been thru alot together only me and you know the things we have went thru mainly all good things i just wanted to say i love you and i will never foget the times we shared together you were like a brother to me and i just wanted to say i will miss you and rest in peace my brother.

Addison

May 22, 2006

RIP K-Will. My Husband was in disbelief when I told him you where gone. Wilcox Family keep your heads up.

Jason & Rayna Addison

Jason Addison

Samantha Adams

May 22, 2006

To The Wilcox and Garland Families,

To Ms. Sarah, I met you for the first time during this tragic loss, you are such a sweet,loving woman. We as parents never expect to bury our children. I am so sorry for your loss. Kenny was one of the best men I have ever known in my life. He was always there if i needed him, he was never too busy and always came thru. You have been in my thoughts and prayers. I wanted to call you on Mother's Day but I knew it would be a tough day for you, I thought all day "what would Kenny have given his mother for Mother's Day today" I love you for giving us such a wonderful person to inspire us to inspire those around us. You were so Blessed you have him. Unfortunately, his job here is done, it's still very difficult, everyday. I still have at least 4-5 conversations with him every week, asking him why...so many things wen't undone and unsaid.

To Potta,

I've known you just about all my life, from around the age of seven we were living right around the corner from each other, me on N. Hawk you on Clinton! I have always loved you and Kenny was very difficult not to love. He was the kind of person who made an impression on you from the first moment you met him. You were very lucky to have shared a life and family with him. I know you have plenty of support, but I am always here for you and Phi. You already know, prayer works...Take Care!

To Phiana...

I've never gotten to know you as I would have liked, but just knowing that you have a mommy like Potta and a daddy like Kenny, anyone who knows them knows that you are a truly blessed young woman. I remember when you were born, Kenny was so happy! Daddy's little girl he referred to you as. He was so excited he wanted to have more of you :o) He loved you sooo much and I'm sure he taught you so much. Remember what your daddy stood for, remember how much he loved you and what he wanted for you, live your life as an example of your dad, with morals and virtue...be a continuation of your dad while achieving your own dreams.

I'm so sorry for your loss Phi, I don't understand why he's gone, but one day at a time it'll get easier, just pray and have a chat with your dad when you need too. Trust your Mom enough to tell her anything that's going on inside of you.

You are so beautiful Phiana and you handled this tragedy with such strength for your age, just as your daddy would have wanted. Just keep your faith and keep living, you'll be o.k.

Samantha Adams (Albany, NY)

[email protected]

Samantha Adams

May 22, 2006

Martica & U'Syi

May 19, 2006

Hey Cous,

There is not a day that goes by I do not think of you. At times I catch myself drving just in a daze and suddenly I start to cry. I tell myself over and over that it's ok, but it's really not. I miss you!!!

Trish, Stephanie, Nadia, Crystal and all of us miss you. There is a void in our life. We are constantly calling one another and expressing our feeling of love. I know that makes you smile. Just to hear you crack a joke one more time at us would be priceless. I feel your spirit at times within my soul.

Kenny I miss you, we miss you. Please continue to surround us with your countless blessing as if you never left us.

I Love You K :)

May 18, 2006

Thought of you today. It's just amazing how God works. I'm continuing to pray for your family. Time heals all wounds.

Jason Addison

May 16, 2006

God bless your family in this your time of sorrow. R.I.P K-Will

From,

Jason & Tamieko

Addison

Ron Newton

May 14, 2006

To The Garland - Wilcox Families ,

Our most sincerest condolences and prayers that you find comfort and Det. Wilcox will always be cherished as a role model to others .

Sincerely,

Morris Men' s Shop

Ronald Newton

May 14, 2006

To The Garland -Wilcox Families ,

There are not enough words and acts of kindness that can overshadow , your loss ! Yet we, who know and respect you shall try to offer some ease . Our deepest sympathies and prayers are extended to and for you .

Sincerely , The Armstead - Miles - Roberts - Newton Familes

Darian Harris & Family

May 14, 2006

K-Will we go way back...I first met you when we DJ together. Since then you have always been a true friend to me. YOU ARE GONE BUT NOT FORGOTTEN. See you on the other side.

My prayers goes out to your family...ALWAYS TRUST IN GOD!

Asia Thrasher (Sheppard)

May 13, 2006

TO THE WILCOX FAMILY:

John 16:33

"In a little while you will see me no more,and then after a little while you will see me".Some of his disciples said to one another,What does he mean by saying" In a little while you will see me no more and then after a little while you will see me,and Because I am going to the Father?" They kept asking What does he mean by a little while? We don't understand what he is saying.

Jesus saw that they wanted to ask him about this,so he said to them.

Are you asking one another what I meant when I said,In a little while you will see me no more, and then after a little while you will see me? I tell you the truth,you will weep and mourn while the world rejoices. You will grieve,but your grief will turn to joy. A woman giving birth to a child has pain because her time has come;but when her baby is born she forgets the anguish because of her joy that a child is born into the world. So with you: Now is your time of grief

but I will see you again and you will rejoice,and no one will take away your joy. In that day you will no longer ask me anything.I tell you the truth,my Father will give you whatever you ask in my name. Until now you have not asked for anything in my name. Ask and you will receive,and your joy will be complete.Though I have been speaking figuratively,a times is coming when I will no longer use this kind of language but will tell you plainly about my Father.In that day you will ask in my name.I am not saying that I will ask the Father on your behalf. No, the Father himself loves you because you have loved me and have believed that I came from God.I came from the Father and entered the world;now

I am leaving the world and going back to the Father.

Then Jesus disciples said,"Now you are speaking clearly and without figures of speech.Now we can see that you know all things and that you do not even need to have anyone ask you question.This makes us believe that you came from God".

You believe at last!.

Jesus answered .But a time is coming,and has come,when you will be scattered each to his own home.You will leave me all alone.Yet I am not alone,for my Father is with me.I have told you these things,so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble.But take heart!.

I have overcome the world.

Tsehay Demeke

May 12, 2006

To The Garland Family:

I say my condolences at this difficult time. May God keep him in heaven. My prayers and thoughts are with you during this trying time.

Terrell Turner

May 11, 2006

Raymond jr. and family,

Ray, I am so sorry to hear about your lost, I wish i could of been there to see and talk with you, like we used to do back in the days.

It has been too long and I hate that we must communicate like this, but know that my thoughts and prayers are forever with you and i know that you will remain strong for the family. Your brother will be missed by all of "allah born".

K-Will rest in peace..

LARRY ROBINSON

May 11, 2006

TO: THE WILCOX FAMILY

FROM:THE ROBINSON FAMILY

FROM ALL OF US TO ALL OF YOU--WE SEND OUR DEEPEST CONDOLENCES,SYMPATHY AND LOVE.

AS ARBOR HILL NATIVES,COLONIE ST.,WHILE YOU GUYS WERE LIVING IN DUDLEY HEIGHTS--WE HAD THE PLEASURE(ON MANY OCCASIONS)PLAYING SOFTBALL,FOOTBALL OR B-BALL W/KEN AND RAY-ME AND ALL MY BROTHERS-THOSE WERE THE DAYS OF TRUE FUN AND THESE WILL BE THE MEMORIES I HOLD WHEN I THINK OF K-WILL.

HE WILL BE TRULY MISSED--IN THE COMMUNITY,IN THE HOOD AND IN OUR HEARTS.MAKE GOD BLESS YOU ALL.

Valencia Brown Counts (West)

May 11, 2006

To The Garland & Wilcox Families:

It wasn't until 8:30a.m. that fateful Wednesday in April that I heard the news. Kevin called saying "Ma, Kenny died early this morning!" Stupefied, I "Kenny who?"... realizing in an instant that he meant K-Will. People say that they know how you feel but no one really does unless they have lost a beloved one.

Living in Dudley Park, the children belonged to everyone and Kenny was one of mine. I can remember Kevin, Junior, Carl and him (with Sherri being the tag-a long instigator)and those too many to name, playing football in the open court area of Dudley and the maintenance man yelling they'd better not break anything! Although I saw Kenny from time-to-time, the last real conversation we had was September of last year when I told him that my husband Skip died. Kenny said that he'd seen Skip in 2004 and they talked about music. He said that coming to our house and listening to jazz, dance/disco dinner, easy listening & mood music as well as the very "early rappers" like The Last Poets, Gil Scott Herron, Oscar Brown, Jr., etc. gave him a great appreciation for all types of music. I laughingly told Kenny that "Skip figured if he played John Coltrane, Bird Parker, Nina Simone, Thelonius Monk, Bob James, Hugh Masekela and everything else he could pull out, you kids would go outside to play and not try to eat him out of house and home." However it backfired - the joke was on Skip.

Potta, times may be difficult now but it will get better. A very wise and knowing mentor told me not to be afraid to grieve and I'd like to pass that on to you. In doing so you learn more about yourself. Don't

let people tell you that you have to be a "strong black woman." Nothing is farther from the truth. We as black women try to be everything to, and, take care of everyone. Now is the time to let everyone take care of you, Potta. Know that you are loved by all of us.

Phiana, I have known both your dad and mom since they were younger than you and grew to love them as if they were mine. Now that your dad is gone, please remember your mom, who loves you so very much is by your side to comfort you. Phi, Potta will continue to guide and advise you in the way she and your dad did together. Kenny will always be your Hero, but you also have another one...a "SHero" - who cherishes her baby girl,your mom.

Both families will continue to be in my prayers! May the Great Master of all High Places, He who is known by many names, touch you with a wind to keep you strong for all your days to come!

With love,

Valencia

John Moore

May 11, 2006

Many prayers and thoughts are with you during this trying period of your journey. God Bless.

Dion Ferguson & Family

May 10, 2006

K-Will, thank you for being my friend and Phillipa you and your baby will always be in my prays. Wilcox family stay strong. ONE LOVE

Dion Ferguson

May 10, 2006

This was a great shock when I heard that K-Will had gone home to be with God. When I look back over your life and I think things over I can truly say that I've been Blessed by knowing you. The Smurfs will Truly, Truly miss you. A few of them could not make it to your "Home Going Service", but wanted to let you know that you are missed.. Deborah(Taylor)Maddox, Mary(Graves)McIntosh, Craig Willingham, Eddie Davis, David Van Ness and I-Quan Mayo. Rest in peace our Brother. Papa Smurf and the Smurfs.

Jamel Tarver

May 9, 2006

How are you doing Ray, Phiana, Potta. Its been real hard for me trying to figure out the right words to say. I know its going to be hard on the Wilcox family for years to come. K-will was more than a friend to me he was like a big brother a mentor and role model. I dont know what the Tarver and Campbell family would of done without K-Will in our lives. K I will always cherish the good memories I have with you playing for Best for Less. Showing me how to play basketball at the North Albany Boys and Girls Club. Even bringing to your house on Livingston ave when I was younger showing me all your homerun balls from when you played little league.

Friend

What is a friend

someone you can count on through

thick and thin

someone who has a ear to listen

to your sorrows

someone who has a voice to give you encouraging words for tomorrow

someone who thanks of you in your time of need

K-will you were and will be that friend I will look to for life answers indeed

Kwill I love you Big bro and will always miss you. Say Hi to my family in heaven on your journey to Gods Kingdom

Jamel Tarver

Adeidra "Deide" Irvin

May 8, 2006

Potta and Family,

GOD bless you during this MOST difficult time. I was out of the country for the funeral but wanted you to know that I pray your memories of K-Will will comfort you for many years to come. Peace to you and your daughter!

Kelly Parker

May 8, 2006

Phiana,

Hearing you speak at the Celebration was truely amazing! You are a beautiful and intelligent young woman (a true reflection of your Father!)

I worked with your Dad, as the Clerk in CIU. Although I am not a morning person, I can tell you that the best part of my day was as I was arriving to work and K-Will was ending his shift (as tired and miserable as I was, he was always able to make me smile and laugh . . . always had a joke!) He truely was one-of-a-kind, he had a heart of gold and a beautiful smile like no other!

The one thing he always talked about was you (well, you were the main focus . . . he talked about the new house and all his toys too.) It was apparent to anyone around him how much he adored you! You were his inspiration in more ways than one and that made me respect him even more! Having recently had a baby girl of my own, I can only hope to be as good and loving of a parent as he was to you!

The road ahead will be a long journey but one day you will find peace and tranquility. Always remember his love and as you look to your future, know that he is standing at your side and will walk with you forever. When you feel a calm breeze, know that it is your Daddy, kissing your cheek & saying, again, "I love you!"

You and your Dad are in my prayers.

K-Will,

I will never forget you, may you Rest in Peace!